Derende: After the struggles and hustles in Nigeria and the way the economic situation is deteriorating in the country I decided to find a way to hustle myself out of the country to seek greener pastures. I have tried processing some Schengen countries visa which yielded nothing I decided to apply for a 90 days tourist visa to Dubai. During the process of making enquiries for the application of the visa, I was getting exhorbitant rate from agents who wanted to help in processing the visa, what surprised me most to my jaw was when an agent In Dubai told me to pay 600,000naira for a three month visa. So I decided to go online to source for agents who will do the job for me with a reasonable fee. After about three days searching the internet, I finally came across a guy from Uganda who did the three months visa for a fee not up to 150k, infact I was amazed when he told me the amount that I should transfer to him because I have never heard of such amount before, so I thought maybe this was another scammer in disguise. But after much deliberation I decided to give it a try by risking it and behold after a space of three days the visa came out with the insurance. After doing my due diligence and verifying the visa online by confirming the geniunity of the visa, I discovered that the visa was a confirmed 90 days visa. Infact I was really amazed that if someone from Uganda that I haven't met physically can do a visa for me at such amount there are still sincere people in Africa unlike some of our brothers that were calling exhorbitant fees just for a three month Dubai visa.
Derende: Good day everyone, I will be using this thread to carefully narrate my 30 days sojourn from Cotonou to the city of Dubai to enable those that are yet to make the trip or are already on their way to learn a lot from my terrible experience and the breakthrough of overcoming all odds to finally travel into Dubai.
During my write-up my audience will know all the secrets surrounding the journey and the way agents frustrated alot of Nigerians who travelled through same road. It is a true life experience filled with tears, frustrations and a bit of happiness sandwiched in between. Let me not bore you with long talks just relax as I take you on a journey I kicked off from Benin city, Nigeria on the 12th of April 2021 that culminated into a 30 days trip.
P.s: kindly note that during the course of my experience in Cotonou there are some discussion I won't be able to dwell much on due to violating any of the nairaland rules, and also mind some of the typographical errors and just decode the message am giving out.
You did well by sharing your hair-raising travel experience to Dubai with others.
ChangeIsCostant: A Nigerian has been left stranded in Kenya after travelling to the east African country to visit his girlfriend. The man identified as Abdbdulhakim who revealed that he is married, visited his Kenyan girlfriend in Mombasa before he was allegedly drugged and his belongings stolen.
Abdbdulhakim whose family is based in Dublin, Ireland, said he visited the country on Friday, July 13, and checked into Paroma Guest House in Bamburi where he stayed for nine days before the robbery incident.
While narrating his ordeal to journalists, he claimed CCTV footage from the hotel revealed he was robbed by female guests who had also checked into the guest house after him.
Below is what he said during the interview with journalists.
"I am in Kenya on tour to see my girlfriend Rose Aridi, I came to Mombasa on July 13, 2018, and checked into a hotel called Paroma Guest house around Bamburi," narrated the distraught tourist. "After 9 days I was robed by another guest in that hotel, two ladies, to my surprise CCTV footage revealed that this lady actually robbed me and my friends".
"The woman was banging until another female guest came to open, and this female guest had been at the guest house even before the others checked in. Before the lady opened my door the manager had also arrived."
"They told me they could not compensate me, I have been stranded here I need to talk to my family, my wife and kids live in Dublin, I have no access to them, I can not call them... this is national degrading by Kenya"..
played with them? You might think it is "played" but they thought different. When i used to work at Macdonald. We slept with each other one after the other but every of the sex was consented. No one claimed rape or otherwise. I have also work else where amongst females after working at macdee.. we chat and all of that but NO! Touching or suggestive talks. I asked some of them out and they said NO! That was it i didn't perssuade or try to coerce them. We carried on with our work as colleagues. Perhaps you behaved different from what they would call norm..
German women can be cruel especially to black men. Here in the UK they are a bit loose with black men..
mzjaney: Ghana has become the second country after Belgium to use ‘The Walking Egg’ (TWE) technology to produce a baby. A couple who had been childless for eight years were able to bring to the world a healthy baby boy on their third attempt with the technology at the Pentecost Hospital at Madina in Accra.
The baby boy, weighing 3.3 kilogrammes has brought a lot of joy to the couple and other relatives and friends who had thronged the hospital to witness the feat.
The Walking Egg The TWE technology is a form of in-vitro fertilisation (IVF) method that allows the sperm of a man and the egg of a woman to fertilise outside the body for about two to five days.
The fertilised egg is then given back to the woman to carry till the delivery period.
The technology was developed by a team of Belgian fertility experts, led by Professor Willem Ombelet, and has so far produced 83 babies in Belgium.
It is one of the three forms of artificial fertility treatment. The two others are intra-uterine insemination (IUI) and intra-cervical insemination (ICI), in other words, intra-vaginal insemination.
The Medical Administrator of the Pentecost Hospital, Dr Gordon Nii Armah Attoh, told the media on Monday that the hospital worked in collaboration with the team in Belgium to introduce the affordable IVF, which also went through cycles similar to the natural way of becoming pregnant and delivering babies.
“Unlike the conventional IVF known to people, the TWE has minimal medication for stimulation and does not require any sophisticated medication to see its success,” he said.
He added that the TWE method was relatively made cheaper for the clients as the facility organised the process in groups, adding that there were plans to advance the technology with the introduction of other methods of treatment to assist couples who would need children in future.
Cost The Chief Executive Officer of the ACCOG and fertility counselor, Nana Yaw Osei, said: “the cost for the TWE has been reduced from GH¢20,000 ($4,500) per cycle to about GH¢6,000($1,500) to make it affordable for all childless couples”.
He further urged the government and corporate bodies to provide support by subsidising some of the equipment used in the process.
BluntBoy: I did nothing to her o. The relationship was turbulent. She was very manipulative and possessive. I couldn't take it anymore so I told her. She went away calmly, saying she would respect my wish. Deep inside me then, I just knew that she would not leave like that without a fight but when four days passed without drama, I became relaxed and even began to think of visiting family members that I had abandoned because of her jealousy. It was when I was in the bus coming back home from my godmother's that she told me what she had done.
BluntBoy: What about the violent ones. My ex duplicated my key, entered my house, smashed my TV and Xbox and so many other things. She tore nearly all the books in my personal library, including the ones I had kept since I was a child. Then she deflated my tires and broke all the car windows. All these while I was away to see my godmother. And yes, she even broke my mom's portrait (a portrait she knew that I cherished so much). As if that is not enough, what she does now, is to call me and ask me to talk to her new man. I always gladly did and it would pepper her so much that sometimes she would start calling me the worst boyfriend she has ever had. Very violent woman!!
She loved you... but she vented her emotional pain in a negative way to regain your attention. It is the reason why she called you "the worse boyfriend she has ever had," while telling you to speak to her so-called new man to get you jealous. Lol
Knegoyon: When will Nigeria stop wearing wigs looking like fools to the entire world?
I came across this article look how we look totally stupid to the world.
Check this article out and check out more pictures here: Is now the time to remove wig wearing as part of court dress in Africa’s Commonwealth of Nations and those in the Caribbean?
LMAO! The white wigs and black overalls look excessive and ridiculous. It's just for showing off IMHO.
Why not wear special suits for men and skirt suits for female lawyers while maintaining a client-friendly but conservative nature of the legal profession which does not give room for loud publicity.
uche13: Hey Lawyers, let us meet in here and discuss the various funny experiences we encounter on a daily basis in court. Abeg let us leave all the wahala and stress associated with the profession and have a good laugh in here. Let me start!
Some lawyers ehn! This week before a Lagos state high court judge sitting at the commercial division a lady lawyer stood up and the following discussion ensued.
Lawyer girl- most respectfully my lord, I am……appearing for the…my lord, this matter was adjourned for report of service but unfortunately we have been unable to serve the process (the judge interjects) Judge- Counsel which process were u unable to serve? Counsel-she frantically searches the file and stupidly says “My lord I am not fully familiar with the facts of the case” . Judge: “My ruling: suit adjourned till counsel is seized with the facts of the case” What rubbish, how can a lawyer come to court to report service and say she is not seized with the facts of the case? Why then did u come to court? I wonder what she would go back to tell her boss in the office .
Actually I have witnessed this particular incident in court and when the judge asked for the process the counsel couldn’t serve she went ahead to say after searching her file that she seeks to rely on the court’s record. Imagine!
This one actually happened to a friend of mine though she is now a law guru. She was just recently called to bar and her wig was stll all shiny. You know what I mean . She was asked by her boss to appear in court and move a motion and she practiced hard all night and was determined to pull it through successfully the next day at court . This is what happened.
Judge: hmm new wig!(obviously seeing her new wig) you are welcome to the bar. Lawyer: thank you my lord. I am… appearing for the…. My lord, we have a motion for… and we are ready to move subject to your lordships convenience.
Defendant’s counsel : my lord, though the Claimant has a motion, we have filed a P.O challenging the court’s jurisdiction.
Lawyer: (she obviously not understanding what that meant went on to say) My lord, I am ready to move my motion.
