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^ That's the kind of fabulocity I'm talking about!

I guess to clarify, I meant for repliers to talk about themselves personally no a general person.

What makes YOU (person reading this) datable?

Well it's the only thing on this thread worth talking about,

I want to be a housewife once I make my money i.e. stack paper and retire early. I do want to be a presence and influence for my children in a world so crazy. No one else should raise and educate them in early development. I like working, but taking care of a household IS a full time job often under-appreciated. I spend this past summer not working. I cooked, cleaned, did shopping, household redecorating, worked out, wrote poetry, did volunteer work, there is a wonderful world out there beyond sitting at some desk for hours and calling it fulfillment.

His music is rubbish. I like puppies.

It's sad, but she'll probably go back because she feels dependent (financially and emotionally). Sexual exploitation, physical abuse, and relationships with skewed power dynamics typically impact black women. Love yourselves!

You guys are scaring me (clutches pillow and closes eyes tight)

Hi,

I was sitting here thinking about how fabulous I am and I got the idea for this thread. What are the special things about you NL'ers that makes you so datable? Charm? Looks? Class? Be as specific as you like.

Amaka

Awww, a puppy

Guys you only have to go FAR to seduce if you don't know what you are doing or you are trying to make something happen that's not going to happen,

Maybe I'm just easy to seduce but phone calls, texts, occasional outings, and QT go much further that whole paychecks, lies, and meaningless trinkets

Right person, Wrong time, Life might be trying to tell you something, so listen,
If the seemingly right person appears and things don't go well, it's probably because something far worse would happen if you two got together. Life has a way of putting you where you need to be. Think about every ex you have (some have to think more than others). Those people are your exes because at one point you THOUGHT he/she was the right person at the right time, but I bet you wish something had gone wrong earlier than it did so that your feelings were spared.

That being said, there are really nice guys across oceans that I sometimes wonder about, (Daydreaming)

Because you don't want to leave home without something you might NEEEEEEED
Now the definition of need for men and women is vastly different so I won't begin to break that down
Just never go into a woman's purse without her permission. The horrors, danger, and drama that await you are not worth it.

Strong, beautiful, intelligent, resilient, hard working, faithful
Able to do literally 5 things at one time: clean the house, cook dinner, finish office work, watch the babies, and influence politics
Who else dresses like us? Does so many things with their hair? Dances with grace and appeal? Loves harder despite trials?

How could I be anything but amazing?

What does my picture have to do with anything? It's a photo taken by a Nigerian photographer from like the 1960's. I'm too pretty for pictures (They might steal my beauty).

Matthee is smarter for realizing that women are smarter thereby making his life easier (You win!)

I'm smarter. Case closed,

It's all about tact. I find it very easy to let a man know that he needs to improve in some way, but I never actually say it directly. Everyone wants to be with someone who loves them unconditionally, but at the same time will help them grow as a person. I want to be with someone who makes me better. 

caressing

I have broken a few hearts, including my own. That being said, as a mature adult I now realize that those people were only right in the moment. I have no lingering regret. There's too many people in the word who would be willing to love me and contribute to the life I'm building. Regrets only last long enough to find someone new,

Alcoholism is a serious problem that takes years to overcome. It won't be fixed with a promise or a single conversation.

Are you patient enough to go through that with her?
Are you willing to make those kinds of sacrifices?
What about the future of potential children you'd have?

Best start is as some have said: A conversation
If she continues lying or you think she's lying, then you have trust issue. If she reveals a problem, you have a decision to make.

Love and patience are the things you'll have to bring to the table.

I wear them to look pretty, disinterested, and pretty disinterested. I heard they also help with sunlight.

I love God. I had a wonderful and awakening time at church this past Sunday. I continue to try to live faithfully.

Food is warm, delicious, satisfying, easily created and explored, I'm getting excited

Food also doesn't cause emotional issues, STI's, babies, or drama

Chocolate <3

http://www.shockmd.com/2008/10/31/sex-chocolate-and-the-brain-or-why-women-prefer-chocolate/

I'm laughing at the "ability" remark

Why are you so abrasive?