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emmy584:
I met this girl on facebook whom we both know each other not very much. We started chatting together for a while and things gradually started taking another dimension. We both fell in love with each other in a way that we can't stay without communicating with ourselves. As we all know, in every relationship there is bound to be a misunderstanding in one way or the other and ours wasn't different. There was a day as we were talking on phone, all of a sudden she became provoked and told me not to call her anymore and whenever I tried calling is either she busy the call or never picks. Her sudden attitude started affecting me emotionally because I fell deeply in love with her. On a good day, she finally picked and told me that we need to talk. These was when she told me that she has a boyfriend and I was for some minutes dumbfounded. She went further telling me that she really loves me and she doesn't want to hurt me that's why she couldn't bring it to her mind to tell me when we first met online. I asked her if she loves the other guy and she said yes she does. Please I need an advice on what to do because I truly love her and I don't want to lose her.

samson07:
i get same response from friends, at times the girls will say it to my face, you are a womanizer, i will just deny.

Ladylite:
LOL you are strong. But not all ladies are hoes.

Timil:
I can see three sets of folks in the comment so far, the ones who believe you need money to get women, the ones who believe you don't and the ones who are far off from reality (the ones saying "Beautiful men and Hardworking Women" where as in Nigeria its a world of Hardworking Men and Beautiful women.)

No doubt Money is one of the things needed for any good relationship to grow and wax stronger but it isn't the most required thing in fact money is the last on that list when you are dealing with a Real independent woman and not a Gold digger but mark the word real in the former.

One thing most folks (who believe you need money to get a woman or when you get the money the women will follow) don't realize is that the best time or period of your life when you can get a woman who truly loves you, your ride or die is when you are still on your feet struggling to find your bearing.

Its always hard to know the ones who truly loves you or the ones just after your money because most women who would come after you then will most definitely chase after your cash or fortune and act under the guise of "I love you" but literally what they love is your money. When they are done getting it they dump you. This is just the same with the principle of life where people stick around with you when you are made simply because you have what they need and not because they like or love you but when they are done getting it they move away from you.

The Yoruba's call it "OWO EPO" but if you understand how life works way before you lay your hands on cash and fortune. I bet you, no individual whose intention is to leech off you will come close because from afar you can tell whose love for you is real and the one whose love is for your money and fortune. Same thing is applicable with women.

As a guy you should tend to gain knowledge about women before the time you make that cash comes so when you lay your hands on that cash no woman or gold digger will use her power (BODY) to cajole you and make you her personal ATM till when she's satisfied and then she leaves you. Then you start wondering to yourself "but I have money so why?".

Guys have a knowledge about women, know a little about how the female mind works so when you make that money, you would be able to separate the Real women from the Unreal ones and when you get the real one, you will know how to treat her right and wont rely on your money to treat her right.

Money can get you ladies to Bleep at will but money won't get you the true love you deserve. As a man, as a woman, you deserve to be loved and cared for. Not used and dump.

ubunja:
yes. Women love money. But it's not billions that move them. The month to month salaries that average joes make is what controls the great majority of women because the great majority of women don't have the hardcore desires of professional gold diggers that need billions or else no love.

If you have money, doors will open. But that doesn't mean some doors won't open if you don't have money. Just different doors. I really want to see how these money-chasers will get women in the future when women finally become financially independent once and for all.

DenreleDave:
The rate at which guys are coming here to rant about ladies is sumtin else ooo.. Honestly I'm fed up.. Haab, before it was ladies but now table don turn. We guys can complain for Africa... Na ladies kon dey use and dump guys now but our feminist will not say anytin about it.. If na guy do am, dem go say he use and dump her...

If na guy be the victim, them go call am assistant boyfriend or Maga.. Men, why are we like this na?

Martinez39, Pls we need more of your red pills. Have mercy on us

Ubunja, Pls we need more of your miseducation
I hope they learn bro

Mrcork, your experience is needed here

Save us men here before these ladies start mocking us. Some guys even form Alpha male on nairaland but in real life, they are sissy
Chaiii

Cc: Lalasticala BlueAir blinking001 Toks2008 JONNYSPUTE tosyne2much AstroG ubunja martinez39 Mrcork Martinez39

jackals:
Somehow, what's with you guys here thinking's all pussies smell. I'm sure u haven't even seen one sef

jackals:
Lols. when their master ubunja finds it hard to understand women. The heart of a woman is like rocket science, no one can understand it. Aside, no amount of teaching can deliver weak men from the grip of pussy. You see them outside displaying beta behavior and accepting women shit thinking this will land them pussy. Just today, I had one telling me she is ready to accept me even if it takes 20yrs for me to understand how much he loves me. I asked him if his promise still hold even if I had kids from other men and then I'm ready to take him, he joyfully exclaimed yes. In my heart, I understand he's only after Lansing me on his bed. nothing more

ubunja:
damn. Everytime I hear these stories of "I thought she was a virgin but later realized she's screwing abc" I die a little on the inside.

