maxipharo: Nigeria is quite blessed with a lot of cash crops that are either used as a means of foreign exchange (exported) or consumed locally. It is no dough that Nigerian is a blessed country, having up to hundreds of cash crops that can be used to develop the country if well managed. Nigeria is always ranking at the 1th to 10th position in cash crops production in the whole word. Despite our lost of focus in Agriculture, Nigeria is still seen among the first 10 in the list, this means it will be very easy to pick up and rank number one in all aspect of agriculture. To start any Cash Crop farming in Nigeria, It is required that you consider some factors that will determine the success of the farming. Factors To Consider Before Farming Any Cash Crop.
Variety: Most crops have a lot of varieties that has different maturity periods, climate acceptability and so many other factors that will either affect the yield of the crop or its market potentials.
Climate: Not all farm product grow well in every location, this is because the climate requirement of every crop differs. Some crops like groundnuts, tobacco can withstand high temperature but not ever crop can.
Profit potentials: If you are picking a cash crop you should run a background check on the profit potentials of that crop. Not all crops are profitable in all location. Below Are The 10 Most Profitable Cash Crops In Nigeria.
Cocoa: Nigeria is the 4th largest producing country of cocoa product in Africa and it is the 3rd largest Africa exporter of the crop. Cocoa beans seed contains a lot of fats which are used to produce cocoa butter that are turned into chocolates that are converted through grounding to produce beverages. Edo, Osun, Oyo, Ondo are some of the producing states of cocoa In Nigeria.
Profitable Cash Crops In Nigeria
Coffee: Coffee as a Cash crop has two widely grown species which are Arabica and Robusta. The coffee Arabica is a beverage crop that is originated from Africa. States like Bauchi, Kwara, and Osun are good cultivators of Coffee crop in Nigeria.
Oil Palm Production: Nigeria is one of the most producing countries of the oil palm farm product. Oil palm grows in abundance in that tropical area but can also do well in a high climate condition that has abundance of rainfall as well. Oil palm is one of the most profitable cash crop because all the parts has various areas of application (uses). Though it requires patient to grow oil palm because it takes over 3 years for the crop to get to maturity and starts bringing fruits. Oil palm is grown in places like, Delte, Cross rivers, Edo, Bayalsa, Ogun State and some others.
Kola nut: Kolanut also known as cola is gotten from kola tree which is cultivated in tropical rainforests of Africa like Nigeria. Kolanut has a major part to play in our country tradition. Despite the fact that Nigeria is ranked as the number one in the production of kolanut, we only export 10% to other countries. Ogun, Kwara, and Osun States are widely produces of kolanut in Nigeria.
Groundnut: Groundnut has a botanical name of Arachis Hypogaea, Groundnut is sometimes referred to as pea nut by most people. The crop groundnut is regarded as a profitable cash crop because their entire products are useful and it is one of the major sources of edible oil in the world. Groundnut is grown in places like Kano, Kaduna, Adamawa, Bauchi.
Cashew: Cashew farming is very productive type of farming that produces two product at a time the Cashew Apple and the Cashew Nut. The crop is widely consumed and it is grown in places like Imo, Enugu, Abuja, Niger and kwara. The cashew nut are package and are exported to other countries, the cashew apple are used to make cashew juice or drinks.
Cotton: Cotton is soft in texture and fluffy in nature, It falls under the family of Gossypium crops. Cotton are grown in the Northern and the Southern part of the country in places like Kwara, Sokoto, Zamfara, Oyo, Ondo and many others State. Cotton Crop used to be one of our major sources of foreign exchange as it was yielding good revenue for the country then through exportation. It has now give way for oil since the management required for it has been transferred to oil. Notwithstanding, A lot of farmers in Nigeria still cultivate and produce Cotton in both small and medium scale. With this, cotton still maintains a position as one of the most profitable cash crops in Nigeria.
Cassava: Nigeria is rated as the largest exporter of cassava in the whole of Western African. The main cassava producing state in Nigeria are Taraba, Delta, Imo, Kogi, Anambra, Kogi, Enugu, Ondo.
Tobacco: Tobacco is widely cultivated in some states in Nigeria like Osun, Sokoto, Kwara and Oyo State. The crop requires high temperature to yield well.