Judge: Ehn counsel! Are you sure you are still able to move your motion (The judge was saying this considering the fact that the defendant had filed a P.O which is to be taken before her motion but my friend not understanding and in view of the judge earlier calling her a new wig went on to say) Lawyer: my lord, I can move this motion, I am capable, I have been called to the Nigerian bar as a Barrister and solicitor of the Supreme court blab la bla.
mhisbliss: 1. they become your enemy when you reject their advances and you suddenly become ugly, some take it as far as harassing and raining obscenities on you.
2. They get intimidated and insecure when you make more money than them, but treat you like a dependent gold digger if you make less or nothing at all.
3. B!tch whenever they spend peanuts on you, and act like they're doing you a favour, you're the one who flaunted your money and offered to spend it on me, should I pay for a date you asked me on? Those who would say my dad doesn't own a rangerover so I shouldn't want a guy who owns one, I'm trying to live more comfortable than my dad, it'll be foolish to seek such lifestyle with a man who's lesser than my dad, common sense.
4. They always ask for your number after every conversation, even harmless ones that has casual written all over it, so they can pester your life.
5. Expect you to always reciprocate their advances or end up coercing and pestering you until you agree, because you asked me out I should just say yes, I might be into someone else, I might be in a relationship, I might not be ready for a relationship, or I simply don't like you, my feeling doesn't have a switch that I can turn it on or off whenever I want.
6. They're always nice for a reason, even when they don't ask for payback outrightly, they'll sure ask for it later on.
7. They mistake every gesture as a greenlight, you smile that's a greenlight, you wave its a greenlight, you reply messages its a greenlight, you don't, you're a proud mannerless snub
8. Give them a mile, they take two, visit them at home, its a go ahead to take it to second base, resist, and you might end up getting raped.
9. Lie amongst themselves that they've dated and even slept with you just to feel fly as they get cheers
10. Assume you're sleeping around as long as it aint them you're sleeping with
11. Take back everything they got you when it was all lovey dovey when things go wrong
12. Get on their bad side and things you did in private is online for everyone, anything just to slut shame you, some even go as far as blackmail, how lowly.
14. kiss and tell
15. seeing girls as intimacy gadgets
16. Using marriage promises to keep her inline, if you know you have no intention of putting the ring(branded handcuff) on it, let her go without wasting her time, its not an achievement or a do or die affair.
17. One lover at a time please, have conscience or grow one.
18. Don't classify all girls as slayqueens, I doubt you even know what it means.
I have a friend he is every good thing but overbearing. He kept that part till we started dating. I don't have issues with a man wanting to be a man but when he does it to the extent your opinions don't count again and if you do otherwise even when you are right, it gets him angry. Shouldn't it be a thing of concern?
I've been feeding his ego but I think its getting out of hand. The relationship is getting serious but my fears have started building and im beginning to ask myself if I can cope??
Please help a sister, what can I do to stop this? Married women in the house with husbands with such traits how do you cope?
Should have have learnt from my parents but my father is the exact opposite and with my observations, his dad is also overbearing his sisters at always complaining.
Alwaysachick: I've been seeing this guy since we got introduced to last May. First off he asked me if I was in any relationship and I said no. So we kicked off got intimate within 2 weeks. Happened he was a virgin and that was his second relationship.
He is into me for reasons I can't figure out, but he is very unstable and unsure. Before we got intimate, I felt we were already dating, but after that the constant highs and lows made me ask him again and he said he cares about me, but he is not ready for something serious now. I love to respect peoples decisions and not clingy so I let him be.
He kept coming around, he always needed one help or the other cuz he was new to the area. Sometimes when he ask for help, he says he will pay but for where, I just felt he didn't want to raise my hopes.
I told him off severally, but he kept coming, same high and low, we get intimate once in a while. Personally, I love this guy but couldn't say if it was mutual.
So fast forward to last week, he gave me his tab to help him do some work. So in the course I playfully went to his photos and saw nothing but as an old girl in the game, I went to his recycle and saw romantic pictures with a girl at the beach. The only thing is they didn't kiss but everyother thing termed romantic was in the pictures. That same beach event, but alone, he tagged it on Instagram as " create time for love".
I asked him who the girl was and he told me it was his friend from Abuja that just came him so he was showing her around town. I'm an outdoor freak, I've suggested to take him to the beach but he turns down that he doesn't like the beach.
He also claimed the girl is his friend's girlfriend and that his how they all play with their girlfriends.
Another, was a post of a delivered cake on Instagram to someone in Abuja. Quote" I owe you roses for every breath you take" he said it was to his cousin that she was having a bad day.
At the peak of the argument he said i should stop calling him a liar and I can think whatever I want he doesnt owe me any explanation.
I even had to call his close friend who introduced him which I have never done before to know if he was in a relationship but he said no ofcourse I didn't expect him to say otherwise.
So later the day I sent him a text of appreciation for the decit because he never wanted to commit and never wanted to go.After reading, he blocked me. Its three days now, he is yet to unblock me.
I really want to know if I should just move on or apologise for calling him a liar. Or was I wrong to have concluded he was in an affair.
I want genuine suggestions please I'm still heart broken.
uche13: I am going to start by saying that I am a christian who believes in the principle of "two becoming one" in marriage. But I have been asking myself of late on the necessity to be very open in a relationship and marriage. So I am asking for matured inputs and advice please.
I was raised up in a home where my parents are very open to each other. I mean 100 percent open. Same applies to my partner who reminds me so much of my dad in this regard . While it could take a lot of whining to get me to talk, he is very open. He hides nothing and I have the passwords to his email, access to his phone et al. His principle is that anything anyone does not want my wife to know, do not bother telling me because I believe in oneness (we are still engaged though).
My issue is this, there are somethings that I believe should not be revealed or in its entirety for the sake of preserving relationships. For example, before my parents gave their consent to our union, they voiced some concerns which were normal. I could not go on and tell him everything because the truth is that I know it may affect his relationship with them in the future even though from my point of view and that of my siblings, it is not easy giving out your last child without reservations. But now they have wholeheartedly accepted him.
I remember when my brother was getting married, his wife too who believes in "I must tell my husband everything" was always telling him all what her parents were saying. Even during the wedding preparations which we know always causes a percentage of friction between the two families, she told him everything eg "mummy said I should not always discuss everything with you, I should have a secret account, how can she say a thing like that" etc. Everyone was praising her in my family that the girl knows how to marry, she adores my brother and tells him everything but at the long run, I have noticed the way my brother has changed towards his inlaws unlike how it was initially. This is natural with or without his planning it. But her relationship with her parents is still intact.
The truth is that blood is thick and no matter what my mum says or does to me that is seemingly so hurting, by the next day or two, I would have forgotten but this does not apply to people who do not have a blood relationship.
This is just an example though, so I am asking, are there times when one is supposed to shut up and filter information from ones spouse or should it be a case of 100 percent openness and honesty?
Famousbabe: Police In London Brought Out A Yoruba Police Officer To Warn Yoruba Women About...
Metropolitan Police in London brought out a Yoruba police officer to warn the Yoruba women living in London to stop calling the Police on the fathers of their children.
So that the children who obviously have no fathers active in their lives, would stop being victims and perpetrators of knife crimes.
Watch video HERE and what Nigerians are saying about this.
Blessograo: So here it it! I'm a medical student and just diagnosed of PCOS.
PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) is a ovarian syndrome obviously which is no 1 common syndrome in women, in a group of women gathered you have 21% chance for finding someone with PCOS. symptoms includes irregular or a self Menstruation, weight gain due to insulin resistance, anxiety, depression, insomnia, increased amount of Androgen level which is one of the male hormone causing hair loss (baldness or male hair pattern) or excess hair growth, eating disorders and even frequent mood swings. Complications includes increased risk of having diabetes, heart disease, uterine cancer and infertility. With all the symptoms mentioned above you only need to show 2 to 3 symptoms for you to be diagnosed of PCOS. Now my story is I've had PCOS since high school and wasn't diagnosed of it because it's takes 5 to 6 good doctors to discover a patient with PCOS and for me no one has been able to diagnose me of that until last week that my one of my lecturers called me aside having seen I added 20kg in 2 years, yes you read that right 20kg and probably still going to add more if I didn't use my medication and luckily there are tons of medications for PCOS which includes birth control pills, and Every Woman and the most important which is the one I will be starting soon is METFORMIN. If you think you have PCOS go see a doctor and make sure you it is recommended before you use it. Don't forget to change your diet, drink more water and less sugary drinks.
METFORMIN: Helps to balance your hormone, reduce the weight gained easily, reduced food intake and side effects includes nausea causing you to throw up easily. PLEASE HELP ME TAKE CARE OF OUR LADIES BY PUSHING THIS TO THE FRONT PAGE.
Wow! Great post. Coincidentally I saw a program yesterday night about a delectable woman who has has PCOS. She wrote a novel called "BOLATITO" that deals with PCOS and more.
I have a better knowledge of this issue now as a man.