Why are guys so trusting of the words of women?? It's like guys take everything women say at face value.... Smh.

ubunja:
humans learn through two ways: advice/teaching and experience. If these men turn a deaf ear to lessons written by other people, then life's greatest teacher will teach them himself. That teacher is Experience. Sooner or later, one way or the other they'll learn.

DMerciful:
Imagine saying I caught my gf cheating on me, what should I do?

Imagine such foolish question! You replace her immediately.

Some will say I spend millions on my gf but when I was broke I asked for 10k from her, she refused. They will now ask if they should marry this lady. Imagine pure nonsense! Guys dey fall my hand!

kkins25:
I think you are wrong on many levels. Most men would fill good. As long as the woman can satisfy his sexual, ,perverted urges. As long as the woman can do what ordinary women do them she is ok by many men.. its only a few men that would want a lady who engages them mentally. If what you say is anywhere close to the truth, professors would not fall easily for the seductive tacticx of the feminine beast.

ubunja:
what exactly do women have to offer in a relationship besides sex?

diji04:
Women weren't created by God for sex only with men there are numerous things a lady can offer in a relationship apart from sex sex,but mostly you find most men viewing women as sex object which is very wrong myself is not exempted.

For a while now I have been guilty of such act, my question is how can one view or take a lady for what she is other than sex, I know is difficult Because of the way most ladies dress these days.
pls the Mod can help move it front page for a broader perspectives thanks.

ITbomb:
I pity guys that can stay with a liar just because she has fine face

respect80:
My guy 4get DAT thing abeg...

It's puxxy we are talking about not parlor.
A puxxy is supposed to be in shape. I mean tight and fragile to anything that penetrates it, even if it's as small as finger especially at such a tender age. Haba!

I understand the situation you described and I believe fvck isn't meant for such people. Those type of people should just cool off them self with wanking and leave fvck for the real niggies. But I'm talking about young ladies at very tender age who can't stick to their size of men but prefer to hang out with men 3-4 times older.
After damaging their puxxies with over sized dicks, they will start shouting harder! harder! whenever they meet their mates.
You know the matter na, to them, those older men with larger dick don't last long while the younger ones who last long don't have the size of dick they're used to.

Jasen1:
Her brothers and sisters are well to do And you're here killing yourself
Omo see brother .....brother See brother. .........brother See brother ...............brother Brother wey mumu ...brother


Shey your own brothers and sisters don graduate finish
Because those her siblings wey no wan help her When you go wan marry her they go follow bring list oh and you go pay Bro wise up

vincentjk:
Being kind and being nice to ladies all in the name of love are two different things.

I bought a fairly used techno phone for my guy some months ago because he has none, I gave my course mate almost half of her school fees to enable her write exams and suprised her when I said she shouldn't pay me back. Last year a lady made a comment on how she loved dogs on Facebook, I bought a lhasa apso and told the breeder to deliver it to her doorstep in abuja during her 22nd birthday and Uptill date she has no idea who gave her that puppy since i told the breeder never to reveal my identity Etc...

I don't think you're more generous than I'm, I learnt it from my mum but when i say you're a nice guy i know what I'm saying

She got impregnated twice when you were with her and here you're claiming Mr right. You should be ashamed of yourself Mr man

Ekeletu:
My shoe size is 45 while my bathroom slippers size is 11. The girl called me 5mins ago. I asked her if I date her what happened to her doctor boyfrnd? She say she will end d relationship with him. O boy I don japa

omokoginimi:
See broda...

