there is no big deal about it but not something i would do,he have to take the step and propose to me .

if i know about it ,i will cancel the wedding.

thats very unhealthy

both parties

thats very sad and heart breaking ,she should concentrate on her pregnancy first and try to avoid stress so she can have a healthy pregnacy  because stress can induce labour and cause pre-term birth ,her man is an asshole and can't be trusted and she needs to findout from her man what exactly is going on with him and the polish girl ,then she will know if her marriage can be saved or not.if she decides to stay with her husband and move on there will be a big trust issues .

Adam brody or whatever ur fucking nick name is,just mind urself and ur words here and dont insult me by calling me an abortee cos u dont know me,ur mannerless and rude with no respect. everyone here try to give advice and not to insult someone .i can see how stupid ur post replies are idiot.

I'm sorry about ur situation and its natural to react the way u did but don't forget that its not easy for her also finding out that she can't have kids or have kids naturally.

if u truelly love her ,now is the time to stand by her. i know u badly want kids of ur own and there are also other ways of having ur own kids.eg


1.) Your wife can donate her eggs and u donate ur sperm for surogacy ------------( in this case she will be 50% the mother of the baby and the woman who carries the baby in her womb 50% also while ur 100% the father of the baby )


2.) Or get a direct Surogate  ( without her eggs)

3.) IVF ,  ( i don't know if IVF will work on her since the baby can't implant to the uterus linning but u can findout from a fertility doctor )


4.) Embryo adoption  ------------- ( since ur fertile they will use ur sperm instead of someone elses and just trasfer it to ur wife´s womb when its formed )

5.) Adoption

he hasnt married them legally so he havent committed any legal offence and his wives arent complaining plus they are very happy being with him,i dont support poligamy but it is allowed in Nigeria and what is done is done ,they cant just force him to leave his wives ,for him it could mean abandoning his family that he loves,they should leave him alone his too old for all these stress ,he should just renouce muslim and become a christain and have peace and there is no quote in the koran stating the number of wives a man can have.

Maybe they are just jealous on how an old man like him manage such numbers of wives and they all live happily with him and in peace and they cant even handle the 4 wives they have but anyway,i still dont understand how the old man do it with all his wives

Arlington:

He asked to be transfared to another country , he still loves Nigeria but he just can't go there for a now.The funny part is they did not beat him up or anything they treated him OK , but when you are kidnapped with people with guns there is nothing OK about it.

im glad he was ok and that they didnt treat him bad .

thats very sad, im sure this will affect me too i dont understand whenever i put my hand on something thats when problems occurs,although i have no plans in touching it for a very longtime but i will contact my stock broker to verify this.

thanks for all ur advice ,now i understand why they keep talking about LEVELS well,if im not there levels why are they still contacting me cos most of them dont like mixing up with low LEVELS girls like me im content with what i have and if i need more i know i have to work very hard for it ,good things dont come easily. one thing i wont do is keeping a black toy boy when im married since they all think its ok and that im not doing what they are doing etc

ikamefa:

with those kinds of friends , who needs enemies? [/sub]

ur very correct this there LEVELS things brings jealousy since they are all compiting with themselives .

Ok most of my girlfriends are all referred as big girls,cos they are all loaded with cars,shop,house or houses and can afford almost everything they want finacially ,all married or in a stable relationship with a white man and with toy black boy or boys etc and some of them cant even read and write but just lucky to have a man that gives them everything etc

Now some of this girls keep telling me whenever we have a conversation that im not there LEVEL cos i refuse having a toy black boy,dont live a party life with freedom like them and i dont have cars or houses in Nigeria etc i never call most of these girls ,they are the ones that keep calling and emailing me of course i respond and im nice to them cos they are old friends and some are very nice ,i dont understand what LEVELS has to do with friendship .i mean im a graduate,married and have my ok life and i can afford my basic needs etc so what esle do they want and im not into this there levels thing and i dont degrade anyone poor or rich ,for me everyone are equal and i dont judge but give advice sometimes when needed.

Please can someone describe what really makes a big girl so i can forward it to them ,so they can learn and shout up

Thanks alot for ur advice,we have decided to suspend everything until PH is stable and my dad is ok with it for now.sorry about ur friends hubby,poor guy so they didnt even treat him good i suspose he will hate Nigeria now or are they still living in Nigeria after what happened to him ?

