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So the number of children determine the number of times one becomes a father?

Once you are a father, you are a father, which one is becoming a father for the 10th time?

revaultng:
Hello.

I feel I’m impotent and I’m really worried. Extra worried. I’ve never had penetrative sex all my life and I’m 26. Since 2013, I’ve been a chronic masturbator. I felt it was safe since i read online that it had no side effect. So i felt I’m good till i was with my girlfriend. We tried having sex and I couldn’t penetrate her. I wasn’t hard enough. We tried several times again and it was the same thing. She broke up with me. Fast forward to February this year. I was with another babe, we linked up and tried to have sex but still the same thing. I felt I wasn’t attracted to her. Another in June and I wasn’t even erect one bit.

Then i got so worried. Went to the hospital, and the doctor said i was okay medically. Tried herbs and still didn’t feel confident. I read somewhere on nairaland where a guy saiid he used Zinc supplement. I’ve stopped masturbating. And I’ve been using the supplement too. But I’m really not convinced cos I don’t wake up with erections but when I’m awake, i get hard.

Please, I’m dying. I need help ������

Like the Doctor rightfully said, you are medically okay, but maybe you have a hidden infection that doesn't weigh you down, or show serious symptoms, but has taken a toll on your sex life, it might as well be inexperience.

Brother, try eating a combination of two date fruits and two bitter kola thrice a week for two weeks. Deworm yourself, treat malaria and typhoid if any, if after all these you are not still okay, you may opt for Eronastic alpha stone, this must take care of your sexual lapses as it rightfully did to mine.

Cheers.

If you read the statement well, he took side with his terrorists Kingsman, he will not deny it.

He only paraphrased his brother Buhari by telling Benue people to "learn to live with their neighbors (killers)".

Atiku will be more deadlier and ruthless than Buhari.


An adage have it that "when the case is presided by the snake, the frog does not get justice" Benue and the entire non Fulani Nigerians should be wary of an Atiku presidency.

Allow her to do the planning and I strongly believe she will give up in less than a year. Convince her to have the implant, my wife didi it after our first issue even without discussing it with me. She only told me after she didi it, as we speak, she hate hearing about family planning.

If you go for the implant, trust me, she will go for a removal before next October.

How about north Central?

A month is okay, but not two weeks nah, haba.

And depending on your wife's body, she may be ready in three weeks, one month, two months, three months, etc.

Women's body reacts differently after child birth. The fact that she was crying and not moarning shows she was in excruciating pains.

I am not a cheating husband too, but I usually wait for three months.

As for the threat of returning your bride price, it's a fake threat, your wife can not accept it, just because of a correctable mistake.

If my instincts are not decieving me, Tompolo was once decleard wanted by the Buhari change/next level government.

How did the rift between the due ended that Tompolo is now a pipe line surveillance contractor to the FG?

On Sunday, the APC promised to use both issues and propaganda to canvass votes for Tinibu, this is it's first manifestation.

But where I am suprised is, the whole thing was to be targeted at Peter Obi, but Atiku is now the first to use in testing how it will work?

Kudos to FFK.

Atiku can not be trusted, since he depends on the Islamic jihadists to navigate his decisions.

The death if Deborah and Atiku's tweet and deletion comes to mind.

I envisage the handiwork of a supreme Court fellow, not Ihedioha.

This is dirty politics.

Sowore is unofficially declaring Obi the winner of next year polls.

I haven't read where Navy army etc has been busted to be culprits.

Usually, when I read tales of domestic violence, especially when I see a woman battered and bruised, I am quick to feel pity for her, and by default blame the man for being an 'animal'.
I hate wife beaters with all my heart. But today's experience actually changed my view.

It started around 7a.m last sunday morning. My neighbor whose flat directly faces mine was washing his vehicle outside. I have never known him to be a violent man. He and his wife always argue and quarrel, but it has never been in the open. Just raised voices and exchanging unkind words.

His wife walked in through the gate leading to the compound. As soon as she saw her husband, she started screaming, 'dirty man' 'pig' and some other obscenity in their local dialect. He was scolding the man for not wearing a slippers outdoors. He was walking on water barefooted.

The man told her to keep quiet and get him a slippers to put on. She continued on top of her voice. She insulted daylight out of the man. There was nothing this woman did not say, from the size of the man's joystick to the number of minutes he stays in the bedroom. Out of anger, the man poured the remaining water he was using to wash the car on her. She ran at him and gripped him by the collar almost choking him.

At that point, myself and other neighbors who have been watching ran out to put an end to the fracas before it got out of hand. It took alot of pleading before she eventually let go and went inside. The man just stood there, I could tell that he was really embarrassed by the things his wife said. We advised him to be a man 'you know say na so women be na'.