Rubber: Nigeria and West African has been know for the production of rubber. Rubber is harvested as a liquid called latex from the para rubber tree. The latex is gotten from the tree through an opening on the bark of the tree that is made by cutting of the tree. The harvest is done mainly in the morning and in the evening. The collected latex are processed into dry forms so as to be able to market them. It has be proven that rubber tree can produce for over 3 years if it is well taken care of and handled. http://www.agricincome.com/the-10-most-profitable-cash-crops-in-nigeria/
Probz: Ndi Igbo call it elele/mai-mai. Big deal. It’s not only Yorubas who have it as a near-indigenous food.
The initial convo was on the etymology of the food that is made from blended beans.
Nobody said it's only Yorubas that eat the delicacy. Indeed foods such as Akara and Moin-Moin/Olele are international delicacies in Bahia in Brazil, Cuba, Trinidad and Tobago, etc, due to the deportation of thousands of Yorubas during the Trans-Atlantic slave trade especially in the 1700s to 1800s.
Akara is still called Akara Iyesha (Akara je) in Brazil by the Yoruba descendants and others.
It's obvious that Ibos have adopted those words you wrote from the original Yoruba words Olele/Moin-Moin (Both words are used interchangeably in Yoruba language and both have to do with the "sticky" nature of the beans delicacy).
The only language that I know that has strong similarity with Yoruba is Igala language which has about 55 percent uncanny similarity with Yoruba language in terms of food names, and more. The immediate Attah of Igala also said in a newspaper that Ifa priests (Babalawos) consult Ifa before a new Attah is enthroned in Igalaland.
The Attah of Igala even said significant Jukun, Yoruba, Edo, and some Ibo bloodlines exist amongin the Igalas.
Interestingly I read a book in the early 1980s on the origin or etymology of some Nigerian words in Hausa, Yoruba, Edo, Ibo, etc.
An example I can remember off hand from that book is the adoption of the "botanical name" for tobacco (Tabac...) into Hausa, Yoruba, Ibo.
Lucrativress: I will do that now. Yh I won't delete it I'm just hoping for cooperation in solving the solution. Since there's already one,my mind ehnn it is telling me to take a chill pill if there's no cooperation.
I've sent the scanned documents to your email in response to this post.
Lucrativress: I didn't see the mail Thanks so much for your concern The phone wasn't mine but for a close acquaintance,we had to forget about the issue 2 days after
I sent it to your email: myent.....05@gmail
Read the mail, then download the 3 articles which I had scanned as a single PDF attachment document.
Oh! It's okay... I thought the phone belongs to you, good you clarified this.
Lucrativress: Mallam Are you not following up with the news,
They slaughtered 20 people in Oyo early yesterday,butchered them worse than they butcher Cow's,pretty gory and found its way into my dream,a man had a Knife in my dream,I should try staying off Nigerian News,pretty bad for one's mental health
Eeewwww!
Not again... I'm not a Mallam. Why do you call me that... naughty you.
Aha! You wrote "Iparapa" in your post instead of Ibarapa. Are you from Ibarapa? You were obviously distressed by the murders. Pele.
My sympathies go out to all the family members of those that got killed.
I'm just getting more facts about the killings this morning. Fulanis always embark on revenge killings so I knew it would happen months back.
Yeah! It's better to have limited access to extremely negative local and global news. As a CEO and player in the global business scene, I have no choice but to constantly monitor the good and bad news feeds for any news that can affect business decisions.
You may have viewed graphic uncensored video and pics of the killings on social media. But watch out for fake pics from the Rwandan genocide in some cases. Let's verify that they are pics from Ibarapa.
Take Valium if any nightmare persists or take any hot chocolate drink at night so you can have a deeply penetrating sleep and wake up refreshed the next morning!
Okay then, I've got to start rounding off gradually.
Lucrativress: 1.Entrepreneurship 2.Ben Carson's "You Have A Brain" 3.Isn't that the goal? Presently doing that to friends and family for no fee(general life management though)but I have a niche I charge for Oya I'm looking for Clients so that next time I see your question,I will say "I thank God"
1. Entrepreneurship. That's cool! I'm sure you had a 1st class or something close to that from a private uni?
2. You must be a huge Ben Carson fan. I'll get the book you recommended in the new week. I have a lot of financial education, investment, business management, autobiography and biography books in my home library as well, some of which I started accumulating right from the 1980s.
I see you love to read functional books... "Readers are leaders."
