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negrito:
hey no one is a kid here. Watch your language lady. He will surely seek love elsewhere. As long as I live he won't marry a Nigerian girl or anyone that I know.

If you aint a kid, stop the whining! No1 cares about your opinion or where you'll get married from. Like, no1 gives a shiit...

Is it just me or was the best part of the episode the bamon hug? loved it! And the way damon kept laughing? So cool!

Ehmmm... was I the only one who felt that something was gon prevent stefan from telling Caroline how he feels? So typical rii?

So, bad Caroline... we'll see how that goes and Damon's mum? was she a witch or something? O well, we'll see.

Kai's goody goody is creeping me out jor... he's meant to be a sicko! lol

And finally, Mrs know it all elena! The whole world does not revolve around you...

Definitely serena for me... her hips made the outfit n I like it above the knee.

Not in love with her shoes tho...

emusmith:
...Taking too life too personal will hurt you.

Take your own advise...

You said and I quote "It's like a lady's life revolve around being with a man. Don't pretend joor "

Says a guy who sits down every single day to think about lists to come up with about ladies And your life revolves around what exactly?

Ahh... not again.

Well, if Nigerian girls aint good enough just as you advised your friend, seek love elsewhere! What's the fuss about?

Mtcheew... kids...

LmaoRotfl...
Like seriously? Where do I start?

Driven:
So, why are you here?

I wonder...

It's a dress and a jacket rii? I think that's what I see.

Based on the above, I think the outfit is confused(or maybe I am ) but it doesn't work. In fact, I think this outfit needs to be explained.

Overall, she looks ok. I don't think I love it tho.

dossypretty:
Thank u, but I only sent names to d men of God nd they prayed about it plus I had my own personal conviction from God through my dreams

Uhm... dreams are sometimes what we want to see, other times it's actually our spirit conveying a message. or so I heard.

How do you know you can trust your dreams? Has God spoken via dreams to you before?

Last question, are you happy with this man?

Girl... I don't like your options but then again, what do I know?

I'll tell you what, there's always that one girl a man is afraid to lose and it seems you aint that girl with any of the two.

The first guy beat you and let's be clear about something, he will do it again. The second guy gets so angry and I can bet you have to beg him to calm down. Well, that rings a strange bell to me *abuser alert*.

Now, I know the guys here will tell you "go for the second after all there's no perfect man" but you have to remember it's your life, no1 will be there when things get rough and when you report here to complain again? The dudes will still ask you to manage him.

If you're in your 30z and all you want rii now is to get married regardless of the consequences, marry the local guy but! If you actually want to be happy in marriage...

I think you should move the wedding to later in the year, just to see how he'll handle it. Your reason should be you aint ready.(period) if he gets all angry and does something crazy, you berra run 4 your life. If he gets concerned and wants to find out why, then you can have a talk with him and make up your mind after all. You need time to reflect deeply, don't let him rush you into it.

Don't take my word for it but marriage is not a light issue, seek advice from family(not friends o) and if you're a Christian, you should know who is right for you probably by feeling at peace with your decision.

No1 is perfect but abuse(emotional or physical) is just too much baggage.

I wish you the best dear.

My 2kobo

29 is the bomb...

Boredom! Iz all.

It's ok to die single... marriage is not by force.

emusmith:
Pants and bra will do this time

Nah... my Z10 must upgrade to passport

I see you(op) aint serious, calling people names and bashing girls who share their thoughts. Smh

Like someone said, no body is putting a gun to your head to respect anyone. Also, don't expect to be respected just coz you where born "male".


Respect is earned irrespective of gender.

ProphetUdeme:
pixsure or i dont bilivit.. Not in this 21st century bro.. A girl told me if i dnt have six packs an am not tall an handsome an cute an have sideboards an fresh beards an a fresh skin, if i dnt possess those qualities i shd forget abt marryin a woman of my dreams

"Woman of your dreams"... do you want to tell me this woman of your dreams is not beautiful with big boobz and big azz? abi who no like better thing?

Stop whining n take a sit jor.

It can't be well with the girls that did this to you

Lol...

Since guys complain about boxers and singlet, I think just boxers will do this time...

#cute

HML @op.

Hope you don't have HIV sha o! Go and test yourself and repeat in 6 months.

First few dates should be in the open and not at home.

Anyhoo... I guess peeps have said enough.

signor11:
i dont reply insulting posts
thanks

So, what did you just do?

Anyhoo sorry you feel offended but there's no insult in that post.

Definitely a plus...

klark3:
ROTFL.... Wey! U used d word 'niggaz'.

Tony braxton is a niga,so wht do u knw abt it. lol.

We are not spewing kappish. U hear! Are u a lawyer? Or probably an advocate of gender equality, which is a sure blind alley. Though ur points are well articulated, am afraid dey are biased in favour of women. When a woman get married is customary she forgets her root, because d society accept it.

