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Was a toxic kind of love. So I wrote out all the pros vs the cons for myself to put things in perspective

The cons were 3x as long.

Bugatti411:
Hi guys.
Tell us what terrible thing you did and you are regretting it now.
Me I slept with my friend wife...
Dough the lady asked for it herself but I regret it
And later tell my friend. He said he forgive me but we can never be friends anymore... And we do see every week in church.
And I am regretting it ..
That's mine. What's yours!

Hian

Keniwit:
How do you feel when your Lover (Bf or Gf) is online bt doesn't bother to text u( chat with you) moreso what does that indicate??

Imagine coming online and not responding/contacting them for 3 straight days. That’s TOXIC.

raymondalbert:
9 Smart Hacks of Nairaland publishing post

I wanna know

guobe:
you may be one in a million.

I am

[quote author=guobe post=113390955][/quote]1. How many Americans make Rihanna money, talk less American women

2. If Rihanna’s set is your dating pool, you can give her a business

3. I repeat - in generalisation, all women love romantic gestures and also want their men to be able to provide for them. Know this and know wisdom

guobe:
Down in the states,most white girls and black American girls prefer flowers as gifts than money.I keep wondering is there any Nigerian girl that prefers flowers to monetary gifts.just pondering.

Not true. It’s just aesthetics. Nobody screenshots bank alerts and posts them, it’s awkward. But flowers are beautiful.

All women want both. The affection and the provision

Tueh.

How can anybody other than your own self be washing your pint ……. Not to talk of your man

Chai.

Only a few things can make me more sick than this. And men like this are very rampant.

Choosing vawulence at every vawulent time. Thinking in vawulence sef

Hmmm

P.s. habit*

MrBrownJay1:
you seem to not understand the attraction for babymama....its simply that there is nothing that connects you to that woman apart from a baby....therefore your duty is towards the child and nothing else. this is a great way to make sure that this woman ACTS RIGHT, because if she doesnt, she out the door (and so is your devotion to her). the difference with marriage, is that if/when that woman decides to fukc up, you still need to go through a lengthy/pricey divorce, and probably pay her spousal support etc

remember, a man dont mind paying for his child, its paying for the yeye ex wife that doesnt go well with us men!

This is the trash a man will say before thinking with his head instead of his penis.

How many children from single parent homes have strong relationships with their father/siblings or have had been given models of co-parenting or support?

Children are not business transactions that you throw money at, and the law did not create marriage, they just incorporated it. So all that talk about lengthy divorce doesn’t wash. If you like sign a prenup

You can have ex-wife, but can you have an ex-child? Even if you are to turn yourself into a sperm or cash donor, you’re connected to your baby mama(s) for eternity through the bond of your SHARED child

Amara661:
Did you have feelings he was cheating on you ?

As in…

At this point you need to have very candid conversations about your issues and how you can move forward. Sexual deprivation no be small tin. It will take openness and vulnerability to get to the bottom of things as he may be going through something he didn’t feel he could share with you.

Start there, but approach him with love and affection on a good day - being feminine and gentle not like a bulldozer. If you understand how to massage a mans ego he will lower his defences to you.

Just IMO

Nasal spray with xylometazoline hydrochloride for the interim. Then go and see an ENT (ear nose and throat) specialist, nasal sprays are not for long term use.

kazyhm:
The problem and the solution is you and your brother..

(…)

You and your brother should instruct the wives to stop the nonsense, else (state the consequences).....

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Word.

How can your wives be affecting the relationship of the children and even that between the men. Not judging you or your brother, but you are the one that directs the affairs of your home.

The keyword is instruct. Pull your house in order, whilst you can. the wives don’t have to like each other, but they should not spread the poison

TheKrakon:
Please, can you dash me $1000? I will really appreciate it.

When they dash you, cut my own

E don cast
Las las
Na everybody go chop
….

Amarisco:
Nigeria’s problem didn’t start 7 years ago. It also didn’t start with Nigeria as some stand-alone entity in Africa.

Mentality is the major key to creating any lasting change. Where in the world has wind blown for a lifetime? Dust will always settle, EndSars at least showed us that.

Permanence starts with the internal structure. It’s a fundamental principle that runs through every thread of life.

IkeIgboNile:
I agree that the problem of Nigeria didn't start last 7 years but you'll agree with me that Nigerians have never had it,this bad. EndSars showed us a lot of mistakes but it also showed us the need. Which is to elect capable hands in government.
Gburugburu and his cohorts are trying to start "Godfatherism" in Enugu state,that's why Ikeoha remains the best candidate because he has a mind of his own and won't be a stooge.

I do agree, but the journey to election is voting. How many have at least registered and are they more than those who have not sold their vote for a bag of garri?

IkeIgboNile:
I always laugh when i see people saying African mentality is this and that. The wind of change is here. The youths can't continue to stand by and watch our nation go to the dogs. This last 7 years has been horrible. We can't continue making the same mistake by electing sick docile men that will spend more time in the hospital than in government.

Nigeria’s problem didn’t start 7 years ago. It also didn’t start with Nigeria as some stand-alone entity in Africa.

Mentality is the major key to creating any lasting change. Where in the world has wind blown for a lifetime? Dust will always settle, EndSars at least showed us that.

Permanence starts with the internal structure. It’s a fundamental principle that runs through every thread of life.

Maybe she just hasn’t got an adequate social life

A low budget Sankara would still be the best step in the right direction. The mentality of Africans need to change, he may not be the most radical, but he is still a revolutionary in his own right.

He goes against the very fabric of what it means to be an African man in power, in this country, right now

lavylilly:
You should forget the money the very date it leaves your account.

A distance uncle begged me for loan to settle hospital bills of N850k. I told the Uncle I don't give loan as I wasn't bank, just gave them 400k to help settle the bill. I was the one that even call them to know if they have gotten the alert self after few days, which they confirmed to me. No thank you..�� Promised myself never to pick their calls anymore

Imagine the audacity.

Just like you, I do not borrow money I cannot afford to dash. That feeling of depending on someone to pay back money is horrific. Especially when they are late

You can give blood if you have a tattoo.

KillerCrocodile:
Is that your real picture on your profile ?

100%

Funny guys always win

Look at the bigger picture. People break up for different reasons. it could also be a mutual understanding between the two - ‘for the best’. Breaking up is not always betrayal or something to do with infidelity. In such cases the chemistry/affection could even remain.

Doesn’t have to be some nollywood drama