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They are all armed (with the Bible) robbers. Didn't oyedescam threaten to open the gates of hell to Nigerians who refused to vote for jona? These people are nothing but thieves, I'm only happy that more and more people are realising their antiques everyday.

doughziay:
Lol
No be lie brother.

Hahahaha, una de in order oo, nothing do una.

doughziay:


Op, put graphic pics abeg

The last pics looks like a turkey.

Hmm, the graphic artists are here again! Una wehdon ooh!

vioment:
Lol. See as that guy with yellow raise hand like praise and worship. E dun clear for hin eye, reality dun be hin paddy. Anyway, if them no kill or get intentions to kill like with weapons, then small beating and police handover seem like the right way to go.

There's no such thing as small beating and hand over to the police, just beat them till they breathe no more irrespective of whether they came to rob with screwdriver. As long as they came to rob, they deserve to die! Remember the adage, get rich or die trying? You get rich if you succeed or die while trying, it doesn't say hand over to police. They must die!

binsanni:
thief beating thief? that is what i mean

Guy you sure are funny, albeit silly with no pun intended. Even of its true that all are thieves, just know today that the only thieves known to mankind are the ones who get caught.

NPComplete:
As far as we can tell that language is not English or Nigerian so how do we know if this isn't another mischievous blogger with the IQ of a gnat trying to hoodwink his uncles?

Secondly, bees can actually stick to a person's hand like that for other reasons other than voodoo. Even bees are used in certain cultures as a cure for certain medical conditions. So how do we know if that's not what is happening in the vid?

Thirdly, can the agenda of the reporter be trusted?
Anybody can go to a village and get a few local apiary experts to put bees on their hands and narrate a false story for a few change. Then place those stories on the television or blogs to get traffic. We all know those kind of stuff happen in East Africa well. Like all those radio shows where people call in and admit they have been sleeping with dead bodies.

You're right it's not in English but the phrase, "motor car" was used like twice so it may bear some relevance. Sad, but what happens when he wants to shower, the bees fly to the ceiling and wait for him to finish bathing? Choi, laff wan kii me.

clevadani:
This is really impressive.
Meanwhile in Nigeria we're still looking for constant electricity

You mean any electricity! I haven't seen power in my area for the past three days now. Sad.

Amaso99:
You check your backyard see people wear coverall dey drill oil in the evening them enter their clean suv they go house you come they envy them, you come approach them say make you follow them work them blackmail you say you no they qualify say you no go school, you come vex go buy jamb form follow go school after five years you graduate , serve finish go back there them say you no get 3yrs working experience where as your course mate (yoruba, igbo or hausa) wey grad with you them don give ham work because him brother na HR tell me why i no go vex matchet person.
The plight of Niger deltans.

I quite agree with you on the job matter but the SUV ish, is it like the one shown in the picture? That guy there looks to me like an okada man.

beholder17:
See my account balance is working for all mtn sim

Why are the mods finding it extremely difficult to get scums like you off nairaland?

Intellad:
my 22yrs old boyfriend Bleep my big ass everyday... not a big deal

And you are a man, a Nigerian man for that matter?

mbaboy:
Maina was reinstated for bankrolling Buharis campaign in 2015, the president was fully aware of his reinstatement so he should not pretend.

Honestly to me this doesn't make sense. Why reinstate him, pay him salary, then take the salary back through election campaigns? It doesn't make sense. If buhari was interested in the already stolen 2 billion, there wouldn't be any need to reinstate him in office, just make a side deal with the crook to bankroll the 2019 elections, then compansate him with presidential pardon/reinstatement, promotion and backlog of outstanding salaries when the election is won. I'm not sure buhari is part of the whole saga cus if he is, the senate probe committee will see it and that will be the end of buhari in office. So your posit doesn't make sense sir.
Modified : oh so sorry, you meant in 2015, thought you were referring to 2019, my error.

OZAOEKPE:
I pity that judge, hope he retires in the north

And if he retires in the south...., you'll kill yourself abi? Continu.

OZAOEKPE:
The program is becoming a joke, where they massage the ego of jubril and osibanjo knowing fully well that jubril in a normal country should have been impeached...

Jubril in the country which you speak about had been impeached, so which one you dey?

PointB:
So the Corrupt President is no better that the thief Saraki?

I didn't say that ooh, na only the Nigerian style I merely noted oo.

PointB:
The President should resign.

In sane clime, when a president is directly enmeshed in corruption situation such as this, he resigns to protect the integrity of the office.

But what do we have here? A man orchestrating and covering for all manners of corruption yet parading himself as saint and victim.

