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stevecantrell:
Huh ?!!

Sorry, typo.

"did you or did you not see the potential of this attitude in her before marriage" ??

@stevecantrell

I can only imagine what you're going through. One question I have for you is this "did you are did you not see the potential of this attitude in before marriage" ??

If you can sincerely answer this,it will help a lot in gathering advice;even my opinion.

If you can open this thread,don't be ashamed to answer the question regardless of responses that you'll get.

May God keep you.

Symphony007: From a bold, calculating leader with an astute command of the english language

He was called "the man with a velvet voice"

iamsegsy: And there have been countless missionaries who have
laboured unceasingly in the cause of education and to
whom we owe many of our medical services. We are
grateful also to those who have brought modern
methods of banking and of commerce, and new
industries. I wish to pay tribute to all of these people
and to declare our everlasting admiration of their
devotion to duty.

This man deserves a second term. If he contest (from the grave) I will cast my vote in his favour.

He saw the glory that should follow if the above mentioned sectors had been perfect but evil people greedy of gain (worse than He could have ever been--if he would have been) cut him short.
I pray God lift up godly people who will not spare to serve and deliver the abundance to us in Jesus name,Amen.

Tallesty1: A guy or girl who is not financially stable should not think of marriage.


@OP. Gimme 400k and I will get you two wives plus one house-help.

No kill me with laugh abeg.

afribabe: Thanks all. I really appreciate the prayers and wishes. I say AMEN to them all. I am grateful.

@Tracey-
@Kingk - lol
@dagr8- lol long time.

when are we coming back here for a little game??

Hi,

Wishing you a happy birthday;though it is belated. I couldn't write you because I changed my email address. You can write me back on anukulapo@gmail.com OR drop your email address.

Cheers!

teeo: I became a man early in life, when I lost my dad and realized I had siblings to cater for.
I stopped thinking about myself first and think of how my actions would affect my siblings and my mother.
You become a man when you face responsibilities and handle them well.

Omo at times I wish I was still a child.

Someone once told me that "you're now a man" when I lost my dad years ago...I picked offence from the statement as it wasn't a reasonable statement in such a situation and I thought he spoke from a shallow mind (from vain words he pick somewhere without thinking).

He's almost 50years old and his dad is still alive and I regard him as "a boy" considering that he still has a father.

