No, dear, you are wrong. It isntonly in Nigeria.

nlanded:
Can't you ladies work for your own money as well? Its only in Nigeria that Nigerian ladies feel money is gender bias, money is free to all gender please, what a pity for how some of our Nigerian ladies reason.

This is NOT only among Nairaland women, sorry.

Igbokiller:
Where are the Nairaland hypocrites forming Mrs independent to defend this thread

Exactly.
You aren't wrong at all.

LewsTherin:


I both agree and disagree with this at the same time. Wierd, huh?

From the onset, yes. She should have made it a joint filing. I believe all property bought in a marriage should be jointly owned. Heck from the start, I would mot have “shared” the money in the first place. We would have used it jointly. That's what I do in my marriage. There is no his and her money. There is only our money. May be easier for me as we run a business together but hey, that's just me.

But seeing what has come out of this decision howbeit only from her side of the story, imagine what would have happened if the property was jointly owned. From the little I know, a Nigerian man can still kick his wife out of a house they jointly own. Tradition being stronger than law here. It will be said that even though both names are on the deed, he is still the husband and head of the house and still owns the house. Lawyers would be needed to untangle the mess.

I may be wrong but that's what I understand.

Thank you.

Saintmary:

Your properties, your future. Have you thought of what would have happened to your children if he had sent you out thinking he owned the house? why not change the ownership to all your children. That way none of you own the house. By this time, I suggest you get yourself a lawyer. your best interests and that of your innocent children is of little concern to your husband.

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Saintmary:

Your properties, your future. Have you thought of what would have happened to your children if he had sent you out thinking he owned the house? why not change the ownership to all your children. That way none of you own the house. By this time, I suggest you get yourself a lawyer. your best interests and that of your innocent children is of little concern to your husband.

Thank you very much.

decode:

You can send someone.

Thank you.

Timekeeper:


I don't want to offend God through u minister.. Are you saying she shud change the name to the husband name or to Mr and Mrs... If it's Mr and Mrs, I agree but if u say to the full husband name, never.... Fine she betrayed he husband trust but which good husband will send a wife packing thinking that it was his own house when the wife built it with her own share.... Minister don't let me offend God through you... Ur home may be so cool but don't mean others are.... Pls sir

Thank you.

DeIfesinachi:
PLS DO NOT CHANGE THE HOUSE NAME TO HIS, IF HE CAN MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT HIS Children, AND BELIEVE ME THERE IS A WOMAN THERE FOR HIM, PLS KEEP THE HOUSE AND THE CHILDREN LET HIM BE ONE DAY HIS IS GOING TO COME BACK.

Nice. Except that he wants the property solely in his own name. Please don't set her and the children up for a miserable future.

We are all married. We all have tiffs in our marriages. By the time a man starts sending a woman AND the children out of the house, this is not easy any more. The love is gone. The crack is HUGE. Every other thing is sandpapering a huge crack. Na management remaim.Can the marriage still work? Im not God so, Sure it could, but dicey. Very dicey.

Lady, please don't Sign the roof over your children's head away.

Thank you.

Princewell2012:
@op I have taken my time gone through your posts and this is my submission. Am also a married man with children. And a minister of the Gospel.

1 what you did was wrong and make your husband not to trust you again. Why? Both of you entered into an agreement. When both of you got married your properties became his and his became yours. In evey indication you re well to do and can take care of your children. 2 your husband feelt betrayed here, mind you his parents are now your parents do you believe that?

Pls if your still interested in your marriage though you didn't tell us why the man wanted you out in the first place. Now go and correct that documents accordingly, beg him and resolved your issues amicably.

Don't allow all these posters to deceive you.
Your pastor can accompany you to do that.

Peace.

No, she did not say that. She said he used his own part of the profit for what he wanted to use it for (a laudable project too, by the way), and she used HERS to build a house. The house.

adubiay:


One major problem we have in Africa is that we don't pay attention to details before we start saying rubbish, @op said she bought the LAND with her money in her name, but they BOTH contributed to build the house. I guess the husband never knew the land is in the wife's name when he was pumping his money into the project, that might have formed basis for his anger, though he is over reacting, pls madam don't scatter your marriage based on some advise here from children who are not married, admit you are wrong by putting only your name, and bring your husband back home. You have ego too, so ur caption here that your husband has ego is wrong.

In Jesus name. Lord give me the sagacity, knowledge and patience to lead her right because marriage and children are very weighty issues.

Now, dear lady, I don't blame those who think you are writing this to win likes for your blog.

Why is this even an issue? He was Throwing you AND the Children out when he realised you put your name in the house you built with your own share of some profit, he too used his as he liked.

You still say he is a good man. Lol.

You are saying you can't cope without him. Another Lol. You should just start practicing because you will have to, eventually. (Was he not Throwing y'all out of the house?) But I tell you what, a broken marriage with a roof over your head and your kids, is much much more better than being a single mom without a roof over your head (ask me. No, mine wasn't a divorce, my husband died).