Yes, he should resign like saraki resigned when he was docked for corruption charges. The hypocrisy in us doesn't have a second season. Good morning my brother.

Throwback:
Hahahaha.

The denials have started.

The same people whose media aides were trying to rationalise the reinstatement just yesterday are now swallowing their words like how kids swallow indomie.

The most ridiculous I heard was from the aide to the Interior minister who claimed that the HoS deployed him to his ministry and so his boss wasn't a party to the reinstatement.

A former COAS who is interior minister, yet totally ignorant of the implications of reinstating a man who is still a fugitive and who has not received any form of presidential pardon that could only come after a conviction, yet the moronic Danbazau allowed such to happen under his very nose? Is this the kind of slowpoke it took 6months to appoint as minister?

Shouldn't Danbazau have been the one to report this matter to the president?


Heads must be severed over this matter. Pricely heads for that matter.

Cheap, empty heads like Danbazau's cannot be Priceless!

Modified:
Oh sorry, you said pricely, what's that?

fergie001:
This Government has the highest number of Pastors,Deacons and Deaconnesses,core Muslims,Mr.I have-never-taken-a-bribe-in-my-life,and Mr.Integrity himself.
All are cantankerous,despicable liars and all are complicit.
See them,including this woman that was crying yesterday and thanking God for that position,Madam...if it's not you tell the truth,what do they teach you on Sundays?
Maina was re-instated on the 2nd October and has been working smoothly,and today Mr.Integrity is doing "agbekpo" work saying he is giving order.
Imagine,THE ONLY THING WORSE THAN A LIAR IS A LIAR THAT IS A HYPOCRITE.
This is not the 1st time that such would happen,there will always be excuses.Where is Oke's file,Babachir nko?
Now,to tell you how divisive and crooky this grandpa is,he is not telling efcc to arrest the fugitive,he is disengaging him and asking for a report,but wanted the head of tompolo and Nnamdi Kanu.
This top level job was done by him,he was very much aware,he is claiming plausible deniability(that Is if he knows the meaning).
Tell me what you have corrected under GEJ,the only thing is empowering some "rectum-cleaners" on social media.

Baba,you have failed yourself.....not us
I thank God for one thing,if we hadn't elected you,they will say the best,most prudent President that never was.
Now you have showed your backside and folly to the whole world.

You are no better than Jonathan,you are a liar and worse.You are the Cabal.
I take exception to insult you today because children unborn will remember an "agavu" sat on that seat.

"The trust of the Innocent is the liar's most useful tool."(S.K)

As a strong buhari supporter, honestly I must give it to you! The man has left most of us speechless. This still doesn't mean there's anyone out there within the pdp group which sane Nigerians can have an iota of hope from or the Apc, it simply means we are finished!

abescom:
This has nothing to do with satanic tendencies. She is fighting a battle pure and simple.

She as the op said often prays for her attackers to be attacked by GOD. That tells a story on it own.

I honestly think the op needs to take this guy's advise. A bastard monster who ought to be castrated has ruined that woman but not beyond repairs. With GOD, sound advise from an expert and true love and patience, the op will win his real wife back.

Ah see. I didn't know satanic and other spiritual battles are no battle. As long as she's fighting a *battle*,then it's all good. Thanks for the correction.

Atiku2019:
Is that a 1978 throwback pix?

More like a 1962 version, how on earth can anyone recognise a face from a picture as poor as that Nigeria police! Mstchew.

selflessmaya:
when ppl say never hit your wife, they mean never become the aggressor. what is happening to to you is domestic violence and your wife is abusing you emotionally and physically. you need to leave that woman fast. she's poison! don't try to change her, don't blame yourself for anything, just, cut her loose!

EDIT: so I just read the old article you included in the link, i change my mind. with more insight to this:
OP, I dont mean this in an insensitive way, your wife has some deep issues and must have suffered some intense psychological trauma to cause her to feel a lot of bitterness and act out in sadism when angry, the knife, the fork, hitting you with a shoe on your head and not stopping when you didnt even react!! this last one is a huge red light, something is really wrong with your wife, she loves to inflict pain and if her personality is as contrast as u say, that everyone thinks she's this sweet girl, then whatever is wrong with her runs really deep, it's not normal at all to keep hitting a person with a shoe on the head when they're not fighting back, she wants to hurt you, she wants u to feel pain.

