@Hakir,thanks for ur detailed explanation,i appreciate it,looking forward to see ur list, i dont want where there is alot of okado ´s,like u explained then i think lugbe and Gwarimpa could be the best but the secured area in kubwa could be ok too, let me see what u have to enable me decide .

@Hakir,
please what is the difference between lugbe,  kubwa and kuje area? and which of the area is best to buy a land and build a residential property and more secure?

im looking to get something in one of the above area or Gwarimpa area,in Gwarimpa area i would like a Govt house of 1 storey building that i can rent some part of the building and live in one part,that has some space of land with the building for future development.

and secondly,i want to ask if those 1 storey building of Govt houses in Gwarimpa area can be re-design or is it only renovation that can be done on it? ur reply will be appreciated to enable me decide the area to concentrate on and please if u have any land or property in the above area with reasonable price and all legal and complete document do let me know.
thanks

thanks alot @desse, so land are that expensive in Ajah ,i thought someone can get for less maybe half price from the amount u mentioned,i dont know much about Ajah im still doing my research,thanks anyway.

i like the last design ,who is this archetect and where are u based ? and can it be reduced to 4 bedrooms instead of 6 bedrooms?

hakir:

@angolobabe

yes, u can build in lugbe now and their are good builders here, u may want a turnkey project, were u will be sure of the developer delivering, or u may want to take it in stages and pay as the developer develops.

some lands are already in c of o, but for those in offer status (r of o) , u will need to pay for the c of o before the building. in the premium given to be paid as a full payment for c of o, on paying 50% , u will be given an acknowledgment, with this u can commence ur building. but let me make further inquiry from develoment control tomorrow, pls do remind me via , call or mail

acknowledgment, does not take time, but c of o could take months, as the minister has to sign. though, for those influential, it could take just a weeks or few.

NOTE: FHA lugbe, the roads are under going rehabilitation and very nice structures can be seen in every nook and cranny.

08069585568

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thanks for ur reply and let me know whatever u find out  and dont forget about the Govt consent,i want to have C of O or at least the acknowledgment from the Govt before building on the land to be on a safe side about the building contract i will like it on stages its better for me that way,i will sort that out when the time come´s. i will call u next week but until then keep me posted.
thanks

Hi Harkir,
Please how long does it take´s after buying a land in Abuja before someone get the C of O and Governor's consent ?
Do they have good and reliable constructions companies over there? and is it possible to start building immediately in Lugbe area?
and will the C of O and the Governor's consent be issued before building on the land?

Please people living in lagos,i will like to know if its safe buying a land in Ajah in lagos and if the location is also in the Govt plan for the express road etc
and if anyone have idea how much a plot of land cost over there,i will appreciate ur reply .
thanks.

This is very sad especially when maria is 35 yrs old now and still waiting for u , this paper sef dey put people for trouble.
i will advice u to try and work on ur marriage with ur wife in spain before thinking of divorce to be with someone u havent seen in years,whom might have changed in various ways,

were u keeping contact with maria while u are with ur wife in spain and telling her to wait for u? if so its very bad ,people should learn never to tell anyone to wait for them when travelling abroad,there are alot of disappointment while waiting for someone.

but in the other hand,if their is no love in a marriage is like living in hell,try to make amend first and work on ur marriage and see if it will work out but if nothing workouts its better to divorce if that will make u happy but dont forget ur child comes first, is ur wife in spain a Nigerian or spanish?

As someone who grew up with house boy and girls ,i know how helpful it has been for us,to be honest all the house girls never last cos of my mom hash behaviour and she does it to her kids too and not just the house helps,so they either run away or she send them packing most of them are adult females .

The house boy is the best we´ve had so far,he took good care of us like a big brother since my parents are often off travelling on business etc
his like a family,my mom never had any problem with him everyone loved him,he was studying in the University part-time and taking care of us as well,we help him alot as i and my elder sister does most of the cooking and washing ,so we never treated him like a house boy,now his very succeful married with kids with his hardwork and my parents assistance cos his an Orphan so we are the only close family he have now.


When he got married my mom got another house girl she was about 16 or 17 yrs old, as soon as they employed her ,my family started having various problems and then she confessed one day in the church that she is a witch and the caused of most of our problems they sent her packing.

