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Babz temmy: I av heard what you all said and I must confess you all have spoken well, but obviously no one is in my shoes, no one knows its actually sweeter to read, easier to say, but acting it na serious work, watching ur mother inlaw treating your husband like her husband is highly irritating. Show ur son love, but appropraite it,which one is calling ur son 3times a day, its obsession,and d funniest thing is she doesn't treat d others like that, except my husband. D others don't take all this, you know d solution, one shouldn't just end up with mums dat her into their sons,its a very difficult life to pass tru, butam in it, I would live with it and kip praying for grace

my sister I so believe u and understand wat you are talking about because I am wearing the same shoes, just don't let it destroy ur peace in ur home. God will give us grace Amen.

Dear Op, ur such a fantastic writer I am so touched from inside, I want you to know that God answers prayers and He will surely bless u with children if u do not loose faith, my sister had no child for twelve long years now she has a son and another one coming just immediately, isn't that God? I also want you to know that God allows us to pass through some situations, you will understand when the baby comes. Trust me your letter is enough to draw more than one baby from heaven, can you handle them? May God help us all.

Daresh: People like you are just not realistic. How will she cope with kids, full time job and not help? I can assure you it is impossible. Someone will suffer. Either the job or the kids. I just got bk from a friends house, she just had a 3rd child and she is going bananas. No help, kids screaming round the house while she is nursing the 3rd one. Half way thru she will start preparing lunch, sweeping, washing plates, wiping noses, cleaning up the mess kids constantly make. And what is dear husband doing, playing with ipad. You want to kill woman? The law in my house is simple, since there is no maid, we will ALL work together. I'm sorry but I cannot die because you want me to be a perfect wife.

. Please read what I wrote carefully I was only replying what someone said.

okpara ugo: Poster, you are on point.

Inasmuch as a man has no reason to cheat on his wife, a woman has no reason to delegate her duties as a 'helper' to a maid.

The bible calls a wife a 'helper' to the man. She keeps the home and provides company to a man. If she negates this order by delegating her duties to a maid, anything can happen to her position.

I never grew up with maids and my married aunties and sisters do not have maids at home. So modern women can disregard the Op to their detriment...

please kindly state the duties of a woman in the home so we can understand better, then tell us how many kids your aunties and sisters each have, then post their pictures so we can see how young and fresh they all look, I bet you after you have done all these, women will see the proof that they too can live a healthy life, carry four or more kids with no husband help, househelp, inlaw help or whatever form of help.

This is so sad!! Jona pls what do u have to say about this na??

hayoakins: After listening to the interview, I knew it was gonna go viral

Kaffy, you are celebrated already but you don't have to long for more at the expense of ur mama even if she's a witch.

Am highly disappointed in you....some people got worse mommas yet they didn't sell them cheap like you just did .

She carried you for 9 cool months, that alone is invaluable and can't be traded

Am trying hard to fight back my tears.

I love u mama no matter what, you could have flush me off if you wanted

your action is a matter of your decision, forget about someone advising you. You either accept or reject, you arent under any obligation to accept...

and dont come online to say SHI.T about the character called "MOTHER"


why make your mother cry? am sure she must have pleaded for forgiveness severally.

Have always been one of your fans until this moment...one thing that has never been proven wrong is the law of Karma, you got kids too...all in the name of hyping yourself, you killed your momma...you just made her a living corpse...the next thing that would be trending is the search for your momma's picture.