3. Lol... Whoo! Really? So what have you done to get more clients to your niche service, and what's the niche YOU charge a premium for? I want to know more to see how I might fit in.
What value added propositions are you offering to clients?
Are you using proper branding and let's say IG Marketing to let more people or potential clients know about your niche market?
I like the fact that you've offered your service for free to gain visibility for your business, but always charge clients because cashflow is the lifeline of any business.
Lucrativress: Yippppeeeeeeeee I don't mind at all Lemme give you 20 for now I'm pretty big on contemporary Gospel I love folk and Jazz,then Rhythm and Blues,a bit of Trap and just other cool beats So lemme give you "not Gospel" I'd take just one Song from each Artist on my Playlists
Imagine Dragon's-I Bet My Life Ali Gatie-What If I Told You That I Love You Asa-Bed Of Stone's Avicii-Friend Of Mine American Author's-Best Day Of My Life Alan Walker-Down(I freaking love this song so so much) Brett Young-Lady Chord Overstreet-Torture Casting Crown's-Does Anybody Hear Her Ed Sheeran-Afire Love One Direction-Fireproof Gavin De Graw-You Got Me Israel Kamakawiwo'ole-Over The Rainbow Jennifer Hudson-Love You I Do Johnny Drille-Papa Mali Music-Make Me Better Phil Collin's-You'll Be In My Heart Alessia Cara-Seventeen Sia-Unstoppable Sigala,Ella Eyre-Came Here for Love Skylar Grey-Stand By Me
Whoo! Lucrativress, just like you, I'm a big fan of Edward 'Ed' Sheeran. I love mind-blowing, evergreen old school music a lot though from the 1960s, 70s, 80s, and 90s.
I love your eclectic music taste... and I like that in a woman... It's called "balance."
A bit of Trap music?! Woah... Lol
I initially thought you would be the extremely conservative type who gravitates to only 'churchy' kinda music and stuff. Now I know better.
Hope that you'll be able to recover your work. Also, you said that you lost your coding stuff. So accept this as a friendly tip so this doesn't happen to you in the future: use GIT and store your codes at GitHub.com or BitBucket.org (github is the most popular one but doesn't allow private gits for free, while bitbucket allows unlimited free gits). It's easy to learn and will save you from this kind of situation plus many more.
matrixme: don't format the disk. Download EaseUS Data Recovery Wizard online, when you do, get across. I will help you with the key. Your data will definitely be recovered, don't panic
Lucrativress: I'm a female abeg Ehn ehn In case you need a PA Don't lemme miss business opportunity abeg I proffer solutions to varieties of human life sectors I'm very easy to work with Into Entrepreneurship and Managerial Science I'm very versatile Ben Carson talked about his PA and how she made his life easy to manage. If you find my opening useful,I would love to manage your new life.
LOL @"I'm a female abeg."
@Lucrativress... 1. What specific course did you study in the uni?
2. In what book title did Ben Carson talk about his PA?
3. So you manage wealthy people professionally for a fee as a PA via Zoom or in face-to-face convo? For real?
Lucrativress: On our way heading Home, we had a little collision with an Okada Driver on speed,got down to check the havoc,didn't know the Phone dropped,drove off to notice it,called severally,a Driver picked up,seems like he saw it with his Passenger's, we pleaded for it to be picked up,cause we weren't far from the Scene,he told us to go somewhere, we did,waited for hour's, kept on calling,spoke with about 3 of the Passenger's. The long and short of it is that,the Driver only pretended to the Passenger's he will drop it,wasted hours of our time till it was obvious he wouldn't, then switched off the Phone. The Phone's pack is still intact with receipt of payment,Phone was last switched on around 8:30pm yesterday night. Please if you render the service of tracking Phone's, abeg let me contact you. This happened yesterday evening till 8:36pm ... abeg
The Phone has documents and personal stuffs on it,some not so retrievable
Hi @Lucrativress Are you doing good? It's been a while.
I mailed you directly 2 Fridays ago, i.e., on May 28. Have you seen what I promised you on the other thread in your mail? Check the inbox or spam folder in case you haven't.
I empathise again with you over the phone loss. I know that feeling too as I stated in the email.
NOTE: As the situation stands, the Nigerian Police are the only body that have the authority to track lost and/or stolen phones using the IMEI number or numbers (if you use a dual SIM phone). The elite Nigerian Police 'IRT Unit' does the tracking and a lot of kidnappers who used stolen phones to make calls have been arrested by the 'IRT Unit' for over 10 years now!