Not up to 10 minutes later, the man started banging on the door to the house. His wife refused to let him in. She insisted that he must go and wash his feet thoroughly before entering the house, but there was no water outside anymore. The man shouted at her to bring water for him to wash up, but she kept insisting that there would have been water if he hadn't poured it on her. A shouting match ensued again, this woman continued her verbal assault.

At about an hour later, when it was time to go to church, she came out all dressed, not knowing that her husband was around the corner. He came from nowhere and landed a slap on her cheeks. She swung her bag at him, and a piece of metal from the bag cut his Jaw. This man descended on his wife with series of slaps. She fought back violently. All the while I was observing through my window. She dipped her hand into the man's eye, and punched him several times. The man seemed to lose it completely and aimed a blow directly at her jaw. The woman screamed, next thing I saw was blood oozing out of her mouth. I ran out of my own apartment to calm things down.

Behold she had lost two teeth. When we all came to separate them, the woman started wailing uncontrollably, saying that her husband has killed her. With the blood in her mouth and everything nobody even spared a thought for the man. I could see finger nail marks all over his face. His jaw was a bit swollen too.


I personally drove the woman to a nearby health center so they could clean her up. As we entered, we were greeted with questions 'wetin happen?' 'na accident'? She started crying and narrating how her husband wanted to kill her this morning because she insisted that 'he must wash his dirty legs before entering the house'. The Nurses there started berating men in general, with each person narrating different experiences of domestic violence they had encountered. They were all full of sympathy for her. It was the general assumption that she married a devil as husband.

I just sat there listening to them demonizing men and wondering. The husband even called me while at the health center to know if it was serious. He sounded really worried. He wanted to drive down to meet us. I just discouraged him from coming, because his wife has already made him out to be a devil here.


Whenever the story of domestic violence is told, it is only narrated from the woman's perspective. We often see her in tears, with bruises all over. She plays the victim, because she is the one that usually ends up with bruises, even if she may have delivered the first punch. We hardly hear the man's side of the story, we don't perceive his emotion, he hardly has any physical scars from the encounter, so we assume he wasn't hurt.

He is always the violent one, because he won't let you know that a woman's words broke him, he won't gather a crowd a to tell his story.
I'm totally against domestic violence, whether physical or verbal. I believe two people who claim to love each other should be able to settle issues amicably without resorting to abusive language and physical confrontation. If your differences are irreconcilable, then end the damn marriage and let everyone go in peace. I think the real beast is the man that will descend on a woman at the smallest provocation.

But as a woman, If you instigate a physical confrontation, either by words or action, make sure you win the fight that ensues.

Next time i read or hear about domestic violence, with a picture of a battered and bruised woman, I won't jump into the 'Men are beasts' wagon, not untill I know the full story.

Wisdom 7:7-11
Hebrews 4:12 – 13
Mark 10:17 – 30

Once I was flying to Nigeria via London Heathrow. Next to me was a young man who told me that he was on his way to the USA. There he hoped to get a job. His ambition was to make lots of money and if possible to become wealthy. In that way he felt he would be very happy and could achieve whatever he wanted in life.

Many people today set great value on having or acquiring wealth. Bookshops are full of books on how to get rich quickly. Many people, many Catholics, buy lottery tickets in the hope of becoming rich. And provided I keep the commandments and I am a morally good person, what’s wrong with being rich?

The gospel today speaks to us about the danger of this attitude. A rich man comes up to Jesus, kneels at his feet and sincerely asks Jesus what he needs to do to inherit eternal life. He is full of enthusiasm and Jesus looks at him with kindness and with love.

In answer to Jesus’ statement about keeping the commandments and he names some, the rich man says that he has kept them faithfully since his earliest days. Maybe he expects Jesus to affirm and congratulate him for this. We admire the man. Are we are like him having done our best to keep the commandments too and tried to live morally good lives? Maybe we have attended retreats or belong to a prayer group. Perhaps we feel God has blessed us much.

Then Jesus gently challenges the young man. “You are lacking one thing. Go, sell what you have. Give the money to the poor and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me”. The rich man went away sad for he had many possessions. Jesus has a way of looking at people. The eyes of Christ penetrate our hearts so that he sees what we lack.

The second reading notes that ‘everything is naked and exposed to the eyes of God’. God knows what are the things that hold us back from giving ourselves fully and completely to God. God knows our resistances. The first commandment tells us that we must love the Lord our God with all our hearts and there are no exceptions to this. That is what is asked of anyone wanting to be a true disciple of Jesus.
The danger with the rich man was that he saw his keeping of the commandments and living a morally good life as an indication of his own personal achievement.

