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Why would you want to go tell her husband? What if he picks offense and turns it around that you want to shame his wife? It's obvious she's sex starved but let things slide, no point in raising dust

In other words she's a She-male

Those criticizing Kimani should not go to church and pray that their enemies should die, because there's no reason why she can't speak up if Tiwa is really guilty of what she said. All these Nigerian musicians are only taking Tiwas side because she's Nigerian and Kimani is not, that's what I see from all these and moreover, Tiwa has not denied being a witch as accused

Who still dey Carry woman matter for head, Na OYO for am

Very selfish, inconsiderate and stupid statement. Then what's the point of having a relationship? This is why there are so many broken homes and toxic home environment in Nigeria because that statement means you do not give a shit about what happens to them or not. That's why Parents can abdicate their responsibilities towards their families spending on frivolities and the children will grow up bitter and angry and return same favor to their parents and if it comes into limelight, it's the same people supporting this notion that would start saying they shouldn't treat their parents in such a manner.

The ripple effect of such a mindset is devastating, please if that's how retarded your thinking is don't bring in more potentially angry people into this world because that's what would play out

She simply considered you to be a customer

That question when she ask you Na to make you know say no be you get toto again, you be like 4th vice chairman as e be so. Leave the okpopise focus on yourself she no loyal again

BIGVAJINA:
my friend at work (lady) is married just as myself.
there is this guy that has proposed sex and love to this my married friend but my friend turned him down since she is married
this guy obviously upset by the rejection decided not to contact my friend again. But anytime the guy decides not to contact my friend, my friend would contact him. my question is, is it wrong for my friend contacting this guy? though she has no evil thoughts.
what can i do to help this friend of mine?

Thank you for letting us know how you've been battling with the thought of infidelity. There's nothing wrong in feeling attracted to men who are not your husband perhaps due to lack of attention from your husband but wisdom is profitable to the brave and getting married is one of the bravest things any human can do. Now it's time to apply the wisdom that comes with it, there's no gain in striking a match stick in a fuel station, the end result is certain, you and alot of innocent bystanders would perish, and that's what will happen if as a married woman you by error or consciously venture into this uncharted territory. Stop looking for what's not looking for you

Uniquetani1:
It's been eight months my ex and I broke up although it wasn't easy moving on. I know it has been a while but I still feel the pain in my heart whenever the topic "love" is being discussed. It even got to a point I started isolating people most especially guys. I decided to work on my potential of becoming an independent woman. I thank God it is all going well as I wished. Now I think I have found love again but still scared. Though the guy is not helping, he joke a lot with everything we discuss together. He has also said he loves me too, I didn't make him realized that I also love him. Lately, his thoughts always run through my mind. I always wish I am seeing him all the time, even when I am walking, I always want to hear from him. Due to his unseriousness, I am scared of telling him my feelings because I think he will take it for granted and the pains from my previous relationship is still all over me.
How can I stop this feelings?
I am thinking it is a distraction to my career. I am feeling helpless and hurt too
How can a lady stopped falling in love?

Emotions are part of what makes us human. There's no way to decipher people's intentions since you can't read their minds. Just like this guy, I also joke alot about serious stuffs, it helps to douse the tension of the situation. Do not be lead by fear, go into relationships with the mindset that it's 50/50, might work out and might not

Stop speaking in the second person and making presumptuous statements, it's annoying. One man's virgin is another man's whoree

Champions league over pussy anytime anyday

This is country is a fvcking joke

sandrayeo:
Hi all

I’m sorry this is going to be long but I’m in so much pain right now and I really need help to make sense of all of this.

I had 3 relationships in my life. The first one was in my early 20s I was madly in love but I moved to the UK for Uni so the long distance thing didn’t work out. He met someone and eventually broke up.

Then I met this guy in my late 20s in my congregation. He was so religious and caring. After 6 months he proposed and we started planning our wedding. That’s when I found out he was an active registered member of multiple gay dating sites. I confronted him about it, he denied everything but the trust was gone. We broke up and he moved on to marry another girl.

Finally I started dating my friend of 3 years or so. We were great as friends, but the romantic relationship was not as smooth as I thought it would be. We fought a lot, at least in the first year.
Eventually, things got better and we started talking marriage and babies.
By that time, I was in my mid-30s with a diagnosis of premature ovarian failure.
We decided to speed things up. We stopped the only contraception we ever had (condoms)
He was 100% on board with getting pregnant but was dragging his feet about marriage.

He wanted to do things backward; I was not OK with that so we had a big fight. I gave him an ultimatum so he broke up without actually saying it. He just stopped coming to my place, started acting distant. I tried many times to have a heart to heart conversation, I asked mutual friends to talk to him. He kept saying everything was fine but kept acting like an ass.
I finally had enough and stopped calling him and decided to move on with my life. I was in the process of getting my last eggs frozen when he came around (at least that’s what I thought). We had unprotected sex again and I got pregnant.

