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felong:
I need your input on this as am about to make a decision.

Past is past forget it and move on. If you keep looking backwards you would never move forward in life.

This your stlysh begging na wa o.

Nazgul:
Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

Well said, I wish I could like this post more than once, most Nairaland guys are just kids who hav very little knowledge about what marriage is all about.

Nazgul:
The pic you uploaded has nothing to do with standard, it's all about how the girl was brought up.

We're Africans not Americans, African culture demands that when an elder is doing a chore or carrying something, you should offer to help.

I've gotten up for a pregnant woman to sit down during my NIN registration, I didn't know her from anywhere, but I felt since she's pregnant she ought to sit while me the agile young man should do the standing...that's the way I was brought up. Even on the ATM, if line is long and I see an elderly person at the back, I'll go behind him/her as ask him/her to take my position and withdraw before me.

Like I said, it has nothing to do with standard, it's just about how you were brought up. The girl on that pics you uploaded, has no respect for elderly people and one can easily conclude that she has little regard for her parents at home. The guy's mom did right by walking her out of her house, such behavior is not part of our culture.

I agree with you. Her behavior is so wrong I can't go at my aunt's place and see her sweeping and cross leg, I will help her out. We girls should stop defending foolishness, that girl is rude.

This man should just shut up his mouth, primaries is over tinubu has won, whether or not tinubu decides to pic a Muslim is none of his business. He should concentrate on his senatoral district. Of recent there have been cases of kidnaps there, he should focus his energy on Abia State and leave tinubu to do whatever he wants.

Meanwhile vote for Peter Obi for a better Nigeria.

Kollins11:
I thought Muhammad said you must marry a girl between the age of 6-15 years old.

So why are you in search of a lady between the age of 23 - 30 years. Are you sure you're a moslem? No wonder northerners don't take yoruba moslem serious.

Meanwhile.. Islandlady Weds falseprophet1

Lol

We don't care who they choose, we're going to vote for Peter Obi.
Click for like for Peter Obi and share for Atiku.

The parents should have changed her school when she first reported to them about the man's sexual assault. Some parents can be so nonchalant towards their children's welfare and that's very bad.

Why did you give her zero. She wrote what she has experienced about marriage.

ybalogs:
Assalamualaikum brother how are you and family,how's your area,we are seeking for your kind prayers our area is still under siege bandits in dozen have surrounded my area.

Let them surround and kill all of them. That's the price they'll pay for killing Deborah Samuel.

It's not right. 22 is still very young, and she is a girl. Let her save that money n remain in her parents house for now.

KingZaddy:
Like you seriously want me to call you whatever name I like

Yea as long as the name isn't insulting am ok

Stop begging for affection from total strangers the only person that can really love you is you, u don't need any bodys opinion or approval about urself, just tell urself that u are beautiful and you will be ok, leave guys here many of them are suffering from extreme poverty and buhari government

KingZaddy:
Understandable...


What's your name?

The one you have on nairaland can break a tongue

Lol you can call me whatever name you like, this is Nairaland and am just having fun here

KingZaddy:
apology Accepted...


Are You Hot Tempered? More Like A Margaret Thatcher kind Of Girl?

Am not hot tempered am not just comfortable wit insults,

KingZaddy:
Lol i Know You Think I Said Yeye but I Was Actually Saying Yes Yes, i Just Left The 's' out...


didnt Know You Would See It That Way...

Ok, sory for my outburst,

KingZaddy:
Ye ye

I wasn't talking to you, always learn to mind your business and you will leave long.

Op you are a very wicked somebody. U just want to use her and dump, it will never be will wit you and your generation.

KingZaddy:
I didn't say I need a pen, you did

Lol, my signature.

naptu2:
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Lol

Lol

KingZaddy:
I got that pen here, you still want to sign?

Which pen?

iamdapsyj:
Did you go back to the guy that gave you the phone #pun intended

I said it happened 2018. Didn't you read that part. Is all in the past

Aksnoopy:
keep quiet! It's a good thing he left you. You Nigerian girls mentally is absurd.
A sensible girl will never accept a Greek gift nor hangout with different guys.
Your boyfriend isn't toxic, he is just a sensible human.

Am not the cause of your frustration stop throwing it at me

t00dugged:
moral lesson, never tell a man another man bought something for you, simple. My people say "if ear nor hear something belle nor dey spoil". Even if most humans demand the truth,it's always too bitter for them to handle especially the ones with big ego.

Thanks I have learned my lesson.

She's bored she wants u to spice up your conversation. U can gist her about an event that happened in ur school, church, house, street anywhere Sha just talk that is what she wants

felong:
Exactly
Nice profile pic by the way.

Lol... thanks

felong:
My dear it has nothing to do with being broke it's just mentality. Even if a guy is broke, once his mentality and Ievel is high you will enjoy him. Many guys today still reason like our great grand parents forgetting that we are in the 21st century.

You are right, guys need to step up their game and IQ level, am tired of dating over grown babies who complain at ever thing u do.

felong:
Your boyfriend is very childish, that you are broke doesn't mean you should frown at your girlfriend when people try to show her care. Such guy will block your progress because of his selfish ego, it's a good thing you left him.

Many guys are like that especially the broke ones, you will say with them, encourage them, support them, even lend them money you don't have, yet that will never be happy for you when good things come your way, they want. They see suffering as a way of proving to them that you love them. Even hanging out with anyone becomes a problem, honestly dating toxic guys is terrible. You can run mad with stress. Thank God I'm free.

And women should never forgive a man for cheating, men infect their faithful wives daily with HIV and other STDs no body talks, but when a woman cheats men will beging crying like babies. If u can't handle cheating woman don't cheat. It's that simple.