haiti007:
Your reason/reasons for quiting the relationship is not valid enough. She may have her plans for the money too. She is a finalist and that alone requires huge sums to round things up.

As a real man, you don't depend on a woman's fund. It shatters your dignity

donstan18:
She's in a relationship and has made it clear to you, but you keep chatting and pestering her.

Just like you are trying to convince a lady who's in a relationship to date you, so will another better guy convince her to break and shatter your heart.

I don't know why you people can't give people who are in a relationship a simple space. Always being so clingy and curious to know everything about them. Tufiakwa!!

jorion:


I have already told you that one way or another, you will pay for it. It's not probable, it's certain. Whether you want to add the junk package of continuous texting, trying to impress her, insecurities, going on outing etc. That's all up to you. But with regards to the need of having an exclusive girlfriend, you better get a cute puppy. Only a dog will stick around you for better or for worse. As for me, my time is very important

ThothHermes:
Sounds like autism

Not his fault.
Easily could have been you.

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Kekereekun123:
yen yen yen. Majority of guys are like that. When u clock 33 now u will still beg us to marry u

LifeCoachAndre:
Most guys commenting seem to be still quite young probably not over 30yrs. Most of them will regret their actions over time. If only they knew that as you get older finding genuine love gets harder, they would be truly commited to a woman that shows true love and grow strong with her.

Ihatefeminist:
Any man that doesn't see himself as the prize in this 21st century is a fool
Hollywood has so changed the narrative and scammed the entire world into thinking women are the prize.

gregyboy:
Op she simply likes the ex more.than.you ...

Or she.could be feeling insecure that you may not pop the question

....if you really love her then marry her ,make plans serious with her

If you leave her for another lady in this present era your new gf maybe doing same with her posting in it

Richnerd69:
I engaged a random lady some days ago when I and my cousin took his kids to the park. I'm single(tho I have a friend), so my bro told me to approach this lady; She was alone . She's quite beautiful, sounded smart and cool. We spent hours talking and hanging out that day . I appeared average wearing a white polo and a Jean, I noticed she was eying me from head to toe. She asked about my watch and she said it looked expensive , she asked about my job and if I had a ride... I was smiling , I told her I'm still searching for a job and I came with my brother in his car.

I recall asking her a few questions and one of the things I asked her was, "what she wanted in a man", to my amazement, she said she wanted a man that could establish her all round and provide her needs ; She doesn't want to suffer with any man.

My zeal died immediately, as I left that park , I deleted her number and vowed never to contact her. She sent me a Good morning message , I'm not going to respond.

I'm dodging this bullet.

Varlfott:
I'm not a novice on this subject. I have had some experience with women in the past. But through these experiences and deep thinking I've come to realize that having a girlfriend is pointless and comes with a lot of baggage that I'd rather not deal with.

In my opinion there are only three benefits of having a girlfriend.
1. For Sex
2. For social clout( If she is good looking)
3. For companionship.

Let me break each down and tell you why I don't give a fuçk about any of those benefits.

1. Sex: I'm not a sex freak, in fact my libido is very low. And even if I want to have sex with a lady, I prefer one night stands with strangers where I don't have to keep up contact with them after the sex. I'm very promiscuous and so I can't even do the whole one guy - one woman nonsense. But bear in mind that sex with women is very low on my priority list. I could go weeks without sex and not be overwhelmed with konji.

2. Social clout: Women who are so hot that being their boyfriend gives you social cred are often so high maintenance that the cred they give you pales in comparison to the financial expenses you will make in maintaining their lifestyle. Then there is the constant attention they are going to get from other men and the fact that you'd have to literally "work" to make sure she is getting everything she needs from you so she won't give in to the attention. I'd honestly rather invest my money, time and energy in making money than invest it in sustaining a relationship with a hot woman who will still cheat on me anyway.

3. Companionship: I honestly do not yearn for the companionship of a woman or anyone at all. I'm very okay being by myself and even if I want to hang out with people, experience has thought me that male friends are actually better to hang out with because not only do they have your back everytime, you don't have to deal with the burden of trying to please the. constantly. Also women tend to be very shallow and quality time that involves intellectual discussions is almost never possible with them, especially the attractive ones. In fact the more intellectual the conversation goes, the less interesting you become to the typical attractive Nigerian girl. These ones just want to have fun and talk about shallow nonsense.

If you think there is any benefit in having a girlfriend in Nigeria other than these three that I've done my best to deconstruct a d argue against, please change my view.

Skepticus:


Martinez39, you have got to respect the Sisterhood/Pussy Cartel. They are the masters at scheming without elements of violence and aggression typical with male type. Plus they have existed for the beginning of our evolution as a specie till now.

Like Ubunja would say, learn from the best (women) and I have seen results learning from their mode of operation including those who are outcasts of the sisterhood (prostitutes). They always watch out for each other and for the "best deal" (genetic and financial hypergamy).

As much as we love to vilify them for their scheming, hypergamous attitudes, it's an evolutionary biological element for women to seek for the best mate (in whatever they judge as best) to carry on with our specie and this makes them highly opportunistic. In our wild primate cousins and as far as wild herbivores, like Zebra, their hypergamous demands are more stringent and brutal before a male can get a chance to mate.

We are more lucky that the improvement in the quality of life as a specie gives men more choice in mates than ever. However, they(men) must learn that for their rational pattern of thought (men are more rational), Women are highly incapable of loving men like men would do and expect in return. This means that women are by nature, opportunistic.

For the OP, Madlov3, expecting a better experience from women in one of the most gynocentric nations on earth where women are fiercely independent and can chose to be loose sexually, is setting himself up for disaster. He is better off with a "tameable" hoe from Nigeria from the "wild" ones in the west.