Like many good Christians the young man wanted God on his terms. Jesus takes discipleship out of the area of personal achievement. Jesus is telling him and us that it is more than that. We cannot just have God on our terms. We must hear what God wants of us.

Somehow one has the impression the emphasis was on himself and his own individual perfection. He kept the rules, he was free from sin. He loved God not unconditionally but on his own terms. He was truly shocked at the words of Jesus. His wealth meant more to him that his being perfect or gaining true life.

Jesus was also telling the rich man that his wealth was not something to be just owned but to be shared, most especially with the poor. True religion and discipleship of Jesus must involve concern and caring for others. The man’s religion seemed to be a private matter between him and God. Jesus tells him it is far more. We cannot love God unless we love our brother and sister in need.


Money, of course, is not the only thing which can keep us from God. I am not fully a disciple of Jesus – whether I am keeping the commandments or not – if there is any thing or person in my life that I am not prepared to let go of. The man was really being asked to let go of something to which he was deeply attached.

In the case of many it may not be money or material goods. It may be a person, a wrong relationship, a lover, something I own, a place, my health, my reputation etc.
But letting go of all selfish attachments requires a decision. And decisions do not come easily. We pray, we struggle, we weep, we go back and forth. We weigh things. To surrender to Jesus can be very difficult and at times seemingly impossible. But God is compassionate and knows our struggles.

The disciples with Jesus were exceedingly astonished and said among themselves: ‘who can be saved?’ Jesus looked on them and said ‘For human beings it is impossible, but not for God. All things are possible for God’. Unless we are utterly dependent on God’s Spirit, we cannot surrender fully to Jesus.

Do we ask often for help with a heart that really needs it?
It is important though to realise that in asking us to let go of our possessions whatever they may be, Jesus is inviting us to a deeper peace and joy, to a quality of life which we all seek now. By letting go we will find something far better and more rewarding takes it place. Jesus guarantees this.

“Lord Jesus, help us to be aware of the true nature of discipleship and give us the Spirit to surrender fully to you as you show us. Amen”.

By

Fr. Jim Kirstein, SMA

Where were your input when you lost at the primaries?

Are Ortom, Ugwanyi, Ikpazu, and makinde and Ishaku going to abandon their personal ambition for your own? Answer me Wike.

I hope if the EFCC ICPC etc decide to evaluate how much you sponsored those states you mentioned, and how much your legit income has been in the past 8 years, you will not begin to compose another music?

Wike is a dictator, who has done and is still doing much damage to his future ambitions.

NaijaRoyalty:
Those nurses laughing there ass off while Rico Swavey was lying unconscious should be jailed for life

They are animals in human form

There licenses should be withdrawn immediately and never be allowed to continue with there job ever again in this country

I was angry and almost moved to tears after watching that video

If they have any licence. Some of these ladies are trainees, they just go there to learn drugs names, to go and open their chemist shop afterwards.

Has the labour party done anything on the controversial pcc list?

I am an obedient and I am concerned.

How certain are they about the period he has been there in the house.

The man they claimed was behaving like an animal could recall vividly how and when he got there? and by who, what he suspected to be the motive of his captors.

Above all, how old is the man now, how old was he, when he was lucked up there?

Did he tell them his name, where he hails from and any information about his parents.

All they hurridly know was how he has been lucked up for twenty years and no other information (s)?.

Tueh (spit).

I refute the claim that northerners benefits nothing, the free will they have to kill, steal, maim etc is the greatest thing they ever wanted, and they have it free of questioning or prosecution.

Bokoharam sympathizers are all over in government and the same regime has projected one of the greatest conspirators who masterminded the historical Chibok girls kidnapping to be our vice president.

Have we forgotten the confession of one of the girls, that they spent some hours in the Borno government house before been taken to Sambisa forest?

What an Islamic strategy!

Peter Obi is just the presidential candidate, Labour party have other candidates for other positions to sponsor too.

Shetima make history anyway, for being a one time acting presidential candidate.

Talking of serving as a vice president, no way

Abdul05:
One common enemy l know that is troubling the north is mass illiteracy but the ignorance troubling south easterners is still not known to me...l swear..


To liberate the minds of ur fellow ibos towards the truth and to make them appreciate the need for Biafra and for a new way of life..

Is it by killing them or is it by making more orphans of children..?

Using external forces to suppress and rule by force is the haulmark of the easterners.

Atiku's candidacy is another promissory one chance if Nigerians fall to this antics again.

Atiku has so far promised Okowa 2027 presidency, he also promised South Easterners, lastly but so far, he has promised Wike the same post. There is a possibility that Atiku will createore problems to these fellows before he leaves office.


