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posh9ky: Dat a serious issue 2 discuss with a lady who place marriage above just having a kid, u'v bin seeing dis lady 4 sumtym (I guess) and u shd b able 2 tell if she's d kinda person dat will agree 2 aving a baby without attaching anytin 2 it. Not every1 (men and women) fancy marriage... D best way 2 say such is nt on a dinner date bt a place wit less p'ple (cld even b ur place), do not trow it 2 her directly rather playfully and c what her reaction wld b... U can take it futher if she shares same idea with u.

Thanks a million for this.
I didn't want to tell her at my place so she wouldn't go wild and smash my tv or destroy anything (just kidding. She isn't violent).

I am not throwing the child option directly to her as you have said, but the truth is some people never really know how serious one is until you throw the question direct in a serious light.

Thanks once again for the advice.

@franckobaba,

Thanks for the acknowledgement. Its just our 2cents of trying to make Nigeria a better place.

Instead of attending endless seminars where the real issues aren't treated, we want to treat the real issue here.

Thanks to everyone who have also participated. Let's keep it going.

omo harry: I attended an interview recently through one of the online recruitment agencies. i was ask to pay N10,000 for processing fee to become a partner in the company.the partnership is by way of marketing thier services of free health talk and be paid commision base on the number of companies that subscribe to the parkages. Isence a fowl play because the building was below the espected company standard and was totally basic, including thier staff. Do u know i was offered employment 3 hrs after i left there,LOL.Nija, i hail thee.

All these nonsense can only happen in Nigeria.

These peole are all meant to be languishing inside kirikiri by now.

Idowuogbo: U'll be bck wiv "I messed up...Nairalanders pls help" dumb move bro!

So many men who took that path, both intentional and unintentionally usually never regretted it at the long run.

What's the essence of waiting for the right woman when ones' peers are almost grandfathers?

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@Inked_Nerd,

Gurls like you are 1 in 1,000.
I will say if not because I have sisters with your kind of traits, I will almost conclude all girls are after what they can get from a man before opening up their hearts.

deal_ordea: Acidic, that was hilarious because have been contemplating about this when I clock my 20s, with a lot of drama folding up in marriage nowadays, one wish a man will like is status to be is a single parent, I know a lot of ladies will disagree to that, this shouldn't be so but we have to logical and only a few ladies think out of the box when it comes to relationship.. Bro, I prefer going for the older ladies because they are complex about relationship life style... They are not always on the desperate side but rather go out all for fun which both parties tend to enjoy.

Would have gone that lane a few years back but people kept on advicing against it. I think my mind is almost made up on this issue now.

How long will I continue to wait for mrs perfect when I can have my "perfect babay" from a non perfect woman for even half the price (of marriage).

Mynd_44: I have the perfect solution. Adopt a kid and give the kid to your mum to raise.

Can you remember " If e no be Panadol e no fit be like Panadol". Yes! "If its not my child it can't be like my child".

Must money exchange hands on several occasions before a lady start to open her heart for a guy?

I keep hearing a lady say things like;

*If you love me then buy the phone for me.

*To prove you really love me, take me along with you on that trip.

*If you really care for me then send the flight ticket and so many others.

When I was younger, I used to be 'too' nice to both boys and girls. No one came to me with a problem and leaving without being half solved. This happened until my University days when a fellow course mate made a statement. She said "if you don't have money for lunch or transport to return home, always go and ask acidtalk". I felt most ashamed and considered myself as "father christmas.

Now the thing is, I still give though but seperates necessity from generousity as I have discovered people will also look at you as a weakling even though he just genuinely feel for their "sorry state".

My question is; Can a man still get loved even when he does spend? Or is love basically won by finances?

slimyem: The one thing that might save you is if she wants the same thing as you!
Even if i'd like to browse that option,i wouldn't welcome it thrown at my face by any man..
Good thing you expecting a slap though...
Chances are you'll get it or something almost equivalent!

I once met on lovely lady who we both agreed that was the best path to take.

Though 5years older but I knew she was would be the best mother for my kid (children). I was very sceptical on the marriage path bearing in mind she was a divorcee.

So sad things didn't just happen that way.
Like they say; God knows best.

Rocktation: You mirrored my mind!
AcidTalk, you think that you're in America, abi? Na slap sure pass oo.

