beekind: I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country. I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children. Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.
I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery. People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.
What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.
Solution: I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother. So I gave her a choice.
Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.
Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.
She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.
If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?
You sound as a saint on your part especially your evaluations of the ladies. But concerning your ex you sound like mere business and that is bad family is deeper 3rd and 1st nation does not matter with the way you said the children might be blessings to her and family in future remember you are not DETERMINER of Life, so pls reconsider your offer make it more humane than contract and talk to her to know her own plan generally aside you and your offer. And if it boils down to business deal you could as well go for someone without any attachments.
Versitee: I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.
Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.
Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.
I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.
She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.
My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.
I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left . Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.
I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.
The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".
Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.
I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.
I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)
My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.
To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.
It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.
I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.
Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.
Don't confront your husband yet first set them up differently then together, you can contact professional for the procedure or talk to women agencies they can help you. Listen and listen good confrontation is when you have literally buried the person so they have no defence at all it's winning psychologically first before physical engagement. Any form of confrontation aside this is stupidity. Finally don't abuse your womanhood but use it to your advantage.
Truvelisback: Good day, fellas. Most Nigerian parents focus more on their children's education but ignore their children's moral behavior. E.g Greetings, respect, good manners etc. I'm really disappointed in some children these days.
In my own words what they are demonstrating towards their children is a dynamic hate from the pit of hell. If one decide to itemize them ground go full.
This Igbo rubbish need to stop and any family caught indulging in it should be given the death penalty.
Any man from such backward home, town, state or region should always do the needful also the women marrying from such or that came from such places should always settled issues before going ahead with such marriages. I wonder what people do in relationships.
You settle.... personal peculiarity Family peculiarity Cultural peculiarity Work on attaining a balance for your past, present and future by setting up modalities to make your life easy.
For instance next of kin... Assets management Pre-nups for the sake of the children, future also to ward off family interference especially in situations like this and many more.
Why such position is not within your organization rank and file that it has to be sought external? If we are to go by your 5 bullshit unemployable reasons. And if it's so out of your organization reach why not outsource it to HR Company?
Angelfrost: Op, you've spoken well... But, I hate to disagree with you...
Employability can not and should never be restricted to those points of yours. Honestly, it doesn't even make sense.
Determining a person's employability or suitability for any role solely by appearances or how well-written his resume simply points to erroneously and unprofessionally judging books by their covers.
If you remove these superficial and unprofessional prejudices and test them starting with written exams, followed by verbal interviews of those who pass, you would be shocked that the highest-scoring won't even be the ones with the finest packaging.
Sir/Ma God bless you real big. You are indeed a human and I think you are also an employer. If one is not careful one will so lambast the OP for talking rubbish,nothing is real from his point of view.
Odewaleadesoye: No, I didn't call 590 candidates. Just few were contacted after considering some things.
These are not cogent reason to the real characteristics of unemployable individuals.
Being nervous isn't a crime. Some didn't even remember they applied with 590 for 1 slot that is enough to tell you that their resume is flying everywhere. Those that forgot what was on their resume was because they have different several one. All the above couple with the fact of waiting endlessly for calls has affected most applicants negatively. May you not find yourself in some situation. That is why time matters in the journey of endurance and perseverance, once the elastic limit is broken someone will fumble with 1+1.
Anything job creation by government is scam and nonsense to me. As long as government is a taker and not giver. It's the people's job to create job not government. They should stick to creating atmosphere for the people to perform their own task. Even the small business government put hand na futility.
Your silence is golden because you didn't appoint yourself. The House that screened and cleared you. The relevant security agencies that cleared you. The People who appointed you. Are the one to defend you.
Switinthemiddle: Happy sunday y'all, so i have this issue bothering me that i need advice on.
So me and this my guy have known for some years now and i know him as someone who has a flaw for anything under skirts.
It didnt bother me all these while cause i am nt one to judge until recently when i found out from my girlfriend that he was codedly wooing my junior sister and they just started dating.
Now the problem is i dnt knw if i should warn my sister about him and try and put a stop to the relationship or just try and give him and her a chance.
Please advice
Show me your friend and I will tell who you are. So don't ever interfere in their relationship.
ochejoseph: Those in the lab trying to manufacture 9 technicalities should stop wasting their time Tinubu should prepare to vacate the seat he is illegally occupying
At least there is one recent example in Lagos where LP candidate who won was sacked and runner up which is APC now pronounced winner.
Goodlady: There was a time I dated a baker for two weeks. I knew the relationship ll die prematurely from day 1 cos the first outing he took me to was a sub per restaurant which has dirty environment. As in someone that bake should v basic knowledge about food and have class. So what does he take me for? Na test?
I had to take only water after much pestering cos I no fit chop anything there else na diarrhoea!
Within 3 days, I noticed the guy was just too clumsy. I think he blv he's showing me love by showing up most times but he became too bossy with his questions. Always asking if I v eaten, slept as if I m barbie. What broke the camel's back was when I visited his place and saw that he's not neat. His house has litters of baking ingredients, unwashed pan, bowls etc. He's also someone that press tooth paste like an illiterate, pressing it from the middle as seen in the picture below.