Orina: (The following statement was released by the rating agency) MILAN/FRANKFURT/LONDON, September 19 (Fitch) Fitch Ratings has upgraded Nigerian Lagos State's National Long-term rating to 'AA+(nga)' from 'AA(nga)'. The Outlook is Stable.
The agency has simultaneously affirmed Lagos State's Long-term foreign and local currency Issuer Default Ratings (IDRs) at 'BB-' with Stable Outlooks and its Short-term foreign currency IDR at 'B'. Its NGN275bn MTN programme, together with its NGN57.5bn and NGN80bn bonds, which mature in 2017 and 2019, respectively, have been affirmed at 'BB-' and upgraded to 'AA+(nga)' from 'AA(nga)'.
KEY RATING DRIVERS The upgrade reflects Fitch's expectations of the state's continued solid operating performance, improved transparency and efforts towards an increasingly sophisticated and transparent administration, which is conducive to growing private sector investments.
The rating action reflects the following rating drivers and their relative weights: High: Management and Administration: Fitch believes that Lagos management is becoming increasingly more sophisticated. With the aim to progressively improve transparency and accountability to international standards, the state is improving its governance and disclosure, with budgets and quarterly performance being published on the official website. Debt management has also improved, with longer bond tenures and more loans from development banks while ministerial departments continue to bolster collections of local taxes.
Economy: With a local GDP accounting for 20%-25% of the national GDP, Lagos is a key driver of Nigeria's economy despite being the smallest state by territory. Domestic production is fuelled by its diversified economy as a commercial hub in the country, with service, construction, transport and industry making up 80% of the local economy. Fitch believes that Lagos' socio-economic indicators will further improve as local GDP growth is expected to outperform the estimated national GDP growth of 7%-8% in 2014.
Medium: Finance: After recording a strong 57% in 2013, Fitch expects Lagos to see its operating margin stabilise at around 50% in the medium term, supported by growing local taxes, and by the administration's commitment to keep cost growth in line with inflation (expected at 8%-10% over the medium term). Lagos' revenue structure is highly diversified compared with the national average, amid continued efforts to expand revenue sources through oil-related projects. Fitch expects Lagos' revenue to remain driven by services and the tertiary sector Under its base case scenario, Fitch expects internal generated revenues (IGRs) to grow above NGN400bn by 2016, or 80% of total revenue, from about NGN266bn in 2013 (70%), reducing its dependence on federal allocation.
Fitch expects capital spending to remain at NGN250bn in 2014 as Lagos continues to invest in transport (including a light metro transit and a motorway under construction), water, health, education (child-care centres) and social protection. We expect spending to eventually decline in 2015-2016 as a new planning period is phased in after the state elections. This should lead to narrower deficits at Lagos before achieving a balanced budget in 2015, from a peak deficit of 25% of revenues in 2010. Given Lagos' policy of attracting private sector investments to complement capex funding, Fitch believes this will limit the state's recourse to debt, which should remain at around two to three years of the current balance.
Lagos's ratings also reflect the following rating drivers: Debt and Liquidity: Under Fitch's base case scenario Lagos's debt will be at NGN450bn in 2014-2016, with bonds representing about 50% of total debt (down to about 40% when net of repayment provisions made to the sinking fund), in line with 2013 and up from about 30% in 2009, and long-term debt stabilising at about 80% of total debt. These figures, if materialised, will compress the debt to revenue ratio to 90% from the 100% expected for 2014, mirroring improved debt management with fixed repayment schedules, longer maturities and monthly provisions into debt reserve funds. In Fitch's base case, liquidity should not be a risk, averaging NGN100bn over the medium term, equivalent to approximately 1x annual debt service requirements.
RATING SENSITIVITIES The ratings could be further upgraded if improvements in the budgetary performance result in debt levels at 1x the budget size, while maintaining a high component of subsidised foreign loans (about 30% at end-2013), in turn lowering the debt servicing burden. Further improvement of the local economy giving additional boost to IGRs would also be positive for the ratings.
Conversely, an operating margin declining towards 30%, unfavourable changes in the national tax policy, debt rising beyond Fitch's expectations and economic instability, even at the local level, could lead to a downgrade.

http://mobile.reuters.com/article/idUSFit75488020140919?irpc=932

Waoh,sounds great BUT can you translate this to english so that regular citizens can understand?

How I am related to Fela Anikulapo Kuti

mebad: Are there pictures showing the healing of the cat ?

i don't understand. rephrase please.

@ayobase.
Na one (cow) buffalo give am the wound o. I pity her sha

and finally...

more

Though this cat is not a pet but my conclusion is that when life/death is involve, even (a) wild cat will be grateful and not hunt it's rescuers (after recovering from anesthesia as can be deduced in picture #

Questions worth asking.

Yes he will.

LMAyedun: Iyiola Omisore

Iyiola Omisore was pictured eating roasted corn and riding commercial motorcycle few weeks to the Governorship election in Osun state.

Not to single this gorvenor out but walahi,this Omisore pictured with the corn no try at all. the guy seem like one yoruba comedian. If i didn't know, i'll have said it's a yoruba version of Osofia in london. lol.

Anyways, people get their kind of leader that fits them (that's why some other states got the kind of governors they have).

Nigeria for sale

Some Nigerians have been paid already with bag of rice and other food stuff.

Interested politicians have been buying and still bidding to buy up other shares that are yet to be put out for public offer.

Where and how did they get the money to make these purchases?

Ask the next poster.

God is watching Nigerians.

Politics at it's best worst.

SMH for Nigeria and we Nigerians.

Did i hear someone say "this topics that you are sharing... "

Alwaystrue: Hello @anukulapo,
What I was trying to say was that Eve added what God did not say 'DO NOT TOUCH IT LEST YOU DIE'. This may be because she didn't hear it direct from God. Interpretation becomes skewed by the time we do not hear God ourselves.
That was why God had to send His VOICE/WORD again in Jesus Christ since the Israelites refused to hear him direct on Sinai but rather preferred a mediator.

