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I need to dig a well and water drawer from empty paint can...what do i need for digging ?

Time for her to leave the stage - we are still clapping for you Serena and the ovations is still loud but take a lovely bow.

True true - not those bird turns to woman thing up and dan that even for a true Osa pickin, that's breakfast cereal
Voodoolistic and jujulism no dey finish atol.

Or the wifey beat husband thing after you don learn to pound yam and akpu for babyhood to teen years and more, wetin dem go use the stored muscles and energy do ? Women boxing (c)sampionship no dey sef

Gorilla glue own sef

KanwuliaExtra:
TikTok na super wonder I swear. That Silhouette Challenge is something else o!
We see why NL will only be relevant for Nigerian news only. Too many “ domestic and global” concerns to focus on.

Right now, I only respond to OLD NL members I recognize with legitimate IDs.
Not recycled cyber-nuisances!

Riri time is almost up per Hollywood. She got to do some media runs to stay in the news

That shorts is ok for sleeping.

Op,

You are grown up - if not for the Nigerian "factor" of over dependent on family, you should have been able to have your own apartment and freedom to cook and serve your guests in your own zone.

Find your way and let him focus on his life since he is married.

Go for a short visit but don't feel too comfortable enough to be hosting guests at his home.

I come glue to tiktok - come see wonder. That
Silhouette challenge is something

Keeping your eyes on them is the right thing to do
Hope users no turn TT to Craigslist

KanwuliaExtra:
Wonder no more.❤️
You know old age don come.
Nairaland is not as engaging as it used to be.

Na “TikTok” and the likes dey reign now.
I have to be on there 24/7 to see what my “raunchy” kids are posting there before PEDDDOphiles flood my basement under my very nostrils. Oh gal! NA WAR!!!!

Plus my mama don dey live with moi. My hands are FULL!

I dey in READ MODE ONLY. Those days are gone girl.

Back to TikTok! Let me go catch my half-naked kids tumbling and gyrating all over my house. I have to do some old fashion Naija discipline. Na jail I see so I swear!

What a school! See the top of VP's office - like something from Halloween movie! That school is really bound to attract bandits - smh

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Shameless man! He should have kept the girlfriend out from the whole fracas and settle with his wife by selling the property or leave it for her and the children!
When his children shun him in his late 80s, people will start giving judgment of "village voodoolistic thing or his children are bad"

Money and family, money and friendships doesn't mix.

Your father should not be tempted to loan him the money because he won't get it back.

Gift what he can. 600k loan, no!

In this COVID-19 era ?

Smh!

You should share Val day exposition so we learn from you na.
Did you send flowers and chocolate ?

crackhaus:

Stay focus on your home front and let your responsibilities be at home first and foremost.
Don't go taking calls from the toilet or bathroom - haha.
If he is making you swear, stop swear - ask him to be specific what he is suspicious about.

You and I are like the tower of Babel - let us just keep pretending we don't understand each other instead of the usual thingy you are up to that goes on to 25 pages or more on NL

I have given you alot na, it remains small you go stop fighting ladies

crackhaus:
You sha didn't understand what I did in that my comment, but I'll take whatever you give me...

@ "I don't joke with my sleep"
When i'm awake, that's when I cook. If you can't wait, then by all means fix something and please keep mine warm

CalliDora1:
How many men even agree to assist with the chores these days? Only a few and because the woman wants to be called a good and industrious wife she'll be suffering and smiling.


I remember those days I was still into dating. So, one day I went to see the guys aunt who came around and i slept over because the place was far (Sango Ota). In the morning, the guy came to my room around 9am ( it was a Saturday) and told me the aunty said hope I'll make a good wife so. That this one I'm still in bed by this time . And I told him Immediately. I said, come, I don't joke with my sleep o. You and your aunty better get used to it or I do a U turn. He now said I should not mind her and all that.

I'll let you know my dos and don'ts. If you're not cool with it, take a walk.

True - most time they don't know how to stand up for themselves before and after marriage. I think ladies should make their opinions be heard during courtship so you don't end up carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.

Why won't stress ( carrying the weight of the world) destroy someone who is unable to tell her man, babes watch the kids or cook dinner because I'm going for a run in the neighborhood ?

CalliDora1:
Its scary. Like sometimes I look at most married women and they are a shadow of themselves, looking like the weight of the whole world is upon their shoulders and I begin to think back and forth about this marriage of a thing.

Anita made me laugh. Her husband = those naija guys that like to form...you see them in jeans and t-shirts acting like they just arrived maybe she mixed/missed it when she heard US (UX) writer

Fun read

BigCabal:
Is it possible to regret something that you have been taught should be the “best decision of your life”? Yes, and these five Nigerian women share why they regret getting married.

Anita, 27
He lied about everything. About his extended family, his job, his entire life was basically a lie. I only found out after getting married to him. He told me he was a UX writer, but it turns out he is an Electrician. That would not have been a problem, so why did he feel the need to lie about it? He told me his parents were dead and he was not close to his extended family. Another lie. One day, his Uncle reached out to me on Instagram. Turns out both his parents are very much alive.

