₦airaland Forum

descarado:
I brought his state not even tribe cos I know first hand how stuffs like this is handled in that state.
Did you see me speak about igbo here?
So what's your problem?
Since you know a lot, do a research on the name I provided from the same state and you are yarning dust.


Are you yoruba?
Why all the yoruba names or do we have only igno and yoruba in Nigeria?
Please park well.

Seems you're high on crack. You quoted me to write unrelated history about what Anambra men condone? How's that my business?

Have you seen me justify what Yul did to his first wife? Is this thread about the correctness of his action? I'll advise you to go back to the post you quoted to get the proper context.

descarado:
Check his posts again and see what he is doing.
Hate two faced people like this with passion.

If you need my attention, quote me directly to talk your rubbish.

descarado:
Peter edochie was an average white collar man back in the days. Yul that his dad paid the dowry for him?

You know nothing about that family so zip it.

And yes, charity begins at home. Yul is from anambra. Anambra people frown on polygamy. Anambra is mostly Catholic. You are nothing if your local church don't recognise you.

Since you know too much, I will ask you to do your research on the owner of whiz oil.
Clue, he was once a billionaire. Has multiple wives and how he ended.

Okay. Average white collar man?? So how's your opinion different from mine, exactly?


By the way, I'm surprised you had to bring tribe into this. Yul is not Kunle, Tunde, or Abiodun so there hasn't been any reason so far to lash out at any tribe. We all know what people like you would say if Yul was a Yoruba man.

So please zip it in too. I am not blaming Yul or any other Anambra man over what they choose to do with their gbola. He won't be the first and the last Igbo or Anambra man to cheat or get a second wife.

Being Catholic is also mostly by mouth. These day, people only bear Christian names and do whatever they want. When last did he attend a church service? Pesin wey no dey go church would probably not need his church for anything.

Sterope:
There was NO money in the Nigerian film industry in the past. Things are just beginning to look better for a very few..

There was no free money anywhere in the past but an acting MD of a broadcasting station and actor was nowhere close to a poor man in that generation.

Things have always looked better for him than the average Nigerian. At least, he had millions to secure his release in 2008 from kidnappers' den in Onitsha.

pocohantas:
Somebody that knows them already told you they lived a basic life as kids of a civil servant. You still dey tear boxers and doing semantics. Acid REST!!!

Na aspire to perspire people o, my dear. Make I show you Davido's grass to grace tweets?

Chiquitq:
I don't blame Yul at all. I blame the hypocrites in our society. The so called second wife was having an affair with a married man and she has friends and relatives that were comfortable with it. I am sure there were women present when the bride price was paid. There would be friends who would continue to be her friends. None of the women in the above categories want such for themselves or their daughters. Even the thief called Mercy Aigbe made a pose that she would shoot whoever came for her husband.
It is this society that trivialises such vices. In the olden days, polygamy might have thrived but in modern society, it is betrayal and only condoned by shallow people.
The nature of man is so selfish. Even Yul would not allow his daughter to be a second wife if he had a daughter. He and Mercy Aigbe should be so cancelled, they would not come out of it.

Why do you want to cancel Mercy Aigbe when her husband's religion permits polygamy?

pocohantas:
What exactly are you talking about? Is Pete Edochie rich?? No be yesterday Kanayo build house? Tony Umez is still living in a rented property till date. Didn’t some other old actors die of sicknesses?

There was no money in acting (and entertainment) of the old! They were at best comfortable like an average family.

Fame isn’t equal to wealth!

Now you guys are twisting in all angles to refute the grass to grace story. Do you know his father more than him? Same Yul that celebrated Pete on father’s day saying he didn’t have more than 5 pair of trousers while they were growing up. Abeg rest!!

No generation has lived the best of time. As far as I know, Nollywood actors of those days on the average weren't poor in their time. Maybe they couldn't afford luxury cars at that time but how many Nigerians could afford one in that generation? The poor Nigerians are those who run from one neighborhood to another just to watch his movies on a black and white television.

How can a broadcaster in the civil service and actor in the 1980s come out to say that he was poor in that generation? So what then should a farmer or a teacher of that same generation say?