Please advice me the best way to put it to her. I am bad at pretending or beating around the bush.
I try to be as open and sincere to everyone. I wouldn't want to raise marriage hopes knowing I won't marry her. That will be wickedness on my path.

tobechi74: So she wil be a baby making machine leaving in anoda hause and mothering ur kid why u wil continue patroling as a bachelor

u wil meet anoda gal and say I THINK U ARE NOT SUITABLE AS THE MOTHER OF MY CHILDREN BUT AS MY REGULAR SEX MATE.....

No joh!
I am not that hor*ny.
I just need someone I can trust enough to be a lovely and potively strict mother to my children. Nothing more.

I am contemplating settling down.
Settling down not as a husband but as a FATHER.

Ladies how will you react if a man tells you "I really love you dearly and care for you but I will rather prefer you to be the mother of my child rather than being a wife. I know you will be a good mum to my kid but not sure if you will be that perfect wife to me"

These are the words I want to tell her tomorrow over dinner.

If I sound okay, I will go ahead. But if you guys think otherwise, they I will chill out. Afterall I won't want her to go and slap me in public.

FOREXMART: Wow, Girl am in love with you already for defending me lol. i was at the market last Tuesday and bought a bucket of egusi, ogbono, garri, rice, and crayfish. Bottles of groundnut and palm oil, pepper nd onions.

Cooking is my secret hobby and most times am shy telling my friends that but your post just describes me. why pay to eat at eatrries when i don't get satisfied.

I would like to keep in touch with you if you don't mind lol.

Ashewo 10kobo.
You better find wife go front.
I want to give her to my uncle to marry.
Stay clear her back if not I will make you eat raw all your bucket of egusi and ogbono.

Am I to believe every single person who have viewed this post don't reside in lagos?

We need people to contribute on this issue.

When you drive through the streets of Lagos at least 7 out of every 10 dented /scratched vehicle was cause by the recklessness of OKADA riders (motor bike).

The menace of this operators is so terrible that not everyone survived to tell their own story.

A report sometime this year noted that 80% of patients in the orthopedic hospital (Igbobi) are victims of Okada accidents.

On streets, markets, roads and everywhere, you find Okada operators driving on pathways of pedestrians, thereby almost klnocking people into the gutter.

They never obey traffic rules and in general have been known for criminals to carry out their operations mainly on motor bikes.

The only 'advantage' of the Okada is its ability to manuever its way through road grid and traffick which most times lead to the distruction of people's vehicles.

The general believe is that Okada operators are a menace to the society in Lagos state.

Heymus: That is just what he is. He doesn't even av any gud point,let me tel you, conductors don't even send you and ur car.

Conductor that will threaten to bash your ride if you forcefully drag road space with him.

Ignore 190. He is a re*tard.

elimokhai: its every young mans dream to be an entrepreneur. This thread is so interesting, In 2005, after graduating from the UNI i ventured into entertainment business, I had a recording studio, with equipment worth 700k. I even had some upcoming artiste which were under my label, its like a family business, because the studio was located in my neighborhood where i grew up. I had a very big dream of selling an artiste under my label. After three years, i was still investing in the studio, changing equipment, beautification, yet nothing was coming in. The only sales made in four years was 50k. I had no other option than to quit, sold all my equipment. After then I have been dreaming BIGGER, tried writing few proposals, not sure it was well constructed though. Right now I am confuse, don't know what to venture into. I like to be my own boss. What do you advice? supplying computers, tablets, phones to companies. How do I go about it with a capital of NGN1Million?

Selling of computer gadgets will forever be in high demand.

I will advice you to first test the market before investing your entire 1million into the business.
have someone who can give you goods worth like N200,000 as a very good wholesale price, sell to people over a period of 3 months, by the time people know that is what you do and your prices are very good, you can now invest large sums in it.


you have a good business in sight.
also knowing Nigerians are technologically driven and also materialistic.
So people will always patronize you

mummy_A: Tanks F̶̲̅Õ̳͡я̅ d enlightment, A̶̲̥̅♏ in2 biz;sells of gift items like kitchen items and toys,wit low patronage. A̶̲̥̅♏ so confused,i don't knw wat †̥ do.

mummy goodday,
start taking your service to the door step of your customers.
what i mean is dont wait till they come to your shop, go and do agressive marketing at their door step.

Print out fliers and go distribute it to people.

