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My parents do say thank you,if i buy them something but i know whom it comes out from the heart.

My father says thank you and bless me for very little thing i give to him e.g like complimentary card or drinks and he will make it look as if i bought him the world ,so yes i know he appreciate it to the deepest and from his heart.

My mother says thank you for a short time and u can feel it that she wants more even if i buy her the best car or house etc and mind u she will still cause me on top if i upset her and even beat me ontop if she gets the chance and compare me to other people that buys their mother more , ,so i know she didnt appreciate it that much .

Nope ,i luv all of them even though i get bad with them sometimes

i think women should always try to dress and look good in their marriage and not change after the wedding but someone who is used to dressing good will always keep doing that but this is not just about women some men also changes after they get married.

and bear in mind that even though a woman dresses good and take care of herself some cheating husband will still continue their cheatin life and they stop appreciating what they have at home just cos they married them,they think she is now a kept property so he can do whatever he wants and she dont leave them.

some people when they know all ur secrets they use it against u if eventually u break up with them.so its good to keep some things to urself.

its tradition and its not by force to do traditional wedding especially when u´ve done church or court wedding and yes its expensive ,some parents charge alot on their daughters
if you dont get traditional wedding done,parents and people in nigeria dont always regard u as someone who is really married so they put pressure on people for traditional wedding, u can also do it step by step if u dont have enough cash for now.

@Poster,
i think marriage is a good thing and the highest level of commitment but as i grew older ,experinced and educated i´ve also realised that someone can be truelly in love and  have a happy stable family life by living together as life partners and still have all the things married couples have e.g kids,house in both names,insurance,make him or her ur next of kin etc

As a common law marriage and still be respected in the public like legally married couples with the same rights.with this there is still a great commitment and alot of people do it now than getting married ,alot of countries even have legally documents for any couples intending to have a legal living together partnership agreement.

but if u really dont want any kind of commitment at all its best you tell him straight up now so he knows.

my girlfriend studing there told me how much she hate malaysia and can't wait to finish her studies and out of the country,some countries are just no go area.
the only help u can give them is paying for there ticket back home.if u have the money then the problem is resolved.

i think the test should be taken even before they start a serious relationship not only before marriage .
if u date someone for a while without protecting urself and all of a suden u want to get a test done before marriage then ur at loss. wisen up.

im speechless

there is nothing wrong in spying when u suspect ur partner is cheating or changed from whom he used to be and start acting up strange attitude ,definately my curiousity will push me to spy and find out what is going on ,anyone engaging in extramarital affairs will deny untill u catch them red handed.

This is a dangerous situation,physical abuse,how can a man in his right senses punch his PREGNANT WIFE and from behind ,
you need to get out from this situation as fast as u can,for u and ur kids sake cos this kind of man will do it all over again if u take him back .

i dont see that as a culture ,u should marry for u and not for ur ancestor or culture after all u will be the one to live with ur wife not them

i like both but in different ways.

i would like to have 2,a boy and a girl but if i have 2 girls or boys then i will try again maybe i could be lucky with the third one to be a girl or boy but if no luck then im done but i can also be happy with just one child,so it depends on what God gives me.

alot of people dont take it well when ur emotionally honest with them.

mmm thats fishy but evidence before conclusion maybe its just a friend

@poster,leave ur sister´s boyfriend alone and look for ur own man,u don't want to destroy the good relationship u have with ur sister for a man .what u feel for him is lust , not love and he might just be trying to use both of u so be very careful.

@shapey u have a heart of gold  for taking all those maltreatment from ur husband especially when u need him most,please don't let anything stress u now ,concentrate on having a healthy pregnancy first ,the rest can come later,i wish u the best.

she should have been honest with you from the begining of ur relationship but i understand that she was afraid of losing u if she tells u about her child cos most Nigerian men dont like marrying a woman with a child from another man and cos of this most of our women with child or children try to hide it and let there parents raise the child for them while they move on with life with another man. if you truelly love ur wife i see no reason divorcing her just cos she have a baby and especially if she is not asking you for money or any help to raise her child. there will be trust issue cos of this but its something that can be resolved and u can still have a happy marriage with her,goodluck.

For me is being on my own for awhile to cool my temper after then I'm back to normal  then i can apologise if i have to and discuss whatever that was bothering me and try to get it sorted cos when im angry i wont say anything good and it will result to more arguement ,

none,i will go by the day whenever i make a new year resolution i never keep it so there is no need .

Abuja is a great place to live,i stay there whenever i visit nigeria and im planning on buying a holiday house there soon cos its secure,clean with less traffic but its very expensive there,its nothing compare to other cities in nigeria houses there cost multi millions but anyway good luck with ur relocation plan

mmm interesting ,im glad i never buy ticket from any nigerian person .

either he is cheating or planing on and comparing u to the other woman or tired of the relationship
its also a way of showing his fustration when he wants out of the relationship but find it difficult to tell u about his feelings,so he tries to fustrate u and abuse u emotionally so that u will end the relationship urself,so he can play the good guy.just ignore him whenever he nags and try to comminicate with him about it and pray hard.

because most are looking for already made man that can give them security in life.

they are very picky and want mr perfect and forgetting that time is not on there side and some are just not lucky enough to find a husband no matter how hard they try, so they atleast concentrate on getting finacially secured and stable .

some dont even want marriage and when they are ready to have kids they just look for a good guy to be there baby daddy.marriage is not everything at the end one can still be happy in life and have there own family without marriage but security is very important in alot of women´s life so that come´s first for them.

myself more

so medical treatment is not free in the US ? then we are lucky in europe

this is always a difficult situation and needs understanding and comminucations ,do not take side as u will end up hurting ur children or ur husband,its important u let them know that u love them all and they are part of ur life and that u want them all to get along. counselling will be a great help to the kids as they are being insecure and needs reasurrance that they are still loved and nothing will change that

well ,i will try my best but if my best is not enough i will walk out ,if there are kids involve its always very difficult to leave but no one wants to live unhappy for the rest of there life all for the sake of enduring in marriage.