Kaffy this person is so right, yeah, gals out there should learn from you, they should understand your story, yeah they should know who almost brought you down, but there are ways to say it, they will still understand. Now I am a mother I know and understand where my mum was coming from, Every MOTHER deserves forgiveness, why make her cry!!!! Why

kulyie: if he did not always go to church when you were courting and you were thinking you will make him start going to church after marriage,you are on a long thing however if he wasn't like that during courtship and marriage and then all of a sudden,he changes,live him to God however,i will suggest you buy cds on sermons from different pastors for your husband and convince him to watch it after you and your kids have gone to church,he might watch it and from there you dont know which sermon he will watch that God will touch his heart and he will find one of them interesting and then have the urge to go with you to church or any church he wishes,the bottomline is that he goes to church TO WORSHIP.that was the way my mom left my dad to God after too much talking failed.my dad now is baba ijo.he doesnt joke woth sundays.he is so commited now.once he wakes up by 5am,he wakes everyone up to start doing their duties and prepare for church.the essence of this my story is KNOW YOUR MAN and know your God

. Thanks, but funny enough he introduced me to the church am presently attending. As you said, I will leave him for God.

Your reply is so on point.I have stopped talking as it has not made any change, I have resolved to prayer. Thank you Akin.

It bothers me that as the head of the home some men do not go to church. They subsitute their time for God for Time For work or other things, pls men that go to church tell us why you do, and women tell us how u feel when ur hubby works on sundays or just refuses to go to church yet he is a christain. Thanks.

debrief08: I am sorry, I am trying to understand this.
You had time to take pictures and record videos but you were too in a hurry to find out what would be done to help?
So how would our " Wicked parents" "God punish" "some people are cursed". "Na wa oh" comments help the child?

Technology has taken us to a dark place, people prefer taking pictures and sharing without really caring to help, even at accident scenes.
The time it took the ground to gather and look round someone would have called the Police.
It would be more beneficial to this child if you had kept your phone down and informed the closest Police Man or Woman to you.

I am sorry, I just don't and can't understand what you want us to do with the picture of this poor child now.
I can imagine what would have happened to the injured Man in the Bible in this our generation. Instead of helping like the good samaritan did he would have taken pictures to broadcast

@ poster please what did you do to help this child that is the question, seeing him physically is not enough to steer ur feelings so why will a picture steer ours after all we see kids like this everyday on cnn.how come u came close to do something yet u were in a hurry. Just for the glory of posting news on nairaland. Its a shame!!!

This is so funny, pls do the right thing. Whatever will cause you to sin cut it off!! Lol!

One of Our finest Actors. RIP SIR!!! Adieu till we meet again. So sorry Andrew my friend.

stagger: You are a wicked man! End of story.

You want your wife to die of housework, when she has a job and has to look after the kids: what type of nonsense is that? In my house, I wash the bathroom and toilet and this is something I enjoy doing right from when I was a kid. Occasionally, I sweep and once in a long while, I do the cooking. Sometimes I even pity my wife when she comes back home from a stressful day at work looking like she wants to collapse.

My helping with housework has never reduced my status in the house as the head of the house. Rather it has enhanced it.

How a modern day man whose wife goes to work (hard work I must say) and has to still bear the children and look after them should be be left to do all the work in the house beats my imagination!

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God bless you dear. I wish most men can have the understanding and wisdom you have, you are very invaluable, the funny thing is that those men shouting hell no here will be the first to be cleaning their wives ass abroad because they will have no choice over there, what does it remove from you, how can your eyes see your wife breathless from work only to come home to take care of the kids, cook, then still expect her to be intimate with you, I know their are househelps, yes but there is only so much they can do, I agree that men who don't help their wives with house work when they know that she also works hard to help financially is not only wicked, but he wants his wife to die early.

busolayemi: Now am feelin so bad...neva meant for dis to get dis far ppl....nd if in d course of dis discussion I ad step on toes...so sorry...esp d guys/men....I so dnt even know wat to typ...buh one way or d oda, av gained frm dis discussion...tanks everyone

Hi Busolayemi, pls don't feel bad. You have raised a very sensitive topic,seriously the truth is bitter. Helping your wife with the house chores or even with caring for your kids does not make you less of a man, infact I urge you men raining insults on busola to take time with your family this coming Val period to assist ur wives with cleaning or caring for the kids whether you have a househelp or not, then see the result. I personally think it is the resposibility of the woman to take care of her home and build it, but building anything takes alot, taking care of kids takes a life time, when u assit your wife once in a while you will hold her heart, she will hold you higher in her eyes and respect you. Busola thanks for this topic, if people are not interested why all the responses Man and woman help eachother.

