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annolomy:
am a boy of sixteen i have been having crush on one girl who live close to my area anytime school has close we always walk together to our various home i have started to develop some feelings for her,should i tell her my feelings or just keep silent because the girl is very stubborn or should i move on with my life like that

Go and register for your NIMC and start preparing for ur forthcoming UTME... wish you success bro!!!

chiommy123:
I think the ladies are trying this days and should be encouraged. men need this more cos they're lazy

Really, tell me more...

frozen70:
You made sense

Some women made themselves a beating object just because they refuse to struggle to be independent

And the so called husband if them capitalises on their weakness and work against them

Women are fragile by nature, forget about their bad mouth that's where their strength lyes

It's easier to see a man beating a lazy wife than daring an industrious wife, who makes a living and contribute to the family

Birds of the same feathers flocks together. Hoelosho supporting Hoelosho....

Praktikals:
I pity the person that will marry you. So that a man beat his wife is enough reason for her to spread her legs for their landlord. Werey

We know their type once their husband failed to drop money for foodstuffs at home the next thing is to fly outside to commit adultery (quench their fornication thirst) under the pretence my husband failed to satisfy me financially.... awon certified olosho

HRHQueenPhil:
I don't know why women like doing this.. stop depending on a man.. dat is why he wld beat u and u refuse to leave. How will a wife love a man dat beats her mercilessly.thats why she is finding pleasure elsewere..even if d landlord is ugly ,she will go for him if he is more matured and gentle..

I condemned the man for beating his wife even Islam he claimed as his religion is against "a man beating his wife vice versa" so to say ur judgement is trash how will u justify beating for cheating what has gone wrong in their relationship that could result into cheating she can't even do it outskirt of the household (not promoting cheating in marriage) she just decided to stoop so low to consent to her husband's landlord demand. That's a big slap on her husband and indirectly on her family.... act of indecency should be fight against irrespective of d gender found in the act. I rest my case!

mysticgal:
1. What if we fall out of love with each other?
2. What if he dies before me?
3. What will happen if I feel i can’t take his bullshit anymore?
4. What if he doesn’t support me or I feel alone in the partnership.
5. What if an accident happens right in the relationship, would I stay or would I leave?
6. Is love enough or what if he is too much of a spender or an NFA aka no future ambition?
7. Can I bear his family members or mine during marriage?
8. How do we resolve conflicts, what if he tries to abuse me?
9. What if I have mediocre sexual experiences all through out.
10. How would he cope if I die, get disabled, leave, never want children or even like pets?

It bugs me a lot

Nah so u get all these issues for una head b4 the marriage sister, offload this kind mentality and av a positive mindset towards marriage....

jackals:
The miseducation he termed chosen is the best write-up I've ever related with. So true.

There are some truths in his dealings even tho he's one arrogant and pompous entitled person.

Seems monikers like pansophist, martinez39 are following the waves

So far, I will pick How women gold dig u he unleashed some hidden fact that only few understood....

Momoney77:
Oh ye Nairaland LADIES who accuse Ubunja of misogyny. Come and learn from the master himself. What your fellow ladies can't teach you, Ubunja has given u for free...


Now you lot's should apologise to him...

Girls will rush to this thread like....

TrollKiller:
keep deceiving yourself.
male virgins are not useless

Off course they are not totally useless as u pictured it at least they are useful with their hard earned penny being spent on Girls who don't deserve a kobo...

ubunja:
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SOFTDRINK
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RipMorosini
reservd
Aiziko
Avedonn
kkins25
BossDante
Imoh555
Santinho

They say experience is the best teacher nd with this post of urs I concur with that saying more because experience has to do with a true story.... To God who made me I met a girl towards middle of Sep b4 my phone get spoilt around early Oct after my phone get spoilt, I was forced to my hotline inside my side chick phn to get in touch with since she's a new a catch. to make my story not to be boring my side chick is S and the new chick is N Lol.... During my attacking period I called her we should meet in my hood and she agreed to come that once she's through with what she's doing she gonna call me to pick her up at my street juncture luckily for me I didn't meet up as we agreed (don't 4gt I didn't av a phn just kept my sim inside S phone) bcus I 4gt to take my S phone along with me when I went out that same day unluckily for N, S picked up my call when N called immediately she heard a feminine voice she just has to hang up and canceled d meeting. when I gt home I was actually vexing she didn't call not knowing she has called earlier and S didn't tell me... I called her 3days later to rebuke her why she didn't turn up that day to rebook another day with her surprisingly S agreed to come but with a condition which amazed me that if my side chick, sis, or my girlfriend pick up my calls again she would cancel the meeting again... fast forward to that day(meeting day) I just challenged her what did she mean by my sis, side chick or girlfriend she's using to threaten me on phone to my surprise she opened up that most time she calls me a girl pick it up and she do hear a female voice underneath which proves am a PLAYER I tried to change the topic b4 she tried the shit testing question on me "r u a player" I denied it initially b4 making amendment that am a womanizer bcus girls with me presently are not up to the task I placed on them Omo wish u fit see the caring caring attitude she dey pose on me she wan turn me to Mr Nicest Guy "mo ya look away"

maak400:
Ubunja the man! This post is the bomb!!!