As I said, private individuals are NOT allowed to track their lost mobile phones using the IMEI number in Nigeria except security operatives provided you have the following info:
1. Get a 'Police Report' to help in establishing the solid fact that the phone belongs to you. It will cost you money.
2. Get the IMEI number(s) of the phone (if it is a dual SIM phone, since it's actually 2 phones in 1).
3. Provide an alternate phone number the police (IRT Unit) can reach you for follow ups.
4. Provide the police with your active email.
What else?
Aha! Yes...
You may end up getting to spend more than the total cost of your phone while trying to use the police to track it, but if the contents or documents in your phone are very private and important then you can proceed by making firm enquiries about the police phone tracking using the IMEI number by getting to a major police HQ in Lagos or a major police station.
Also find out about the cost of getting a a formal police report.
RuggedSniper: Aha! It's clearer to me now. That explains the neighbourhood cat in your pic profile. Yup... "Ologbo" in Yoruba means "Cat." Go figure! You're also a "cat with 9 lives." Take care.
The goal of foundational SEO isn’t to cheat or “game” the search engines. The purpose of SEO is to:
Create a great, seamless user experience. Communicate to the search engines your intentions so they can recommend your website for relevant searches. 1. Your Website is Like a Cake
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Your links, paid search, and social media acts as the icing, but your content, information architecture, content management system, and infrastructure act as the sugar and makes the cake. Without it, your cake is tasteless, boring, and gets thrown in the trash.
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2. What Search Engines Are Looking For
Search engines want to do their jobs as best as possible by referring users to websites and content that is the most relevant to what the user is looking for. So how is relevancy determined?
Content: Is determined by the theme that is being given, the text on the page, and the titles and descriptions that are given. Performance: How fast is your site and does it work properly? Authority: Does your site have good enough content to link to or do other authoritative sites use your website as a reference or cite the information that’s available? User Experience: How does the site look? Is it easy to navigate around? Does it look safe? Does it have a high bounce rate? 3. What Search Engines Are NOT Looking For
Search engine spiders only have a certain amount of data storage, so if you’re performing shady tactics or trying to trick them, chances are you’re going to hurt yourself in the long run. Items the search engines don’t want are:
Keyword Stuffing: Overuse of keywords on your pages. Purchased Links: Buying links will get you nowhere when it comes to SEO, so be warned. Poor User Experience: Make it easy for the user to get around. Too many ads and making it too difficult for people to find content they’re looking for will only increase your bounce rate. If you know your bounce rate it will help determine other information about your site. For example, if it’s 80 percent or higher and you have content on your website, chances are something is wrong. 4. Know Your Business Model
While this is pretty obvious, so many people tend to not sit down and just focus on what their main goals are. Some questions you need to ask yourself are:
What defines a conversion for you? Are you selling eyeballs (impressions) or what people click on? What are your goals? Do you know your assets and liabilities?
5. Don’t Forget to Optimize for Multi-Channels
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Keyword strategy is not only important to implement on-site, but should extend to other off-site platforms, which is why you should also be thinking about multi-channel optimization. These multi-channel platforms include:
Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Email Offline, such as radio and TV ads Being consistent with keyword phrases within these platforms will not only help your branding efforts, but also train users to use specific phrases you’re optimizing for.
6. Be Consistent With Domain Names
Domain naming is so important to your overall foundation, so as a best practice you’re better off using sub-directory root domains (example.com/awesome) versus sub-domains (awesome.example.com). Some other best practices with domain names are:
Consistent Domains: If you type in www.example.com, but then your type in just example.com and the “www” does not redirect to www.example.com, that means the search engines are seeing two different sites. This isn’t effective for your overall SEO efforts as it will dilute your inbound links, as external sites will be linking to www.example.com and example.com. Keep it Old School: Old domains are better than new ones, but if you’re buying an old domain, make sure that the previous owner didn’t do anything shady to cause the domain to get penalized. Keywords in URL: Having keywords you’re trying to rank for in your domain will only help your overall efforts.
DianaSanderson4: I think this is great information, thank you for sharing. If you have a website and want to get a lot of clients, then SEO is a great way to do it. If you've read the post and these comments, then you've already understood that SEO is the process of optimizing your online content so that a search engine shows it as a top result for searches of a certain keyword. And if you want to learn more about it, I recommend that you watch Neil Patel's videos, he is an expert in this field. As for me, I realized that the main thing is to find a reliable company that you can trust with your website. For example, I work with these guys https://buyfiverrseo.com/ and I think they know their job very well.