I just remember the face of my baby girl at birth and am shocked at the resemblance, how can this be done even my an insane person? Pls if you know names and addresses of motherless baby homes, post it,I think most people who do such evil don't even have a clue of better options. God you are great, I love babies and I am thankful God kept such a beautiful baby alive, am dancing and prasing God @ baby welcome to naija, full with evil,ALLU 4, how I wept, baby thank God you did not die my heart would not have been able to hold another gory image of ur loss... We resolve to murder the why's but We are strucked by the repitition of our way of life, We Weep We mourn as our dear one's are reduced and placed in an urn,.... I can go on and on... That is the story of Nigeria, a country I hate because of our bad leaders.. They are helpless in their strenght, they pack the bag of gold coins beneath their groins, and yet they ask us, who slayed intelligence and murdered its mother patience, it is you, it is I, it is nobody, weep for ur country maybe when our tears will move our father in heaven and our cry for change will finally be heard. Just Maybe.

Eniola am so so sorry may your hubbies soul rest in perfect peace, I pray that God will grant you peace and give u the strenght and great love to nuture your baby.

Great love from husband to wife and then from wife to husband, great respect shown from wife to husband then husband to wife,children, stable finances, good inlaws and the ability to support your wife or ur hubby in tough times regardless of if they are right or wrong.

Fine baby, speechless!!

Both!!most responsible men will still not change diapers, we should just make the best of what we have and pray.

StarFlux: While this is a terrible crime, killing Okechukwu Nwabueze, as he is called, is wrong. I don't understand why anyone would want more blood shed for the already shed blood.

It is as the Yoruba proverb says: obo ni yo para e. This man, in a sense, already killed himself when foolishly shooting an innocent girl. Whether it be physical or mentally, remains to be seen. If there is no regret, then he should be put on life time and we should leave the rest to God.

how do you now relate that to the Allu killings, should they have life sentences too?

Mad Cow: [b]WITHOUT PREJUDICE TO HOW THIS MAN MUST BE FEELING.. I would advice that he buries his son and move on... NIGERIA is a country of animals.. All these people acting like they care are all looking for their 5 minutes of fame.. The Senate has passed a resolution sef on the matter.. I wouldnt be surprised if before friday, President Jonathan and the Comissioner of Police all issue a speech.. EVEN CPC that we all know kept quiet while their supporters ran wild killing every corper in sight has come outto issue a speech.

I hate to see the death of your child turned into another National fiesta of Speeches, Rallies, Television shows, Internet traffic generator and other personal and selfish gains.

The truth is that, NO BE TODAY OUR CRASE START... And in all honesty, nobody really cares...



Who here still remembers this guy.. His;

https://www.nigeriapolicewatch.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/police-abuse2.jpg

https://www.nigeriapolicewatch.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/protest_pictures_Ademola_Aderinde_being_molested_150851430.jpg

[img]http://1.bp..com/-Oxb7vYoHaYI/Twrrdn9T_3I/AAAAAAAAE8A/FFEbg0d905E/s1600/2.jpg[/img]

And the final result....[img]http://3.bp..com/-y6A9A9bLOKA/Twr20a64_nI/AAAAAAAAPAM/GKOyV9xC-Ew/s1600/police+kill+protester.lindaikejiblog.jpg[/img]


I remember the threads on Nairaland, the Internet buzz, the News Shows, The Senates stance, BBM display pictures and Broadcasts, tweeter messsages, facebook..

OYA!! Who can tell me how this story ended?!!


I'm so sorry sir... But this is Nigeria.. Your sons are another casulty of a failed system. We have always been this way.. Nothing is really new in this story.. Dont ride on the display you are seeing from Nigerians today, by next week... The story of your son would be old gist.. People will barely even remember..