Preshy561:
Give it up to Nigerian women.
No miseducation, no red pill, no hating of male gender or online whinning.

But they are still winning codedly.

Martinez39:
They always appear like angels and wife material before marriage. It's their usual chameleon act. Unfortunately, many guys fall for this believing that their girlfriends are not like other girls only to get the shock of their lives later on. There is no NAWALT or unicorn anywhere.

Bad move! You should have discarded her at that moment.

They will always deny until you show them evidence. After showing them evidence, they will confess (half truth confessions) and bring forth crocodile tears not because they are sorry but because they want your forgiveness and they want you to take them back since you are an ample provider. Funny enough, they would do it over and over again being more careful after you have caught them.

Bullsh!t, if she likes childish stuff why did she not discuss it with you or, in the proper way, break up with you and go with the guy that likes childish stuff? She is just playing.

Oga, female nature is universal. In fact, foreign girls are worse in their countries because they are empowered socially and legally to ruin you, especially if you are stupid or naive enough to get married to them in their country and stay there. Feminism doesn't even help matters.


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luminouz:
Na you gimme girl abi?

emmaodet:


Mr Sanchez, if all men keep dumping cheating gfs/wives, believe me, only 3 out of 10 men will have wives or faithful gfs left.
A lot and i mean a lot of women are fornicating and not faithful. The figure is very very high compared to what people believe.
Now the question is - should we forgive this ladies and continue or destroy family set up?
Because a lot of men will be without wives or should we just scrap marriage and adopt gf/bf pattern?
Oro yi gba ironu oo

Katsuke:

Well in your bid to sound like a strong man, you actually came out as a weak one, sorry to say.
Beta Male for that fact, I'm not bashing, just stating the obvious

fireback:
I forgive one sometime. Latter she started acting as if I can not live without her. At times, when we have quarrel, she will threating to cheat. She knew I love her so much. But the day I finally open mouth and told her it's over between us, she could not believe her ears that day.

holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

CyberWolf:
The woman loves your money not you, get that into your head.

Brah, I don't wanna sound like I'm dickriding but you are damn good. I feel like we are or rather we were dating the same girl.

At a point I thought I was losing it when we sexed, so i started working out more and taking good fruit supplements to boost my stamina but later realised it was because I was becoming soft towards her and she lost that respect for me.

The sex wasn't forth coming, it's like she wants me to beg for what she usually wake me up with almost every morning when ever she visits. Always making up excuses why she can't have sex, we'll set up 'appointment' and she'll end up not coming and will just throw a flimsy excuse or just apologise without much care and when she eventually visits, it's usually when she's on red or she's very tired after a long day and would like to have a good rest or she comes with her friend and won't spend the night. I asked what's wrong and tried to be reasonable after pressuring her to open up to me, she just started telling me BS like "Even if there's no sex, can't I just hold myself, must we have sex? If I truly love her, I should respect the fact that she's not just in the mood for sex these days because she's stressed and always under pressure". After that statement, I didn't breakup immediately, but just withdrew totally and that's how what I felt for her 'died' instantly. She still kept on calling telling me how she loves me and all, also sending love/romantic/sex-related text messages but at a point she realised I'd stopped calling and sending her love texts messages, so She queried why I stopped calling or texting her as usual. I was just giving her different type of excuses.

What truly baffled me till date is how she cried numerous times, asking me if it is a crime for her to love me( truly, when we started dating, I was strict, unapologetic even if i was at fault and was still in contact with my ex). That she's never felt like this for any guy. Would even update her WhatsApp profile picture with my own photo, told other chykers blatantly that I am her bf( I found out on my own), always talked about what our future, kids will be like, even begged me not to break her heart else she might do the unthinkable. I felt weak, and let my Alpha status down. I completely shut other girls out, even my ex who wanted us to just be FWB.
What I am happy about is that even after all her crying, I still kept the remaining 58% of my heart in a vault. So I was just heartbroken for a week or so, then bounced back. but the unfortunate thing was that my FWB-ex also shut me out after she got into a very serious relationship, and I had to respect that. So I had to start p*ssy-hunting all over again

At the bold. What do you mean be calm? Like you shouldn't initiate the sex, rather you wait for her?
Secondly, if she indeed initiate it. By setting standard for her, will it be to refuse her advance or like flirting with other girls in her presence, picking calls of other girls in her presence. This happened years ago back then in the University. So since then, I haven't been in a serious relationship, mostly just hookups. So I need to get the 'right tools' when I finally decide to get back in

frank417:
Lol see wetin brokeness they cause. Oga just get rich and STAY rich and many women will love you till they die!

You see that woman that you are doing all these bla bla bla uptight character and yeye dynamics for her to love u more than u do, if she finds a rich man that shows her the LUXURY LIFE for just 2 DAYS and promise her more, My brother she go bounce you and stay committed to that man till she die walahi!

Lesson: Get money!

Regina Daniels threw her best friend from childhood out of her husband's(neddy bobo) house for a reason. Small time e go be her mama. Baby girl wan die there.

joeeee240:


So what do you do when you legitimately offend her as per imperfect human being wey men be?

ubunja:
True. If a woman disrespects you show her the road and move on with your life. If she returns you don't soften your stance or lower the standard to accommodate her. She must rise to the level you have set. If anything make it harder this time so she sees she's made things worse for herself by rebelling. Add more rules. If she goes no worries get another, if she stays you've a girl more determined to be respectful. Women complain daily about strict men, but do they leave and walk? Never. Because it is under a man with clearly defined rules that they feel free because they know where they fit in and what is expected of them.