NaijaSlate: Most of the time, you want to know more about someone but you are short of questions to ask them. Rather than using the over-used ''Tell me more about yourself'' and sounding like an idiot, you could use any of these instead
1. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself? 2. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? 3. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up? 4. What is your idea of having a good time? 5. What are you most thankful for in life? 6. What’s your biggest regret in life? 7. What do you think about when you’re by yourself? 8. Do you think a guy and a lady can be best of friends? 9. Would you ever take back someone who cheated on you? 10. When do you think a person is ready for marriage?
Any of the above questions will definitely lead to a deeper and more interesting conversation. so... you are free to try them out on this beautiful day
Getting to know a girl more than just what’s on the surface can be difficult at first. But these deep questions to ask a girl reveals who she really is.
Girls like to do this thing where we withhold a lot of information about ourselves when we first meet someone. We could even be a month or two into the relationship before we even divulge HALF of who we really are. We feel protective of ourselves, and it can
take time to open up to people. That is why you need to know these deep questions to ask a girl.
That being said, it can make trying to get a girl really hard for certain fellas. You may think you’re asking all the right questions only to end up with the same runaround answer shortly thereafter. So how do you truly get to know the girls you’re talking to?
The benefits of knowing someone deep down
How many people in your life can you say that you REALLY know? I’m talking about if it were life or death, could you answer a question the exact same way they would? There are probably very few people you know this way and if I’m assuming correctly, you have a really good relationship with those people.
The benefits of knowing someone deep down can mean the difference between a successful relationship and a relationship that’s only skin deep. When you know someone for who they really are, you know that you’re with them for all the right reasons.
Deep questions to ask a girl to reveal her true self
All in all, girls are by far the hardest people to get to open up–even if we like to talk a lot. We keep ourselves very hidden to protect ourselves from getting hurt. It’s just how we are, and it can be really frustrating for you to get to know us.
Luckily, there are ways to get us to dish our deepest darkest desires without having to wait months on end. All you have to do is ask the right questions to unearth who we really are. These deep questions will do the trick and show you who she really is.
#1 What’s your worst fear? This one is often asked in a joking manner and girls usually end up saying something like, “spiders,” “snakes”, “ghosts”, or things that aren’t very serious. Make sure you get the REAL answer out of her
#2 If you won a million dollars, what would you spend it on? This tells you a lot about her character. Many materialistic people would buy cars and mansions, but if she says something like, “give it to charity,” or something with more meaning she’s probably a better person.
#3 If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why? This may not seem like a deep question, but it could tell you a lot about what type of person she is: good or bad.
#4 If you could be anywhere right now, where would you want to be? This will tell you more than you would ever hope to know about her goals in life and her true desires. You can learn if she’s a traveler or maybe if she would rather be with distant family.
#5 What kinds of things make you happy cry? This is one of those deep questions to ask a girl that can help you see what types of things she values the most. If something makes her cry with happiness, it is VERY important to her.
#6 What’s your biggest passion in life? Most people ask, “What do you like to do?” but that can be much different than what someone’s biggest passion is. Find out hers, and you’ll know WAY more about her that what’s just on the surface.
#7 What would you wish to accomplish in life if you could only accomplish one thing? Asking her this deep question helps you understand the single most important hope she has out of life.
#8 Where do you see yourself in 20 years? If you want to know what this girl has planned for herself, asking her what she thinks her life will be like in 20 years is a great way to find out if you two are compatible.
#9 Are you a spiritual person? Religion can be a very touchy subject for some people and asking if someone is spiritual helps you uncover their beliefs and even their views on the world. Spiritual people also tend to be more in touch with themselves, and they care more deeply for others.
#10 How often do you see your best friends? Finding out how much a girl values those in her life that she loves can be discovered with this deep, yet simple question.
#11 How often do you see your family? This is another way to find out just how much her family means to her, and that can help you discover whether or not you’re truly compatible.
#12 What’s one thing you wish you could do differently in your life so far? Everyone has made mistakes and everyone has something that they wish they could’ve done differently. Knowing what hers is will help you understand where her life has been and where she wants to go.
#13 What’s one thing that no one else knows about you? Many people are never asked this question and yet they all have something to answer it with. This helps her open up to you, and you’ll find out something very important to her.
#14 Who is your biggest influence in life? This is a great question to ask simply because it shows you what type of person she really is by knowing who she is influence by.
#15 What do you value the most? Asking her this deep question is very important in discovering if both of your values line up or if she has a much different outlook on life.
#16 What did you want to be when you were a little girl? This one is almost sure to get a smile out of her. Not only will you help bring her back to simpler
If He Possesses Most Of These Traits, Consider Marrying Him.
1. He doesn't Force Himself On You.
2. He Shares His Life Goals/Visions with you to have your Opinions.
3. He is not a Drunk (you know what these ones are capable of doing)
4.He loves you passionately.
5.He pays rapt attention to your complains & find/ suggest's possible way out's.
6.He is not a Fault Finder.
7. He is not quick at getting angry.
8.He doesn't Hit you.
9.He doesn't Spend irrelevantly.
10.He adhere's to most of the (+)advice you give him.
11.He doesn't Harass you in Public.
12. He talks about settling down with you.
13. He doesn't take actions all alone, he considers your opinions before making any move.
14. He talks more often on where, how and what to Invest on.
15. He talks more about the future.
17. He talks to you about moderate dressing.
18. He is always interested in your family's well-being.
19. He introduces you to his friends/colleagues not just as a Gf but as a potential wife.
Mehn my ink don finish i can go on and on and on, believe me there are good guys out there that exudes most of these traits, though most of 'em are introverts buh they're good.
ubunja: This is a clap-back thread to some lame loser low-achieving thread advising men to marry women over 25.
men who dont compromise on quality will agree with me ,women will obviously be pissed and beta woman-worshipping men will call me immature. its OK.just dont cuss too much or i will hunt you down and take it slowly with a machete... 
1.remember girls mature earlier than boys.by 16 a girl is ready biologically to give birth.since we dont want to be called Pedophiles we will let them be for 3 more years then go in when they are 19. and to prove that girls are ready at that time you will notice at that age-group they shun their same-age boys and focus on men in their late 20s, even 30s. if a girl matured at 16 but you only marry her after 25 what do you think she has been doing all this time?IF A GIRL IS OLD ENOUGH TO VOTE AND DRINK BEER AT 18 WHY WAIT ANOTHER 7 YEARS TO MARRY HER?
2.remember women lose value with age.time is a woman's greatest enemy and a man's greatest friend.by 35 women are using more and more makeup and hairdye but at 35 a man has just come into his own.he is confident enough to be who he is without apology.he flaunts that bald head and rock that beard like a boss.MEN AGE LIKE WINE WOMEN AGE LIKE MILK.
3.remember at that age the girl is poor.which means you are the knight that saves her.whats the point of dating a 30something woman with everything?she doesnt need you and will walk away at any time.thats why highly educated rich women are always single or are divorced.RELATIONSHIPS THRIVE WHEN THE WOMAN IS FINANCIALLY DEPENDED ON THE MAN.
4.remember a younger woman has not dated a lot so her heart has not been savaged too much by men.there is a reason why most feminists are older women and why its older women who come up with slogans like "men are dogs"etc. they have been broken-hearted too much.when you date her she brings that into the relationship. but young girls are innocent.love and sex are still new to her and even the sight of a n@ked man is still magical to her. A FRESH BROOM SWEEPS BETTER THAN AN OLD BROOM.
5.remember even God Himself chose a young girl to be the mother of Jesus.why would you think you are better than God and choose a woman in her 30s to be the mother of your kids?? LEARN FROM GOD.THE YOUNGER THE BETTER.
men wake up or you will be the Retirement Plan for these women who sleep around through-out their 20s and only settle when men start ignoring them in favour of younger girls.
cheers.
EDIT:
Remember gents the 4 rules of Dating:
1.never date any gal fatter than your mama
2.never date any gal less prettier than your young sister
3.never date any gal darker in skin complexion than you
PROLOGUE. You have seen it before in your hood. A pretty girl has all the men hitting on her and trying to impress her with money and things. She ignores them. Or plays them. Because she's got her eye on some insignificant nonentity of a Guy. As hard to get as the girl is for other men, this nobody of a Guy gets her attention easy. He makes her laugh easy. He impresses her easy. Much to the anger and confusion of all the other men who know they are better by far than the Guy.
Now, what does the Guy have that all the other men don't have that has cast a spell on the girl?
nothing.
The guy is simply chosen.
MOYO MUTI UNOMERA PAUNODA. In the Zimbabwean Shona language we have a saying: "Moyo muti unomera paunoda" - The heart is like a tree that grows where it chooses.
We can't predict where a plant will grow. A plant will grow in the most favorable places like river banks and rain forests. But it will also grow in the least favorable places like deserts and cracks on a pavement and against all odds thrive.
Same with love.
Love is emotions and emotions are Unpredictable. Like the Unpredictable growth of plants. Love flourishes in the most favorable places but it will also flourish in the least favorable places. "Moyo muti unomera paunoda" - The heart is like a tree that grows where it chooses. In other words, "The heart wants what the heart wants". And whom the heart wants is the Prize.
GET A GIRL TO RESPECT YOU. So much has been said about how women no longer respect men. How women no longer submit and put men in their rightful place as the Head.
Women were born to follow. Men were born to lead. But, remember followers choose the leader. Not the other way round. We vote for our leaders. Our leaders don't vote for us.