Lightangel65:
Cause love isn't always sweet like Disney butterflies or Barbie's happy endings, in the real world it's filled with heart break which makes people scared lf it and hate it to avoid dissappointment. In the real world love is a fantasy, Money rules over love here.

irumole1975:
laslas, she still no fuvk me. I'm in pain

irumole1975:
pussy is the ultimate controller in life. men can do anything just to worship pussy. Just today I spent #35,700 to buy phone for a girl when I only had 41,620 exactly in my account. I had to collecting extra 1k to take the phone to her in iyana ipaja. no thank you from her. And all she has ever given me is a hug. I don't know what to do with the 4k Left in my account na. I'm crying rn

JERRY1925:
Sometimes when a man genuinely love you.. He wants you just to himself. Your body becomes his pride.. Because in most cases that's the only thing a man values in a woman.. It's priceless knowing you have a girl or a wife no other man can touch.
It's priceless knowing u have a girl u can leave for weeks and she's intact.
But for women it's different, u don't really value our body that much.. U value our possessions, our future.. Our strength and if we fall short, u change course.

Well, to my answer.. If u truly love your man.. Stay away from your friend...stay so far away.
Give your man some month..prove to him you've stayed far. Prove to him it won't happen again..you can do this, by giving yourself time to heal and also giving him some space to miss u. He will come around. But give him time to think. And don't give him room for second thought.

Spy360:
It was clearly not his day and I think our pattern of play doesn't suit him. You know certain players suit certain types of formations.

But there have been times when he has been decent. He is not a bad footballer that's for sure. He should just be let out.

Desiree47:
Hello nairalander, good evening everyone.Have made things so complicated don't know what to do right now and I'm deeply troubled.
Last year, I was here asking for business suggestions for my boyfriend, thanks to everyone who gave me good business plans and some were saying he was going to change as soon as he starts making money, he is financially stable now and he takes care of me.
The problem I'm having with him is that he is still communicate and send his with his exs money although they are married, he always tells me he can't do anything with them because they are married, what about other way round? He told me his ex was was blaming him for making her getting married to her husband, apart from his exs so many other issues I'm scared of not now but in the future, that he might get married to another woman or have other children.
Six months ago we had some issues because of his exs Who is not married,I stopped talking to him but he called my mum and explain things to her, my mum settled us, but he still communicate with her. Whenever I complain about them, he always tells me all his exs and female friends knows I'm his girlfriend and that he his ready to get married but he his waiting for me which is true, because I'm still in school.
Two months ago, he said giving me attitude,he doesn't even have my time, we don't talk like we used to even if I call he always tell me he is busy and whenever I call at night he is on another call, that's the time we usually talk at night. I couldn't busy so I told him how I feeling, his response was " the reason I call you most time is because that's my responsibility as a boyfriend not because I missed you" I was angry and I ended the call, although he was trying to apologize, he called back I didn't pick his call, although. After two days I spent him a breakup msg in the morning, he didn't reply or called. Later that evening, I regretted sending him that msg, so sent him apology messages he didn't returned, although my mom settled the two of us again.
He traveled to our hometown for a friend's wedding and also because of his house project too. He told me is mom and my mom asked him when we are getting married. His mum like me so much and she has given advice on how to cope with his son.
We have been dating for almost three years now I have never cheated on him..
The problem now is that during the period that he was giving me attitude, I sent my ex apology msg last week which he accepted after three years breakup,I'm currently dating my ex though it's just a week,My exs love me more than I love but I love my boyfriend more than he love me.
My exs is very caring and he haven't changed a bit though he is broke, I don't know if he is going to cheat on me when he starts making money.
My boyfriend isn't really give me attention but he gives me money, I found out he is cheating on me with other girls, though he always tells me even if he wants to cheat he won't do it to my face. My boyfriend might propose anytime soon, I don't want to hurt my ex again.Im worried of getting getting married to my boyfriend because he might become someone else after marriage. Now my boyfriend seems to be more caring.
Should I stick to my boyfriend or my ex who loves me?
How do I handle the issue at hand now?

iamoyindamola:
Our players no get balls abeg

kokaneprodigy:
And some expect Freddie to change things overnight.

kokaneprodigy:
Emery tortured everybody week in week out

iamoyindamola:
yeah ceballos over xhaka, I used out current squad

iamoyindamola:
This formation might also work
Leno
Bellerin chambers holding Tierney
Luiz torreira
Xhaka
Pepe auba martinelli
4-3-3

vybzkartel:
She has a guy
But she calls me a lot
I proposed to her and she said she can't return the love
But she said she likes me

I asked if I should forget her, and she said "No, that anything can happen"

Now , here is my question:
I have noticed that, lately, she calls me and talks a lot. In the course of the Conversation, she would say, "please let me answer a call, I will call you right back" she hangs up and will never call back. She has done this about five times. Is it deliberate and is up to something? How do I handle this girl? Mature advice please