I'm not necessarily attributing anything to his first marriage but as far as I know, na everybody dey marry for selfish reasons so coming to disturb us all the time with "she suffered with him" or "she married him when he had nothing" narrative is nonsense in my opinion. Yul was the best man for her at that time so no need for the pity party. If she had a better option, she def wouldn't marry Yul.

When we paint the "suffer" narrative, we are indirectly saying that those who refuse to "suffer" or start from "grass to grace" with their spouses deserve bad treatments.

If Yul becomes the president tomorrow, I'm sure the next generation of Nairalanders will praise the new wife for starting from grass. Na so e dey be.

dawnomike:
Yul is just stirring the troubled waters... He seems to be confused

You, like many others online, are the confused ones. There is a lot about that marriage that we don't know.

AirFireEarthH20:
This Elon Musk is always tweeting during night time or day time. I remember some democrats on his Twitter page accusing him and his father of stealing diamonds in South Africa and he was busy replying the tweet with funny stuffs. One would even think he's jobless because he's always online.

What job do you want him to do?

JONNYSPUTE:
.... You don't know what you are saying bro.
Yul's father Pete was a civil servant and a presenter in radio Nigeria.

When he featured in things fall apart then,he acted so well that when he retired he joined nollywood so he wasn't rich.

It took him,Pete more than 10 yrs to complete his personal house in Enugu so tell me how such a person will be tagged rich then?

Yul him self after writing his waec then in 1998 from New heaven boys secondary school got admission,graduated and while waiting to serve got his girlfriend pregnant.

It was the dad that stood for him and was taking care of him and the wife .

And it was at that time that Pete introduced him and the other of his son into acting and luck smiled on Yul.

Believe him when he says he had nothing.
This na guy weh I know too well. Grew up together in the same vicinity,move around and belong to the same group chat of our old boys though he left the forum now.
So you won't tell me about the family.

Okay. let me partially agree with you that the same Pete Edochie that started acting at the age of 15 and became famous in the early 1980s (right before some us here were born), was poor and broke.

I also don't want to believe that you are anything below 40-50 years. That is the only way your narration would make sense. You cant be in your early 30s for example and know so much about Pete or Yul's childhood.

Great biography overall. Now tell us about the lady. Because the only way your story will completely make sense in the context of my opinion is to tell us that the lady was a Senator's daughter in Enugu.

You can't marry into a civil service/famous actor's family in that age and time and claim anything close to poor unless you are a senator's daughter yourself.

You guys should quit trying to paint the "I suffered with you" narrative. Yul cheated and got himself a second wife. Castigate him on that basis and quit trying to use "I suffered with you". That is my opinion and your childhood experiences with him (assuming you're being truthful) cannot change that.

cococandy:
There very well may be but they are not who we are talking though are they? You’re trying to call him a liar in order to minimize the impact of his actions.

Impact of his action? No, that is not what I am trying to do. I am only trying to correct the popular notion of "I suffered with you" . When two people choose to pursue their personal interests together, one person cannot turn around to use that line. If anything at all, they chose to suffer together and one party did not do the other any favour. I will like to believe the lady wanted the marriage to prevent the baby mama tag (selfish interest). Yul had his own selfish interest as well at that time. So nobody helped anybody.

cococandy:
Apples and oranges.

He said it specifically that he had nothing sustainable when they married. And she agreed to manage. That means they were struggling. Okay?

You don't agree there are many exaggerated grass-2-grace stories?

cococandy:
I guess the point is that no matter what you do as a woman, a man that will treat you bad will treat you bad and you as a woman will be blamed for it. There’s no way to be a good woman. Not for Nigerian guys anyway. The olosho gold diggers are happily married and the good wives are being doormats.
It doesn’t matter if you’re independent or dependent.

But it helps to be independent because you can walk away. Imagine if she’s dependent on him for food and clothing and he’s doing all this? Na for gutter she for dey now

Right. I agree

cococandy:
so he’s a liar? Because that’s his own words.

You’re something else. Bending yourself into a pretzel to avoid calling a spade a spade

Not necessarily a liar but most grass-to-grace stories are not as bad as we imagine. I hope you know that Davido also has a grass-2-grace story online?

