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Gracelander:
I never knew this is what heart break feels like, I'm shattered and broken.

I started dating him from 100 level till we graduated, it's been five years now. We suffered and passed through a lot together, I made a lot of sacrifices for him and even had two painful abortions for him.

But he always complained that I got fat and he liked slim girls, he broke up with me in the most excruciating manner. I noticed changes a few months back but he kept lying to me not knowing he was seeing another girl.

The girl chatted me up few days back to know her stand and I told her everything, he even posted pictures he had with the girl, this is someone that hates pictures and hardly takes one with me regardless of how much I beg. He doesn't even post his own pictures but he's already posting the girls pictures.

The girl is his spec and more attractive than me... I'm just ashamed of myself. The girl decided to stick with him even after everything I told her so she could leave him including the abortion part.

I've wished him well but I'm in serious pain, I've been crying for days now and unable to eat. I gave him everything, he was my first ever guy. I wish he could come back, I'm ready to forgive him.

How can move on from this heart break, it's killing me slowly.

Time time time. Time will sure heal you. E-hugs. Please stop crying. You'll heal. I promise. But please and please don't ever go back to him. Be strong and be courageous

Best president Nigerians ever had

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Yul has never loved his first wife. He got her pregnant and ran away. It was his father that went and married her for him and he had no choice then because his Dad threatened to disown him if he doesn't do what he said.

Most times when he comes to social media to talk nonsense,I usually laugh out loud because we all grew together at hill view and pioneer Street in ind/ layout Enugu and we all know what happened.

He has always been in the marriage because of his kids and I'm not surprised this happened.

Really?

cochtrane:
And this guy wanted to be Nigeria's president?

We for just wake up one morning see say im don sell us to Russia . The guy just pulled the ruddest shock on Nigerians

chatinent:
Maybe that's her nature. She's human you know. But why are you sorry for her husband and in-laws?

Yes, I think that was her nature. She was very mean and quarrelsome towards everyone

dfrost:
You feel sorry for someone? Since how many years? And you still remember most of her negative traits? And you don't know if she has dropped those traits?

I counted four negative traits and one positive. I think you are the one that really needs the sorry. Seek help fast.

As for the topic, no comment. I don't judge people. I'm not God.

Na you sabi. Who cares if you're god or not?
I said 'kind of' meaning that I'm not sure of her behavior at the moment.
All I know is that that girl was very mean and evil to me and though I have forgiven her, how can I forget? She was very quarrelsome and had many enemies.
Please keep your opinion to yourself.
Since you're not God, how do you draw judgement that I need help? You are contradicting yourself by yourself.
You are defending someone that you don't even know, did you walk my shoes? Were you Rita's room mate?
Abi are you Rita? Since nairaland is a faceless forum, maybe you are Rita. Rita, if this is you, may God have mercy on you for all the atrocities that you committed towards your fellow human beings. I hope you have changed?

The worst roommate that I have ever had was Jehovah's witness. Very wicked, jealous and quarrelsome plus the dullest in our department.
Though she had good fashion and dress sense sha. Rita!!!! Chai!!!
I heard that she's now married and I kind of feel sorry for her husband and inlaws

Fear of death sentence is the beginning of lying

CYBERWEAVER:
Seriously

Nigeria is a messed up country, paying someone to serve a jail term.

Am hearing that for the first time.



I can't trade My freedom for anything

There are actually many nonentities that will willingly do this. More reason why family planning should be enforced.

This is sad

Angela1996:
I'm just depressed over this situation, I'm tired of him, he snapped me while I was naked and threatened to release my nudes...I've told him to sign the undertaken and leave me alone but he has refused...
Please I don't know what to do again!...Don't judge me or insult me because no one is perfect

While he's threatening you, get a record of his conversation. That'll be enough evidence to charge him to court

EHoudini:
At the peak of fuel scarcity my wife befriended a filling station manager- a mallam! She got two full tanks of fuel, one for herself, another for her friend; and 20L for me. I innocently and gladly accepted, in a jerrycan. I didn't even pay, to be honest.

Few days later, when we had a little misunderstanding, she bragged to me that the fuel I've been using to cruise around was given to her by a man like me! Dangerous talks.