If only sissy and wimpy guys can follow this red pill guide, female manipulations will cease to exist.

Guys, we all need to realize that we’re the prize that should be chased by women and not the other way round.

It’s funny how guys will be running after ladies and wooing them with cash and gifts instead of using that money to make their own lives better.

Some pvssy chasing guys will even spend their last cash on an unappreciative girl with a nonsense sense of entitlement who has nothing to offer than an overfvcked pvssy.

Words on marble! The more important you make a woman feel the less she needs to impress you. (You're impressed already) And the less she needs to sleep with you to feel important (she's important already to you)

Nothing can change my philosophy "Instead of me to spend on u to oblige my request I would rather spend it on my self for u to oblige my request.... You don't need to show ladies money b4 they conclude u av; ur mode of dressing is good enough as a prove to them. So, why unnecessarily forming

OTayobami:
Emery is trying to tell me now that he can only get 2 out of 9 points fuçking playing 3 mid table teams am so gutted as an arsenal fan right now! I've always back this clown(saying "let's give him time! give him time!" But i think it's time to go now!

What a wonderful strike by unai emery���

Jasen1:
I agree sir
Its the best option

I prefer swallow to rice right from time self

Nah so, I dey follow one woman yarn on top say she wan do small party she dey think of what to prepare due to cost of rice I jejely hint her say mama go prepare variety of swallow nd get better olopo ( catering services) to prepare good efo, ewedu, gbegiri with correct omi obe nd dish out to people for consumption... Say No to wastage of Swallow's in parties.

Googlemaniac:
Few months ago i met one amazing 22year old 300level of the Delta State University, Asaba Campus. A beautiful damsel...

I was nearly knocked down by her car and from that day, we became friends. She gave me her number when i asked for it, no objection and no hanky panky. Later on, we started chatting on WhatsApp. She was lively and always cool no matter the statement.

We later became close. She would drive to my lodge and take me out. Sometimes, she would drive to my lodge, park her car and stay for days helping me doing the cooking. I became so uncomfortable with the attention she was bringing with her car so she stopped driving it to my place.

We were never dating. So one day, i finally decided to give her a try. She resisted me with so much courtesy that i began to worry how a girl could be that matured and intelligent. We started dating later and when i finally wanted to ride her, she told me the virginity stuff and how she would want me to be slow with my insertion. I saw it live and direct, a pure virgin.

As it is now, i don't have feelings for her again. She calls and always sticking to me. She has money, from a wealthy background but that not the point. I feel so bad taking her virginity without loving her. I don't even know what to do now. The girl am now running after is always taxing me...

What's the tittle of the movie am interested also....

Enough is Enough Emisery out!!!!!

Uyiii:
gone are the days in 9jaa as a reference point when you see the feminine folks stand with a man they truly love and build a lasting foundation with him. this mentality ended in the era of our parents and as evidently so, this is the reason most of their unions(our parents) is blessed with all sorts or riches and is long lasting because they started together from nothing.

I won't really slap all blames on the gold-diggers proliferating the entire 9jaa space as girls today presenting themselves as potential girlfriends and wives, I'll shift the blame also to the retrogressive cascade of the nigerian system.
as unfortunate as it seems, boys are actually trying (graduates and non) to make ends meet and stand out as men in relationships but because poverty has soaked and eaten deeply into the mindset of an average nigerian girl mistakes ostentatious spending on them as been caring as that way of life is alien to them. since buoyant spending on a girl equals care, maturity and love has now pressurised boys not principled enough to trash their legit hustles for illegal ones bringing in fast cash.

the whole essense of my little epistu is to actually tell us there's absolutely no need for a relationship expert on this one as this act is gonna go on for a very long time and in circles not until an average girl in nigeria is able to cater for herself, minimizing the level of her hunger and greed and of course maximizing her attentions to details on what she really wants in a man as expressed by the girls in the era of our parents.

p.s: although they're few, but I know we still have reasonable girls around not moved with what they see but know what they want in a man, kudoz to em' and I am not also against living a good life, but try not to be digging golds and you look so cheap and stuupid because of that, cheers!

