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Thought OP was gonna say he was a V and one Potiphar's wife was tempting him. . Lost innocence indeed. .

okosodo:
They are, Most of them. Its not their fault

How would you feel if i said most men are poor?

livedit:
, but there won't be "booze", well if you consider "wine" booze. I don't drink either of it. But it will be available.

A wedding without booze? What is this world turning into? P.s-I'm not a lush. . But everybody gets drunk at weddings,so getting wasted at one doesn't count. .

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=585913.msg7533290#msg7533290 date=1295026495]Atreides , ermm, sweeery by the way , r u light skin & do u gots nyansh? [/quote]Haha. . You this boy/man ehn. . Why you gat to go there? But wait oh. . Why are you asking?

tim2:
olodo!

tani? @roky,spot on! Those who shout gold-digger up and down are quite possibly poor/broke-a.ss bruthas.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=585913.msg7533108#msg7533108 date=1295025018]Atreides <<<<< Gold diggger [/quote]Hehehe. . I knew somebody was gonna go there. . . . If i do start gold-digging,i'll go after guys who actually have money. . Guess that means you're safe. .

livedit:
Thank you so much Atreides! , you so silly! Yes, livedit is SUPER in love with her fiance'. A feeling like this is priceless. You'll see.

Aww. . That this love's shacking you so much is uber-sweet. Will i actually see? Oh well. Until then. P.s-i'm serious about my rice oh. . . Double P.s-April weddings are great! On the flip side,i love all kinds of weddings. . There's always cake and there's always free (non-alcoholic )booze. .

Why is it that some men are so quick to call women gold-diggers? The minute you mention certain financial expectations that you have of a partner,they're like oh,she's a gold-digger or oh,she's a lazy,money-grubbing lady. Is true love=Poverty? Must we suffer and eat sand before our love can be said to be true? P.s-i do agree that there are many female gold-diggers out there. However,i don't think that having reasonable financial expectations of a guy makes you one. It is not a must for us to suffer and grow lean before people will know we truly love a person. Love is not equal to poverty/suffering.

oyb:
just goes to show they aren't leadership material

was anyone inspired by any of the speeches ?

We were inspired to turn off our t.v. .

Hehehe. . I wonder why universities offer that course. How many zoos are in Nigeria? And then to go get a Phd in zoology? Oh well. Nigeria is a jungle,full of mayn wild animals. I swear if you watched it ehn,you for provoke. Atiku was just going on and on about zoning,as if this country(by which i mean the masses,who,ideally are supposed to have a say in who gets elected)is the personal property of that cabal of thieves to be divided as they see fit. GEJ spoke for 5 minutes or thereabouts and used notes. He didn't even have a proper lecture pad or whatever-just some pieces of paper he held in his hand. And the highlight of the Mrs Jubril's speech was women empowerment,blah blah blah. At least she got one vote.

@Dis Guy,did you hear Mrs. Jubril aka the Market Woman candidate speak? All i could think of was if by some miracle that woman won,is she the one who'll be repping Naija in the presence of Obama and co?

Dede1:
Have you insisted Nigerian politicians address the public in their mother tongue? Most leaders who could be termed as good orators usually address their audience in native language. Nigerian politicians of the 60s tried to emulate British colonialists and impress their people. However, things have changed as politicians of today are in politics to accumulate wealth.

Which mother tongue? Nigeria is too diverse for that idea to fly. There are too many indigenous languages/ethnic groups in the country for that idea to be practical. There is no common mother tongue. Say Atiku speaks in Hausa. I'm not Hausa,so i won't understand him,and i don't think he can speak in Bini. English is our common language. It's what unites us,despite the different cultures and tribes in Nigeria. We've been speaking English for the past 50 years. Is it too much to ask that we develop some proficiency in it?

Why do people think love=poverty? The minute you mention certain financial expectations you have of a partner,people say oh,she a gold-digger or oh,she likes money too much. Must we suffer and eat sand before our love can be true?

Dede1:
@OP

Are you insinuating they are not wordsmiths? Or are you exasperated about their oratorical style?

A little bit of both. A leader is supposed to be able to inspire the public by his/her words. Our political leaders make me sleep when they speak.

