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ITbomb:
Show me a girl confused in relationship and I will show you either a guy with money or a guy with a really good dick

Davash222:
"He has a nice ride and nice house"



Na that nice ride and house go kee you! Aside kpekus, what else can you offer a guy with a nice ride and house
There lies the answer to your question.

bigpicture001:
Brother..no one is pushing for sex between us. I asked her for a loan for expansion of a biz sh knows I do..nd sh rejected saying we are not married nd we Myt break up anytime...even if I paid her back,sh said thats a thing ppl do for spouses not partners in relationship.....

bigpicture001:
Now I tell u now and advice's than person previously,that a woman's heart is only opened to a man when sh feels subdued..and that is only achieved through sex with her.....

A lady UV not slept with is a lady not totally committd to u

bigpicture001:
No sh doesn't ask me for a dime...sh is way richer than I am.

bigpicture001:
Nothing like patient .av been with my gf for over one year....no sex too....

It has its own effect. D lady would NVR be fully committed to d guy without sex. I buy her stuffs as much as I can. Carry, sh works much more productively than me sef

OK. Common loan to expand bix with a well laid repayment plan...sh will still refuse even when sh is far far worth more than am asking.....sh will say,we are in relationship nd not marriage so sh can't sacrifice her money....

Now tell me.what am I gaining from d relationship....?

Guys shouldn't listen to I don't want sex relationships. Its not worth it

Ashawoboi27:
This is almost the kids or relationship I am in now
Mine is even worst
This girl don't like kissing because she said it irritates her I haven't even kissed her before
Since we started dating
And she keeps checking my phone anyhow
And no caressing
And no sex
Me I don't even know what to do
All she wants us to talk about is how to make money and our future together
A very boring relationship
I really do love her so much if not I would have been out since
I don't know what to do for her to at least oblige us to be kissing and caressing before I listen to my friends advice

blessingchinny:
I recently got into a relationship with a guy i met on facebook. We've been chatting for long till we decided to meet. Fortunately, we stay in same town. When we finally decided to meey, we got satisfied in what we saw in each other and thats how we decided to take the friendship to the next level.
Now the issue is this i told him am a virgin which i am truly. That i dont want sex till marriage. He frowned at it first, but later accepted on the conditions that we would be having MouthAction. But honestly, i still can't fo that. When i said i dont want sex, i just dont mean penetration, but not allowing a man to see my nude till marriage. I told him we can kiss and caress but not anything involving sex. Out of pressure i allowed him get to my nipples.

But that's the limit i can go honestly.
He still insisting that if he cant have me, that he would move on. He said he is planning to get married this year, but can't marry a woman that restricts him like that.

I have tried to be supportive to him even though we just met just to prove to him that i sincerely love him, but he is still adamant. Right now he is not even replying to my chats or picking my calls. What do i do?

favoryte33:
I am not talking about home dating oh. I mean when you're out with your date. how will you spend the money if you were in my shoes right now? Set awon 'you are too stingy'please keep off.

MiztaFabuloz:
In my opinion, if this story is true, I will say you are the one at fault. No reasonable woman would do that to her husband if her husband is satisfying her sexually, making her feel appreciated and treating her like a queen.

There is definitely something you are not doing right that is pushing her to find attention outside. She may not have met the guy before and probably don't intend meeting the guy for sex, just that she might be romantically bored with you probably because you are not romantic, and this will make her just use such means to keep herself romantically happy whenever she is bored.

Though she is wrong sending her nudes to a man as a married woman, you can only stop her from such act if maybe you begin to do same with her maybe when you are away from home or just spicen up your romance life with her and she will not imagine doing such a thing again.

Davash222:
See you in Shiloh 2035 then.

Fiyinfoluwa20:
Yes bro, it’s a thing of fear to be a man these days , a Lady can decimate your person by laying false allegations online and boom ! Nobody wants to hear your own part of the story.

I used to be a male feminists until my ex showed me, almost slipped into depression bro, I am no longer a frea*king feminists whilst noting that I strongly support equality - I am just against the black women’s version of feminism targeted at destroying men!!!

Guys fear girls, always keep receipts and evidence of whatever happen between you both.

ideabuilder:
Dump her and go make money.

Phosphorus666:
My fiancée is two years older than me and we've been having the best of relationship. It doesn't matter really. If you guys accept yourselves, you'll soon forget about the age thing self. If he is a matured guy, then there is no need asking you to make sure you respect him, because you'll surely respect him. Even my mama dey respect me as if I be her husband, not to talk of my just two year older fiancée. So far he respects and loves you, do same. My friend's mom is seven years older than his dad. Sounds funny, right? But it's a reality.

doublegoldcrown:
You males are so confident in your playa tactics, yet you can't recognize when a girl is playing you. During her 'angry time', she has gone to meet someone else for valentine's day.

tommyken:
I discover she is cheating on me with a guy in her IT but I played cool and pretended like I was blind, deaf and I dont care. yesterday valentine she came to my house and while we discussing she told me I dont truely love, that if I do I should have confronted her or the guy that she wanted me to get jealous to test my love for her.

I sat her down and told her I have more important things to worry about in my life and I have a future to build instead of worrying about who she is cheating with or not. She left with her anger and told me its over and I said the word OK. In the evening she came back and began to apologise for leaving with anger in the afternoon.

Does my refuser to confront her or the guy she is cheating actually shows I dont love her??

Notasaints:
We don't have feminist in Nigeria.

doctore212:
Went to get a pack of CD from one Aboki wey dey my street, he told me that one pack of gold circle is 900 naira.


Me I shock and asked hime Y.

His answer was that tomorrow na Val and that he has only a Caton left and half have been booked.