I'm honestly convinced your wife has suffered sexual assault at an early age that led to a break in psyche, she's mastered suppressing her feelings, her nice girl act is not an 'act', she's actually that nice. but when she's angry, all the bitterness buried beneath the surface emerges and she finally deals with all the buried emotion in its magnitude, it overwhelms her and she wants to act out to hit something or punch a wall etc. when she's alone and unhappy, even when she lived with her parents, u really dont want to see/imagine what your wife does to and says to herself, this anger she shows you, she's lived with it for a long time, she's been her own victim till now when she made u her victim. there is nothing she has done to you that she hasn't done to herself times hundred.

if you choose to for better for worse it, find a psychiatrist or psychologist and go with your wife for counselling, your wife, with or without you will never change till she finally begins to work on whatever buried bitterness she's had to live with for years. try to get help together as a family or get a divorce if u would rather not go through it. it's really that simple, your wife will live with whatever has happened for the rest of her life but how she manages the accompanying emotions, her anger and abandonment issues can all be taken care of with a good psychologist and emotional support on your part. educate yourself on the topic of sexual assault and learn the necessary sensitivity training and triggers. counselling will teach you all this.

no, i'm not thinking too far, your wife ticks a lot of boxes:
-extra charming cos of distorted/low self image and need to be accepted
-her over-religiousness is for closure that she needs and like u said her prayers are always for her god to attack ppl for her. even her relationship with god isnt healthy, it's a coping mechanism. the idea of a protector that will attack on her behalf.
-she talks from 12am to 4am alone when you're asleep, OP, your wife is full of a lot of buried emotion, she really wants to talk to someone about something.
-despite being a nice girl, before you married her, she had no friends
-she's very quiet, hardly finishes her words (withdrawn personality, mastered suppresion)

you should never have raised your hands to hit this woman, when she froze for 5 minutes, it's not that she was thinking she overstepped her boundaries, she was actually coming back to her senses, when your wife gets angry, she loses her mind and forgets who she's dealing with. even worse when the person who angered her is male, she reacts with more venom cos subconsciously he represents her aggressor and she wants to hurt him to make him feel pain. she probably has conversations with herself and imagines herself confronting her abuser and being able to hurt him back and make him regret his actions and cries alone cos it's only in her imagination that she can deal with him. when a man makes her defensive in her personal space, she attacks. till u actually hit her, u just represented something that she has bad blood with and now you've added yourself to the list of men that have ruined her.
she has stopped hitting u cos she has buried the incident of the slaps too but OP, the same place it's buried is the same place her demons she's battling are buried, she wont touch you but when her bitterness surfaces when she's alone, this time you're one of her enemies. the resentment is growing and when she sees u, she's filled with such bitterness she shoves u. if u do not intend to fix this marriage OP, walk away NOW. a lot of bitterness is brewing in this woman and if you add yourself to the list, we will read about u in the news the day this woman snaps. the same way u never saw her eyes so red the day she yelled, u will never believe she has it in her to go the extent she'll go, your wife will surprise you.

nigeria does not have a good support system for ppl who have had to deal with the trauma of sexual assault, society takes it lightly too but this is 2017, ppl should educate themselves on this, when we read here everyday '6 yr old girl raped in lagos by 43 yr old man', that girl is someone's future wife and she will NOT just be like everybody else, the scars of her trauma will show one way or another and she'll need extra sensitivity cos she's a "special" case. your wife is not a naturally aggressive person, that i can tell u and it's sad that another human being created this monster in her. OP, this is really not your battle, it's not you she wants to fight, you did not give her all the bitterness she's carrying, so let the slaps u gave her be the last, you wife is a very very bitter scorned woman whose hurt has taken years and years to germinate, the person who hurt her isnt dealing with it, u are. if u add to her bitterness and it gets too much, the person who created 99% of this mess will not be the scapegoat, again it will be u. i haven't dealt with sexual assault personally or with a family member but i have met closely with some of the victims and the effects of sexual assault are too underestimated. ppl should be killed for damaging another human like that.

if u do choose to save your marriage:
apologize profusely for hitting her and become super sweet, if u choose to undo this mess, u have to be ready, sensitive, patient, very educated about this issue and strong for the both of u. if u choose to walk this path, u will watch her fall apart and u have to be ready to help her reassemble.
don't let her hit you, hold her hands and keep holding it and talking to her till she calms down. your wife is actually a very sweet person, the person you knew her to be when u married her exists, just buried under layers of bitterness. i dont blame u at all for hitting her, there's nothing illogical in hitting someone who came at u with a knife, i can understand why u snapped but let it be the last time. your wife wants to talk to you, listen to her, she talks when you sleep, when you leave she follows you, it's annoying but it's her subconscious, she really wants to reach out. listen to your wife! make out time and let her rant, she will talk about so many things, no matter how messed up it sounds, keep listening. then talk back about whatever and if she interrupts and tries to talk, let her talk, just listen. u can stop the midnight talks by changing it to day time. stop sleeping in your sitting room, move back to your bed.

