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Jamesbiodun:
I lost my trust in them ... Why haven't anyone landed in the moon since all this years after Neil Armstrong... make them keep their research to themselves

udemzyudex:
Funny , with your analysis I thought the video was taken while on earth.

If we have clear satalite images, why can't they give us a clearer image since the rover is in Mars?

Jamesbiodun:
NASA that lost a whole record of the video of Neil Armstrong landing on the moon

Mineralzz:
Hello everyone.
Am an active member on this forum, I've have my main account but I wish to remain anonymous, i just want to hide my identity and i will deactivate this account as soon as I get a solution. I'm so heartbroken right now

I thought my fiancée was different from every other guys, despite his gentle and innocent face I never knew he was a liar and a cheat

He's fond of connecting his laptop to his smart TV (65 inches). What displays on the laptop automatically displays on the smart TV screen. See what happened, he went downstairs to pickup something, So I wanted to see a movie on Netflix, while I was looking for a suitable movie to watch, a message popped up from Facebook and it stated "Whr are U? Check ur phone...6 missed calls "

At first, I wasn't triggered to open the msg but what drew my attention was the "cry emoji". When I opened the msg my heart melted, I was crying . Their secret affair has been going on since April last year. A married woman with 2 kids, I checked her profile I saw her kids and husband photos everywhere, she has visited my fiance at home several times, I saw lot of romantic messages.

I videoed their chat conversations as evidence, thank goodness his TV screen is wide enough for the blind to see. The moment he came inside he noticed my mood has changed, he was smart enough to know I opened his msg. He's started begging me, he said he can explain. Explain what?

Am on my way home now feeling devastated, heartbroken and sad . I plan to upload the video on Facebook and tag all the woman's friends until her husband sees it. I will also send the video to instablog, Linda ikeji.. Honestly I feel dejected and heartbroken. Help I don't know what to do .

gift0123:
How many women do you see on nairaland This forum is being ruled by men.... Please don't frame my comment into an insult abeg....

gift0123:
90% of nairalanders are men...... So I wasn't wrong when I said men... I was specific....
I didn't even insult anybody, I even said unreasonable nairaland men, not all...

gift0123:
Any sexual related thread attract more attraction on nairaland, and you know I am right.

gift0123:
The kinda topic most unreasonable nairaland men love, post something educative and informative, you will never see them there. The thread will be dry.....

WoundedLamb:
You're struggle to deviate from the topic, but I don’t do irectionless arguments. Majority does not in any way depict biological evidence as suggested by the word "innate". That the majority for Nigerian youths want to leave the country doesn't make the desire to leave Nigeria innate. It simply means people want to be happy and they'll likely do what makes them happy. I'm not using minority data to judge anything cause determining whether something is innate or not goes beyond statistics. And like I said, there's no biological evidence the desire to have kids is innate. If anything, it's acquired and passed on as the ideal way of life.

WoundedLamb:
There's no evidence we're born with the desire to have kids. That's why I'm saying.

WoundedLamb:
Not everyone wants kids, dude. Not everyone likes children. Some people love kids and would want to have thiers. Some people love kids but would rather adopt. Some don't like children at all and don't want anything to do with them. They are not unnatural. They just have have different desires in life. A deviation from majority doesn't make one unnatural. Just deal with it and stop trying to judge people with your own lifestyle/preferences. I don't know why this is so difficult in Africa. Are you saying that the millions of people out there who don't want children are not human enough? Live and let live.

dettolgel:
You are right and your points are also applicable to having kids to an extent.

Should I have kids and be counted among the responsible members of the society or risked being tagged "efulefu".

Should I have kids and prove to the society that even if I have failed at other things at least I still have children, even when it is not in the best interests of the children. Isn't that a deep rooted psychological problem?

Should I have kids because I truly love kids and having them makes me feel complete and whole. Isn't there any psychological undertone in there?

We human are complex more so our mental state.

WoundedLamb:
I know some people would do this cause of the possibility of transmitting some unwanted traits or conditions to thier offspring but the truth is, not everyone wants to have kids. There's nothing innate about it. The majority might want it but others would rather go for different other available ways of expressing love and living a happy life without having kids. The word is made up of billions of people and we are extremely diverse in all perspectives. It wouldn't be smart to assume everyone must want to have children. That idea is why people with uncommon lifestyles are looked at as weird in Africa.

ggoldmine:
You should go back and read your comments. You invented reasons why one may not want kids, but none for the reverse. Because those 'forbidden acts' appear unintelligible to you, doesn't mean it's unnatural for them. Besides, who defines what's intrinsic or not? That could be their intrinsic quality. Anyway, cheers.

dettolgel:
You understand that intrinsic desire does not mean that the result will be inherently good?