Are you in any way related to the Nigerian-American Aminu brothers, i.e., Alade Aminu and Al-Farooq Aminu of the U.S. NBA? Their paternal grandfather was an Oba in Yorubaland.
Okay, I like your hilarious 'toast OP' "strategy" though. So, now you got me/us to notice you and your art. They are masterpieces.
Based on my experience with women (and admittedly, this is vast ), you tend to see that women tend to always want things their way and will use emotional blackmail to get it if they have to. They are more subjective than men and tend to give priority to their own (e.g. kids), that is why it is hard for a woman to agree for the same punishment she wishes on others for their own kid.
Furthermore, women know that women are more selfish. I think this is a major contributor to woman always having beef with each other and bitching on each other even without knowing each other. And as a guy, you are wondering "why". Men just get along with each other.
The amount of times I am in amazement how my female friends are beefing the person they are smiling with is shocking.
Women are not selfish in situations they know they risk public condemnation. Once you remove the threat of that, they are more likely to act selfishly without a shred of contrition. Absolutely zero contrition because . . . . ."they are the weaker sex" hence they are entitled to misbehave without consequence or responsibility.
Sagamite: What I know is that, women cheat a lot as well. Only amateur and gullible guys don't know that.
It is not about so-called women's "discipline" or "selflessness" or "morals" that prevents their all-out cheating. Women will cheat more if they had as little to lose as men do.
Even I am 100% sure women are more selfish than men, whilst men are more greedy than women.
Both sexes have their good and bad individuals. The bad are way more than the good people. You have to be careful who you choose.
ashacot: Ọnye fee eze... Young man from Enugu state gets settled to the tune of N1,000,000 + credit facilities worth N500,000 after duly completing his apprenticeship with his Boss from Ekwulobia, Anambra state. The business owner also offered to accommodate his ex Apprentice until he is able to get his own accommodation They're not even related..
LieDetector: Maybe you didn't do much to convince her. I created a similar thread coupla weeks ago and I got some good advice from well doing nairalanders relationship wise. Now this is what you do albeit it's going to be hard for you since you believe you "love" her : stop calling her and never pick her calls. Don't respond to her chats and don't chat her up. If possible, get close to any of her friends(female) and just have fun with her. You'd get to see this same girl that declined you looking for ways to crawl back to you.
firstking01: If you think you are bigger than the money she's asking i 'll advice you just help her for humanity sake and pls be strict while giving her the money...don't stand there and be smiling and drooling sheepishly after she tells you thank you in an alluring way cos i know she must give you this inviting look after you give her the money....giving her the money shows you are way out of her league and class....secondly, it'd speak maturity of you giving her the money and wanting nothing in return…we 've all been there....that's a typical attitude of a nigerian girl, after turning you down she 'll still come around to ask you for favour....most of them have no shame....just assist her and walk away and go and look for a berra girl…
Tit for tat not always best policy Show her you are bigger than that.. she will be shocked and also learn.... another guy won't get rejected in that way lol but let it be strictly help and nothing more if you decide to .. if she decides to Apologies then its upto you to forgive or keep it moving after the help ... It will pain her more that you don't like her in that way
Lautechgossip: When it comes to love, and particularly women, men can experience difficulties in deciding if a woman loves them or not.
There are ways to tell if a woman loves you by the way she moves, the way she speaks, and other actions she takes even when she is not with you.
If you are in a new relationship, and don’t know how to interpret the signals you’re getting from the woman you are dating, here are ten signs she loves you:
1. You notice a change in her appearance When it comes to a woman who is in love, you will notice a sudden makeover in the way she looks. Her makeup, hairstyle, clothes and accessories will change as she will do anything to try and impress you.
2. She shows genuine concern for you When a woman falls in love, she will worry about you and won’t be able to stay away if she notices you’re having troubles. She will let you know that she's there for you in case you need her, and she will be deeply concerned and interested in any problems you’re having.
3. She shows you off to family and friends A woman who really loves a man is proud to be with him and can’t wait to show him off to her friends and family. She will constantly talk about you with others and will be deeply interested in wanting to know your parents and your friends.