I just can't see myself getting further with a man like that so after two weeks, I just avoided him and summed up courage to tell him he's not my type.
This story is one sided still from your own mouth. Let me explain what I mean..... You spoke about the guy good but not about yourself which would have been better yet not a word about the effort you made that would have been great.
Relixy2k: This number 093011467 called me with claim that she is from First bank that I have an interview for a Receptionist role with email Adeola.Abass@firstbanknigeria.com and copied adeolu.adebari@firstbanknigeria.com and also omowole.p.orimoloye@firstbanknigeria.com. They use real first bank domain address and official signatures. However, the address is 35 kakawa street lagos island as against the real 35 marina road, lagos island which is the genuine address of First bank in marina. They sent a well addressed mail to me for front desk office role. Name on true caller for 093011467 is ikechukwu. Kindly take note when you get invite from them.
If these people possess any power whatsoever they should rain down hell. And to the Muslims see what your people are doing that means they have being using the Nigeria Police as their pocket pistol against innocent Nigerians. Typical of falsehood happening in the north taking innocent life, If the south were not decent enough they could have gone the northern way killing innocent individual for nothing by make fabrication of lies from cheer hatred. Peace loving religion don't do this and truth must be said it has nothing to do with religion these swr of people are Vampires bloodthirsty being.
ideamonster: The potential threat the career of a woman can cause to her marriage especially if her husband isn’t as successful as she is has always been a point of discussion. Moreover, some single men are even afraid to marry a woman who is successful in their chosen career than them. Some believe that the norm is husbands “should” hold higher job status relative to their wives. When this norm is violated, and wives hold the higher status job, negative consequences can follow: Women are more likely to be targets of husbands’ aggression, and the risk for divorce increases.
Question is it a crime for a woman to succeed in her chosen field or earn more?
Ventura1: Chai! and you omitted Gbenga Adeboye in OGBC 2
Taiwo Akinsola omo baba woli ni ilasa This slime egba guy Murphy Most of Gbenga Adeboye crew. Baba amoye program Awoko pade ega Oge gele Sikiru Alimi Etc
First there were many MW stations, none of which was able to really capture my attention. We had Radio Lagos, RCOS, B.C.O.S/Radio O.Y.O, Ogun Radio/OGBC and of course the king of them all Radio Nigeria 1 (1089). Radio Nigeria 1 was the first place to go to for the 7am news and whenever there was a coup.
RN2
Then came the glorious Radio Nigeria 2 (RN2). RN2 played great music and they had superstar presenters. It was the first FM station in Lagos. I paticularly enjoyed listening to the station in the afternoons and at weekends. RN 1 catered to the older folks, while RN2 was the new exciting station for the younger folks (these roles were replicated on tv, with NTA Ch 10 being for the older folks and NTA 2 Ch 5 for the younger folks).
RN 2 had superstars like
(Your Willing Willy) Willy Egbe Sunny Irabor (JAJ) Joseph Akinyemi Johnson Ohi Alegbe Jones Usen Ihria Enakhimo (one of the funniest human beings on tv and radio) (Bonny with the face) Boniface Onogwu Godwin Asuquo Momoh Kubanje Tony Ibegbuna (he was the voice of the station when it started. It seemed like he did all their jingles).
And many more. There were shows like Willy Brunch, Sunny Side Up, Martin Street Special (before the Martin Street studios burnt down), Police Diary, I Beg Una, etc.
Radio Nigeria One later caught my attention with a beautiful breakfast show called Radioscope. In the years that I was hooked on that show (1988-1993) it was hosted at various times by Zachary Mohammed (Captain ZM), Manny Onumonu and Evelyn Russel.
Radio Nigeria Three was set up in 1989 (it was the first community radio station in Nigeria and broadcast in pidgin, igbo yoruba and hausa) and I often listened to them in the evenings.
RN2 is now known as Metro FM, RN3 is now known as Country Radio and RN1 moved from MW to FM and is now known as Radio One.
OGBC 2 Then came the Ogun State Broadcasting Corporation's second station (OGBC2), the second FM station that could be received in Lagos. It blew RN2 out of the water. It was lightyears ahead of its elder sister OGBC (which transmitted on the MW band). It had great presenters like
Ladi Akeredolu-Ale Larry Ichiejile Olusesan Ekisola Aderinsola Aladeselu Peter Okodua Busayo Olaifa Toyin Shogbesan. Ambrose Shomide Toba Opaleye
Its breakfast show, which included Headliners (newspaper review) and Bournvita Sports Special with Larry Ichiejile/Izamuje was second to none. It rode on the wave of the golden age of hip hop by playing all the latest hip hop tracks that people wanted to hear.
It was one of the key sources of information during the June 12 movement. People got anti-government news from OGBC2, The Punch, The Concord, etc; pro-government news from the NTA, Radio Nigeria, Daily Times and New Nigerian and impartial news from The Guardian and The BBC. Then the government shut down OGBC temporarily.
Raypower The very first private radio station actually began broadcasting without permission from government. The station debuted sometime in the middle of the year (broadcasting on 100MHz), then they were ordered to shut down by the NBC, then they legally started transmission towards the end of the year on 100.5MHz.