when you're ready to make the move, try pulling it out of her, on top of your new sweetness, be extra extra sweet to her for the whole week like her sh!t dont stink, on a friday(so if she spills, you'll both have the weekend to grieve), make sure she's in a nice awww darling mood and when you're holding her, just brush by a conversation u heard at the office that made u really sick "about a dude that assaulted some teenage girl and how mad it makes you that men like that are still walking around breathing and if they ever dared it with someone u care about, u'll deal with them and how no matter what she was wearing or where she was, no one has the right on another person's body without consent and the worst part is there are girls out there who have experienced this and told no one and the animal didnt get caught"
stay on the topic of sexual assault and follow body language, dont change the topic, be gentle, when she cracks, try to get her to talk, say what u have to "she can tell u anything, u wont judge, u love her from here to japan, if it affects her it affects you, u are both one and she can confide in u etc" when she talks, encourage her to keep talking, show that you're listening, console her all you can, cry with her even if u have to force the tears though i doubt you'll have to force them, make her see that whatever sunken place she's in, you've somehow gotten there too but dont cry more than her haba. tell her that both of u will go for counselling together, find a good therapist and go with her till she makes progress to go alone. make sure u find a therapist before u try to get her to talk about this and once she talks, the upcoming monday, begin therapy. and dont expect to work this out in 2 days, give yourself time like 4-6wks to build the emotional environment of trust and zero judgement to be able to access her when the time comes. note: she has to open up to you before you can go for therapy.

-u can expect her to go into depression for a while, she might need anti-depressants, sleeping pills too, she will be dealing with a lot of emotion once she finally lets someone in.
-NEVER EVER make a joke about her incident or say something mean to her about it... NEVER EVER!!! NEVER EVER!!! I MEAN IT OP.
-if u want to divorce her and not work through this, which is honestly the easy way out for you, then pls dont bring up anything i just told u here, dont taunt her over this, dont ask her about abuse or anything, just let the marriage end and pretend u didnt even read this. she will still live with herself so she has it heavy already.

i really do sympathize with you, u have found yourself in a very unfortunate position and no decision u make will be easy. sadly enough, i feel sorry for your wife too, she's really lived her hell and she's putting you through it. both of u dont deserve this. i also applaud you for all the grace you've shown, it's very hard to break the cycle of abuse, abused ppl mostly pass it on to others, maybe not in the form they received it but they leave their mark, so i can imagine how strong a person u were to endure all the emotional & physical abuse. and no, slapping her back was not abuse, u defended yourself full stop! dont feel sorry for yourself, just do what u have to do: stay & do the work to mend this if u can or leave if u cant.
u have to accept that your wife has issues that cause aggression when it flares. in time, u will also notice she's protective of children or animals or things she pictures as defenseless, it'll show in her mothering, not wanting your kid to go out, being too clingy to the child, convinced the big bad world is out to get her child, all that u will both work through in due time. once you can get your wife to show you the dark place she's in, it'll not be her safe place anymore, she can't hide there anymore, whatever comes to surface will be dealt with by both of you and u will finally live with the smiling smiling girl u married. good luck OP

I'm sorry I had to quote all this, I could actually had chopped some off but... Pls my friend, is every act of insanity a sign or result of sexual abuse? I don't watch Nigerian movies, neither do i believe in the existence of witches but as long as there's God, Satan also exists! What if she's a true devil and exihibitting her true satanic tendencies, how will he deal with that? Can psychiatric and other councilling help out here? I think the op has entered one chance, he should quit the marriage and the lady taken off the streets till further notice. Besides, many are mad but few are roaming. If these are psychiatric tendencies, she'll still need to be tucked away for a pretty long time! Either way, guy must walk, life has no duplicate.

ZandhaZaraZ:
wrongchoice, you made a serious mistake. What you did was very dangerous and wrong. You shouldn't have endured her devilish ways and Jezebelism for that long! You should have no business putting up with such pain and psychological torture. [color=darkgreen]She's a DEMON. She could have KILLED you[/color]. No sane person can condemn you for slapping that bitch. She deserved more than that. BUT, what if she had collapsed and died when you landed those slaps? It happens---because at such instances, there are many scenarios that could have played out and resulted in her demise. I understand the need to defend yourself, but if she actually passed away, that excuse might not be enough to exonerate you from being charged with murder, and bagging some tragic sentence like a degree from the University of Sorrow - your unfortunate marriage. That would mean, your demon tortured you, fvcked you up, and ruined your life.