I dont know your location but please target working class women and mums, go to estate (good locations.
I will give you more tips in a giffy.

envee: Yes, I have snapshots in hard and soft copies.

I love your idea about the online search, proposals and the legal aspects but that's gotta mean am taking a really huge leap...! (Its scary Sir).

I had even stopped painting for a whole year (2011) and counting cos I changed my career path into Maritime and Safety. However, starting as an entrepreneur in those fields is way too capital intensive n the jobs aren't coming either.

Let's not forget the gender factor which plays a rather annoying role in my line of work (wall designs).

I promise to give it another shot using your more sophisticated approach. I pray dis thread doesn't die anytime soon cos Lord knows I'll need help. I cannot do this alone.

Thank you for your timely response OP.

Please use your gender as an advantage.
believe it or not, people are likely to pay you more as a female than as a male.
Let your snap shots do the talking while you mouth do the billing.

now liosten to another one.
take your propsals to top eatery (headquaters), fashion designing home (top ones), boutique, spa and even lounge and hotels.

i believe at least one or two from each of those sectors will need your service.

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ijebabe: One more month to go

WILL YOU MARRY ME?

envee: Thanks for your response.

Back when I was in my 3rd year in the university, I ventured into Wall designs for 3 yrs. Most ppl call it Interior decor but my major focus was on the Walls. It involved the use of wall paint to design walls which sighted after completion, ur first guess would be that its a Wall Paper except u try touching the wall to get the real idea. I used to change into my overall, get on the ladder and paint.
It wasn't lady-like at all,neither was it capital intensive. I easily got my inspirations on designs from the internet, fabrics, tv shows, blankets, ceramics, floor carpets, mugs etc...anything at all. Designing a wall sometimes can take up to 3-4 days. Hence, a whole apartment can take up to 2weeks or less.
There were different choices from offices, lounges, baby cribs, cake shops, bedrooms etc and my major clients were new couples and some bachelors etc.

The major bottleneck(s) was that everyone loved my designs and were quite affordable but they were not willing to pay due to the Nigerian phrase (...its just a rented apartment, I'll contact you when MY house is completed).

Even the few that employed my services would beat the cost so low that I'd end up regretting why I took the contract.
I was using my time, brain and body exhaustively as it requires manual labour with little to show for it at d completion of the contract.
My approach was different, the delivery system was unique. I was painting with a difference with aim of converting your house into a HOME but my clients never appreciated my services as expected.
I resolved I hadn't found my target market which was why I was grossly underpaid and didn't get enough clients as I shd or the value for my services.

Now I just dislike it as a job.

I love painting!!! Its always been a hobby but I'll rather do it as a gift or offer.

Infact, I don't bother to visit site locations when called cos I just can't stand being begged or cajoled to accept an unreasonable sum.

Sweetheart, you are sitting on a GOLDMINE. Do you want to use your own hands to set you 'mine' on fire?

There is no single entrepreneur on planet heart who ever had it all smooth so don't give up....myou are close to your breakthrough.

I want to guess you have snap shots (pictures) of works you have done right?

If yes, worry no more as you have a solution.

Go online and search for the top 50 Architecture, lanscaping and interior decor firms in Nigeria. Write a comprehensive proposal and go "in person" to see the CEO of the firm or head od creativity in such company. Show them what you have got and I assure you at least 3 out of the 50 will be amazed and show great intrest in your work.

Be careful though, your collabration with them might need you getting some "legal backings" so that you don't end up being cheated at the end of the day.

A profit sharing formular between you and the architecture firm will be your best bet.

But first I will advice you to go register your business, even if its a business name for now. It won't cost more than N6,000 to do so.

Please don't give up on your dreams I beg you.


All the best....


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sheuzee: @ acidtalk.hi.very educative contribution u hv made on this forum.am an IT inclined person.actually registered a business name so I cn pull strings 4 my Self.some of the things are do networking,structured cabling,sales and repair of computer systems and laptos,maintenace.my biggest challenge is how to effectivley get my clients.I dnt have an office so I work form home.

Another thing is that I was oppotuned to get someone import a large quantity of american steel doors and very nice home and office furnitures.my problem is havnt made any serious sales.tried getting a showroom on d island to display them but to no avail.and also d doors.I just need advice on how to go about all this businesses I have cos a lot of people are doin well in them.anyway you can help me out pls

IT careers are very rewarding and respectable, the only problem is unprofessional youngstars have bombarded the sector making it appear like an unskilled profession. Finding secondary school leavers competing to get the same contract one with CCNA, A+, MCSE and the rest has acquired.