@bayleaf,yes,she should. She should run as fast as her legs can carry her. Life has no substitute. He could kill her one day 'by mistake'. She shouldn't have married him in the first place sef.

bayleaf:
well if you say abuse, was your partner not doing that b4 u got married?how come you went ahead to marry he/her?what really is the basis for courtship then if fundamental issues like physical/emotional abuse cannot be discovered b4 marriage. or are you saying he just woke overnight and start being abusive?

Erm this is a hypothetical situation oh. . I don't have any kind of husband,much less an abusive one,and i don't see that in my future. I agree with you that there re usually signs during dating/courtship,and that some women choose to be blind to said signs and go ahead with the marriage anyway. Or it could be that they hope to change the man after marriage. Thinking like that is wrong,yes,but abuse is wrong as well. Two wrongs do not make a right Whether the man showed signs before the marriage or not,i believe NO WOMAN should remain in an abusive relationship because of the vows she took. In any case,by abusing her the man has already broken and nullified the vows. Divorcing him wouldn't really be breaking any vows because he did that in the first place.

Ay ay. . I went to C.D.S.S Ikeja. . It was a bit difficult at first but when i got used to the system it was madd fun! And it's one of the few schools were being a prefect still means something so i spent final year terrorizing juniors. .

bayleaf:
but the vows you must have taken would read ''for better for worse''. if that be the case, then are you not expected to work things out?

What kind of useless working it out is that? How will i 'work it out' if he's abusive? Is it when i'm dead that i will 'work it out'? Or should i let him be physically/emotionally abusing my children because i took vows? There are things you work out and there are things you don't. Things like compatibility/changes that occur over the years,those are what you can work out. You could even try to work through infidelity in some instances. If you can work through it,fine. If not,fine. Even the bible gives infidelity as the only grounds for divorce. At least you tried. But abuse? That's a no-go area.

fstranger1:
I think she is Afghan!


Anyway, did you attend the military school in Abeokuta?

I was just thinking if she's not Nigerian then why is she commenting on a topic that concerns the standard of education in Nigeria? And if she is Nigerian then how will she not know what Jamb is? And no,i didn't attend the military school in Abeokuta. I went to the one in Lagos. It's not a boarding school-it's day.

[quote author=Jenifa_ link=topic=582709.msg7531098#msg7531098 date=1295005298]what is jamb for? is that the university entrance exam?[/quote]Are you Nigerian?

As for me,the only reasonable grounds for divorce are Infidelity and Abuse,whether it's physical/emotional/whatever,as long as my life/the lives of my children are in danger.

Maybe he was joking. Maybe he was trying to tell you that he feels your relationship is one-sided. Maybe he's the one who's always doing all the giving and he's not happy with that.

I think the private schools wouda had better Waec results but poorer Jamb results. Yes,Waec is compulsory for every secondary school student. It's what proves that you actually went to and graduated from a secondary school. Without a Waec certificate,you cannot get into a University.

Oh okay. . The one for Junior Sec. School is Waec as well;it's called Junior Waec while the other one is Senior Waec. Right from when i was in JSS1,i knew that i'd have to write Junior Waec and when i entered Ss1 i knew that i'd have to write Senior Waec too. I attended a private school for the first 2 years but then when i got stubborn,my dad transferred me to a federal military school,in the interests of me being more 'rugged' i.e better equipped to deal with life. It was a HUGE change,but i adjusted. Eventually. WASSCE's the same thing as Waec. It stands for West African Secondary School Certificate Examinations or something like that.

As for the teachers,they just put the fear of God in us. The school also organized extra lessons that were specifically for the purpose of preparing us for Waec. We had to come to school an hour earlier than everyone else and leave an hour later. They spent a lot of time teaching us about the Waec marking scheme(some of our teachers mark for Waec) and telling us how to answer questions in such a way that we could score as many marks as possible. We were taught practicals very late though-we didn't start doing practicals until SS3,but since Waec sent lists of raw materials needed,we were able to speculate on what the practicals might be. The fail rate was pretty bad-at least 70% of us did not pass the exam-and by pass i mean getting 5 credits including Maths and English. Most people had one or the other,but not the two in addition to the other 3. My classmates were pretty nonchalant about the whole thing. Expo flowed like water. I have a friend who received the questions early in the morning on the day of a particular paper from someone in Akure. I saw people who carried entire textbooks into the hall,talkless of scraps of paper. Call me wicked,but i was verryy happy when i heard 70%(including all those thieves) failed. Serves them right for choosing to cheat. And what do you mean by when did i hear of Waec?