4. She makes sacrifices for you Another sign that she really loves you is when she takes the time to be with you and to do the things you love to do. It is easy for her when you do the things she likes to do, but if you’ve noticed that she’s given up these normal activities to be with you, it’s an indication that she cares about you a great deal.
5. She talks about the future with you A woman in love will talk very excitedly about the future, making plans regarding it and telling you about the things she wants the two of you to do together. She will make subtle hints while imagining building a future with you in it.
6. She does unexpected, yet pleasant things to surprise you It’s in a woman’s nature to want to give to the people she cares about. If she begins doing things like showing up at your workplace with lunch, buying you meaningful gifts, straightening up around your apartment, cooking you dinner, or helping with your laundry, she is very likely in love with you.
7. She touches you frequently A woman in love enjoys being physically close to the person she appreciates so much, so you should guess her feelings from reading her body language. She will touch you often, rest her hand on your arm, massage your back when you’re together and she might even have goose bumps when she’s near you.
8. You are the only guy she’s focused on If she’s in love with you, she won’t be bothered with dealing with other guys, as you’re now the only one she focuses her attention on.
9. She wants to be around you as much as possible A woman in love won’t think twice about clearing up her busy schedule for you. She will postpone her appointments, be late for meetings, and skip classes at a moments notice to spend as much time with you as possible.
10. She wants to know intimate details about you A woman in love will show a lot of interest in the life of a particular guy, so if she starts being extremely curious, sincerely and profoundly interested in every aspect of your life, asking about your day, wanting to know everything about your childhood, your family, and things that happened in your life that made you the man you are today, it’s a very good indication that she loves you.
kandiikane: Hi guys, I am looking to travel to Nigeria for the Easter but looked into the visa process and it seems quite daunting and long with everything they are asking for.
Ok, here is the thing, I had a Gambian passport for the Uk with the necessary stamps to live there. Acquired my british passport last year but My Gambian passport with all the stamps was lost. I do have a renewed Gambian passport with no stamps to say I have indefinite leave in the uk.
I want to find out whether I can use that renewed Gambian passport to travel from the uk to Nigeria since it's visa free if you hold a Gambian passport or do I have to travel on the UK passport, get a visa and such?
Will the immigration in the UK stop me from travelling on the Gambian passport even if I show them my british passport?
kandiikane: The thing is, even if you tell majority of men you're not interested and want to be friends or nyashing buddy before a date or something, they will still be behind you. In fact, this makes it worst because they'll take it as a challenge and what man doesn't like a challenge.
Sagamite: Now lets look at women and their rules (which they want only guys to adhere to). Their preaching of decency, pricinples and consideration for feelings which they whine about when men do things to their own desire.
Why not just do the principled thing by saying you are sorry but you are not interested and you do not wish to give your number out and you respect them that is why you are telling them and being open and upfront?
Because you are not a "real woman" to "woman up" and be blunt? But you want guys to be "honest" (as you guys love to say)?
Why can't you be a nice person that does not exploit others?
Because you are selfish and only think of yourself and what benefits you? But you demand guys to not think of themselves and their own interest?
Why can't you be "woman enough" to sit him down and say you are not interested anymore? Because you do not have the ballsbooobs to stand in front of someone you know you would upset and take the emotional blackmail?
But you want men to have the balls to tell you it is over so you can emotional blackmail them about all you have done for them and cry all day till they feel like the worst thing ever on Earth?
Thinking of only yourself again and what you will get out of it?
But men are not suppose to think of themselves, they should be real men that think of your interest?
One word: Rude!
But you think you deserve real men that are polite and chivalrous?
I thought women preach to gullible real men that you should end one relationship before starting another and you should commit completely to your partner when you are with them.
But men should not start lining up a new one because that is unfaithful?
Me, me, me!
One rule for him and another more favourable rule for you? What happened to that trust and honesty you whine about?
So why can't women do the right thing but they whine about guys doing the right thing?
Sagamite: 1. Given your correct number/contact details out to a guy but refused to pick up the guy’s call or reply to messages.
2. Given a wrong number/contact details out to a guy.
3. Rude to a guy that approached you simply because you don’t fancy him, not because he did something wrong.
4. Rude to a guy that approached you simply because you wanted to use him to show off/shine in public, not because he did something wrong.
5. Ended a relationship with a guy by starting and/or consistently starting a fight to get him to break up with you or so you can break up with him by saying it is not working out.