You're a great man, and I admire your spirit. But if I were you, I would have subdued the animal, escaped her wicked intents by leaving the house....... FOR THE POLICE STATION! With evidence of her bestiality and brutality.

[color=darkgreen]I would have gotten her arrested for assault and battery, as well as attempted murder, for arming herself with a knife. She would have been sent to jail, and I would have succeeded at taking her off the streets to save my fellow men the trouble of a future misfortune[/color].

I sympathise with you, sir.

@ "what if she had collapsed and died.. ", I thought she has the strength of 3 men?

Afam4eva:
Do you want to compare anonymous peeps on Nairaland with a government official?

Is she not a Nigerian or is the drug addict @ ffk more Nigerian than her? Jonah deserves all he gets.

GoroTango:
Every sane Igbo man has denounced Nnamdi Kanu and his devilish IPOB movement

Devilish and highly stupid!

Liepobs wont like this one bit!

IgboticGirl:
. See how afonjas are doing fuckery over this post but they will remain deaf wen kachikwu raised alarm that 25b is missing


Afonja who do una this thing




I will say this and I will keep saying SE/SS should live this people alone and forget that stupid southern unity of their's........Afonjas should just b on there own mbok

I hate wetin I dey like

You must be one of the fools who heard kachukwu say 25billion naira is missing. Mschtew.

joseo:
this is one thing about us, we never appreciate ourself, you can imaging 13 million sold and I don't still know his name until this very moment

Are you part of the 13 million Africans that lived when the song reigned?

FreshBoss007:
I thought sweet mother was sang by a woman

Poor you. You even thought "sweet mother" was the name of a book!

TheHistorian:
Please...Shall we stop promoting "mediocrity" in the flawed perception of "luck"?

What exactly has this lady done to warrant her submission of CV to the Vice President.Did She present a wonderful speech during the VP's stay? Was it her mode of dressing?

I think it is time we changed how we reason in Nigeria!

So to you luck doesn't exist or you just don't believe in it? What if the VP had it in mind to touch a life that day, must everything in Life be about merit My only reservation is he hadn't "touched" a man instead, I'm sure even you'd've commended him for that.

Benita27:
Op, you're insane. So the guy felt like beating the girl to pulp while you advised him to halt his beating plan, and alternatively sleeps with her sister and friends. Now, after doing all these and spreading the virus to more people, whether innocent or not; are they even?. Has all the pains of knowing you're HIV positive gone away? Or has the virus itself disappeared?. Instead of him to go get counselling and being placed on retroviral drugs that may increase his life span, he's foolishly spreading the virus to others. When he becomes sober and his conscious starts pricking him, guilt would kill him faster than the virus and you that thinks you told him to do the best thing would look despicable before his eyes. It's a matter of time.

Don't mind the foolish boy and his fake story. If it ever happened then he's the victim and the assailant. He's having and attack of morality already.

MhizzAJ:
Nice

But drinking of Alcohol isn't a sin nah except when taken in excess

Sounds about right. It's sure not a sin to drink, only when taken in excess.

pyyxxaro:
Obviously God is not thru with her yet .

Wish her good health

Sure, you can say that again.

dungburu:
Op, u be mumu, u can't try that with my sister . Moreover, u said she would have "murd" if it were to be ur cadet mates she tried it with, u are a slowpoke for making such statement.. Who is a cadet n who d hell a soldier is that makes u think u are sth.. I dnt know what u are feeling like.. U mere mortal man that if they block ur nostril for 5 minutes, u will be dead. U are nothing bt an ordinary security man with a glorified uniform.. U have no ryt to slap a lady u are either married to or nt married to. And u need to know dat ladies do have different smells down there sometimes.. U lack knowledge n understanding.. May God forgive u, u have no proof whatsoever n u have d guts to come and advertise ur foolishness here on nairaland , so we should clap for u. Mumu...

Try it with my sister n u wont wake up d following day n thats when u will know that the supernatural is more powerful than ur uniform.. May u rust in hell..

All this ranting and chest beating, are you igbo or a liepob? Hahahaha. You wouldn't dare send your sister to go perform that stunt his babe just did or she'd get same treatment and you wouldn't do jack! @ different girls having different condom smells, no be small gagnam style! Laf wan tear my eyes ooh biko.