Ok. I thought as much;I just wanted to be sure. Good observation especially to support the fact that MOST TIMES "Interpretation becomes skewed by the time we do not hear God ourselves".

However I want to draw our attention back to some other major points in the commandment.
As clearly stated in both statement of the commandments (directly from God and her recant) She knew that
1) they ought not to eat
If they do,
2) They will die
She was clearly aware of the commandment.

I know you didn't say anything contrary to the point I just made above but I just wanted to state it so that we will not shift from that the observation (which is true) would not become another "strong meat" that some other people would begin to wrestle with.

I hope this won't amount to distraction and derail. Just my input on the issue.

Grace to you,stay blessed.

Alwaystrue: Let us fast forward to the creation of man and the command of God regarding the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. After the instruction by God, man disobeyed. Pertinent to remember is what Eve told the devil when he asked her to recant what God told her…she must have heard God’s instruction from her husband and gave second-hand information yet if we compare what God told Adam and what Eve told Satan, we will notice a difference. God spoke His word to Adam which he informed his wife and Eve stated it as a law to the devil (do not even touch..if Eve was a lawgiver that is what she would have added)…Compare the below noting the highlights.

God Speaking:
Genesis 2:17
But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die

Eve Speaking:
Genesis 3:3
But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.

What I just presented above is for our rumination and deep meditation and whatever questions I asked are rhetoric.

I carefully read through your post but I still don't get your point in the above quote especially as regards Eve recanting the instruction of God to the devil.

Please,spare a little time to clarify. Thanks.

@all contributors
You are all doing a good job. I hope I catch up with the pace to read through to the latest page soon.

frosbel: When did Jesus go back to the Father , after Death or after Resurrection ?


Don't forget this scripture :

"Jesus said, "Do not hold on to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father. Go instead to my brothers and tell them, 'I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.'" - John 20:17

Let me shine a light on the path i think you should tread.

The subject should be if he knew or not ...

If you agree that he knew he would return to the father; and with a glory, without the pain he went through, why was he in agony?

So, the issue is not about "When" he went back to the Father , after Death or after Resurrection

Mod has hidden two quotes directed to me and I don't know if it was you response.

Cheers

frosbel: When did Jesus go back to the Father , after Death or after Resurrection ?


Don't forget this scripture :

"Jesus said, "Do not hold on to me, for I have not yet ascended to the Father. Go instead to my brothers and tell them, 'I am ascending to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.'" - John 20:17

I'm still trying to understand your point sir. I do not see the relevance of the above to my response or the topic.

Am I missing something?

frosbel: Christians often say that when we die we are immediately transported to heaven where there is everlasting joy, peace etc.

But if it where so, why are some of us believers the most cowardly in the face of death, why do we fight to stay alive, use seatbelts in our cars, eat healthy food, take medicine , scream ' In Jesus name ' when there is a small wobbling of a plane in the sky , curse those who want to bring death to us and ask God to rain down fire on our enemies.

Surely if we enter heaven after death, we should all start celebrating death and delete scriptures such as ' oh death where is thy sting ' or ' the final enemy to overcome is death '.

So tell me , why are you scared of dying O Christian for heaven awaits thee on the other side.

In other words, like asking why Jesus prayed so much that the sweat from his body was like blood. You should ask Jesus also. Didn't he know that he was going back to the father?

uncleck: what is the social implication of prayer?

Social discrimination. "Prayer warriors" may think that you are back sliding if don't pray "in the street" and "by every corner" and "at the market place".

But

If the case is that you really don't pray (keep communication with God) then something may actually be going wrong.

@topic

That's not true. Don't say what God did not tell you nor clearly written in the bible.

but at least we all know that all liars will go to hell sha.