Since then, even we settled somewhat she's been receiving strange calls at odd hours.
Few nights ago, I was woken up by her shouts on the phone; that she's a married woman and that the person on the other end should stop calling her! I couldn't help but think and believe it's the manager. As though she didn't know she was married before she swindled the man of his fuel!

With all the aphrodisiacs (buran tashi) these mallams use, her (my wife's) nyansh go don suffer.

There's no free lunch even in Freetown.

Pray for me!

I am a woman and I was born and brought up in the North.
Now listen to me: When we were in the hostel as university undergraduates, Every runs girls preferred Hausa men to other tribes. Do you know why? It's because once they like you, they first declare their intentions with gifts and money, depending on how rich the person is, you can even get a car without giving him as much as a kiss. Now, that's a Hausa man for you.
He'll eventually and gradually make his intentions known. Ask any Igbo girl that was born and brought up in the core northern states and she'll confirm my statement. Your wife just took him for a mugu but I can categorically tell you that he hasn't even touched your wife yet.

NotBeenPaid:

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Free fuel, kerosene and diesel. OP is lucky!

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Free gas plus gas cylinder sef

Nectarbaba:
That is your family problem not mine.

Reason why you shouldn't generalize on the reason why people look miserable. Everyone has a different reason and my point basically is that not every family is a rock. Some of them are burdens

franchasofficia:
God bless you for mentioning Linda Ikeji family. Linda Ikeji single handedly raised her siblings and lifted them all from poverty, something many wouldn't do but rather cite how they suffered to make it and why others must suffer to make theirs.



Such mindset is evil and inhumane cos we all are not gifted with same capabilities in life, and that is why the successful must assist the struggling ones among them to stand.


I am glad the Op's family are better off now.

It breaks my heart to hear or read about people struggling with life while their siblings or close family member is living in affluent, it always gives me goosebumps

That is just one scenario. I have worked in a bank before and during debt recovery, I know alot of people who divert loans that was meant for growing their business into family demands and when Police arrest them or their guarantors, the family will even still be calling them in the police van to bring money for this or for that. During the days that one lady(debtor) spent in police cell, the parents and siblings had to hustle to provide all the things that they were depending on her for and in fact they did very well and fed well. What if she got an infection and died in the cell? Won't her family survive?
Leave Linda Ikeji out of this, let everybody face their own life and do what is best for them

mabea:
You people are very myopic. What about a situation where nobody looks up to your brother for any financial need yet they need his input in some other pressing family matters yet he is nowhere to be found? Imagine having a brother though alive but feels like he's dead to the family members. What about loosing one of your parents and still your brother could not show up nor show any form of concern. I could go on and on. Money is important but not everything there is to life.

So what if he is nowhere to be found? Is he the first born? Is he the oracle of the family that must be available for all events? What about people with no siblings or parents, did they die?

Do you people even know what love is?. If he truly loves his brother, then he wouldn't mind being the one calling and not minding his infrequent calls.
Whether you like it or not, there is always that one or two siblings that love to mind their business even from a very tender age, you can spot them which is exactly what he said about his brother being so from a young age.
If you chase your brother to the extent of bringing his matter to nairaland, then, there is more to it than meets the eye. If someone is avoiding something, then please don't judge the person until you have walked in his shoes. Nobody will avoid something that is pleasing to him or that gives him comfort.

See ehn, just go back and read his previous post about his brother. He dwelt well on the issue of money. If money is not everything, then, why did he give it such an important highlight on his previous post.
Wait o! Let us even hear his brothers side of the story, I can never draw conclusion from listening to only one person's narrative!!!

Nectarbaba:
I just laugh at the comments here. Well, it actually shows that people do not know the value of family in this part of this world. I guess that is why almost everybody looks miserable.

Lols. The reason my uncle and his wife actually looked miserable is because of his siblings and her siblings. Those guys have sucked them dry both financially and emotionally. They are the the ones that are the first to receive any bad news from all 7 siblings combined. News of death, hospital, accident, burglary, police case.
When it is good news like new job or car, they will hide it from them. The only time that they will quickly share the good news is if it is childbirth especially if the new baby and mother for example will need money to pay hospital bill or if it is admission into university because, they know that he will pay school fees.
Enjoy your family, BUT PLEASE, don't give me sermons on how to handle mine.