I concur with u totally particularly with the regression of the country economy which has contributed largely to the whole scenario even Politician, Yahoo boys, our Males Yeyebrities and society at large are not excluded the way they treat/place these girls. am not of the opinion not to take care of ur girl but don't do it in a puerile manner their puerile spending toward girls has turned them to be gold diggers which made them turn relationship to business. an average guy of 15yrs has d crazy mentality of making good cash before getting closer to female folks for relationship see d way we guys are seeing them *COMMODITY*

donstan18:
Their stories are usually incomplete without this rubbish

Who no like to trend?

Bonatheripper:
You're the most foolish and dull female I've seen in my entire life.
Even an ant have a bigger brain than u.
I know u can't do your nursery school sisters assignment.
You're so dumb I fear you'd be the next ritual Ingredient we read on nairaland that got dropped from a car and started running around named.

You're so dumb and emoji of you should be made to represent dumbness...

You're so dumb you don't deserve the look of that hot girl I saw on your dp.
Dumb foool

kikikikikikikiki, bro, u said she's hot or what her physique be like Monique doll....

SteveOfu:
Be deceiving yaself

You sure am deceiving myself, u wanna link up to confirm?

Pettyprincess:
Yeah you very right!!
As a lady if your bf never contributed to your life in one way or the other he's not the right person for you
I detest stingy guys guys with passion!!
As a guy you should be able to spend any amount on your gf without demanding sex!!!
Real men do not equate money with sex!!!

Likewise real girls don't equate s^x for money�. By their hand writing we shall know them certified gold diggers...

chenzen:
Story Time!


Sometimes saying I understand is literally the wrongest thing to say to a bleeding heart. How do we even think that these words would ever bring closure?

Your silence can be a more effective help than your echo of meaningless chants. It's like someone back in #canada who has never been to Lagos telling me he/she understands my traffic dilemma in #lagos. No, you just can't throw those words to show sympathy.

Even the "pontius pilate" of Lagos State can't say such after going missing immediately after inauguration.


At that moment it felt like the only logical response to give to her. After such traumatic experience. If you drift off this story a bit I guess it's because you are trying to avoid facing your own traumatic experience, like that demonic porthole right there in the middle of the highway. My advice is you face that trauma. Don't just talk, take actions.


His hands that opened those legs were the hands that opened the very pages from which she drew inspiration from. His lips spoke words like she had never heard. But what defines a man isn't just what he says but what he does. She couldn't find the words to describe how she felt. The angel she thought she could run to was the very monster she should run from.


Let's take a pause here and reflect. Those closest to you are those prone to hurt you the most. The betrayal of a cheating partner, the evny of a backstabbing friend, the abuse from a typical
#nigerian parent - like did you grow up thinking if they were your biological parents after receiving the whopping of your life?


It plays out in different ways, here and there, we see children being molested by close relatives or those we entrusted their safety to. Police getting high on duty and harassing young folks just because they appear more successful or happier than the officer.

To proof no point, the trigger goes off, the person saddled with the responsibility of protecting lives takes one#endsars .

Now I'm thinking what @nairamarley next song would be... The way this mind drifts... Perhaps it's an escape mechanism. Was she abused, raped severally, had series of abortions, threatened, and silence? Well my next story will tell.

Sighs.

TheDestroyer:
Celebrating birthday in Abuja while his people are drinking kerosene and living in sh*t hole in abia . Mehn, these people take Nigerians for granted since they know the people are too stupid to fight back instead we hail them and give them cheiftancy titles.

I will keep saying this none of these polithieves like us neither do they keep us in their respective mind nor want progress for us. What hurt me most is we even celebrate these mediocre people...

KingErnesto:
I don't want to fool myself neither do I want to play games. I feel the emboldened are for those who just want to be sex mates, other than that ,there's no need to define the relationship or ask her to be your girlfriend. A girl that would turn me down doesn't know what she wants or rather doesn't want me. My problem is initiating the convo that would lead defining what we mean to each other... I dont have a problem kissing her, but I don't want things to change between us either , and that's my fear .

Bro, I understand ur plight u don't want to be seen as a fuckboy u want a more direct relationship(serious one) if so then follow the step that's my post h quoted...

annford:
Women are slower and more careful than Men when it comes to decision-making. Women are usually quick in making decisions when it comes to looks and fashion but slower in other areas. A Woman might see a man and likes his qualities and might even give him signs of interest but she still would want the man to make the move and she does the running. Bro, when a Woman is interested in a Man, she usually either starts seducing him or she gifts him items that shows she's interested in him. Even if a Woman sees a Man as having the qualities she desires her Man to have, She, in most cases would expect the man to chase after her. Woman are wired that way.