But a man can never forget his root 'inclusive are his siblings,parents.., When a woman bcomes a rev. Sister, she practically spend d rest of her life in the convent, but even as an ordained priest, a man still shoulders d responsibility of his immediate family. Am not trying to debase women in any sense, it's just that women have failed to appreciate & accept their position.

u say u won't visit ur elder bro, I'll tell him for future reference. but u indeed sound like a control freak, & frm wht I can deduce frm ur quote, u won't even allow ur hubby's mum or dad to live in ur home. I fear u o!

Learn to respect ur man, submit urself, believing me u'll be d final beneficiary.
Are u married?

I just hope you'll be pleased if you're treated the same way? Like if she puts her family before you? After all, you aint related to her by blood. If you won't be pleased then you're just another hypocrite. Anyway, that's what most dudes are known for.

Again, control freak ke? Just coz I told you the truth? Typical of dudes to use terms like that when they lack the ability to hold a reasonable/intelligent convo. I guess that's why you assumed I said I won't visit my bro as well . you should read my post over and over again.

And by the way, respect is reciprocal and not one sided.

signor11:
hahahah
are you a lady or guy
its the one who makes up that deals with issues
the observer is never at a loss
its the one participating that feels the heat

And what's he saying?

Lemme put it in simple terms for you...

If you like spit, be irritated, disgusted and so on by makeup like some dudes here claim, no1 gives a damn! it won't stop girls from using makeup...

Kapish?

O... I didn't know my gender was confusing.

klark3:
I honestly don't get this.

Is it wrong for her hubby siblings or her siblings to live with them? When u love someone I believe that love should extend to ur partner's siblings & even frnds. How can a woman claim to love a man, yet be poles apart with his siblings, likewise the man.

U're implicitly saying u won't accommodate ur hubby siblings? It's saddening women are inclined to perceive things frm their own perspective, forgetting that a man is the head, the opinion of the wife doesn't really count, the man has the final say.

Adaeze how will u feel, if u go on a visit to ur elder bro place & he refuse to allow u in, literally because of his wife? Like I always tell ladies, the way to a man's hrt & family is not through his stomach, but submissiveness. A woman can subjugate the most hard hearted dude, by being submissive.

@op make peace with his siblings & everything will be alright. No reasonable man will turn against his immediate family for a woman.u can confirm frm those that tried it in the past, they didn't end up well...

Uhm... ehm...

No man will turn against his immediate family for "a woman". First off Mr, is she just "a woman" to him?

I saw you quoting head of the house and submission so i'm guessing you're a Christian? Now, guys often rush of to scream submit but forget the part where Jesus said, for this reason, a man shall leave his Family(what you call immediate family) and be one(yes, one!!!) with his wife!!! Oga, did someone tear out this part of your bible

Again, a wife's opinion doesn't count? Like, what millennium are you from Then What the hell is she doing in that house? Marriage has suddenly become slavery? I pity your wife to be sha.

Now, to your question, why the hell will I go to live with my brother and his wife and create problems? If I get to stay with my bro, I will know my damn place! His wife comes before me!

Nothing in this post suggests that the man or woman is to blame but you niggaz will always blame the woman no matter what.

Imagine a grown azz man keeping malice with the mother of his kids and ya'll are here talking rubbish. Mtcheew.

AlphaGentleman:
U simply dislike d sister and u tryn by all means to make her look all bad.Anyways,am not married but dnt be a devil and telling people u a saint outside so they side with u cos i kno wat women can do.too much pretence and they re wicked

You sound like you know her from somewhere

Or you blindly assumed she is the problem?

One thing with guys is, the woman is always at fault... What ever the case is, she's always the problem. like WTH

Op, what are his sisters doing in your home? Anyway the mistake has been made. I don't even know what to tell you sef. Maybe the cliché "pray and hope??".

Hope you have something to keep yourself busy sha? B4 you lose your mind.

Actually, we don't care if you like makeup or not. Like, no one gives a shiit

Girls that want to make up will and those who don't won't. It's that simple so deal with it.

Lmao! So some people will marry just to know what sex feels like

Joke of the century.

ellab:
she deserves it a lil. I don't trust jackson at all.

Me too, the love is just fishy...

Unless a chick is a virgn, if she doesn't want to sleep with you, it means she's not into you. It's that simple.

A dude can sleep with anyone but a girl has to be into you to do same.

So don't come here yapping about nothing, we don't need you advocating for us...

Adaobi12:
. enjoy life? you mean date and sleep with a thousand one men?
who says she can't enjoy life in marriage?

Ma'm if your definition of enjoying life is sleeping with men, you've got a thousand things wrong!

How about defining your life/structuring a career path? Do you really think you can do that effectively in marriage? When you'll have kids running around and in this era of witchy househelps?

There is some joy in being "somebody" and not just "somebody's wife". And that feeling is really enjoyable... just saying.

@topic
Anyway, it depends on the girl, if she's ready and stable enough. The age gap is not much of a problem.