It's the same with women and respect.
If your girl doesn't respect you there's precious little you can do to make her respect you. You played the game backwards. You were supposed to find a girl who respected you already then make her your girl. But instead you found a girl, made her your GF then tried to make her respect you. It doesn't work that way.
You don't make a girl respect you. That's impossible. Girls respect whoever they think is worthy of respect. What you do is You find a girl who respects you already and make her your girl. This way there's no struggle to earn anything because everything is already given. Just like how God loved us before we were born and there's nothing we did to earn His love. God loves us because He CHOSE us. That is true love. A girl must love you because she chose you. Not because you did anything to earn her love. Love must not be earned.
Same with respect.
If a girl already thinks you're respectable then you're a thousand steps ahead of every other guy trying to earn her respect because in love NOTHING must be earned.
Men do many things backwards... A man will meet a Scantily Dressed girl, fall in love then try to make her wear long dresses. It won't work. She'll tell you it was the miniskirts and minidresses that made you love her, why must she now change. What you must do is find a decently dressed girl if you want a decently dressed wife. Anyways, it will be far easier to make a decent girl dress sexy than to make a ho dress decently. You can't turn a ho into a housewife but you can turn a housewife into a ho. Remember every girl is looking for a guy she can be bad for.
MY STORY. I found my babymama a virgin at about 23.
She was strict and many guys had tried their luck with her and failed. But when she met me she practically handed herself to me. Winning her heart was so effortless. And she's still the easiest girl I ever fvcked. And I fvcked her so much that within months she gave me a baby.
One day a friend visited us and was shocked to see my GF kneel down to serve me food. (God is my Witness) When we were alone my friend said I must be hitting my GF that's why she served me food kneeling. I was offended. Because I never asked anyone to kneel for me. And I explained this to him but I could see he was not convinced.
Two years after breaking up I met my babymama and I wanted to check something on her phone but there was a password (she never used to put passwords). I asked for the password and she replied "it's your name". I didn't believe it but typed it anyways. And the phone unlocked!!!. I was surprised.
A few months ago this year, I went to see her because I missed my daughter and she (my babymama) said, "Whatever you're doing, when you get tired of it, I will be waiting for you". I didn't reply. Then she told me our daughter was grown and she needed a brother. Guess what? I will give her another baby soonest!
We have an inside joke where I tell her she can't move on cause I cast a spell on her. She laughs hard at it.
Why am I telling you all this??
I'm telling you this Because I did NOTHING to get this girl to fall so deep in love with me. I didn't campaign. I didn't spend a cent. I didn't buy her anything. Not even. What happened is one simple thing that was beyond even my control: I FITTED THE DESCRIPTION OF THE TYPE OF GUY SHE WANTED. Simple.
Whatever this girl saw in me she liked it. I didn't put any effort to make her like me. She just liked me. I was her type. Was she my type? No. She was from the wrong tribe. And was too reserved for my liking. BUT I WAS HER TYPE. That was what mattered. And I ran with that. I didn't even know she was a virgin. She kept it a secret until the moment I took out my dick.
The moral of the story is this: If a girl loves you first you are the Prize. If a woman likes you first you are the Trophy. And there's very little you can do wrong in her eyes. She'll always excuse your behavior. Someone who likes you without you doing anything to impress them, is someone who'll find it hard to stop liking you when you do something to disappoint them. If your actions didn't create the love, your actions can't destroy the love. Because it's never about your actions, but about YOU.
UNDERSTANDING WHAT IT MEANS TO BE THE PRIZE OR TROPHY. Any guy can be the Prize or the Trophy to a girl. But there's a very particular way of going about it. You have to play the game right.
There are three things that make a trophy a trophy:
1. A Trophy Is Perfect As Is.
This is the most important thing. The less you do yet the more you impress a girl, a girl you impress the most by doing the least to the point that you impress her TOTALLY by doing TOTALLY NOTHING is the girl with whom you have a realistic chance of being the Prize.
The only girl you should give a chance is that girl so breathtaken, so infatuated with you that she thinks you are the Prize, for simply breathing. And nothing more. The way a trophy is seen perfect AS IS. So also a girl must see you perfect AS IS. That way there's no spending, pretending, lying and campaigning to earn her affection.
In love NOTHING must be earned.
2. A Trophy Doesn't Choose Who Wins It.
Take for example a football trophy. It doesn't choose what quality of teams get to compete for it. Or what quality of team will take it home. The only way the trophy can get itself won by a decent level team is to be a trophy of a decent football league. A minor league trophy will be won by minor league teams unless it becomes a major league trophy then it will be won by a major league team.
As a trophy you attract your level. If you don't like the level of women you're attracting then improve and elevate to a higher level. Then higher level women you'll attract.
3. A Trophy Loves No One.
A trophy or a prize may be dreamed of and fantasized about by many, but itself it fantasizes and dreams of no one. A trophy doesn't compete for anyone. It is competed for. A trophy doesn't love anyone. It is loved.
In love, the one who loves less is the trophy.
In all my dealings with women, the breakups that have hurt the most and made me cry the longest were with those women I myself chose, pursued and won. I was too invested. I begged the most and accommodated the greatest. I was the trophy holder. And when the trophy left - as all trophies do when a better competitor appears - I was left devastated.
Look back at all your Exes and you'll see a pattern: The girls you were hurt the most to breakup with were the ones you chased and pursued the hardest. While the girls who brought themselves to you, it was easy not only to get them but also to breakup with them, because YOU were the prize.
UNDERSTAND YOU ARE THE PREY. The greatest reason guys don't become trophies is guys have made themselves the Hunters.
A hunter can never be a trophy.
Do you know something called Trophy Hunting? (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trophy_hunting) It is the hunting of animals for sport . And the ANIMALS that are hunted and shot are the trophies. Not the hunters. The Prey is the Trophy.
The Lion is king of the Jungle but who hunts? The Female lion. The hunter is not the King. The hunter is the chaser and the chaser has no value.
WHO'S THE TROPHY? It's always easy to see who's the trophy and who's the hunter in any couple.
Who is more "needy"? On the streets, In photos who is always grabbing the other? Who always has their hand or arm around the other person? That's the hunter. The hunter has no value.
Look at any pictures of rich men or male celebs and stars and you'll see the WOMAN is always the one grabbing the man. Because the woman is the hunter and the man is the trophy.
Whereas pictures of ordinary couples have the MAN grabbing the woman, because the man is the hunter and the woman is the trophy.
WOMEN ARE THE PREDATORS. The easiest way to get that girl who will worship and put you on a pedestal is for you to understand Women are the Hunters. Not men.
Girls are the Predators and boys are the Prey. God brought Eve to Adam. Eve was the hunter. Adam the prey.
Also Women have the pussy and the Womb. Lovemaking and babymaking are their jurisdiction. Weak as they are it is they who ultimately decide who gets to have sex and who gets to be born.
As a man understand and allow for that.
THE PREY IS THE PRIZE. Seek and you shall find. And that which you'll find is the Prize. Not you. You are not the Prize. People go looking for treasure. Treasure doesn't go looking for people. We compete for a trophy, the trophy doesn't compete for us.
Whatever you seek/search for/look for, is the Prize. Whether that's a job, a place, an item or a person. It's the Prize. It's more important than you. And you can lose it to a better person than you.
Once you search, once you hunt, once you seek, the other person becomes the Prey. And the Prey is the Prize.
Remember the Prey can live without the Predator but the Predator needs the Prey to survive. The lion needs the gazelle and the kudus or it perishes. The gazelle and the kudus just need grass. So what's valuable? The prey or the predator? The Prey. The Prey is the Prize.
LET GIRLS CHOOSE. We all have a "type". Or a "kind". Of a person who always catches our eye. We know what turns us on when we see it. That image of what turns us on is what we fantasize about and even masturbate to. Especially women. Women daydream a lot about love.
As a man, your security and longevity with a girl depends on how closely you fit the "type" and kind" of the guy she fantasizes about. The closer you align to her desire, the nearer you are to what she daydreams about, the smoother things will be for you because the more satisfied she'll be with you and the less inclined she'll be to cheat.
But you can't read minds and you don't know what a girl's fantasy is. You can't read hearts and you've no clue as to her desire. So how do you achieve the impossible and match a girl's fantasy and desire?
It's simple: YOU WAIT TO BE CHOSEN.
Wait for the girl whose fantasy matches what you are. Wait for the woman who desires a man like you. Wait for her to choose you. This way you are chosen AS YOU ARE. Without any need to do anything to impress anyone.
VIDEO. The Pastor in the video below knows and understands the game. He knows women must choose. Watch and see how things must be done. See how much easier it is for men when women do the choosing:
The attention and affection of a woman must never be earned, bought, paid for, fought for or struggled for. It must come freely WITHOUT you doing anything but breathing.
VIDEO ANALYSIS. Now, on the video above, WHO IS THE PRIZE? The women who did the choosing or the men who waited to be chosen? Its the men of course. The men are the Prize because they are the women's fantasy. By choosing, the women got their fantasy. But by choosing they lost their power. The women lost their power because they are the ones who are in love. Not the men.