6. Cheated on a guy.
7. Gone on a date with a guy (for which he is paying) despite the fact you know you are unlikely to date him, just to have a free day out and get out of the house to be pampered.
8. Lead a guy on despite not being interested just to boost your ego or test your worth in the market.
9. Cancelled a date on a guy at short notice without giving, or even having, a reasonable explanation to [give] him.
10. Already started taking applications (give your number out to guys you like) or lined up another suitor before breaking up with a guy.
11. Harass a guy that you want a type of relationship where you “tell each other everything and where there are no secrets” but yet you have secrets you refuse to share and hide from him after that agreement is made.
12. Break up with a guy (normally a long-term one), because you are not sure or you want the freedom to explore more, but you try and keep him as a friend just in case you need to go back to him.
Is there any woman that can claim she has never done any one of the above?
But they would be the ones whinging and talking about "rules of engagement/decency" and making accusations that challenge your masculinity "you are not a real man; you don't have the balls to be straightforward".
So a real woman is suppose to be cunning, selfish and avoid all responsibilities (provision-wise and morally), while a real man has to be honest, altruistic and take on all responsibilities (provision-wise and moral).
I am sorry, let me correct myself, it is not only them that whinge. Also their mugu lap dogs, whom they part on the back as "real men", join them in whinging and challenging other men to be honest, altruistic and take on all responsibilities (provision-wise and morally).
When you say: "A lot of times(from my personal observation though), most girls will start acting funny; no calls, keeping distance, cancelling dates with unreasonable excuses, telling heavy lies, taking the guy for granted, etc. And these things hurt....they really do!!". Most women don't give a shyt! Guess what they would do if you ever said that in public as a complaint about them? They would challenge your masculinity.
"Maybe you did not know how to keep her" - basically you don't have game.
"Hey-ya, she really dealt with you and you are so bitter" - basically abeg no spoil show for us, stop whining and accept it.
I have studied women to the hilt and I have learnt to do what the fck I want and I am not honest, altruistic nor take on all responsibilities except she can prove to me that she is one of the few that are altruistic, loves the shyt out of you and is an investor. The minute she shows signs that her interest is dropping, enter market and get a new product.
scaredy: I have been married for a year now to a man that is very unattractive. I married him for two reasons
1. My younger ones and friends were all married and I was desperate at 32. 2. He treats me well
He's a good husby but I sometimes get ashamed walking with him because he's very ugly. I'm a pretty girl and when we are in public he's all over me wanting people to know we are together and I see the looks they give us.
I don't mind sleeping with this man and being his wife, I just want the feeling of shame to stop.I know some men don't treat their wife well and I feel lucky mine own does that.
eleojo23: Do you often feel inadequate and “not good enough” to be friends, lovers, or business partners with certain people? You simply can't understand what others see in you. You are very insecure. You end many promising relationships because of insecurity. In your mind, it feels easier for you to end it before they did. Walking away rather than risking the heartbreak of rejection is how you justify this behavior to yourself. I have also been through this in the past. But after awhile, as I grew emotionally, I began to realize that I wanted and needed the comfort and support of long-term relationships (I am not referring to only romantic relationships)
So what did I do, and what can you do if insecurity is damaging your relationships? You need to understand that a good relationship is about sharing ideas and enjoyable moments with another, to help each other grow in healthy ways, both together socially and as individuals. If someone really does treat you poorly or lies and cheats you out of something, feeling insecure is a natural and reasonable response. However, if you’re actually in a generally good relationship with someone, then it’s time to…
1. Stop trying to read minds. Most relationship problems and associated social anxieties start with bad communication, which in turn leads to attempted mind reading. Mind reading occurs when two people assume that they know what the other is thinking when they don’t. This process of wondering and trying to guess what someone is thinking is a rapid route to feelings of insecurity and stress. If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation. Likewise, don’t make the people in your life try to read your mind. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. It’s also important to remember that you aren’t suppose to know every little thing going on in the minds of others, even the people closest to you. When you stop trying to read their minds, you really begin to respect their right to privacy. Everyone deserves the right to think private thoughts. Constantly asking, “What are you thinking?” can provoke a person to withdraw from a relationship to find space.