When we were getting married, he told me he wanted a small wedding. I did not think too much about it because I genuinely loved him and just wanted to be married to him. Apparently, he wanted a small wedding because he had other wives and kids. Plural. I feel like I am carrying him through the marriage. They say “men are babies” and it sounds cool until you realise that it is not metaphoric, but literal. I never knew there could be such emotionally, underdeveloped, men. Right now, I do not know what is a lie and what is not.

Amaka
I was 33 when I got married and honestly, I do not think marriage benefits women in the long run. Whatever people consider a benefit, does not equal all the things marriage makes you lose. I think marriage hindered me from doing certain things because there is a huge constraint on your time and energy. You are meant to be building the family, but then things you are building does not necessarily benefit you. A men can be working to build his family, while building his career at the same time. He gains both the benefits of being married to you such as free labour, but women can’t say the same thing. The nine years I spent building my family, I could have built my career. The only solution was to not be married anymore so I did that, and my life has been happier and healthier.

Chisom, 27
Marrying my husband was the biggest mistake of my life. Even with all the red flags I saw, I still went ahead and got married to him. He is a serial cheat and a totally unrepentant one. While we were dating he would apologise when he got caught, but now that we are married he has such a nonchalant attitude about it. As if he feels like I cannot do anything about it. He hides the fact that he is married from anyone and if I tell his girls, he gets angry and keeps malice with me. He says we are not a good match and we have nothing in common. How do you not figure out we have nothing in common for the six years we dated? SIX! Now I am pregnant and want to end the marriage but he is threatening to take the child away from me.

Continue: https://www.zikoko.com/her/5-nigerian-women-share-why-they-regret-getting-married/

See how happy you are eh, women can't be all that bad.

Madam, our sistah is really taking good care of you

Those ones up there just didn't look well enough or look at the right place. Not all brother Nicodemus are the real deal

crackhaus:
Despite all of the true confession in the OP above, what makes me really happy is that none of our wonderful & gracious married ladies on NL has had any regrets about getting married...

Men can't be that bad afterall.

Great Vitamin soup! that eba must go down with plenty water.
Otherwise hiccup won't let you rest.

skolar49:
Veggie about to go down

He is jare his moniker for other sections.

bukatyne:
Is dayokanu not ramudeur?

Not sure I got that right.

YourMajesty:
This is surprising and the same time ridiculous....

What do you take some of us for? APC zombies?

You just come out of nowhere, requested for the account details of a cooperate Almajiri online beggar, transferred imaginary money and deactivate your Nairaland account?

Well done, Dem use cement plasta MUMU for our forehead.

You guys can use words eh

How much was your plate of rice and chicken ?

sheycrown:
Lunch two days ago after touring the whole of Oje market. I was too tired to cook. Had to quickly enter "BiteMore" to grab this.

Move away from home. You are an adult now so go out there and start life.

Make sure to get a place of your own, a small job and get an education or training.

You can't continue staying under your parents roof and continue critiquing them for one thing or the other.

They don't or didn't ask you maybe cuz they they don't have money for whatever is it you want to do next in life.

So move, go in search of life and keep in touch as your hearts lead you.

Dayo don dissappear
Pataki don dissappear

Kia!

dayokanu:
When Osisi and Kanwulia were still friends

Wondering where everyone is now. Ifyalways and KanwuliaExtra, everyone here in those days - greetings and happy new year!

From your mouth into God's ears, amen. Please pass it on.

Worldlychild:
I have received it successfully thanks so much I will never beg again you have changed my life

You just came like an angel and helped right away. If you are for real, thank you.

fartooblessed:
what!!! How do I look suspicious?

So you know him, haha.

The one that gave him 150k looks suspicious.

Ishilove:
Worldlychild, aka Goodness34, aka orphan11, aka TwinkleTwin17, aka uncountable usernames, you have turned begging to a profession.

https://www.nairaland.com/6322505/atleast-feel-better-today-pic#97270321

All the reason why everyone should be independent so that when shit starts hitting the fan, you leave with your children. Children need good environment to thrive.

NoToPile:
Nawa ooo

How can someone even thrive in such a setting.

I started cringing when I read they hubby and MIL make jest of your job, your hustle. Who does that? Then I read further -What kind of people are they.


Can you just do as this poster said

If good people helped you to accomplish all she mentioned, why are you still asking for help from good people ?

You have to at least take small responsibility. You don't go depending on people good will for the rest of your life!
Look for dish washing or food serving work at eateries near you and start getting busy.

Worldlychild:
good people still exists don't forget that

Punishing an adult ? Goodness! Where do they do this ?

Op,

Communication - set up " let's talk" between both of you and let peace reign - no side effects other than show of maturity.

Don't forget to get a nice sweet wine for the occasion.
Remember how you and your friend settle issues over beer? Apply it to your home.

If the woman is trouble maker, why not divorce her and leave ? She is trouble maker, you left her with your four children and still accepted the stuff she sent for upgrading the home...you can see that -

ajl:
Only God know what trouble the wife has shown him in America. You can see he said she is a trouble maker. And she is a lawyer in the US. The man simply escaped to Nigeria to avoid her legal troubles. Imagine seeking a divorce from a lawyer.

The man is not saying the truth.