Sharp, sharp I collected 6 boxes make I take hold body coz I get plenty match today.

ikorodureporta:
wetin d photographer find go there??

simple250:
A man can be on the wrong lane with so much work without result but when you connect yourself to the right channel without too much pressure things will just fall into place before you know it you are big ....all a man need is to pray to God for wisdom and direction .if not you can work for years without result HARD WORK NA SUFFER HEAD O

funmisticqueen2:
uncle, tell that to Bill gates, dangote, or Donald trump.

funmisticqueen2:
@ the bolded are all hard-working men, because somehing is constant in thier lives and that is growth and results.

The striken ones are the ones who don't have edge, who don't know how to strategize their financial independence and career and gain leverage over thier peers, who don't have 2 heads. They are either full of excuses, or ignorant, they should humble themselves and learn from those who have gone ahead of them. No shame in that. So yes they are lazy. It's not about hustle.if it was about hustling, then every laborer will be rich.


There are pure water and gala sellers that have houses and those that are living from hand to mouth. What makes them different?

Youngzedd:
Gifts

Go through the following threads >>

https://www.nairaland.com/5520205/ubunjas-miseducation-chosen

https://www.nairaland.com/5251159/ubunjas-miseducation-choosing-girl

https://www.nairaland.com/5520169/ubunjas-miseducation-no-green-lights


https://www.nairaland.com/5322792/ubunjas-miseducation-how-women-gold


Finally go through other of his threads https://www.nairaland.com/ubunja

Jarvis22:
I broke up with her immediately yesterday morning and left the place.

She has been calling and begging me since then, I blocked her everywhere except whatsapp. Truely, she loved me very much o, and also made a lot of sacrifices for me. But her dishonesty and her behavior these past few days are the main reasons im taking a walk.

Jarvis22:
I really dont know what to do guys, I am not a newbie to love matters and the deceitful ways of women, which was my motivation to stick to one woman. But this one, ah!


I am still a young man with a bright future ahead of me. All this woman matter no be for me, but this loss is really hurting me badly, and the fact she kept on holding on to the fact that its just two guys for two bloody years.

What do you suggest? I'll be in the comments.

DoubleEngine007:
I'm just being my brother's goal keeper.. No vex my brother...

DoubleEngine007:
She told you she is a Virgin and you believed her ,after two bad relationships ?? Next thing she will tell you is no sex till you marry her. She will be messing around,and you will think you're dating a virgin. Don't let nobody scam you.. Be wise!

Now,you love her more than she loves you.. She will forever capitalise on that to make a fool of you.. Marry a woman that loves you more.. Seems this is gonna be your first relationship or probably you're a very nice guy..

Oluwasaeon:
Virginity wey don go

midnighter:
The title of the topic was one thing, your answer was another.

The fact remains that stating that "virginity is neither virtue nor vice" is an irrational statement to make. Whether or not it is a virtue depends on the owners intention and her prospective husbands orientation (which is often influenced by an overarching worldview, like religion or tradition).

You said that "virginity has no correlation on mannerisms and activisms", when thats exactly what it does. Remaining a virgin in an era of sexual freedom is a counter-cultural behaviour that should be examined by a partner to determine its aim and context.

Morality is not silly. Societal systems and organisation are not silly. I mean YOU are really the silly one for trying to dismiss the importance of these concepts. The most you can say is that they dont matter to YOU in particular and not that they are silly.

The title of the OP and his expatiation in his opening statement was also another. He supposed that keeping chaste could be a sign of good home training and moral upbringing, which it could be, among other things.

The extreme opposite of this would be that living a careless sexual life could be a sign of bad home training and immoral upbringing, which it could be, among other things.

So all of what youre writing up there is just directionless ranting. Why did you only respond to the title and not what the OP wrote afterwards?

The fact that both good and bad girls were both once virgins is irrelevant. The crux of the matter is at what point and in what manner the person ceased to be a virgin, and the fact that non-virginity is an evolving quantity while being a virgin is constant. Stop using reductive argument to make it as if youre making any sense, because you arent!

All we can say is that its not a total guarantee of good character but that it is indicative of other characteristics such as self-control, a serious undertaking of Christian/Muslim life and a good attitude to commitment.

How can you remove virginity from morality and then try to associate morality with intelligence? Are dumb people automatically immoral? Youre not saying anything at all. Virginity upon marriage is not automatically moral but a symbol of some aspect of morality, "as proselytised by the Mosaic Religions".

It is not silly to take sexual behaviours into account when considering a life partner. It is only wrong to totally discount the persons other attributes in pursuit of that aspect.

Olaniyi4:
Rara ooo, never ever think that virgins are wife material or good girls ooo.... My ex was a virgin... her own behaviour worse die... I am happier by the day that I broke up with her

Kobicove:
Why would I pay for a car without first taking it for a test drive?

Virginity is over rated!

Nehyooh:
Here's my candid advise to you bro; It apparent this girl likes you, she told you about her past.
Now, since she said she don't want to rush into another relationship, then I think you should be patient with her, show her more care, let her know you value her and always be there for her.
I believe with time, you will win her heart.
(Thank God you said is not Lust but TRUE LOVE).
Be good bro !

commodore007:
na wa o...wetin musa no go see for gate..a blind man is on retainership with u.i, while able bodied men with Good eyes can't get jobs ....

CosmicJames:
Virgins with good characters are GOLD!
Very rare to come by. You must be extremely lucky to find one.
The only down side is that they are somehow boring! You will have to teach them everything sex. They are however happy, ready to learn and explore.
So they give without any reservation.

They have no ex to compare you with. You become their teacher, lover and friend at the same time. And they go to their grave with you in their mind. AKA they will never forget you.

If you stick to him/her, you will be safe and free from STDs.

In fact, it is the best experience ever as far as relationship is concerned.