abeg define LOVE for me as i bi JJC

Hugger:

Is that what love is about?

i think maybe he has suspension of u cheating on him while his abroad and his only trying to frighten u to remain faithful.there is no such thing as private eye in nigeria unless he hires a private person on this.long distance relationship dont work with out trust,so he needs to trust u not invade ur privacy or frighten u .

i dont see anything wrong with it but make sure u can love him/her and not just for the money.

move on dear don't waste ur time and emotions on something that will never take place.u deserve better and he just might not be the right man for u.

i think u should contact the Civil Registry office for information.normally they dont usually ask for alot of documents
e.g
passport
Residential address details
2 passport photographys
spinsterhood certificate, divorce or dealth cert.
fee
2 catton of five alive etc

poor innocent kids,the man is wicked period and cant blame devil for it .

give her time to make up her mind about ur proposal,eventually she will let u know if her answer is YES or NO. i wish u best of luck.

Yes Leilah,my husband is european and i dont like hearing this kind of story about interracial marriages as they are spoiling the name of other nigerians that are married to white for real.

Leilah:


Hey Angolobabe, did yu marry a white guy?

some married ladies kept there fathers name for benefit purposes,if  there fathers name is well known etc most of my married step-sisters kept my fathers name as it helps them socially and when seeking job,contracts in Nigeria etc.
as for me i took my husbands name after marriage.if i divorce God forbid,i have decided to still keep my married name because i want to have the same surname as my kids.

Hugger:

Are you married
I didn't realise that one has to plan for divorce when planning for marriage. no wonder many marriages by people with these liberal and westernised minds don't work out in the long run- you already have at the back of your mind that you will divorce some day

@hugger,nobody wishes for divorce when married but no body knows tomorrow,anything can happen if its meant to  ,know matter how hard u try to prevent or stop it .

his an EX for a reason ,do u want to go back to his cheating ass ? cos his going to do it again and u will end up being hurt again,i think its better for u to move on,i know its hard cos u love him but with time it will fade.

if they have kids together i will understand ,otherwise not healthy to me but there should be a limit of the friendship to his ex girlfriend and her family.this is something u need to discuss with ur man since u dont feel comfortable with it.

but do know that he choose to be with u not her cos with the kind of friendship they have,if he wanted to be with her he would have.

My husband does not snore, but I would throw a bucket of cold water in his head if he did. At least he would be out of the bed then, and find another place to sleep than my warm and cosy bed ,JUST A JOKE

some of them i agree on but definately not taking off his shoes when he comes home or leting him go out whenever he wants ,partying or having dinners without me,thats licence to cheating.

he cant come home late for dinner without giving me a good reason ,infact he has to inform me in time that he will be home late for lunch or dinner .so that my food doesnt get cold on the table.

plus even if his so busy working he have to help me with the kids and domestic works sometimes especially in the weekeneds when his not working.

i wont but if its too much that i cant sleep at night then i will sleep in another room.

its a thing of choice and i have nothing against it.

i dont believe in this blood is thicker than water thing anymore cos blood can harm u more than water itself ,if blood is that strong then he wouldnt have done that to u.

the marriage shouldnt hold cos u cant trust him/her.

don't ever try beating her on the stomach to acheive miscarriage that will be wickedness,do u want to kill her? when u were enjoying it u forgot she can get pregnant,why didnt u use condom? well ur going to be a father soon CONGRATULATIONS . start perparating for nappies and kiddy room

that was exactly what happened to my land in PH,my mom bought it without checking and the land was sold to 2 people and the case went to court although she won the case but she greedily conned me from my property and my hard earn money.but i have learnt my lessons

next time if there will even be any next time i wont involve any family member to help me with all thing because some of them are the same as the 419ers.
they can even kill u for ur own property.

if u truelly love her,u can help and take her to a good paster for deliverance and be 110% sure she is completely delivered then u can marry her or else stay away.

some of our nigerian men feel inferior with a woman more sucessful than them or more educated than them
why some of these our successful girls feels that money is everything and try to control anyman that comes there way with that and men dont like that
,plus alot of them have bad attitude and cant keep a man.

and some are scared of our men coming only after there money so they prefer to be single and rich than get rift off by fake men.

yes several times,love is about giving and receiving ,if his giving all the time and not receiving love from me then i better call it a quit

when he can't live without u
when he is there for u,in good and bad times
when he takes care of ur needs.
when his proud of being with u to his friends and family
when his a  little jealous
when he listens to u and takes ur side
when u comes first in his life
when he calls u anytime of the day just to know how u are .
etc

dont forget i didnt say u should abandon all ur married male friends cos they are married,i said its ok to have a CASUAL FRIENDSHIP,with limits and boundaries with them.read my lips before u posters jump into bashing.

im glad u understand what i mean jare ,having a male friends is ok as some people think its less complicated and less gossip compare to having female friends but with a married man its not healthy.

fyneguy:

I don't think it's healthy hanging around married men. You may end up causing frictions in their homes. Wives getting suspicious n stuffs, even when you are just friends. Would u like to see your husband hanging around some single gurls? he tells you "honey, don't worry she's just a friend"


As per ladies being spiteful and ''bitchy", you all complain: "i prefer male friends jare, ladies are bitchy". , hence you are the complainant and the accused! may be you all should work on yourselves rather than blame the lady next door.

I have heard ladies say "theres nothing wrong in keeping one's ex as a friend" would u allow ur boyfriend to do same?

correct

rokiatu:

I would say it's a matter of attitude really.
even if your beautiful, if you got bad attitude
then finding a good husband wouldn't be easy.
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it does make sense though but for me i prefer average man not rich or poor but i should be able to live a comfortable life

its doesnt sound good to me,if u want to have male friends do that with single male not married ones,if u knew them beofre marriage u can have a casual friendship with them with limits and boundaries.no going to parties alone with them.

i do trust my hubby but as  a married woman i can't allow my husband having a SINGLE female friend and partying alone with them without me. ur steering up problems between him and his wife.put a stop to that.its not healthy why destroy a happy home,u don't even care about his wife´s feeling how would u feel if the case was reverse?

i will never trust her again and i will have nothing to do with her plus i will disown her from my heart for sleeping with my husband and destroying my family.
and i will divorce my husband´s ass. this is not acceptable period.

i think from 25-28 and it also depends on the person and how many kids they desire to have ,as alot of people wants to achieve there goals before starting to have kids
i wish to be done with babies at 35.

why didnt u protect urself by taking birth control pill untill ur ready to have another baby,i do undertsand that ur husband doesnt want to go into another baby issue when ur still nursing a 3 months old baby.u need to discuss this issue with ur husband ,it was unplan but it has happen,keeping the baby would be a normal thing a married couples do unless for medical reason then abortion can be applied.

if u can ur husband cant afford it since u already have a 3 months baby,i do understand his fear for asking u to abort but if both of u can afford a second baby and he still insist on u aborting then his upto something which is a bad signal and could affect ur marriage.

@ Missy B,
thanks ,its painful and hard knowing his not here with me but God knows why,yes thats my late son´s picture on my profile ,he does look big for a 29 weeks baby.sorry for ur loss also.

My elder sister ,we get along but she is extremely jealous of me even when she is prettier and taller than me .
and i also get along with my younger ones ,the one with me in europe all she now does is taking my personal issues back home so im giving her a long spoon for now but we get along ok.