That he can't keep yo his words is another red flag to his presidency. He can't be trusted. Obi may have some weakness while in office as a governor, but he is better than an Atiku and Tinibu.

The prayer of every parent is for the children to become better than they are. The little girl, in the words of Tegolo "first her papa and mama make am"


The family should remember her Destiny helper, the man who lifted her up to be noticed should be compensated.

That's my take.

Are the ballots papers going to be examined to tetect touble tomb printing?

If not, forgot them, one person can still vote hundred times.

Ladies, please cover up properly, you don't know who is looking from afar.
We usually pray,
Our Father who art in Heaven.....
Hallowed be thy name....
.
"Lead us not into temptation "....
I think we should pray to God and be careful not to lead others into temptation also. If temptation is not good for us, we should not lead others into it .

Some people blamed Bathsheba, some blamed David, why didn't he go to war?
But come to think of it,
What about Uriah?
Yes Uriah, why would he bring his wife to an apartment whose bathroom has no roof?
Some Uriahs are parents, you will wonder whether some parents didn't see their children before leaving home. Some friends are the ones who talk them into buying those clothes that leave their bodies uncovered.
If you fall into the category of Uriah. Watch it!

Be responsible, Put a roof on your bathroom!
So your Bathsheba can have a harmless bath.
Parents..... Don't allow the world teach your children how to dress up....don't leave your bathroom uncovered! '
You are a Christian and a model of Christ. Your body is d temple of the Holy Spirit. You have been bought with a price.
Husbands! Please put your wives under check. We know she is your wife, she can wear anything because you like it that way..... But don't raise eye brow if she is treated like a prostitute.....

Under Uriah's nose, Bathsheba got pregnant with another man's child.
Keep a roof over your bathroom. You have no idea if there is a man who is not at war or work strolling lazily around.

Just because a woman's sensitive parts was revealed to David, he lost control of his life & things never remained d same.
One would have thought Bathsheba's bath was a harmless one but look at the consequence :-
==>>> David killed Uriah.
==>>> He was cursed.
==>>> Bathsheba lost her baby.
==>>> Amnon slept with Tamar.
==>>> Absalom overthrew David and slept with his father's wife's.
==>>> War in David's house!
Please, stop tempting others in the name of fashion!
Stop showing everybody your breast and cleavage.
Stop wearing expensive rags in the name of fashion.
Some men are running away from Bathsheba yet they have her pictures, wearing bikini on their phones "
Brothers, what do you have on your phones? Pictures of naked women? You call them celebrities, I pray they don't celebrate u to hell.
Stop watching pornographic movies. It is addictive.

Some people are dealing with masturbation, they are sincerely trying to come out of it, some are walking away from fornication, don't drag them back there.

Dear sister Be your brother's Keeper.
Dear brother, cover the bathroom roof!
Resist the devil and he will flee!!!
DARE TO BE different.

If Ngige resign for such reason and make it publically, it will escalate the M/M crises.

Dictatorial democracy.

"PDP did not give Atiku ticket.

He bought it with money.

Even the southerners could not resist his Dollar. And that is the capacity the party needed.

His choice of candidate was based on whom he can control or manipulate.
He knew that he will not be able to control Wike.

BAT bought his ticket with money and threat.

There was need to keep to agreement, else the cat will be let loose. And his choice of candidate was based on who is ruthless enough to champion the Northern muslim votes.

The supporters of the above two are the long term structures that have kept us in the dark while the world is making progress.

And they want the evil to continue.

They use their structures to collapse the national structures. And they are boasting about those structures even to our faces.

Obi picked Labour Party ticket based on his integrity, financial produnce and outstanding leadership prowess.

And he went for Datti who possess similar qualities.
He needed someone who will look into his eyes and say no.

Because he acknowledged that he doesn't know it all. He believes in team work.

And his supporters are the people without structures, the downtrodden, the poor masses, the beggers and the labourers, those that are cursed to Labour till death, those that the structures are trampling upon.

He is not standing for himself.
He is standing for the masses.

He is not the one contesting.
The masses are contesting through him.

He is not standing for any specific tribe or religion. He is standing for all tribes and religions.

He is the hope of the common man.
With him, Nigeria will be great again."

By Prof.Usman Yusuf

kingthreat:
Never believe a woman's side of the story.
It is told with emotions and lies so you absolve her from every blame

You must be speaking from experience.

I must confess you are right.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Olosho go give you 17 missed calls by 12am if she saw 'one missed' call from man/client by 11:59pm but naija wife/gf go give u call schedule & block u.


No be juju be dis. Abeg marriage is overrated.

Not naija, they are Kenyans.