I hope you also know that if Davido and Chioma's affairs remain a thing for another 20 years, "Assurance" will turn out to be a "grass-2-grace" story for the next generation?

dominique:
Nollywood actors were far from rich during Pete Edochie's era. He was famous alright but stupendously rich? Far from it. He may not even be earning up to 200k per movie at that point in time. Yul is one of his five or six kiddy, you think Pete was submitting his less than 200k paycheck in the hands of one of his youngest kids? Even if he was so rich when he married his wife, does that justify what he did to her?

You men think women's feelings are not to be considered then go ahead and expect loyalty and submission for the women you disregard so much. Thank God eyes don dey open, you people will continue to wail about how today's women no longer want to suffer like your mothers. In fact you never start to dey wail

Not at all. My post is not a justification for his decision to get a second wife.

It's a response to OP's post "DON'T TRUST THE LOYALTY OF A BROKE MAN." Everything is wrong with the OP by using Yul's case as a reason for women to avoid broke men.

I know it's common for women to use issues like this to propagate their independence mantra but as far as I know May was/is an independent woman. So what exactly is the point of the message?

Kriss216:
God bless you.

The girl was with him during undergraduate days cos he's rich and a son to a Nollywood icon

Well, we can't exactly say that he married him because the father was rich and famous. But the truth remains that everybody marries for selfish reasons and that's not wrong.

Funny how people still believe some "grass-2-grace" celebrity stories online.

If Yul, a son to a famous Nigerian actor, could be broke during his undergraduate years, so what then should we and many other Nigerian students say?

Yul definitely wasn't where he wanted to be at the time he got married. That's not the definition of being broke.

If Yul's dream of becoming Nigeria's president gets actualized tomorrow, he will come out again with stories about how his second wife agreed to marry him when he had "nothing."

Yul was never broke and Yul's 1st wife did not marry into a broke family.

dprincedej:
Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Don't listen to any nonsense advice. Blessing or no blessing, her father or a father figure MUST be aware about the daughter's intention to get married to you.

Moreover, according to many Nigerian traditions, someone must represent the father if the biological father chooses to be absent on the D-day. So whoever that person is, get to meet him and get his consent to marry your girl.

Women don't give their daughters hand in marriage. Bride price is paid to the man or/and his family (uncles). If the girl's mother tells you to present the bride price to her, just know that you have not done a proper traditional marriage.

You don't have to force an absentee dad to walk her down the aisle but it is COMPULSORY to get his consent or at least get him informed.

Don't allow anybody lie to you in the name of wokeness and don't complicate your life because of somebody else's advice, an advice they haven't used in their own lives.

If you're not ready to pay her traditional rites the proper way, simply go to a registry alone and rent parents/witnesses like most people (especially romance scammers) do.

Donshegxy10:
I know that bankole is a thief , but on this presidency issue i am certain that someone is bank rolling him.

Who dey fund banky.

Pesin steal 30 billion and defected to APC. He doesn't need anyone to sponsor his ticket.

adebayo987:
Very unfortunate!

IPOB should not be the only enemy this government sees. They should put shoot on sight order on yahoo boys, ritualist alhajis and bandits. Since they can't provide jobs, let them enforce very harsh sentence on these wicked souls and send all the law enforcement agents all out against them. My sister was nearly nabbed but her pregnancy saved her but they still went ahead to steal her phone. Luckily for her, the phone was flashed and she just took it from the repairer.

All taxis should be painted same way and finger prints, trackers and cctv installed. Because it's public transport means they're using to nab people.

May the souls of the killers rot in hell and may this beautiful soul rest in peace.

Chai! This girl too fine... Mtcheeew it's well.

These things continue at a high rate because of Buhari's body language. What we were told in 2015 isn't what we see now. Nobody respects the toothless old man. Few days after over a 100 people got kidnapped during the Kaduna train attack, the senile criminal hosted some other gluttonous criminals to a dinner party in Aso rock. He just does not care about anybody.

His reasons might even be that he's fasting and can't interfere in any radical act. These old people Nigerians vote into power are that stup!d and ediotic.

damolaquote:
what do you expect going to a room with 4 men smoking weed and drinking alchol.

To read the Bible may be.

Careless generation. A 28 year old lady dating a 19 year old chain smoker and drunkard (probably a yahoo boy & cultist too) should look forward to these things. Good thing is the perpetrators have been arrested however the deed has been done.