When you love someone, that person automatically has power over you. Because when you love someone you can lie, steal, pay, toil, slave, kill or kill yourself for that person. That's the power they hold over you.
In love, you are either the Hunter who identifies, pursues and acquires your Fantasy, or you're the Fantasy identified, pursued and acquired by the Hunter. The Hunter chases and possesses the fantasy ("she's the girl of my dreams and I finally won her heart" / "he's the guy of my dreams and I finally won his heart" ). But the Hunter who gets the fantasy has LESS power because he/she is the one infatuated, in lust and in love. Not the fantasy.
The fantasy, the person you call your dream guy or dream girl, while you can't live without them, they can live without you because you are not their dream anything.
The guys in the video above, they have more power because they are chosen. The women have less power because they chose. In quarrels the women will always be reminded, "You chose me. I didn't choose you!" - The most disempowering words you can say to anyone. But the power each man holds over his woman comes at a cost to the man: By being someone else's fantasy you deny yourself your own fantasy. Each side of the equation has its good and bad.
THE CHOSEN IS THE PRIZE. You have power over anyone to whom you're a fantasy. And you can only be a fantasy if you're chosen.
But how do you know a woman is choosing you? Green Lights of course. No Green lights no approach.
BUILDING ON SAND. If you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to approach her for a relationship because she's exactly what you want in a woman; you've already lost the game before the game even started.
Going up to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how you'd be honored if she accepted you. Its the epitome of weakness.
That's not how you get and keep a girl.
Already you're chasing. Already she's the Prize. Already she has more power than you and should you date, the power difference will only increase.
BUILDING ON A ROCK. The only way you start at the top with women, having all the advantage, holding all the cards, from the word go, is to do things the opposite way. The way that appears wrong but is actually the right way: instead of searching for a woman who fits your ideal, You should be a man who fits the woman's ideal. You should be what a woman wants. it must be about fulfilling the woman's expectation not yours. Desire must flow from the girl to you. It must not flow from you to the girl. Attraction must start in the heart of the female, not in your heart.
That's the secret to happiness. That's how you build a relationship on a foundation of rock: You make sure the woman loves you more than you love her. You must be the guy she feels she "can't live without". But She must not be the girl you feel you "cant live without". Be her fantasy don't Iet her be your fantasy. Let her chase the fantasy, but keep your feet firmly in reality.
That female who's "everything you ever dreamed of in a woman", that chick who's the "girl of your dreams", that one must be dealt with only on a lust level. As a short term fantasy. A pump and dump. Dick her, don't Heart her. Ejaculate and evacuate. Don't invest any emotion in her. No matter how beautiful. No matter how delicious.
You can not afford to love the girl that you want. You dare not chase the fantasy. Loving the girl your heart chooses is a luxury you just can't afford. Not if you value your happiness and peace of mind. If your goal is romantic success, your woman must be more invested in the romance than you. She must be the biggest shareholder in the company. She must be the one in love with you, not the other way round.
POWER DYNAMICS. For the one who loves less is actually the one with all the power, holding all the cards and having all the advantage. The one who loves more, the one more committed, holds less of everything.
If a house is burning, the one who bought the most property cries the most. And so they're the one most concerned about preventing fires. In other words, the party most invested, most loving and most committed in the romance is the party that begs the most, compromises the most and sacrifices the most to make sure the romance stays on course.
The one who invests less of everything holds all the power for the simple reason that they can walk away any time. Never be involved in something you can't walk away from without losing gallons of tears. Women have been loving the right way since forever. When was the last time you saw a girl cry tears over a boy? Between men and women who commits suicide more over breakups? Of course the men. Because they don't know how to love properly.
HOW GIRLS LOVE. Guys need to learn to love the way girls love.
When a girl enters into a relationship with you she's happy when you're the one that loves her not the other way around. That way she has more power in the relationship. But if it happens that she's the one that falls harder and deeper for you, she'll do the next best thing to retain some measure of power: she'll HIDE THE INTENSITY of her love for you.
A girl will love you with all her heart and be crazy for you, BUT SHE'LL NEVER SHOW IT. The girl you love never shows you the full height, depth and breadth of her love. She never lets you know the maximum temperature of her passion.
You give her your photo, she goes home and goes crazy OVER THAT PHOTO. She sleeps with it next to her heart, kisses it, even shed tears of love over the image of you. She keeps it safe and spends hours on end just looking at it, lost in adoration.
But when you come in person to see her she puts the photo away and she wears her "game face". The face you see is not going to be the face your photo saw. Gone is the dreamy look of complete total love. Gone are the tears of love. She looks at you like one who never missed you one second. Like you were not even on her mind.
A girl shows you less of the love she has for you as a strategy: TO PROTECT HERSELF. If she was truthful and did show you how deep her love for you is YOU WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE. You'll use it against her. You'll demand crazy things from her. You'll cheat on her. And because her love for you runs deep, she will find it hard to leave and easy to forgive.
So to stop you from having that power over her, she hides the true extent of her love. And because you have no idea how crazy she is for you, you never fully exploit her.
That's why girls have DIARIES. They pour their heart, soul and mind on the pages of that little book. They confess their loves, hopes and fears on it's pages. Not to the BF. And when a girl loses her diary or when another person reads it, she freaks out. Because she feels exposed.
Many a girlfriend that plays it cool before her guy is mad crazy for him in his absence. Why do you think when guys screwup, girls always say, "If only you knew how much I loved you".? It's because the girl knows the love she's been expressing is not the complete love she's been feeling. She loved the guy more than he knew and because he's leaving he'll never really know he's lost a diamond.
Men need to learn that lesson: Be crazy and drunk in love all you want, worship the very ground your woman walks on if you wish, be batshit mad for her - but whatever you choose to do DO NOT DO IT IN FRONT OF HER. When you meet her, put your "game face" on. Your poker face. Conceal your desperation. Let her be forever guessing how deep your love for her runs. Do not worship her to her face. You give her too much power over you, power she'll unfailingly use against you.
LOVE AND HAPPINESS. The key to love and happiness is to Learn to love the one who loves you. Never try to make someone who doesn't love you love you.
That's how you lose.
That's how you spend 12 months chasing a girl who has her own eye on another dude all the while your stupid self thinking she's playing hard to get. That's how you buy a girl shoes and phones that she'll proceed to use to impress the guy her own eye is on. That's how a girl, during sex, ends up whispering another dude's name to your ear, because it's him her mind is on. Why? Because you're forcing yourself into her heart. But her heart is already occupied by another guy.
Now here is the girl you must occupy yourself with:
That girl who's crazy for you for no reason and blushes everytime she sees you. That girl who always makes excuses to hang around you. That girl always offering to do stuff for you. That girl always eager to be part of whatever you're part of. LOVE THAT ONE. She's CHASING you. You're on her mind and in her heart as we speak. She likes you already.
The women you yourself like, just pump and dump them. They're as useless as chaff. And will be as troublesome as the weeds.
Keep the women you like for LUST, but the women who like you, keep them for LOVE. A girl who likes you is a precious stone that you take and polish and adorn yourself with. But a girl you like is a common stone, one of thousands you lust after day in day out:
You take a corner you see a girl you like. You open your window you see a girl you like pass by. You enter the bus, there, sitting in the front seat, is a girl you like. You go to town you see 20 girls you like. At your school there must be 50 of these girls. At work almost every department has a girl you like. The girl you like is EVERYWHERE and what's everywhere HAS NO VALUE.
But that girl out of hundreds, who looks at you the way you have been looking at hundreds of girls, that one chick who becomes as stupid and as dumb infront of you as you become infront of the girls that you like, that girl is THE ONE for you.
You can never go wrong learning to love that one. Don't trouble yourself with the girl you like. Why? Because already HER HEART IS SET ON ANOTHER MAN. look for the one who likes you, for her heart is set on you. Such a girl's heart you don't have to win, because already its yours.
Girls are choosy as hell. But a girl who has already chosen you is a Penalty Kick you've been given, without the goalkeeper, without even the goal posts. You can't miss even if your eyes were closed.
And NO, a girl who chooses you is not cheap. A girl who's cheap is the girl you fvck for the price of a loaf of bread. That is a cheap girl. You can fvck her for a penny, even for free. But guess what? So will the next guy. And the next. And the next. On the other hand, A girl who chooses you will be easy BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be cheap BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be willing BUT ONLY FOR YOU. You see the difference? It's all about YOU sir.
If a girl doesn't look at you twice, there's no reason to look at her twice. Attraction is zero. The spark failed. A female knows with one look if she'll sleep with you or not. If she doesn't double check you, if her eyes don't linger, if her gaze doesn't keep coming back to you; KEEP IT MOVING. Forget her.
BUT REAL MEN DO THE CHASING?? When females chase you does it make you less manly? Less Alpha?
It does not. Don't you get jealous when women throw their panties and bras at celebs during concerts? I know you do. Do you want a girl to throw you her panties to show you she wants you? Yes? But then you'll call her a Slut! That's why she'll settle for throwing you a smile.