Revelation 21:8
But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and ALL LIARS--they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death."

ihedinobi2: Ever wish you had the answers to a test before you walked into the classroom? Maybe some of you did have the answers, but you better keep that to yourself. I took some really hard tests during my college tenure. An engineering curriculum will do that. And if you spent time in college you remember review days. The professor would walk into a class full of students (some of which I had never seen) and give some insights about the impending test. Miss review day, and it would be foolish to expect a passing grade. But it never failed. I would follow the guideline. I would study the handout. But on the day of the exam, the professor would put the exam on my desk…and there it was. A foreign formula or equation I had never seen. At least one I did not see on the study guide. Looking back, I realize something…the teacher did not intend for the study guide to be comprehensive. It was simply not possible to include everything from the required reading, class notes, and lectures. Such is the case with the church and marriage. I am grateful for the foundation the church gave me in regards to marriage. It was a good study guide. But there some things on the test I did not learn until marriage began. So, I am going to give you some answers to the test that some of you might not expect to see. I grew up in church. I spent most of my time with Christian people. I was told much about marriage. But these 7 truths about marriage I never heard in church.



1.) Sex is a gift from God. Explore It.

Make no mistake…God created sex. But through the years, God’s people have allowed Satan to steal this gift. Without a fight. I was never educated about sex…and I grew up in a Christian family. My framework for sex was built by my friends at school and the movies I watched. Big UH OH. I still struggle with enjoying the fullness of sex today because of the cloud of lies formed during my teenage years.

It is time for God’s people to take back the gift of sex. The lies surrounding it are ruining lives and ruining marriages. If you are married, let me challenge you to explore sex. Explore the fullness of it for the glory of God. Pray for sexual intimacy with your spouse.

Parents…it is time to stop allowing Satan to define sex for our children. Educate them. Start early. The average child is exposed to pornography at age 11. Eleven!! And many parents wait until high school to have “the talk” with them. At that point, you are not building a foundation for sex, but trying to destroy a foundation Satan has already built.


Church leaders…I am convinced of this. The situation in our culture today is too dire to allow parents to override you here. Talk about sex. If parents refuse to educate their children, then you do it. Do not let Satan beat you to the punch. A false understanding of sex is destroying our young people. It is destroying our nation. It is destroying our world. And we are doing nothing! Sex is a beautiful gift created by God for a man and a woman that have vowed to spend the rest of their earthly lives with one another. If you are married…open this gift and enjoy the fullness of it.




2.) There is more than one person out there for you.

Soul mates are made…not born. I am not sure where this idea of soul mate originated, but it is false. Maintaining a healthy relationship is more about commitment than perfection. Every person on earth has imperfections. And the reality is we could spend our lives with more than one person.


Tiffani (my wife) is not perfect. There are nuances about her that frustrate me. But I have realized these frustrations are really a result of my imperfections. I love her so much. And I love her more everyday. I am committed to her.

I meet too many young people that are waiting for something that is not real. “I just couldn’t marry her because she smacked her food.” “He just wasn’t the one…he had this weird twitch when he smiled. But I know my soul mate is still out there. I just have to keep looking.”

Or you might have just missed him or her. What if God does not want you to find a perfect person, but find an imperfect person that will draw you closer to Him? What if God desires you to marry a person with flaws to expose yours?

What if God wants to teach you the value and life found in committing to one person forever, not the exhausting pursuit of searching your entire life to find the perfect person?

Soul mates are made…not born.




3.) The first year of marriage is hard…really hard.

What have we done? Are we going to make it? Why is this so hard? All questions I asked myself many times during my first year of marriage. We were arguing. We were fighting. It was really hard. And every day I thought something was wrong. I thought we had a bad marriage. Nobody warned me about the first year. But take this as a warning…the first year of marriage is difficult. If you are in the first year of marriage and thinking about giving up…congratulations. You are now…married!

But let me encourage you…do not give up. Everyone struggles. You are not unique. Persevere. There are better days coming. Your marriage will get better. Do not walk out. If you walk out now you disqualify yourself (and your spouse) from years of joy. Stick with it.



4.) A spouse does not complete you

I hate you Jerry Maguire. You have brainwashed a generation of people to believe a lie. Spouses do not complete people. I bought this lie, and it wasn’t until I let go of any notion my wife could fill some void that I was able to truly love her. Until then, I was always frustrated. I expected Tiffani to do something she was incapable of
doing.

If you are empty, broken, or insecure, and you believe a spouse is the silver bullet to your problems…buckle up. It will be a bumpy ride. Only God can fill those voids. You will never be able to enjoy the beauty of marriage if your spouse’s job is to complete you.