So you will tell your kids exactly what happened. Initially, they may blame you because they are children. Eventually they wont. They will appreciate you. They will thank you.

Ps. And he does not want Mr. and Mrs., which I wont even advice. He wants it only in his name. And you still call him a nice man. (It will be interesting to really know your definition of "nice man". Phew)
All the vital signs of being set up for a miserable future, with your children, are so glaring. Can you really not see?

Pss. I can bet you are going to put only his name. That you already made up your mind because "you cant do it all alone", because this your question wouldn't have come up otherwise.

HEseesall:



You dont understand, we have kids, i am working but i cant do everything on my own, how will i tell them we are no more together because of property

W-h-o-a! Is this how you do business!?!
Your customer service is sad. I called all the way from Uk to find out if you stocked transfer papers, so I can help my friend's business and instead of a Yes or No, you cut me off rudely?
Thank you very much.

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UrRealG:
Nicki Minaj said she feels hurt by Cardi B.

It’s something she told Zane Lowe on his Beats 1 Radio earlier this morning as two new tracks “Chun Li” and “Barbie Tingz” hit the airwaves.

According to Nicki, she felt slighted by the “Bodak Yellow” creator after they worked together on the song “MotorSport” with Migos rapper Quavo.

After the song’s release, Cardi said Nicki changed her verse. After that news came out, people accused the Young Money spitter of changing her verse at the last minute so it would be better than Cardi’s, which some would call improper hip-hop etiquette.

But the way Nicki sees it, the Bronx native shouldn’t have mentioned anything about her lyrics being changed and when the backlash came, she should’ve defended her. The Queens lyricist added that Cardi failed to show the proper amount of appreciation for being on a song with her in the first place.

“The only thing with Cardi that really, really hurt my feelings was the first interview she did after ‘MotorSport’ came out,” said Nicki. “I remember when I first came into the game, if a female of that stature done a feature with me on it, I would only be singing their praises and saying thank you. [In the interview] she looked so aggravated and angry, and the only thing she kept saying was ‘Oh, I didn’t hear that verse, I didn’t hear that verse. She changed her verse.'” I was like ‘What?’”

“I can just imagine how many girls wished they could have been on a song with Nicki Minaj,” she added, right before shedding tears. “I’m not saying it in a cocky way, but the first thing out of your mouth when someone asks you about a Nicki Minaj feature is she changed her verse? Excuse me? It’s because of the Nicki hate parade that she felt the comfortability to address me in that manner.”

In another part of the interview, the “Anaconda” creator said she’s appreciated Cardi saying some nice things about her in a few recent interviews. However, Nicki is still working through issues she has with Quavo, one-third of rap trio Migos, because he didn’t stick up for her during the melee.

“With ‘MotorSport’ I kinda felt ambushed,” she stated. “I love Quavo, and at the time on Twitter I explained how ‘MotorSport’ came about and you know, people were saying that I was lying. So I texted Quavo and I said, ‘Hey, just, you know, could you back me up on this because I don’t want people to think I’m lying? What do I have to lie about?”

“And he didn’t back me up,” she continued. “He texted me, and he was like ‘I would go on Twitter and back you up if you were my girl. Lol.’ And that hurt, because he’s somebody, I love him … It hurt my feelings that people would watch me be slaughtered and not one person will step in to say the truth.”

Cardi nor Quavo have responded to Nicki’s interview.

Thank you very much.

decode:

You can send someone.

This has been puzzling me too. Thank you for answering.

I want to know, please, if you can send someone, who lives in Abuja, to do these authentications for you or must you go by yourself?

Thank you very much in advance.

decode:

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Dear, you are married to him.
1. He did "unserious" introduction. Gathered his people to meet your people and they brought some offerings along. The number of guests isn't relevant. You both brought the most important people in your lives, your dearest and closest along to the event. That it wasn't a jamboree, doesn't mean it wasn't from the heart. Here is a case of "size doesn't matter".
No one goes to visit a girlfriend's mum and siblings with those two (family/friends and offering) SIMULTANEOUSLY other than for introduction/traditional marriage. He performed, did introduction. Simple.
(Almost identical to my introduction/marriage in the early '80s. No bride price too. My father and I didn't believe in it.)

2. Hun., you are married to him.
That certificate in your hand, was it from a government establishment? Also, does it say "Birth Certificate" or "NYSC Certificate" or "Baptismal Certificate"?

Importantly, the certificate was signed by witnesses to your ....? However hastily it was conducted, you Read Your Vows. That is part of what those witnesses signed to. That they heard you vow to obey...and that he (your husband) vowed to...forever.
Most Importantly, that paper Is documented, legally. It is unique. It has a number. A unique number. A unique government number. If the certificate in your hand gets burnt or is lost 25 years from now and you go to that office, your staff will have retired or relocated, but the new ones there will confirm your marriage in writing and Stamped. All you need to give them is the date.

If you are having marital problems now, it isn't because you are not married. As a matter of fact, you have to be careful that your frame of mind (doubting your marital status) is not, subconsciously, keeping you from giving your best to the marriage. Are you thinking "easy come, easy go"? Be careful. No, I'm not blaming you, just saying "be careful and be fair".