OK! BUT ONLY LOW QUALITY GIRLS SEEM INTERESTED IN ME!!! If the girls whose eyes linger and whose smiles you keep getting are not of the class you want, that's an honest indicator of where you are in the Sexual Market. That's your level. You attract your class.
To get better, better yourself. To see an improvement improve yourself. To see an upgrade in the quality of girls that give you "the look", upgrade yourself. The women you attract are the women at your level. Go up a level, and the quality of females you attract will also go up a level. Simple as that.
And how do you do that?
Dress better. Walk better. Speak better.
Do everything better than you've been doing.
To top it, go get a better body. Look, You can't change your face or your height but you can very well change your body. Which is all good, for when it comes to sex, your body IS your face. Women don't lust after a handsome face. It's that 6pack and those biceps that make the vagina tingle. Why do you think women love watching Wrestling on TV?
So, hit the gym.
LET HER CHOOSE. Letting a girl choose is how you choose a girl.
That way girls chase You. You don't chase girls. That way You play hard to get. You don't have girls playing hard to get to you. Players are Players because every girl who chooses them they accept even though they've a girl already. And girls who date Players can't easily walk away from the fvckery of it all because they fell in love first. They're invested.
That's the blueprint of dealing with women. Play the game this way and you'll be surprised how far you can go with women WITHOUT spending money. Love is free. If you do it right.
When you let girls choose you become the Prize. The Chosen. And a girl who chooses you will make it EASY for you because she wants you to win. She'll test you Yes, because she needs to assess your masculinity, but she'll root for you. She'll be lenient and give you more opportunities than you deserve. And that's very important for your chances with her.
So how do you choose a girl? By letting a girl choose you. Ignore the ones who ignore you. Pay attention only to those who pay you attention. Remember every girl wants your attention, but not every girl will give you attention. So save your attention for the girls who are prepared to give you theirs.
Your attention is free but it means a lot to women. The compliments you give willy-nilly are oxygen to their self-esteem. Your drooling looks are the validation they can't breathe without. So make sure you don't give them out freely. Be stingy with.
------------------------------------------------------------------- This writeup lays the groundwork for the longer and more indepth "Approaching Girls With Minimum Risk Of Rejection"
PROLOGUE. What you want from a woman is her body. But between her body and you stands her mind, còckblócking you. To get the body first capture the mind because where the mind goes, the body follows.
HACKING THE FEMALE MIND. Common Sense tells you that if you're good to a person that person will be good to you. But men and women process goodness differently.
Treat a man with respect and honor and he thinks YOU ARE awesome and a great guy. He will like you and make you his friend. He will want to hang out with you because he finds you likeable.
But treat a woman with respect and honor and she thinks SHE IS awesome and a great woman. She figures SHE DESERVES IT. That's why we call women ENTITLED and "princesses" because in everything it's about them. Honour a woman and she feels exalted and because she feels exalted she feels free to deal with you like you're nothing. Treating you like some worthless piece of shît.
That's the female mindset. It's backwards and reverse.
That's the reason why being Nice to a woman gets you nothing but disrespect and insults. Because women have a psychological tendency to mistake Kindness for Weakness and Niceness for Manipulation. They reason if you have to be Nice then you are powerless to enforce your will ( girl: "Mom! Jason doesn't want to open the door for me" mom: "ASK NICELY and he'll open it for you". So the girl grows into a woman that thinks: Kind=Weak and Nice=Manipulation). But this mindset can be hacked with surprising efficiency:
When you mistreat a man he thinks YOU ARE a worthless piece of shít. And he'll avoid you like the plague. It's to be expected.
BUT!!!! When you mistreat a woman she thinks SHE IS a worthless piece of shît. She figures SHE DESERVES IT. She concludes YOU ARE awesome and a great guy. She will like you, seek you out and befriend you. According to her, you're likeable.
Is she crazy? Not really. The foundations of her psychology were laid in her childhood. As were the foundations of all our psychology:
Every boy begins as a Bad Boy. No boy is born nice. When you were young Mother-Nature implanted in your mind an instinct that appeared counterproductive: the instinct to be mean to the girl that you like. . Then in the mind of the girl that you liked Mother-Nature implanted a nurturing instinct that pushed her to you: the belief every girl has that her love can change a boy . These instincts are two sides of the same coin. They work hand in hand.
While 80% of boys eventually have the Bad Boy instinct extinguished by Society, virtually all girls find their Bad Boy-seeking instinct amplified by the same Society through fairy tales like the Beauty & the Beast. The result? A female population attracted to Violent Expressions of Love and a male population that thinks women are stupid for it.
HACKING THE FEMALE MIND THROUGH COMMUNICATION. What if I told you there are secret languages you never heard of that Players and lustful Women use to communicate and hook up right under your nose? What if I told you there are sex languages spoken everyday in public that don't contain a single dirty word that "those in the know" recognize and respond to with the masses none the wiser? And what if I told you these languages can be learned?
Secret Language 1: the language of double meaning words.
Every public language of every country has words with two meanings: one clean one dirty (e.g "Come" ). These words are not necessarily slang. While these words can be used on national radio, on TV, at work and at church it is very well known that when said WITH A CERTAIN LOOK ON YOUR FACE, OR A CERTAIN TONE IN YOUR VOICE, OR WITH A WINK OF THE EYE OR A GIGGLE IN YOUR VOICE you intend to convey the dirty meaning of the word. These words or phrases are called double entendre. You can build a whole language with them. Women and Players communicate secretly by using these ordinary words publicly but hinting they intend for the dirty meanings to be understood.
For example; you can stand in the street and shout "I'm Coming". Most people will not even raise their heads and will assume you're telling someone you're headed their way. But the hòrny he-goats who live on xvideos will look at you and smile. They picked up on the second dirty meaning of the phrase: "I'm ejaculating". They are "in the know".
Especially that phrase "I'm Coming" works wonders: Back in the day I worked as a Librarian and Lab Technician at a boarding school for girls and the H.O.D I reported to was a dumb guy who used to call me to his office to ask me even dumber questions and on the phone I would say "I'm coming". Eventually he told me to stop using that phrase because it was making him feel uncomfortable, coming from me!
Women use such words to try to identify and connect with like-minded men AKA the Players. Watch out for when girls use words like Big, Pound, Slide, Come, Penetrate, Enter, Deep, Hard, Long, Drill etc (words that also apply to sex) ESPECIALLY WHEN THE CONVERSATION OR TOPIC HARDLY CALLS FOR THE USE OF THESE WORDS. OR IF IT DOES, SHE KEEPS REPEATING AND EMPHASIZING THESE WORDS NEEDLESSLY. The girl is sexualizing the conversation. . It's the secret language.
The beauty of this language is that it is 100% safe to use anywhere. The ability of a person to catch the message entirely depends on how dirty his mind is . To a clean minded man the message will never register. no harm done. But to a dirty mind even clean words bring up dirty ideas. Remember those "clean images for the dirty minds" where you look at an innocent picture but because your mind is dirty you see something else entirely? That's exactly what this language is all about. except it's using words.
My earliest encounter with this language was a decade or so back, at Church, of all places! The Pastor said something like "sizingane sasijabula sishaye inyawo" ("as children we would be overjoyed and beat our thighs" ). this is a very innocent phrase in my vernacular that denotes happiness (I'm sure in many African countries people, especially women, slap their thighs during arguments to make a point. Pastor was referring to something along those lines). Now, my mind was ready to let the phrase go but the girls next to me burst into giggles. Naturally I asked if the Pastor had said something funny. One of the girls said "uPastor uthi babeshaya inyawo" ("the Pastor says they used to beat their thighs" ) and I was like "so?" Then she whispered, "that's sex! ". My eyes were opened. Indeed the phrase was also used to mean sex. But my clean mind never went there! And apparently neither did the Pastor's. I asked myself how many times had I missed messages delivered to me this way??
INCEPTION. All sex begins in the mind. You can nudge a girl's mind towards sex by implanting ideas in her without being dirty, disrespectful or obvious. Take this whole language thing and reverse it to implant thoughts into a girl's mind faster and far easier than Leonardo DiCaprio and his crew in the movie Inception.
One day I was in a supermarket queue and a lady left her queue and joined mine. as she arrived I pointed at the queue she just left and absentmindedly remarked "it's too long? ". She giggled. I asked why she was giggling, she replied "You said it's too long".
We both laughed looking at each other in a funny way. I had just given her a dirty idea. What can be "too long" except a Dick!
Every single day is full of dozens of circumstances begging to be sexualized like this. Learn this language and you'll be amazed how women naturally find sexual connections in innocent conversations.
Secret Language 2: the language of opposites. Ever talked to a girl and she told you what she wanted in a man and you took her words as a tip, rushing to do those very things, only to hit a brick wall and be rejected by her? What went wrong? -------------> You took her words at face value. Women will never be straightforward with you. Why should they make it easy for you? . But luckily for you women have never been smart and their idea of being cryptic is to say something but mean the opposite. It's a code. It's a language.
If you watch Dr. Phil, Steve Harvey, or any of those Dating & Relationships TV shows DO NOT DO the things the women on these shows tell you to do because YOU WILL FAIL. 100%. Women will never be straightforward with the World. Why should they make it easy for the World to call them whòrés and sluts? It's a man's World. Women have a lot to hide. A lot to lose. The answer that a woman gives on live TV with her family, relatives, neighbors, bosses, friends and pastor watching is not the same answer she gives in private. Players know this. Apparently Nice Guys don't.