2. Stop looking for perfect relationships. You will end up spending your entire life hopelessly seeking the right lover and the right friends if you expect them to be perfect. Even worse, the process of doing so will drive you mad, as you feel more and more insecure with every failed relationship that doesn’t live up to your fantasy of perfection. We’re all seeking those special relationships that feel perfect for us, but if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to realize that there are no “perfect people” for you, just different flavors of imperfect ones. That’s because we are all imperfect in some way. You yourself are imperfect in many ways, and you seek out relationships with people who are imperfect in complementary ways. It takes a lot of life experience to grow fully into yourself and realize your own imperfections; and it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest imperfections, your unsolvable flaws – the ones that truly define who you are – that you are able to proficiently select harmonious relationships. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for imperfect people who balance you out – the perfectly imperfect people for you.
3. Stop judging current relationships based on past ones. Think about those times when you passed an unfair judgment on someone merely because they reminded you of someone from your past who treated you poorly. Sadly, some people pass judgments like these throughout the entire duration of their long-term relationships. Simply because they were once in a relationship with someone who was abusive, dishonest, or who left them, they respond defensively to everyone else who gets close to them, even though these new relationships have been nothing but kind and supportive. If you carry old bricks from the failed relationships of your past to your present relationships, you will build the same flawed structures that fell apart before. So if you suspect that you have been making unfair comparisons between your present relationships and a negative one from the past, take a moment and consciously reflect on the hurtful qualities of this old, negative relationship, and then think of all the ways your present relationships differ. This small exercise will help you let go of the old bricks and remind you that past pains are not indicative of present possibilities.
4. Stop inventing problems that don’t exist. Inventing problems in our mind and then believing them is a clear path to self- sabotage. Too often we amuse ourselves with anxious predictions, deceive ourselves with negative thinking, and ultimately live in a state of hallucination about worst-case scenarios. We overlook everything but the plain, downright, simple, honest truth. When you invent problems in your relationships, your relationships ultimately suffer. Insecurity is often the culprit. If you doubt yourself and you don’t realize your own worth, you will pass on any opportunity to let others care for you, and you will remain stuck with the insecurity issues that weigh you down. The insecure passenger does not trust anyone else to drive. They feel out of control. They imagine that the driver is not paying attention. Or they may even fantasize that the slight jolting of the driver stepping on the breaks is a sign of doom via an impending collision. They freak themselves out by assuming that the visions they have invented in their mind represents reality. What you need to realize is that there are normal idiosyncrasies to any relationship. There are ups and downs and mood changes, moments of affection and closeness and moments of friction. These ups and downs are normal. Wanting to be absolutely close and intimate all the time is like wanting to be a passenger in a car that has no driver. Next time you feel insecure, and you catch yourself stressing about problems that don’t exist, stop yourself and take a deep breath. Then tell yourself, “This problem I’m concerned with only exists in my mind.” Being able to distinguish between what you imagine and what is actually happening in your life is an important step towards self-confidence.
5. Stop focusing on the negatives. There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. Even if it seems perfect now, it won’t always be. Imperfection, however, is real and beautiful. The quality of the happiness between two people grows in direct proportion to their acceptance, and in inverse proportion to their intolerance and expectations. It’s how two people accept and deal with the imperfections of their relationship that make it ideal. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to accept everyone into your life even when it is obvious that they are not right for you. But it does mean that if there are occasional difficulties in your relationships, you don’t have to jump to the bold conclusion that the entire relationship is bad, and become so distressed that the relationship ends, or so insecure that the other person questions your intentions. No meaningful relationship will always work flawlessly all the time. Being too black and white about the quality and health of a relationship spells trouble. There will always be difficulties present, but you can still focus on the good. Insecure people constantly look for signs of what’s not working in their relationships. What you need to do is look for signs of what is. Having an appreciation for how remarkable the people in your life are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So notice their strong qualities, cheer for their victories, and encourage their goals and ambitions. Challenge them to be the best they can be. Every day, acknowledge just how amazing they are.
These are things you should apply in your life everyday. Keep on practicing (as I am still practicing) until it becomes part of you.
The floor is yours… Do leave a comment.
Shared from marcandangel.com/2013/06/20/stop-feeling-insecure-in-your-relationships
Food › Re: Nigerian Names Of Herbs And Plants by AlphaSoul: 4:37am On Jul 01, 2021
…we 've all been there....that's a typical attitude of a nigerian girl, after turning you down she 'll still come around to ask you for favour....most of them have no shame....just assist her and walk away and go and look for a berra girl