Everyone MUST be careful. The laws are not there to protect you from being r.aped. Laws will only get you justice after the deed has been done. The mandate of protection against vices is fully in your hands. Don't allow anyone f00l you.

It is a sin as far as Christianity is concerned. For Muslims, traditionalists and atheists, getting a second or even a 10th wife shouldn't be a problem.

Those who wish to have more than one wife should do well to embrace atheism. There are no books that forbids a Nigerian man from getting a second wife, traditionally. None at all.

The idea of one man for one woman is a religious idea.

JovialJune:
Is this guy for real? The guy publicly shamed her, so you expect her not to publicly shame him and display her anger? She shouldn't let people know she did not approve of it? Are you not the same person trying to assume she agreed to polygamy from the onset?

And who told you she married him when he was a celebrity? They were high school sweethearts who had nothing when they got married so what the hell are you saying? So because he turned celebrity overnight she should simply divorce him because of that?

In other to support your gender, you ended up saying nonsense, hope you know that.....

Relax. The fact remains that the public and bloggers do not know just enough yet about this marriage. Remember he came out to update y'all about his second wife? None of you had any idea what was happening. You don't know as much as you thought

JovialJune:
Yes, so people like you are already doing, will not conclude that she was okay with polygamy from the onset, duuuh

The child I saw in that picture should be 1+ my dear. While I understand her feelings, coming online after such a long time to render her displeasure seems strange to me.

I'm not justifying whatever led to Yul's decision to get a second wife as it's against my personal beliefs. But I also do not care about celebrity marriages enough to expect faithfulness from a celebrity guy or lady. I believe people who get into marriages with certain type of people should actually look forward to infidelity. It's part of the package.

[My opinion won't change if a celebrity woman (e.g. Mercy Aigbe or Tiwa) decides to dum.p her husband for a new man. It's all part of the package].

cococandy:

Yes and so?

Oh I forgot it’s you.
Find ways to blame the woman will you? What did I expect?

Blame the woman? No, I don't blame her. But I also wouldn't use the opportunity to fault or blame men like you do. That's the reason I sought your opinion about the new wife. According to you, men enjoy making women sad so it would be great to know what the new wife did to the first wife.

cococandy:
right. Because her saying God should judge him is a perfect example of a woman who’s happy about what she’s going through. Smh

And she had to wait for her husband's IG post to render her displeasure to the public?

int0x80:
You never truly know a man until he starts making good money.

Not true. The problem with you guys is that you all formed funny perceptions and opinions about celebrities and people you all don't know. Because Yul and his wife upload one photo per month on Instagram, some of you, at your own discretion and will, painted a perfect picture of their marriage. Na who send una?

This is no news to Mrs Yul and the parties involved.

cococandy:
Eya. The virtuous woman that stood by him when he had nothing in the university. Still gorgeous after years and years of marriage.
Now he has something he went for a light-skin babe.

Ndi virtuous women over to you.

I feel empathy for her. But she should divorce him ASAP and move on with her life

We don't know their story, their agreements, and what they've been through enough to conclude that one party betrayed another.

The fact that the public is just getting to know about a second wife implies that there are probably more that we don't know.

cococandy:
Never waste your sympathy on NL men. This is the kind of thing that makes them happy. Whatever hurts a woman is a moment of joy for them.

What about the woman that chose to be a second wife to a renowned actor? What do you have to say about her?

preciouslanre:
Thank you sincerely for reiterating this option. We were once confronted with this surrogacy option and we are now sincerely thinking about it. Our major concern with that is the huge fund involved in surrogacy as we are just average comfortable Nigerians . We learnt surrogacy cost about 6 to 10 million naira. Kindly let know of reliable surrogacy centres you know.

Cheers

Sincerely I don't have a solid or reliable information regarding surrogacy centres in Nigeria. But I do know that some fertility clinics may be able to help you through the process (i.e. getting a surrogate mother, legal procedures, etc.).

N10m is too much though. Many surrogate mothers would accept a N1-2m deal. You don't even need IVF with this option as intrauterine insemination (IUI) of 200-250k can get the job (conception) done. Hospital bills, legal fees, and others can be in the range of N700k (Total: N3m). A fertility clinic asking for more than 4-5 m for the process should be avoided.

By the way, is surrogacy the best/only option for you? You don't have to go into the details for privacy reasons.

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