What a woman says in public concerning her sexual desires NEVER take it to heart because Women are so used to hiding their desires by denying them that it has become their default response to speak in opposites. It serves as a SHlT TEST: Women speak in opposites to separate the wheat from the chaff. If you take a woman's words at face value you are the Chaff. Men like you are NEEDED. Women don't want every man to be a Player. Players give Dick only. But Women don't live by Dick alone but by the Dollars of guys like you.
And by the same token, whatever women as a group say they hate about men, GO OUT AND DO THAT THING. You can never lose. When Women complain about something it's because they are seeing it in the men they are fvcking which means to be a man that women are fvcking you have to do that thing that women are complaining about because the thing women are complaining about is the thing that attracts them. They are only complaining because they had hoped to CHANGE that behavior in those men but failed. Women love you to change you. It's not rocket science. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
How do you become the Wheat/Dick? By not being so damn literal. women live in a world of opposites. Learn the language of that World:
When you talk to a girl and she tells you she likes ABC in men, go out and do XYZ. oppose her words. You'll see results. And by the same token, when a girl tells you she hates ABC in men, go out and do the same ABC she told you she hates. She will like you for it. Everything is in reverse. It's a code. A language.
when a girl tells you "I'm fine", she's definitely not fine. When she tells you "Go, I will be OK", don't go, she won't be OK. And when she starts a sentence with, "I don't usually do this... ", just know, she has done it a thousand times. Using the same formula by now you know if Dick size matters or not.
READING WOMEN LIKE AN OPEN BOOK. A woman wants men to think she is complicated and impossible to figure out. That "mystery" is part and parcel of being female. It's a lie that only appears truthful because men evolved to be straightforward communicators (its a man's world they have nothing to fear or hide), while women evolved to speak in opposites (it's a man's world women have everything to fear and hide).
The immortal saying "A Woman's No Is A Yes" originated with men who figured this out.
Women long to be inscrutable and impossible to understand but because they have never been that intelligent, their idea of being "impossible to understand" is to say everything in reverse. Simple. But extremely puzzling to your straightforward mind. Figure this out and women will be simple as toys.
WORDS VS ACTIONS. Is a woman confusing you because her actions are contradicting her words? Believe her actions. Actions never lie. just MUTE THE AUDIO CHANNEL and work with the video channel:
- A woman will tell you she doesn't cheat and she loves her BF with all her heart MEANWHILE SHE IS TAKING YOUR PHONE NUMBER DOWN. Reverse her words to understand her actions.
- When a woman tells you she's coming to your place but "there will be no sex", SHE JUST TOLD YOU SHE IS COMING FOR SEX. Take that shower and prepare those condoms. you're getting laid.
- When a woman tells you she's leaving in 2 mins MEANWHILE SHE IS TAKING OFF HER JACKET AND SITTING ON YOUR BED. Again, the message is reverse: she's hopping sex will begin in 2 mins.
THE OPPOSITE GREEN LIGHT. There is a Green Light that many guys miss. It's hidden. But guys who understand the game of opposites never miss it:
Every guy encounters this girl atleast once in his life. and im guessing you have too. That girl who's sweet to everyone else but sour to you, that girl who's happy in the group until you arrive and she leaves, that girl always the first to mock you or your attire, that girl who always seems to be angry at you for no reason, that girl behaving like an angry Ex except you dont have a history with her or her friends or her sisters, that girl about whom your friends keep asking "dude what ever did you do to that girl?", that girl you always try to avoid because you know she hates your guts but for some strange unexplained reason you keep bumping into her ... what the hell is her problem?? --------> she loves you
PROLOGUE. Women don't like being called out when they use their sexuality to get ahead. But they like using their sexuality to get ahead.
Like this scenario that replays itself over and over in today's cities ruining the lives, finances and reputations of many inexperienced men...
ILLUSIONS OF FREE PUSSY. A guy has a flat available to rent or is looking for someone to share a flat with. Other guys show interest but he turns them down. His Dick is pushing him to look for a woman. If he can get a woman to rent or share a flat with him, he can always leverage the situation to acquire some free pussy.
Or so he imagines.
ILLUSIONS OF FREE RENT. The day the female tenant moves in she at once sees the thirst in our guy and a woman being a woman she starts getting ideas of her own. If she can get this thirsty amateur to taste her pussy atleast once, she can always leverage the situation to acquire some free accommodation.
She imagines.
Now these two schemers are scheming to out-scheme one another.
ANOTHER VERSION OF THE STORY. Or the story may start innocently like this:
A guy puts out word that he has a room available and he's looking for a tenant irregardless of gender. As fate would have it, a female responds.
Far from his mind are dirty thoughts. But irregardless, the female resolves to trap our guy with pussy so that pussy can be rent.
So the Temptress starts her thing. Starting with the little things that our guy imagines are genuine mistakes; the bathroom door left a little open as she showers. The sexy panties hung next to his jeans on the washing line. Walking in on him in the kitchen as he makes a midnight sandwich barely clothed quickly mumbling, "I thought you were asleep!", then quickly running to her room. After a wild night out, or some party nearby, she stumbles in at night, dead drunk waking up the guy and pretending to need his support in making her way to her room; our clueless naive guy agreeing to hold her up and getting a very close encounter with her body. When our guy proves too blind to see the green lights the woman turns up the volume on temptations.
She invites a man over who fvcks her all night, making sure her screams and moans reach our guy, leaving his imagination to do the rest. Come tomorrow morning she wears a skimpy outfit to show him what the other guy was enjoying. By now even our guy starts sensing something must be afoot. Not quite sure, he writes threads like these on Nairaland: https://www.nairaland.com/4296940/shes-tempting-me-having-dirty
When the guy's friends visit, the woman tortures them with revealing outfits that leave little to the imagination, counting on them to convince him to "hit that".
The woman keeps the seductions coming. The bathroom door that was left a little open at the start, is now left wide open; forcing the guy to now time his movements accordingly or forcibly get an eyeful. When the guy goes to the dust bin he now finds used condoms. Where first, the woman walked in on him making his midnight sandwich in the kitchen almost naked and hurried back to her room; she now stays and makes her own. Where first she left a panty or two next to his jeans on the washing line; she now leaves her laundry basket in the bathroom brimming with underwear. When she and her friends go out for a girls night, she dresses to kill, and waits till the guy leaves his room before they leave so the guy gets killed by her dressing. After wild nights out she stumbles in drunk after midnight and passes out on the sofa in the living room in such a way that when the guy passes by, at whatever hour, his eyes will like what they'll see.
But a man being a man, A big part of the guy is enjoying and savoring the Temptation. The bared flesh. The seductions. The craziness of it all. And frequently, he even masturbates to her mental image. His stupid ego lies to him telling him the woman is doing everything because she finds him attractive. And in his ignorance of female nature he buys it.
He starts to actually entertain the idea of "hitting that". He compares the Temptress to his GF and many of the girls he goes out with and admits the tempting tenant is hotter. And what's more; she wants him! He makes up his mind to fvck her. But how?
TWO STORIES ONE ENDING. Now, whether the guy arrived at the decision to fvck his tenant by chance or by design all the stories end the same way.
The woman seeing the smallest of indications that her landlord wants to tap that ass moves to make it easy for him.
So one quiet evening as the guy watches TV, she asks to join him. She doesn't have to be skimpily dressed. Sitting by his side they exchange a few words, the woman asks him to change the channel because "this one is boring". The guy obliges her, much to her annoyance. She doesn't want him to agree. So she asks him to change the channel again. And yet again. Until the guy has had enough and is no longer willing. Then it is that the woman is ready to put her plan into action...
The moment the guy refuses to change the TV channel she swiftly aims for the remote control. The guy moves to block her. He's slow. The girl grabs the remote and hides it behind her. He wants the remote and comes for it. A scuffle ensures. She's not about to give up the remote. They tussle all over the sofa. And in the heat of the struggle body touches body. Skin touches skin. Heat is exchanged. Electricity is exchanged. His hands are all over her body. Her face, her breasts, all close up. Presently he stops. He comes to his senses. And realizes he is right on top of the woman. They gaze into each other's eyes. None daring to move.
This is the moment of truth everything has been building to. The woman's long game of seduction and temptations has reached its climax. This fight, like every other move before it she has carefully planned. Does the man yield to the temptation of the flesh or does he get off and walk away; dealing a mighty blow to both the woman's ego and her plans?
But it's an easy victory. The man yields almost instantly, planting a long dreamed of kiss on her lips. Opening the floodgates of hell upon himself.
PUSSY PAYMENTS. In yielding to temptation the Landlord kids himself into thinking he is responding to genuine interest and desire on the woman's part. He's about to get a very rude awakening. He's about to learn a very vital lesson on life: There's nothing like Free Pussy and whenever a woman depends on you for something, her desire, if she expresses any, is never real.