When I told him, he freaked out, pressured me to get an abortion and said I could never ask him for anything if I kept the baby

An abortion was not even a possibility in my book. I kept the baby, he bailed. I didn’t hear from him for 2 years. The first time I saw him since my pregnancy was in family court. We talked, he begged for forgiveness and said he wanted to be a good father to our son but also for me to take him back.
At first I said no but after 2 years of acting like he really had changed, I relapsed…only to find out few days ago that he’s about to get married back home to his longtime girlfriend with whom he has a child, only 6 months younger than mine.

Now I have 2 questions, the first one, I really need a male perspective:

1- Why would a man do what he did to me? Why would you come back and actively try to get back with a woman you obviously never loved when you are in a committed relationship and about to get hitched? But most of all, why would you go back to someone you caused so many pain and humiliation in the past and do the same shit to her all over again?

2- How do I get over this and move on with my life? Because this part of my life is now over, forever ruined. I’m almost 40 and a single mum. I will never be able to find a man willing to marry me. I'm left with anger, bitterness and regrets.

I'm willing to marry you if you are ready ....
And I'm damn serious

Nothing goes for nothing

ecstasy357:
This happened just over a week ago.

On a Friday afternoon, I called my gf but she was sounding off. I asked her whats wrong... She told me she missed a job invite scheduled for that day. She didn't check her mail on time. She further explained that a lady from her church took her CV and submitted to the HR internally. She called the lady to explain to her and was not pleased with her actions. I told her not to worry that i have the HR's contact convering that region cause I used to work at that bank in that same region.

I called the HR on Monday morning and explained everything to him. He asked me to tell her to come in on Tuesday morning. I called my gf but her number was switched off. I dropped offline messages for her on WhatsApp. She tried calling me but I missed all her calls, I was busy at work. I called her and told her I'll call her when I'm home.

When I got home I called her but her voice wasn't bright. What's up? She said she can't take excuse for a day from her boss.

OK...she is a teacher at a private primary school, where her salary is very very very very small.

Her boss, the proprietress, lost somebody and has been very sad all day, so she couldn't tell.

I don't want to appear like an insensitive guy though I know very well no boss would care much if the case was reversed. But I was angry that she made me appear like someone that isn't serious to the HR, and also wasting the opportunity of a better job.

For two days we didn't talk... We chatted again on Thursday. I later called her, then she started complaining about money.... No money for airtime, no money to go to church and for offering after I asked her about church. She was asking for money just two days after refusing to go for a better offer.

The following morning I called it quits....I told her she doesn't have a plan for tomorrow. That I needed someone to grow with and she doesn't seem like someone who wants to grow in life. All she could say was, "I can't force you to date me. If I am not what you want then it's OK." That's how we ended it.

She couldn't even see the reason I gave and inquire to know why I said that.

Life is all about taking risks, to go higher you have to raise a leg and stand on a foot. She's too comfortable where she is and I want to grow.

Lemme also point out that the relationship was only a month old.

Somehow I feel I'm a little bit too harsh with that decision.

She's a certified idiot no offense. She really has no plans for herself and her lackadaisical attitude is just a pinch of how bad she's in managing anything

Am I to determine how or where my wife chooses to breastfeed our child? Really dumb question

Amaka is a man down

100 shades of stupid

You have done nothing wrong, the younger sister was only a catalyst to getting to your destination, just like you, I don't like talkatives, so do it for your peace of mind and not to please anyone. Moreover, you have not asked her for a date, you just have to tell her you want her as a friend

Nothing spoil, work Na based on packaging

Those saying Juju is not recognized by the court, ATR is recognized by it. When the stupid idiot is found, she should be given a life sentence along with her children who are accomplices

R2bees:
Pls what happened?, I'm not watching

Playing long balls to no one in particular when he could have made a simple pass

How's Mustafi still playing for Arsenal?

How's that not a goal?

She's possessed

It would be best you keep your opinions to yourself, you did the right thing based on your first response, before you are tagged "Bad Belle"

Iceboy992:
"Mary died a virgin"... Bros, your lie strong o.

I'm not even going to dignify that with a response

Omudia11:
You claim to have given people the Bible yet don't even know the truth of the gospel.

Go and read Matthew 1:25. Mary stopped being a virgin after she gave birth to Jesus. Besides she had other children too.

So can you give me one verse that states that Mary was a virgin till death? Let me guess, there's none.

You are even more foolish than I thought. Who's a virgin? Which other children? So they should have written it somewhere that Joseph never had intercourse with Mary? Because the Gospel is about Mary and Joseph's sex life. Go and argue with your mates in kindergarten, don't quote me again

bodee:
Well, quite a good message from idol worshippers.

Why don't you allow us worship our idols in peace? Are you going to stand in judgment on the last day? Stupid ignoramus

Omudia11:
Yet has turned the Bible upside down preaching hereaies like the perpetual virginity of Mary.

Has hundreds of cases of homosexuality/rape of little boys emanating from the church yearly. Holy church indeed.

The church is Christ and Christ is holy, you talk about turning the Bible upside down, who gave you the Bible as you have it? The Catholic Church. Yes, Mary died a virgin or is it impossible to die a virgin?

fecta:
Boss Abeg which channel for mobdro

I'm still using the lordbj stream