In as much as that sector is highly competitive, I advice you to get your own nitch by getting clients in the corporate industry. Offices with regular demand for your solutions will be your best best I.e, micro finance banks, manufacturing companies, private owned schools and the rest.

Note: Don't bother paying for a office space for this kind of business. Most people are taking their business to the home/office mode.

You wonder why I adviced such? You might never have a single client ever visiting your office so why waste money?


On the Steel door and office furniture, I will advice you to first get some few customers before thinking of investing heavily in a shop space on the island.

Don't forget shop spaces on the island are very expensive.

My advice is for you to do a catalogue, and also right a good proposal whereby you can eaily show clients your samples on products through your catalogue, and if need be that they want to see samples, invite them over to the warehouse or a safe place where you have displayed some samples (I.e, someone in the same industry who have agreed to display your samples).

Whatever you decide, ensure to first have ready customers before investing in a showroom or office space.

Also you can consider selling at wholesale price to people who sell such products. Just be wary on how you willl tackle credit issues.

seun_adeolu: SECONDED

Are you insinuating I am a liar?
That's very unfair.

greatgod2012: Multilinks......... Worst,no,worstest, dont try to call their CC f u're not ready to hear foolsh thngs, no appeal, no refund, no encouragement,infact thank god they are no more, and 've even thrown ther useless phone away n annoyance b4 they are dead

MutltilinksTelkom, keeps getting worse instead of improving having that deal.

Starcomms has totally taken over the CDMA network, but even starcomms is dwindling seriously.

Mynd_44: And now, you have turned a perfectly good and peaceful thread into show of shame. Don't you people ever get tired of this?

So sorry
but seriously that boy could be really annoying.

Billyonaire: Sorry, I am just very careful.

100% agree with you on this.

Mynd_44: Now I have more reason to think that you are just noted and need company. Don't worry, the football season will soon start

seriously i just said that last one to add a little humor.
before you go please help me deliver a message to sexkillz.
TELL HIM HE IS A FREAKING BASTARD FOR BRINGING MY THREAD HERE
AND IF HE DARES HIDE MY POST, AMADIOHA WILL STAMP HIS LIFE WITH COW SH^IT[b]

Mynd_44: Now I have more reason to think that you are just noted and need company. Don't worry, the football season will soon start

seriously i just said that last one to add a little humor.
before you go please help me deliver a message to sexkillz.
TELL HIM HE IS A FREAKING BASTARD FOR BRINGING MY THREAD HERE
AND IF HE DARES HIDE MY POST, AMADIOHA WILL STAMP HIS LIFE WITH COW SH^IT[/b]

Mynd_44: Now I have more reason to think that you are just noted and need company. Don't worry, the football season will soon start

seriously i just said that last one to add a little humor.
before you go please help me deliver a message to sexkillz.
TELL HIM HE IS A FREAKING BASTARD FOR BRINGING MY THREAD HERE
AND IF HE DARES HIDE MY POST, AMADIOHA WILL STAMP HIS LIFE WITH COW SH^IT

Barr Jules: Acidtalk I realy love dis topic cos I hv always drmt of being one of d biggest enterpreneurs eva existed. I wnt to be an interior decorator and an occasion planner.I jst finished my NYSC and I saved smal mny for it bt d problem is I nid to learn unda smeone for smetym to perfect in it.I thank u so much for dis lesson for it has motivated me so much.

Interior designing and event planning is very lucrative and will remain so till eternity.

Right now i cant vouch for anyone in who i can refer you to go learn under.

Not that i dont know a couple of people in that field, its only that if i am refering you, i should be refering you to the best hands.

One thing and one thing you really need to make it in this field is NETWORKING.

It is who you know that will get you going.

Just try a few searches of top interior designers in Nigeria.

and if you find anyone that best suits you, you can contact them to learn under them.

All the best.

Mynd_44: Bad guy

really a very bad guy

Mynd_44: They can't do crap to you and you know it so stop your darned fretting jorh.
BTW, I still don't believe you

i though you of all people would believe me on nairaland.

i doubt want to try those old men oh!
the last dude that bullsh^^itted them on this same issue, they turned him into a goat.
Those men are very daring oh!