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It really depends on how and when the gift is given.

If it's to pacify my anger over something he did that is really really unforgivable, then I might just throw the diamond on his face.

Rephrase your topic as slimyem said already.

@topic. He can never say no to booze.

Like seriously . . . My NO would make you not ask another lady out when you already have a girlfriend.

Kids! Smh . . .

What is with people always claiming they "test" people because they are wealthy? Whatever made you think you're wealthy sef? Wealth is just not in money, but in attitude too. And i think you're heavily lacking in both.

A grater, he's always grating my nerves.

I think what the poster meant by that controversial statement was she met her ex while dating her "present" husband. She probably had more feelings for this her ex then, but since the guy that went on to become her husband did nothing wrong to her, she didn't want to hurt him and went ahead to marry him.

Now she meets her ex and wondered why she ever let him go.

My advice to single ladies out there. Never get married out of pity or just for the sake it. It may bite you in the a.ss much later as it did to this lady.

i'm 5'11. I've dated guys 4-5 inches taller than me, and those i'm 4-5 inches taller than. I really don't care about height, i look past all that. If you're great in the sack . . . sold!

SMH. . .

why the rush? if you need a naija man urgently, won't you rather relocate to a country where the single ones are in abundance?

on the bright side, nairalanders have toughtened my skin to kpomo. Nothing penetrates anymore. Ignore 'em all sweetie.

you left someone you dated for 9yrs cos she was fat and you'd aleady met some young lean thing right?

Young lean thing would leave you too. What goes around comes around.

She doesn't want to settle with you. The whole university angle is just an excuse. She go chop your money move ahead ahead.

funny thread!

The gullible ones are just marching in.

He's probably gay!

Odunnu: Yeah right!

It did.


Anyways told him yesterday to sort it out with my aunty and that I wouldn't want to be entangled in their mess. And that it would be advisable if he never contacts me again. He heeded I guess. But I still ain't telling her.

Nautillus: WOW!!!! Amya... i got to hand it to you...you have a thick skin(no porn intended)...and from your diction...you sound rather educated. BUT not justified...you gat a job..you are kinda fulfilled...why else would you keep contact with a family members EX...??..it doesn't sit well...in any way you try to look at the scenario.

just walk away from all this and let it go.

please. _{you sound rather smart...i'm sure you will do the right thing.}^{EXCEPT that you are just yanking everyone's chain.}

i never knew their marriage had problems. That's why when he came unto me like that, it shocked and traumatised me. I would never have anything to do with him even if i have a gun to my head.

[quote author=Amya]First off, let me start by saying this is a 100% true. If any one knows me on Nl, they'd know I don't make up stories.

My Dad's youngest sister is 39. she just got married last year to an AA guy she met on an online dating site. They got married here in Nigeria, so she has to be in Nigeria for 2 years before gets her green card to join him.

The guy has been to Nigeria a couple of times, but I haven't met him. He sent me a friend request on facebook, and earlier in the year, he asked my Aunty to give him my bb pin. We started chatting innocently. I call him uncle, and he calls me 'my sexy niece' he always try to chat me up every other day. After a while the communication stopped. We didn't chat for 2 months, but I could care less.

Yesterday, he went on full toasting mode. Telling me his marriage between by Aunty and him is over, and how he's always been in love with me and want's to marry me. I was trying to see reasons with him (more out of respect than anything else) why the liaison would never work, because his wife in question is my Aunt! Plus I have a bf I love.

He went on to say "Bleep tradition! Bleep family!!! I want you to be here in new york city with before the end of the year. We'll get married here and bla bla bla" It was shocking and traumatising.

I'll never be foolish enough to fall for that crap. But I may just teach him a few lessons never to mess with a naija girl (by chopping him mugu)

I really don't know whether or not to tell my Aunt about this and make it a family issue. [/quote

jennykadry: At ya service sa Hey she said nobody knows about it, next thing I see is "everyone I have told even brothers and family members are saying the same thing. Why is she messing with my head like this

aunty in question does not know, but everyone knows now.

The issue on ground is should i tell her?

. . .and to the moderator who rephrased my post topic to serve his perverse needs, a very big SCREW YOU to you!!


Little wonder people come in here all biased minded. Please everyone, read my first post objectively.