The first sign that something has gone wrong is that soon after the sex, all the temptations and seductions cease. Gone are the skimpy outfits. Gone are the suggestive movements. Everything is back to normal. Could the woman have been campaigning for something?
Well, come month-end the guy will have his answer.
Monthend comes and He calls on the woman for the rent. But for the first time ever, she comes up with a story. Her money is short. She asks for a few more days to complete it. He calls again after a few days for the rest of the rent and he finds her scantily dressed!. The message is clear: take this pussy as payment. The hōrñy he-goat bites again, digging himself a deeper hole.
After this session he doesn't ask about the rest of her rent. Days and weeks fly by and before he knows it it's month-end again. He calls for his rent money. And this time he finds the woman nàkéd! This month the entire rent money will be paid in pussy. The woman assures him it's only for this month only. Again the lusty guy helps himself to the goodies. After all, one month of no rent won't kill him.
Come another monthend, same story. Pussy, no Paper. He's betting a bad feeling about this. But the sweetness of the pussy distract him. After all, he is getting it anytime he wants. It's like they're practically a couple.
Then after a few more months the guy's budget can't take the strain. He's going broke having to cover for his tenant. Sense slowly returns when he sees the empty fridge, the unpaid DSTV, the empty fuel tank of his car, and the like. He suddenly loses all desire because finally the truth has hit home: What he mistook for desire in the woman was all a pretence leading to this; Sex in exchange for accommodation. All rent money, from now till Amen, will always be paid in pussy.
He moves to put a stop to the scheme.
AS UGLY AS IT GETS. Our guy has a fight with the woman. He needs the money. He has bills to pay. Pussy payments won't do. No matter how sweet that pussy.
But the woman is not ready to renegotiate the terms of the agreement. Her success in leveraging her situation for free accommodation has already seen her finances improve. Sure it feels a bit like prostitution but whatever! Money talks. And now this fool wants to take it all away. Never. She's ready to fight. And she's prepared to go nuclear on him if the worst comes to worst. She's prepared to see it get as ugly as it can get. Her body is not a playground for men.
As the man rants for his money even threatening to lay hands on the woman, and telling her he's ready to throw her out to the streets; the woman goes nuclear. She tells the man if he's going to have sex with her then throw her to the streets, then that sex was not sex but rape. In an instant the man has a fuller realization of the depth of the hole he has has dug himself in. The true extent of the woman's malice is revealed. And looking at her eyes he knows she's not bluffing. She will do it.
And things having gone this far, there is no turning back. The man can't reverse and ask for the pussy giving to continue. There will be no more payment for him, in pussy or in paper. By yielding to temptation he has screwed himself and by trying to get out of the problem he has screwed himself harder.
And that's not as ugly as it can get.
The woman, having seen how the threat of a Rape Case terrified him; pulls the cruelest of stunts: She demands the man PAY HER money or she opens the case.
And just like that shît gets real for the man.
Not only is he not getting his rent money, not only is he not getting his pussy payment BUT HE MUST PART WITH CASH!!! How did he get here? How did things get so twisted?
For the first time in his life he understands how Adam, David, Solomon, Samson and all those great men like them, stumbled and fell by the wiles of this creature called Woman. He feels trapped. He has been outplayed. Out schemed. A hatred of the woman grows in him. He's seeing her true colors now. Oh how he now wishes he had accepted a male tenant! How he wishes he never yielded to lust to begin with. His Grand Master Plan to "leverage the situation to get some free pussy" has grandly blown up in his face. The paradise he imagined has become the hell he never imagined.
THE DANGERS OF ACCEPTING PUSSY PAYMENTS. Our guy is learning a lesson: A woman may be willing to pay in pussy but that's a Rape accusation waiting to happen down the line; As #MeToo is making it painfully clear.
If a woman offers to pay you in pussy, for whatever service that she must be paying for in money, turn down the pussy. Better for you to volunteer and do it for her free if she's broke. But never have sex with her as payment.
There is a reason why money is the medium of exchange not sex. And the only woman you can fvck in exchange for free accommodation is your GF or wife. Any other woman will turn the tables on you down the road and call it rape.
Especially in the city, because when city girls scheme, they don't play.
Pennywise: 'Runs girls' to the uninitiated are those who 'do it' for money. They may be involved as a full time undertaking or as a part time business in which case they will usually have something else doing like schooling, working (yes, real job), trading or just (wait for it) housewife! A typical runs girl is in it strictly for the money. Never mind the cries of 'oooohs' and 'ahhhhs' in the heat of passion. Real affection and pleasure if any exist in the course of a relationship is incidental to this primal objective which is to make as much money as possible from you.
Gentlemen looking for love and who do not fully understand feel duped when things go sour as they are wont to do sometimes. Then they feel bad and begin to look for how to exact revenge. Sometimes fights are involved, police is called, hard worn reputation rubbished. The not so gentlemanly go so far as giving acid bath, sponsor rape and all kinds of things risking imprisonment and worse. All these are avoidable consequences to something so beautiful, so profoundly exhilarating and pleasurable, the natural dope called S3x.
Being aware at the onset therefore gives little or no chance for a love scam. Dont expect her to come to you and make a proclamation. It will be infra dig and undesirable for her to do so. Most gentlemen dont need that anyway. Forget about the threesomes and group orgi.es, they are not natural. Typically a man like to think of his girl as innocent and untouched. A runs girl knows that well. The onus therefore is for you to read and interpret visible and invisible cues to save your self and your new hearthrob unnecessary embarrassment. And to make a determination regarding which way this relationship should end-the hotel room or the alter.
Some of the cues enumerated below may come in handy but they are by no means exhaustive.
1. Cell phone etiquette: Title was chosen for want of a better expression but generally describes varying patterns of fone behaviour she exhibits when you are around. Any girl that's in a relationship for whom the guy does not pay attention to her contacts and communication, beware bc you may have been zoned to 'runs girl' territory. a) Runs girls will usually password their fone. Old news. b) Going away to take calls. Another old news c) Rejecting, refusing to take calls or out rightly silencing fones when you are around. d) Deleting all messages. Ah ha thats a new one. Beware of girls whose msg box is always clean like she bought the fone yesterday. e)Girls keeping more than 2 lines in some cases 4-5 lines.
2.Travelling. They are always travelling or looking for a reason to travel. Its either about a sick aunt, a non existent job interview, marriages and funerals etc. Think. Those out of town babes you bump in nite clubs are somebodys' sweetheart.
3.Escort. She is your gf you are looking to marry. You go to visit her but you notice she always seem to have a reason not to walk down the road with you. You are not a fiancee, you are a cash cow. The fiancee comes when you are gone.
4.Playing hard to get. The ones playing really hard to get these days (at least during the day time) are the runs girls. They know the game and they will read you like a book. You can tell when a girl is smitten. These ones are never. They will even try to manipulate you with real tears.
Reasonable responses are welcome. I am a relationship expert. I will answer your questions if you ask nicely.
#4... Interesting. A guy has to be ruthless to weed out these types.
Yes I know that the Ibos use that spelling. It's like the way some folks use "ugwu" instead of the standard "ugu" for fluted pumpkin. Lol
That mai mai is a corruption of the Yoruba word "moyin moyin" or "moin moin" (contracted with the removal of the "y" letter). The 1970s and 1980 magazines in my archives clearly used "moyin moyin" but further contracted by some to moin moin.
The etymology or origin of the word is from "mo eyin" meaning to "stick to the teeth."
Mo = To "stick to" in Yoruba Eyin = "Teeth" in Yoruba
benjackugo: Insecurity: Pastor Paul Adefarasin Advises His Church Members To Plan Their Escape Route Out Of The Country
Considering the high level of insecurity in the country, Senior Pastor of the House on the Rock Church Lagos, Pastor Paul Adefarasin, has advised his church members to get a plan B by planning their escape route out of the country, IgbereTV reports.
He gave the advice on Sunday, May 9, after he spoke extensively on the state of the nation.
Pastor Adefarasin who called on all leaders not to be partisan at this time, said;
''No country in the world history has survived two civil wars. You could be in fright and running for your dear life anyday from now if this thing does not come to an end. My personal encouragement to leaders and government on all sides is that it is not time to be partisan, blend the aisles. It is time to sit down and dialogue.''
The clergyman also urged his church members to have a plan B as his wife is currently out of Nigeria helping to create their own plan B.
He said;
''I bring you greeetings from Pastor Ifeanyi who is busy taking care of the frontier of our world and preparing our escape root. If you don't have a plan B. ...I know you have faith, but I have faith too but I have a plan B.
With technology I can speak to you from anywhere in the world.
Get yourself a plan B. Wether that's an Okada to Cameroon or flying boat or speed boat as we call them to Seme Border or a holein the ground, get your plan B because these people are crazy. They ate nutters. The whole bunch of them. And watch the signs because it can happen like this. God forbid!''
Travel › Re: My 30 Days Sojourn Through Cotonou To Dubai by AlphaSoul: 4:06am On May 17, 2021
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. This is what happened.
. While it could take a lot of whining to get me to talk, he is very open. He hides nothing and I have the passwords to his email, access to his phone et al. His principle is that anything anyone does not want my wife to know, do not bother telling me because I believe in oneness (we are still engaged though).