It virtually wiped out OGBC and RN2 from the airwaves. They were broadcasting from Alagbado, but they had a relay station on Bookshop House in Marina, thus their signal was clearer across Lagos than OGBC and RN2's signals. They poached a lot of talent from OGBC and Radio Nigeria. People like Ambrose Shomide and Momoh Kubanje joined the station. They had presenters like
Olusesan Ekisola (the first General Manager of Raypower, he was poached from OGBC). Steve "The Sleek" Kadiri. Dennis Tha Menace Ogi Ogee Onazi. Sule "Solazo" Ellams Becky Ellams Lola "L Boogie" Mogaji Ibiyemi Olufowobi Busola Faiga Doe Abrahams Tony Akiotu Jumobi Adegbesan
They had Milo World Of Sports (which attempted to compete against Larry's Bournvita Sports Special on OGBC), Newspaper Headline Review, Jukebox (with Olusesan Ekishola), Rock Radio (with Dennis Da Menace Ogi), Doe Abraham's calypso show, etc. They also collaborated with The BBC and broadcast Sports Round Up, Sports World, News Hour, etc. It ruled the airwaves for much of the Abacha/June 12 crisis era and people depended on their news for information about what was going on.
Rhythm
And the Murray-Bruces finally floated a radio station. Their selling point was "More music, less talk" and they won people over by playing mainstream music that people liked (hip hop, R&B and soul). Rhythm has endured and has remained one of my top two favourite stations since 1997. They've had presenters like
Femi Sowoolu (formerly of OGBC) JAJ (formerly of RN2). Eldee The Don. Steve (the South African) Naphtali Tope Brown (Brown Sugar) Nnamdi Anazia Kemistry
And more recently
(The Wildchild) I.K Osakiodua Phoenix (Big Time) Onome Oyaide
At breakfast time I would often switch between the sports, newspaper review and news programmes on OGBC2, Raypower and Rhythm, before OGBC2's quality and signal strength depreciated.
Cool FM
Between 1998-2010 Cool FM had undoubtedly the best collection of nigerian on air personalities in one radio station that I have ever heard. The only radio station that has had anything like that (and they are a distant second) is Radio Nigeria 2 (in the early 1980s).
They had amazing presenters like
1) Lakeside (Lekan Saheed). He was definitely my favourite. The guy was INSANE!
2) Iyke The G (nobody else plays the kind of music that he plays. It's almost like he reads my mind).
3) Dan Foster (the Big Dawg. He has an unusual ability to connect with his listeners).
4) Kemi Adetiba (amazing impersonations).
5) Gbemi Olateru-Olagbegi
6) Olisa Adibua (yes, the same guy that hosted "Top Of The Pops" on NTA2 Channel 5 c1988-1992)
7) Dare Art-Alade
8 ) Tosyn Bucknor (she also co-hosted the crazy Fanta show with Lakeside).
9) Mark Silvere (an american that first presented the Good Morning Nigeria Show. He also had the ability to connect with his listeners [he often prayed for them on air]. Made a good team with Dan Foster).
10) Keith Lane. The very first voice I heard on Cool FM (on the day they started transmitting). This guy is the definition of insane! He introduced "Radio Grafitti" to Cool FM and it hasn't been the same without him (no one has his level of insanity). His first stint at Cool FM ended when he complained about a decision that management were about to make and invited listeners to call in and talk about it. He was brought back several years later, after Dan Foster left the station, but listeners hated him because they kept comparing him to Dan (Dan is nice and friendly, while Keith is irreverent and insane).
11) Charles Supo Orija (the king of news).
They also ran the Bournvite Sports Special with Larry Izamuje for a while (at first it was networked with OGBC2, then it was exclusively on Cool FM) and also had Sports Express with the Sportsvision crew.
Now I just shuffle between Rhythm, NigeriaInfo and Classic FM. No radio station is particularly dominant or strong enough to get my attention exclusively. Raypower lost the right to use their relay station, so their signal isn't particulalrly strong and they also lost a lot of their best presenters. The 2010 tsunami also saw Cool FM losing their best presenters and I don't listen to them anymore. OGBC2 and RN2 (now known as Metro FM) are shadows of their former selves.
Picture 1: Sunny Irabor
Picture 2: Joseph Akinyemi Johnson (JAJ)
Picture 3: Jumobi Adegbesan and Dennis Da Menace Ogi
Picture 4: Dan Foster
Before Rhythm there is star FM MITV Radio station 101.5MHZ With the Man who made Local parable in English and playing jamz. FFF Femi Felix Fashina The Dean of old school. Morning show and Wednesday night jamz
Here is the about this issue. After transition to democratic government in the year 1999 followed by Oputa's panel, most politician suddenly became an emergency student in our universities and few offshore institutions. I know few at back then. If your class set falls within those years you can testify to that In fact the scholars coined a slogan that the politicians should be boss in office but they will always be humble to part with the cake as long as they needed them the scholars.
Family › Re: I Made My Ex-girlfriend(who Is Now A Single Mother) A Deal, Would You Take It ? by Advancedman(m): 3:40pm On Aug 29, 2023