Bro, I concur with u here because they r weird in nature thus it takes a real gee to denote them that's why I advised ops not to ask her out yet but to take things gently/slowly with her to know each other stand...

lilwetdick:
there are still virgins, the question is will you marry one? how will you know a woman is a virgin just from seein her or do you have a virgin detector that can detect virgins from the multitude of women in a locations

I have my ways in detecting if they are or not with the way I rapport with them, at times I detect it with some Socratic questions...

annford:
First of all, I never get interested in anything that isn't worth my time nor would better my life. Second, I always knew what I wanted In a Woman when I was still in the "dating game". Third, my aim of asking any Lady out was never to " bed" her. There's more to life than sex. When I was much younger, I was strongly attracted to beauty but as I grew older, I began to understand that beauty is good but character is better. The woman in my story is my Wife. I was patient with her the whole time because I knew she was the only one to complete me. I had other Women who were throwing themselves at me but I just stuck to what I wanted. I'm a happy with what I got? 100% emphatic!

Read my last quote it being modified...

annford:
"Most" good women aren't easy to get. I never got tired of chasing after her and wooing her cos I already knew what stuff she was made of and what I wanted in a woman. I am a businessman and if you're into business, you'd know that there are deals or sales take time and patience to get through. You don't expect a Woman to immediately say yes to daring you. Do you say yes to all the requests made to you? Bro, a woman who knows her worth would want you to know and understand that she places a high value on herself. Women aren't "Properties" that we can acquire easily. Women are meant to be loved, respected, nurtured and encouraged.

Going with the business orientation u brought in how long do u wait for a commodity with a lesser profit to a good commodity with a higher profit. Going philosophical with u a woman with high value knows what she want in a man thus such woman access the man right on the first date then conclude whether to give him a try or not pending on scale d said guy weighed, likewise a guy with high value knows what she want from a girl which compelled him to start running towards her and to be patient with her...

lilwetdick:
like you will marry one. abeg stop your dreams

You mean there's no virgin girls again or what?

Make I come read fabricated epistles to cool off moi day...

annford:
You don't expect a Lady to immediately agree to dating you even if she was already madly in love with you. Mine did "Shakara" for 5 weeks and 3 days before saying yes to me. It is the nature of Women to do "shakara" before agreeing to date a man. Women want to be sure the man isn't being led by his feelings or her body or even her money. The two are already good friends and it should be easy for him to make his intentions known to her.

Don't u think guys deserve some accolades for asking girls out, guy it's not just easy to carry courage go woo a lady and then she tries acting stupidly with one yanga shakara guy aren't u tired of running after a chick for months Its weird... Brotherly some even term it as I don't want to be seen cheap, what I count as cheap is a girl jumping from a dick for a dick and absolutely to a dick as a pure cheap....

annford:
He should just "start acting" like the "boyfriend"? Hmmm I've a problem with that. A couple of years ago, a girl " assumed" she and I were dating. This girl went about telling everyone she and I were a pair. I never knew I was in a "relationship" with her until the day she asked why I was making things difficult and making our "relationship" not to work. I never gave her any green lights nor at any point hinted her in her. We were just neighbours. She later confessed to being in love with me but felt it was awkward asking me out since it was supposed to be the other way round. My point is that the man should man up and ask the said Lady out. It is either a yes or a no.

The moment u woo a lady she turns d table around even if she loves u initially. Lemme back it up with an ordeal of mine which happened 3weeks ago, I was walking towards my street with a friend of mine when we came across this girl mehn she resemble someone we both knew fortunately they r even bearing the same name (Judith) not real name though. We started cool nd I decided to officially woo her since she portrays a responsible girl since I could sensed some green light from her (she keep asking me about a girl who she heard her voice underneath when we r on call is the girl my main chick or side chick b4 I wooed her) last Monday she paid me a visit nd I raised the dating stuff again behold she said #NO some1 who shows she love me d funniest part of it was she even uttered d statement "I feel like stabbing her ryt? " see me see trouble on top say I wan date/f^ck u... las las I don sneak into d relationship by playing d boyfriend role.

KingErnesto:
I'm beginning to and i like her alot.

Brotherly, make I burst ur brain if u dare open up to her by requesting her hand in relationship she would start manipulating u (capital NO would b her answer) unless she want to tie u down with marriage.
Never u ask her for dating relationship. Just ask her to come over to ur side for lunch, follow d rhythm btw u pple and make move by planting a soft kiss on her lips chill a bit nd read her countenance if she consent to the kissing draw her closer for deep kissing never rush down to her pant step by step make one goes far. From there start acting like her boyfriend with freestyle and don't take it 3 personal till it get to ur advantage...