I would think the idea of not having kids most times is borne out of thoughtful decisions (which may be wrong or not) unlike the "desire" to have them which is mostly based on our instinct. Which brings to the point that one of the things that separates the rational from the irrational is their ability to control their instincts.

aribisala0:
You are projecting BELIEFS
Nothing rational

"This TYPE of decision"

What type of decision is that exactly?

The desire to have kids which you describe as INNATE does not exist in everyone
"We are naturally social" you say. Not everyone
Some are naturally antisocial
Humans are not the same and you seem to be assuming that we are or SHOULD BE
Some people would have no problem eating human flesh DAILY. So free you mind of bedroom assumptions about the nature of humanity.

When I say you cannot reason I mean it .It is no insult. You are just propagating dogmatic beliefs

dettolgel:
We may not like it (I don't think there is any society where every single one of them accept a behaviour no matter how popular it seems) but it is their society and it is considered normal.

For the record what is considered psychological problem in one society may not be in another.

It is the same way I try to explain to people from tne west when the walk past a church or Mosque while people are praying, they do think the worshippers are seriously deranged.

You want to talk about how they consider Africans that had to risk their lives to get to Europe mentally sick when they could have just stayed back and fight for a good government.

They even find it more crazy that with the number of out of school and malnutrition children instead of Africa to find a solution we just keep making more babies year after year.

My point is each to his own.

aribisala0:
You cannot read and you cannot reason

I did not try to justify HIS decision because I do not know HIM
IHe is entitled to his decision. There is no virtue in making babies and there is no crime in not making babies .If YOU want babies make them if others do not respect them
That is all

In Nigeria we make too many babies for sentimental reasons .We need to be more rational because our economy cannot sustain the rate we make babies

The planet cannot support infinite population so no need to guilt trip or shame people who do not want babies

dettolgel:
Did you evaluate her mental statw to arrive at your conclusion?

I hope you understand that what you call antisocial is what a given society consider antisocial at a given period?

The question you should ask yourself is does the society in which the person in question is considered such a behaviour antisocial?

The biggest problem I have noticed amongst we Nigerians is that we judge others based on how we see the world rather than how the society in which the person in question lives.

dettolgel:
There is a hint of your judgement in your post. "... The white nigga has psychological issues from his childhood..."

on one hand you correctly asserted that all our decisions are influenced by events in our lives but in this case you are erroneously insinuating that the decision to not have kids is based on psychological trauma.

Which may sound as if no one could have been influenced positively to make such decisions.

On the following point "The truth is nobody say they don’t want kids because they care about their nation..nobody"
I think you are dead wrong on this.

My ex partner told me from the very beginning that she does not want kids because she believes that the world will be a better place if we take good care of those that are already born rather than making more.

I am not even going to get into the holes in her point but she strongly believes that it is for the good of her country. Her parents and siblings are well alive doing extremely well financially and otherwise and she has a great bound with her family.

So as many as there are people doing so are there reasons which can range from personal to patriotism etc.

ggoldmine:
Oh yeah? And what psychological reason is responsible for wanting to have children?

aribisala0:
You really do not have a point
and you do not understand the meaning of the word premise. You are just yammering away .
He does not want to be a dad. We all cannot want the same thing so no need for PhD also the planet is overpopulated
so what he did is very responsible . The way we are making babies in Nigeria contributes to the violence we see everywhere

aribisala0:
Is having a kid changeable
once he has started using Mpopomiri do you behead him?
If you want to argue learn better use of logic

There are many kids in this Nigeria that it is better they were not born
Often this is predictable when you look at the background but people deceive themselves quoting God.
I would take it further and say even beyond choice not everyone should be ALLOWED to have children

dettolgel:
Does this your long grammar holds true for those who have kids?

Because from the look of thinks most Nigerians start having kids because they believe that since nothing else is working at least let start having family while we watch things improve.

But I am yet to see people going after them with the same logic of yours?

Andres28:
No insult pls, I just came across it on one of my groups on Facebook. I don't want to appear like an ignoramus so i just wanna find out here.

Freshint:
PLEASE ADVISE!
I have a white woman in canada, and I told her I want to be with her, she said she would send me an employment letter for me to come and work in her restaurant as a helper.
So I told her okay.. She said said,she will accommodate me.. I can sleep in her room.. Because we are doing this lovey do very thing on Facebook..

But I am married with a son here. And I don't know if she's nt seeing that or maybe she don't give a Bleep.

I am confused on what to do... And I really want to give my family a better life abroad because nigeria is not guaranteed.


But I have a question.
What if I get there and get work permit and resident permit then leave to another province.

Or should I stay with her there and marry her and have a baby with her.. So I will get citizen ship.

And how long will I stay to get a permanent residence or citizenship when I marry her and have a child..?

Thanks for ur response

MufasaLion:
You're pushing this thing too much! You don't know the dude but here you are making some conclusions.

Y'all humans are weird, really!