This does not mean I am insensitive to your plight o!! All I am saying is that go and mourn your loss in private.. We Nigerians are not ready to change this failed systemm we call a country..


These are examples of the Laws JUNGLE Justice system.. If the law is this way, why would the streets be any diferent..

[img]http://2.bp..com/_NR48UcL2XMI/Rwx4TDjrlLI/AAAAAAAAAOU/wdRHSaMCOGQ/s320/Nigeria+-+police+brutality.jpg[/img]

https://cdn.pmnewsnigeria.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/Police-Brutality.jpg

https://www.nigeriapolicewatch.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Abuse-of-power-by-police-officer.jpg

https://www.nigeriapolicewatch.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/Picture-71.png

[img]http://4.bp..com/-jNb6K2gIWZo/TxPpZoRTkaI/AAAAAAAAFB0/bS7txC_EQAg/s400/soldiers+in+lagos.jpg[/img]

[img]http://3.bp..com/-63yY4xDiDb4/ToKhYbrFwmI/AAAAAAAAAEE/9jMfUp4u_4M/s1600/police+BRUTALITY+nu.jpg[/img]

https://cdn.informationnigeria.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/military-torture-base-in-North.jpg?9d7bd4

https://www.nigeriapolicewatch.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/police_fight.jpg

Dont forget the woman that was beaten to a pulp by the Navy in lagos caught on tape.. Her matter was so hot Nigerians were throwing tantrums as if it was the first time that we had seen, heard or witnessed such before.. It still happens even tomorrow..


Sir!! My deepest and sincerest condolences.. But please go mourn your son and console your family and Hope that one day we can muster the courage in this god forsaken nation to fix the wrongs in the system.. [/b]

the time has come, enough is enough, trust me the end times for Nigeria has come.

obadiah777: YOU SICK BASTARD, ITS SUPPOSED TO HAUNT YOU. WHO TOLD YOU TO WATCH IT ? AND TO THE REST OF YOU CRETINS WHO WATCHED IT PLEASE SPARE US THE GORY DETAILS. NOW THIS FOOL HAS PUT IN MY MIND THE IMAGE OF THOSE GUYS WRIGGLING IN THE HEAT

You are also a cretin for reading this post! Pls stop ranting if u don't have something positive to say, keep quiet!

[quote author=wobo.v]Plss is this d first time thieves r burnt 2 death in nigeria, bsides those guy were cultist do u no hw many lives they have claimed. Pls we no d villagers were not 100 percent rite but killin d villagers is not d right tin[/quote]Are you part of the villiagers?

So so sad, Rip!

Lia lia! May God help us with all these crappy airlines and death planes!

KINGwax: In as much as i hate to see the girl dead, and i love to see these guys hung, that doesn't justify all these ruse! To me, who is to blame for the girl's stupidity?
The truth is, i don't excuse stupiditi, or pity fools

Are you telling me you have never done a stupid thing in your life, like beating up a woman or worse, there is no excuse for that you know so stop being judge and pray for her soul to rest in peace!

Yeah, the mail is really cool, i signed up a month ago an got 10 FREE SMS. I think they were doing a promo then.

Qboxx Mail and Qboxx Instant Messenger, are what i use, i like the nigerian input. If they are really nigerians, GOOD work guys, Keep it up.


Cheers.

i dont know whats being said about timi, but men he rocks my world when he sings, he moves me almost to the verge of tears, when he sings he touches my heart,and u know even if he isnt as handsome as eric,he has so much beauty on the inside, and i believe that that is where true beauty lies.timi is going to win, despite all the trivial shortcomings some people have pointed out, i believe he is a born star,the first day i heard oma's voice i knew she was good and on her first performance she moved me to dance and i was impressed, but timi, moves my soul to a reality of all nigerians imaginations of a good musician.pls vote for timi all you out there cos he has great talent, a very humble guy,from what i have seen, he would be a fast growing singer if he wins!

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