Arlington:

Angolobabe, just keep talking to your dad i guess he will wait or you can just send money down.
Don't take your husband at all to Ph , My friends husband was kidnapped but released later after eating enough kpokpo garri and dry worms
No matter the pressure now just don't take him to PH.

well,i will advice u to keep a low profile when u go home,dont tell them ur way about,some will seem happy seeing u but very jealous inside there heart,mind what and where u eat.take good vaccinations for both of u before going ,stay in a secure hotel if ur considering staying in a hotel and dont tell people ur room number and the hotel ur stay,dont trust anyone.

great news God is wonderful there is nothing he cant do,its obvious that they have used diabolic means on that woman not to give birth and proberly wanted her to die during her pregnancy, that also explains the reason for all her miscarriages in the past.

i have seen a woman in nigeria last year that came to my church that she was pregnant for 15 months and no doctors could help her and they told her she will die with the pregnancy etc but my pastor and the church prayed for her,alots of fasting and prayers and she slept in the church through out those days and 2 months later she gave birth to a healthy baby,so God is the greatest but 8 yrs is alot

if she is that religious then she wouldnt have slept with her fiance before marriage
the pregnancy is only in the early stage and it wont even show during her wedding unless she tells people,its better to keep the baby and abortion is not allowed religiously ,she is not a true christian for requesting an abortion.

congratulations

i have never done this before and my hubby have never asked me to,he does the cleaning inside the car himself if necessary but most times he takes it to car wash.tell him to take his car to CAR WASH plus its very cheap .

just be honest with her.

she like u oo  to choose u as her baby daddy  ,give her what she wants and collect the money,she doesnt want to leave her husband because of his situation but still want a baby and keep her marriage so i understand her but if i was in her shoe i would buy a sperm from a hospital since she can afford it,maybe u should recommend that to her

thats sad it happens very often ,i suppose its cos they are still single and living a single life while ur thinking of ur kid and hubby and concentrating on family life, try to be friendly with them and call them sometimes and see if they will adjust to ur new life and come around but if they dont ,make friends with other married ladies with or without kids as they are in the same situation as u.

most of my friends now are people in serious relationship with a man and proberly living together as a family and married ones with or without kids cos we are in similar situation and have similar things to talk about and it works so far.

switzerland Airport is full of racist for sure,dem dey search blacks die,for that reason i told my hubby that i wont go to switzerland anymore but after the Airport wahala things are ok in the country and sorry i forgot to mention that in switzerland they also speaks other languages e.g, German ,french and italian but alot of swiss speaks english .

The best countries in europe are

1.Norway---- lovely ,people are nice,great benefit from the Govt but cold---second langauge is English

2.Denmark ,  lovely but cold----second langauge is English

3.Spain---- the weather is great ,the people are nice and Costa del Sol is the best place to live for me.

4.Sweden--- lovely but cold, second langauge is English

5.Switzerland- lovely and the people are nice and friendly ----second langauge is English

6. France - i like the southern part eg. Nice ,Villefranche and paris

7.) Italy- its ok but i only like Florence and Rome

8.)  Malta - is interesting alot of history,nice weather and the people are friendly-- second langauge is English

9.) Portugal--- is lovely but they are racist and no jobs but i like the Algarve, english is spoken there

10.) Monaco --- its ok but too small and very strict

11.) UK --- accomodating   but too much taxe and expensive

12.) Ireland --- is great so far

13.) Germany--- is nice but racist

14.) Holland is great and welcoming


but there are langauge issues in most  that one need to learn.

child abuse

mmm this is tough but considering that ur husband have a good business in nigeria and can give u and ur kids a good life in nigeria ,family should always come first,staying in UK without husband will destroy ur marriage and ur kids will grow up without there father which will affect them in the long round.
i think u and ur husband should sit down and discuss this issue, citizenship wont garantee u a better life.

i help them by seting them up for a better future to prevent jealousy ,eg i sent 2 of my sisters abroad ,one is doing her masters in UK now while the other is here with me in europe and settled, i open a resturante for another one in nigeria,paying tuition fee for another in Uniport and encouraging her to get a higher grade so i can transfer her education abroad and i bought a car for my mom -Nissan Altima etc and i hope to retire soon on this so everyone can fend for themselives and i can then concentrate on myself

he either forgive her and move on with life or divorce her,its his decision.

My Favourite friend is GOD because he nevers fails me.

a cheater will always remain a cheater weither u decide to stay with him or not ,u have to know what u want and follow ur heart.