@Jenifa,thanks! Ok,how did i prepare. . Well first of all,there are such things as past questions-special books that are a compilation of previous WASSCE exams. I got them in all subjects and went back at least 20 years-i.e i solved/answered past questions from 1990 to 2009. That helped a lot because Waec repeats questions. Say,for example,if you've solved like 10 years of Maths past questions,you'll realize that things like longitude and latitude,graphs,statistics,construction etc ALWAYS come out,and you can prepare accordingly. I didnt re-read my SS1 to 3 syllabus all over again because it was too much-i just concentrated on the past questions. I also did a lot of night reading,like 2 hours every night(because for some reason i assimilate stuff better during the night). Also the fear of Jamb really helped-i'd heard of people who'd written Jamb 3 or 4 times and that terrified me. I stopped reading novels about a month to Waec proper(which was really,really hard). My parents cut down on my t.v watching-they didn't stop me from watching altogether but they drastically reduced the time i spent watching t.v. My computer/gaming privileges were revoked entirely. I still browsed on my phone but when it went bad i decided not to fix it or get another one until after WAEC. My motto was;read to understand,and if you don't understand,then cram. I'm a really good crammer. We didn't really have study groups per se. There were a couple of people who got together to study every now and then,but i was too busy with my responsibilities(i was a prefect and a student editor so i was always busy with one thing or the other)to join in.

I think it's real sad that in this day and age,we can have a politician that can't speak well in public/orate. I watched the speeches GEJ,Atiku and the market woman gave during the primaries and i was very dissappointed. How come none of them are good public speakers? And they're politicians that want to represent the country? Even when GEJ gave his acceptance speech after the primaries,i couldn't help comparing him to Obama et al. Correct me if i'm wrong,but isn't a leader supposed to carry the people along with his words,to move them,to inspire them and give them hope? The only thing his speech moved me to do was to hit the sack.

I think a lot of people are focusing on the 80% who failed and not enough on the 20% who passed. I'm part of that 20%. I agree that there are more distractions;fb,t.v,football,smartphones etc,but i don't think that should be an excuse. The main problem is that the average Nigerian youth does not know how to prioritize. Take me,for example. I loove my smartphone. Last year i used to be on it all the time,to the extent that my folks thought i was addicted to it. I watched t.v,i read novels like crazy,i was on fb/yim 24/7. But when Waec came around,nobody had to tell me to stop doing all those things. I knew that i had to buckle up,jack till my brain fell out and pass the bloody exam once. So i did buckle up and read. Not to blow my own trumpet or anything(okay,who am i kidding? If i don't blow my trumpet who will? Lol),but i made ALL my papers in Waec. I made ALL my papers in Neco. I passed Jamb. I passed the Post-Ume and i've been granted admission to my University of choice. I was able to do all this because i knew what my priorities were and i knew if i passed my exams i was doing it for me,and not for anybody else. I was able to turn off my phone and keep it off for the duration of the exams(okay,to be fair,my phone went kaput and i refused to get a new one until after my exams). I can proudly say that my grades are the result of my sweat and blood and sleepless nights. I did not use any kind of expo for my results,and i am dam.n proud of what i've accomplished. The real problem is that most Nigerian youths don't have their priorities straight and they would much rather watch tv/football/tweet/ping/date/party/whatever than do what needs to be done.

cheesyLog:
Yeah, why not

I'l try and ask her out tomorrow, ask her if she wants to see a film? Is that a bad way to ask a girl out? I really dunno ,

Thanks to everyone !

Aww sug. . It's not a bad way to ask a girl out. You sound like a sweetheart. Good luck!

The only thing the OP wants is attention. If we keep giving it to him,he'll keep saying c.rap.

@O.P,you sound like me! I was hung up on a guy for like a year(gulp) and we did the whole fb thing(we were in different schools though). I got over it(somebody shout hallelujah),but i never knew whether he liked me back or not. I always wonder what if? What if he'd spoken up? For all we know,she might like you too. She might've been waiting for you to make a move and when you didn't,she might've assumed you just wanted to be friends and then decided to give the other guy a shot. As it is now,nothing's set in stone. She's just flirting with the other bloke-she hasn't started anything serious. I really think you should speak up. Just get it out there.