5.) Marry somebody with similar goals, dreams, and passions.

Marry somebody that is a Christian, yes. But I would go even further. Marry somebody with similar passions and dreams. Now, I understand this breaks down at some point. People are not machines. No two people are going to want exactly the same thing in life. However, if you love foreign missions and your potential spouse hates going overseas, some tension will arise. Synergy is extremely important in a marriage. If your spouse has the same vision as you, they will understand your struggles and support your pursuits. They will encourage your walk. They will be empathetic. There is much power in two people living life with the same goals, dreams, and passions for life.



6.) Marriage is not for everybody.

Paul talks about this in I Corinthians 7. He tells the church at Corinth to remain in the situation they are in. If unmarried, then stay unmarried. If married, then stay married. He later says this… Even better? I never heard that in church. Maybe it is time for God’s people to accept the reality that God has not called everyone to marry. I have talked with young men and women that are so concerned with finding a spouse. It consumes them. And most of the pressure comes from…US. The church. Once a person reaches mid- twenties, we assume something is wrong with them if they have not married. They must have a terrible flaw.

“Bless your heart. You are almost 30 and not married? I know this must be hard!?”

Shame on us. I am worried many failed marriages are a result of people allowing the pressure of marriage to draw them into something God did not design them for. Marriage is holy and good, but it is also possible to follow Jesus without a spouse.



7.) The wedding day is a lie…don’t buy it.

I love weddings. I love officiating them. It is a rare moment where I get to make a divine proclamation that forever changes the status of two people. Powerful.

But in an increasingly individualistic, “me” culture, weddings create a potentially dangerous situation. “Every girl lives for her wedding day.” It is all about the bride and groom. Everyone looks at them. Encourages them. Congratulates them.

Many couples have bought the lie of the wedding day…it is all about me. But marriage is at odds with this mindset. A successful wedding day is one where everyone serves you. A successful marriage is one where you serve your spouse. The wedding day is a day where the spotlight is on you. Marriage has no spotlight. The wedding day is about saying a bunch of words that most couples never take seriously. Marriage is about putting the words into action. The wedding day is joyous and celebratory. Many seasons of marriage are about persevering and not letting go through the storms.

Embrace your wedding day. Prepare for it. Celebrate it. But do not make the mistake of believing the lie. After your 20 minutes of fame, the spotlight is gone forever. It is no longer about you (and this is a good thing…you will see).

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A dairy entry. Life saving opinion he's gat there

AlfaSeltzer: exactly! we can't help being men. That's why real women love us.

That makes feminism a crap. It should be abandoned project. Moreover,it won't find a root and if it does,it won't blossom.

AlfaSeltzer: op you still have a lot to learn
if they don't think like that, they won't be women and if you don't like women's thinking, you are probably gay.

Same should apply to the men I suppose. If men don't think and act the way they do which makes some women (feminist especially) say men are *#@+$!?, men won't be men. Would they?

If you ask me, I for say picture or...

Snoop Lion (Snoop Dogg) has confessed to smoking drugs in the bathroom of the US President's home - White House – while chatting with TV host, Jimmy Kimmel on his online show, Double G News Network (GGN).

The 42 year old rapper said he 'got help from the CIA or the FBI. The alphabet boys' who allegedly helped him light a spliff.

A report claims "The Drop It while Its Hot" crooner mentioned that a guard aided to light up after the he claimed he needed one to mask the smell of his Doggy business.

"I said, may I use the bathroom for a second?' and they said 'what are you gonna do, No.1 or No.2?' I said No.2...I will love to do the number two... meaning cigarette or weed?"

Well, looks like Doggy was given permission to smoke weed in the White House by the guards because anyone is 'permitted' to do so! But, is Barack Obama okay with the fact that Snoop is going about telling the entire world on television?

This could be a huge issue for the Obamas especially after he has been accused of stirring at a students ass while giving her a hug on July 4 in Denver!

Too much for Barack to handle!

carefreewannabe: Don't act like it made sense to you

Kai! You mean power to try,she's trying to make him feel good about the whole *#+@?!$ he wrote?
LOL