Like most have said on the thread, go back to the court where you married and cross the "Ts".
You are a married woman, wifey.

God bless your home.

....is the greatest love of all.

aureen:
Self love.

Go for it!!

Fight for your dream!

Start now! Dreams come true!

Start somewhere. Hopefully you are already, at least, registered with a party.

Destined2win:
Those Nigeriens easily walk into our bothers without anyone questioning them.

The time for me to be President is Now!!!!!!!!!!

A very happy birthday dear. (Today is my son's birthday too).
May your dreams come true. May your parents live long to reap the fruits of their labour on you. May you live long to reap the fruits of your labour too.
Many happy returns of the day in great wealth, excellent health and peace of mind in His Name.xx

usayab:
Hmmm!
I wouid have said something but my birthday celebration does not..... Abeg make una elep me celebrate, today na my day!

Do send to lopelase@gmail.com, please.

I need the manual so that I can make a relative back home learn to fish, instead of sending (fish) N5'000 to him every month.
Thank you very much in advance.

obi2smart:
Thanks Tosbobby for your complements. Am grateful.

I am using this medium to tell you guys here that please please , the book is NOT FOR SALE. I packaged it for free. Even if you get it and you don't want to do the business,please throw it away. Don't turn it to FOR SALE stuff.

I am giving it out for free. I have been in this business for quite sometime now. Just want to help my fellow Nigerians with it. THAT'S ALL.

For those who have gotten it and can source the materials by themselves,don't delay.

For those who need my help in sourcing for the materials, its a FREE SERVICE.just follow the steps I outlined to be used to get my services.

Please I can only do that for 10 persons like I earlier said because of my tight schedules.

Thanks everybody.
Love you all.

No, you haven't.

But thank you for responding.

(And no, I'm not asking for myself. I'm only trying to garner information for someone else.)

Thank you again.

namebdis4:
This pipo don't really care about how bulky your bank account is or the properties you own. What they want to be sure of is that your sponsor has e steady income of about 2000 euro each month that and can sustain you, his dependants and himself.

I hope I have answer your question.

Hello namebedis4,

Hello.

Must the sponsor abroad be a salaried worker, please? Or bank statements showing that, that much goes into his account every month (not salary) plus proof that he owns his own home suffice?

Thank you very much in advance.

namebdis4:
I hope your sponsor does not reside in Nigeria?
If that is the case, then you not be issue the visa. Reason you need a sponsor who is placed on monthly salary of about 2000 Euro without a dependant. For each dependant added, you need to add about 150 Euro. It is hard to fine someone in Nigerian earning this much per month. I mean someone who is being paid monthly salary as this will reflect in his/ her pay slip and not a business man. I hope this will now guide you to search for a good sponsorship. If I may advice you, look for a sponsor abroad.

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There is nothing black in that boy [/quote]

What obvious truth? � You might want to Google the "obvious" truth of celebrities who people dont know are blacks like tge attached actress.

Fabulocity:
I don't know why people are ignoring the obvious truth. That Michael Jackson altered his skin colour and made himself look Caucasian doesn't make him white, he's still a NEGRO! His genes/DNA can never change from being black to white. Since he had kids with a white woman, his children should be biracial and not white. MJ hated himself and his race so much that not only could he not bear to be black man, he couldn't bear to have children that were black too or had any trace of blackness in them. And reports show that his wives conceived through Invitro fertilization so my own theory is that he used the sperm cells of a white man to bear white children. This is just too tragic.

Op, in case you missed the attached.
Think on the full post very well as you consider the other "advises". Who feels it knows it....

James Hadley Chase (and occasionally, Nick Carter)....
Those were the days. ��

GeneralOjukwu:
May ALL rapists and kidnappers remain miserable all their lives.

Sad story

BUT...I have read too many crime novels not to name the husband as the Numero Uno Suspect

Any Life insurance policies? Hidden concubines or large inheritance? Does the husband stand to benefit in any way?

James Hadley Chase....well done ooo! You made me Sherlock Holmes

Amen!

May your dreams come true in Jesus Name.
May my own children too be blessed to do same for me in His Name.

Perfecter4real:
Oh mothers! aren't they just lovely
God bless me to care of my mother and make her smile.

Are you particularly interested in being employed? Or are you willing and able to set up a business on your own? Do you have any handwork/craft skills? I.E do you have the grit/skills to be self employed?
I don't have a job to give you, nor am I a millionaire (I'm not even a thousandaire) but we could talk and see where the wind of life blows us. Send a mail to tundewalshmisc@gmail.com and we see what gives.

siegfried99:


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A graduate of computer science, HND upper credit.

Lives in Lagos

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Thank you.

Please has the child's parents been found yet. I've called and called your this morning (the 075.... from Uk) but you arent picking.

I shared your post on my Facebook page and would like to know, please, to update others who have been very worried and shared it on.

If her mother hasn't been found, can you post a clearer photo, please?

Thank you very much.xx