JohnnA1:
I remember that first thread... if I had access to your big brother, I'll tell him to be wary of you people (his family).
And a man's enemies shall be they of his own household...

I tell you

Dailyparrot:
Are you insinuating that my family is not blessed because we don't call each other?

I talk with my sisters everytime. Besides, I am the kind of person that don't like disturbance, reason I don't keep friends.

I'm very comfortable as we love each other from the comfort of our homes. As far as no one is in distress, that's all that matters.

Calling to check up on people is just formality. I don't value it.

Abi o. The only way you can truly love someone is by respecting their wish. If his brother is not the 'gum body' type, then, forcing him to always call is simply selfish of them in my opinion.

Iyaebe:
Has he started giving you money?

Whether my brother calls me or not is non of my freaking business. He calls once in a month and as long as he is doing fine, I'm very cool with that. For you to have mentioned anything about his being very rich in the first place has laced the post with entitlement mentality or envy of some sort.
My brother hates calling and it was even worse when he was a broke guy. Don't always attach people's character to the fact that they have money

donbachi:
Her elder brother sylvester was the first to call her out and disowned her..now,her eldest brother.na she sabi.

Her parents simply raised a bunch of entitlement mentality kids.

NwaAmaikpe:




Very ironic.

If she was blocking her followers, who then did she expect to pray for her?

If you like insult my papa, I will not block you; I will not even notice.
Because life is much more serious than to be vesting vengeance on social media.

You have thick skin and I've noticed it here on nairaland. However, not everyone has a strong heart like you to tolerate trolls. Some are very emotional and hence they block trolls to maintain their sanity.

Next time, when you borrow money, pay it back. Good luck on getting back your dignity. So sad

Many Nigerians are your fans. It's really insensitive and foolish for you to talk like this. A statement you'll surely regret. Except of course your career in entertainment is over

JERRY1925:
Mehn..marriage is beautiful. Seriously I really wished I did it early. I never wanted getting married.. till I met my woman.
Sometimes, when I am at home probably after work, and my wife not back..I jump up at the slightest bike or car sound I hear.
Mehn, I really don't want to wake up to hear my wife is no more.

She's so lovely.

When planning marriage, being a virgin should not be a cateria.

Just the way relationships crash, marriage also crashes.

My advice, get married to who want to be a wife/husband.
Get married to who want to be married and know what it means to be married.
For men, marry a woman, who sees u as her everything...most men do otherwise.

If your wife loves u, the chance of marriage lasting long is really high.

And before marriage, make sure u tell ur partner where u stand.
If u drink, tell them u drink.
If u smoke, tell them you smoke.

Marriage is really beautiful.

We expecting our first child..and it feels really great..its with a woman my child can call mum..not side chic.

Exactly, whenever my spouse is absent and it's almost time for his return from work ehn. I will just be restless until I sight him. The joy of seeing him after a long day can't be compared to any feeling in the world.

Oritna94:
You have said it all. It is amazing that the rising generation does not know the meaning of family again. Thanks to what they see on T.V reality shows and the rest.

They are just deceiving themselves

Acidosis:
When you have kids, probably a baby mama and still sleep around, then you're no longer single.


You're only f00ling yourself when you call yourself single. You will pay bills like every other married man, attend to your kids, and spend even more. You have children calling you "daddy" and you think you're single and free from responsibility? That's pure madness, unless your definition of single is "deadbeat".

Best comment ever!!!

Companionship!!!
Business partner
Jist partner
Fresh home cooked food
Pure love
Peace of mind
Sound counsel
Love
Love
Love
Marriage is everything. We quarrel too but the makeup is worthwhile

Cardealer2021:
Northerners and petty stealing na like fried eggs and bread
Reason I vowed never to have anything to do with any northerner.
Dem too like to steal petty things.
Just imagine he killed someone because of a phone.
Chai poverty and illiteracy na bastard

I am not from the north, but I prefer working with northerners. On building site for example, they offer the best rates and cement doesn't go missing, unlike my brothers from the south, they'll charge exorbitantly, do the work anyhow and steal your cement.

Are you sure this guy is 18? Hope he was not forced to increase his age.

guywitzerogal:
stuff wasn't this hard before oga failure came in... I wasn't there but i heard news that this is exactly what happened in 1985

I heard this from my uncles too.