It was only in the last line that i 'considered' taking his money as a way of dealing with him. But people advised against it with good reasons. I slept happy, only to wake up this morning to be called a husband snatching w.hor.e!

Take a chill pill people.

safeLove: OP,abeg live all these people talking here. Once they hear(or read) somebody marry somebody,they think its made in heaven therefore no one must relate. Its your aunty I pity because this guy is obviously a scum. This is the kind of man that will toast all the sisters in law and sleep whatever smiles at him. Himself no get shame. I hope your aunty is trully separated from him because he can kill her one day just to bring in another woman. Stewpid fellow. America ko,puerto rico ni. He can even stoop as low as calling the house girl 'fine girl' just to sleep with her. Rubbish.
Honestly if I were you I'll carry a close member of the family along,play along and deal with him ruthlessly. In fact get him to come to Naija and set him up big time with the family. American reject. They feel they can eat their cakes and still have it(or is it the other way round)..

first reasonable post i have seen all day. Just exactly what me and my brothers were saying! Everyone i told including some members of family think the guy is an idiot who should be dealt with.

[quote author=Okija_juju][color=#0000]Biitch you are interested in the guy and if care isnt taken, you have sent him explicit pictures of you as well. You said you were only polite to him because of your Aunty and then turn around to call that same Aunty a biitch. YOU my dear are a harlot! A cheap, low-life, skanky, trashy, suck-a-diick-for-a-dollar prostituting LovePeddler. Biitch you know AIDS is real. Keep fhucking other women's men and soon, you would get a beatdown so bad you will not know what hit you!!


P.S: Amaka!! Yes! I know your name & surname biitch!! I took the liberty of looking you up on Twitter and you are one fat ugly piece of shiit. No wonder you cant land a man. Next time you wanna annonymously talk shit about anyone especially your family and close ones online, make sure you are truely annonymous... You were so dumb you had your picture, first name and last name on your profile and associated it with your Nairaland profile. And you said you were educated... I laugh!![/color]
[/quote]hey easy there. You wouldn't want to bust an artery there would you. You nairaland peeps take things way to serious. I'm ugly oh! Never mentioned anywhere that i was a beauty.

deshclones: You sound proud and worthless....calling your aunty names just cos of a man...what values do you have??

@idowo..see the chic you are defending...you insulted a whole DESH....cos of this lowlife tramp...nsogbu adighi...

i'm not a lowlife tramp, thank you.

you guys shouldn't be closeminded. What if i really didn't lead him on in any way? What if i put him off, albeit politely? He says 'sexy niece' because according to him, sexiness runs my family. Just thought he was a nice man who genuinely cares for his wife's family. He chats with my brothers as well. Now people accuse of me of plotting to snatch her husband.
I never sent him photos. I rarely ever use my picture on my dp. He must have gone rummaging for my pix on facebook

ifyalways: Its so annoying!
All her posts smells of "my aunt is worthless, I'm better". She's prolly dying up inside Cos even at 39, her aunt was able to attract a man, crackhead or not while she does not get a second glance from men.
Why would the man suddenly start to call her sexy?she's been sending him seductive pictures!
Your aunt would continue to be ahead of you and you'll continue to run after her left overs unless you change, ise!
Yeye de smell.

i'm not interested in the guy. Never have, never will. You all just want to see what you want to see. He's the jerk, not me.

And for calling my Aunt a b.tch, I have reason to believe that shƺ sees other men when he's not around. I never told him or anybody. Plus the kind of friends shƺ hangs out with are of questionable character. Portharcourt girls! shƺ didn't go to school. . . . Don't have a job, just hang around the net all day looking for men? Her best friend has been married to 4 white men in the space of two years!

I'm well educated and I work. How much lousy change can the stupid Akata drop sef. Both of them should carry their wahala and go sef. I ain't telling nobody!

For my Aunty, I don't know where she is. Saw her once last year during christmas. I tried keeping in touch but even that didn't work out.

Who will I tell? My parents never approved of the wedding in the first place! They didn't even go to the wedding! I was out of the country then, so I didn't go too. What a♍ I going to do?

Jeez before people would crucify mƺ already. All this happened two days ago, I haven't made any decision on how to go about it. That's why I'm here! Please come down you judgmental horses you guys.