So now my mom only have a weekly helper that she pays and doesnt live in our home.so their are advantages and disadvantages when it comes to having a in-live house help.

prayers will help u out ,the deed has already been done ,God is the only way now if u really want to save ur marriage.

bilms:

to be sincere with u, almost all the areas in abuja are secured.

well u can get an already built houses for sale in abuja, in the following areas


Maitama
Asokoro
Utako
Wuse Zone
WuseII
Gwarimpa estate
Apo


all are good areas with security and electricity. good enviroments aswell.


u can contact me on my anyway.

discuswithmayor@yahoo.com

08076976917

cheers

thanks alot atleast i have some idea about location just incase.

i know houses in abuja are very very expensive, is it difficult getting already built house in Maitama or Asokoro area?

and what other areas apart from maitama and Asokoro that have good security and stable electricity that someone can live without worrying about Armed robbers.?

please can anyone living in abuja give me list of good area´s to buy a house in abuja with maximum security,stable electricity and good enviroment etc
ur help will be appreciated.
thanks

please can anyone living in abuja give me list of good area´s to buy a house in abuja with maximum security,stable electricity and good enviroment etc
ur help will be appreciated.
thanks

Karma is the case for the woman who made another woman`s husband abandon his kids and wife for her selfish interest,one thing women that does this dont know is that the man will do the same to them if they are in similar situation,the man is heartless if he was atleast paying child support it would have been less complicated.

big no

u can tell her later in the future but not now that she is coming for medication,meanwhile during her visit try to make her accept and like ur girlfriend first and tell her she is either ur flatmate or a friend of urs staying with u during her pregnancy due to matrimonial problems.

there is more education now and alot of our women dont put up with men that treat them bad anymore,most men spend their time chasing young girls and living a single life and make their wife a baby factory machine,housekeeper,maid etc and when a women gives birth to their children they authomatically classify her as a second hand that no other man will want her cos she has kids ,so they treat her the way they want ,thinking she will never leave them ,MEN WAKE UP things has changed now ,no educated woman will put up with abusive husband anymore.

@poster,i think is when u know ur relationship with ur partner is serious and will lead to a permanent relationship before introducing him to ur kids,as u dont want to introduce them to a man who isnt going to be there long in there life cos it will break their heart.

this is serious,is ur father in-law supporting her affair?

mmm thats interesting,i can never be able to be a surrogate mother to anyone´s baby cos i cant give up any baby i carry in my womb weither gestational method or not but i have nothing against it ,it takes a women with a BIG heart to offer someone else the oppournity to be a mother and having their own child by being a surrogate mother weither paid or not and God will always bless the person for opening there heart to do this.

i think ur marriage should come first,if ur husband dont like ur friend cos she is a club girl please quit that friendship.

@poster,the only way to put an end to this situation is to move out,so that there will be peace in the house,since ur working u can be able to fend for ur self or even stay with those people that are willing to offer u accomodation and make sure to thank ur uncle and his wife for ur stay with them.

@poster, i think she just want to make ur marriage legal cos traditional marriage is just a ceremony nothing more and educated women will definately want to be legally married i dont see anything wrong in that.

The fact that im alive despart how bad last year had been for me,seeing 2009 is a miracle and makes me happy cos when there is life there is hope and

my hubby telling me how much he love and care about me ,when I'm down ,just knowing he cares brightens my day and awake´s positive energy in me .

Only time can heal u its ok to mourn or cry take ur time ,dont let people rush u by telling u to move on with ur life as its always not that easy,try to spend more time with some close family and friends and do things that u like to will keep u busy.talking about it with anyone that will listen, it will also help release the sadness by sharing them than keeping it to urself,

the wife is the one to straighten this issue with her husband.

please do calm down and take it easy on urself being a Virgen is not a big deal to u or is it? the main problem here should be why she lied about it in the first place ,do sit her down and clear it out and concentrate on ur marriage.

@ Olanajim your advice sounds very good,Joy i hope this can help u a liitle ,good luck

olanajim:

Joy,

It is possible that some people your father offended are behind his travails. It is also possible that it might be due to his own carelessness. From your story, he had married at least 3 times. And didn't get on well with his own sibblings talkless of his wives. Maybe that is what occationed his consistent broken marriage. Maybe evil men are truly at work.

You have choices to make. Do you want to end up as a nobody living in that shadow until you are unable to proceed on your education?

Do you enjoy being labelled a witch? Mark you, it may affect your own future relationship too. Especially if your future husband start believing the lies.

There is this saying that IF YOU REPEAT A LIE TOO OFTEN, IT WILL BECOME A TRUTH.

I suggest that you secretly establish relationship with your dad sibling, especially anyone that is sympathetic to your cause. You will then state your facts. As the two of you get familiar, you must ensure that you make your study and career your priority. Work hard. Then, seek assistance of your distance relative and proceed on study far, far from your home! If you can travel out, it is great. Just stay away from your dad once you are in school and bury yourself in works. I am sure they will find another witch once you are out of sight. That is long term solution, in my own view.

On the interim, remain good to your dad and everyone. Stay out of trouble. Pray alot. Don't hate your dad. Don't do things that may lead to your being branded a witch.

Most important, you have got to talk to your dad!

How? First endear yourself to him and let him see how good you are. Second, find a time he is relax and see if you can talk to him. This is a critical part and it depend on the kind of father you have. If he is a stubborn one, it will be tough.

What should you tell him?

1. Just ask him why his sibblings don't visit you. Let him tell you what went wrong at least for d sake of posterity. Listen to him.
2. Ask him whether he truly believe you are a

God should touch his children´s heart to care for their aged father ,no matter whatever the situation had been between them.