₦airaland Forum

Black man why?

ThePolemicist:
It’s high time these people go after the family members of politicians. Since they’ve chosen not to do the right thing; they should be faced squarely and innocent Nigerians should be spared.

Do you know that the politicians pay bandits certain amounts to stay safe? Even Buhari had to pay bandits for him to safely fly over Katsina. It's that bad. Our security is really compromised. Apart from politicians, you see those high ranking military officers; they have a strong hand in banditry. Kidnapping is big business in Nigeria and bokoharam has tapped into it to find operations since their sponsors aren't forthcoming. Most of these money are going back to terrorists for weapons sourcing. Abuja has been captured and honestly the only people who can stop these bandits are mercenaries. Our military is totally powerless against them. If president brings in Private military contractors, you'll see these terrorists dying in drives. Our government knows what to do but are they willing to do it? I wish all Nigerians can come together just like that endsars but this time around the whole nation

So the black dwarfs lost

Output is really poor. We can't play like this against ivory coast

Fineman2:
I hope this Gaza war will not cost Biden his reelection

It won't cos if they don't vote Biden then Trump is gonna be president. Trust me, they wouldn't want that to happen. Most of these folks protesting are deluded. They never protested when Israel was hit severally and her citizens murdered. These people clearly hate Israel and the protest is sponsored. Trump would use this this as a campaign point and when he finally gets there, shege banza. Real Americans know that Israel is one of their biggest Allies. Arab Nations hate USA

Nigeria would likely lose the match tomorrow. It's almost certain. From the last friendly, tomorrow's result is easily predictable. The team is filled with misfits.

lampido22:
Shutdown completely the useless University on the niger.

I support you. That school is crap. They just pretend to be christian but the kind of extortion going on there is mind boggling. Their school of nursing, Medical lab, iyi enu are not left out. They really suffer students in that school and students can't speak out. Many of the female students there sef have experienced harassment in one way or the other from the male chaplains. The school has really become a shadow of itself. BBC needs to expose that school and their ungodly practices

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

Bros you made a mistake. Why didn't you just go get the baby things yourself? It's either they pocketed the funds or went for very expensive stuff.

[quote author= post=127859360]Is this boy a woman beater or what?
Let him try nonsense with Tiwa, make we grill am like Barbecue.
Who exchanges such words with women?
Grow up David and keep giving us good songs.
Ignoring females hit them more than words.
Talking from Experience.
Sisi Yewande of @MANNA say so.
Let peace reign.[/quote]Keep quiet abeg. Davido must grill tiwa.

Corruption within the police and military is too much. These bandits are receiving support from within. If the government can't provide solutions then they should allow citizens take up arms and defend themselves.

Emmanuel30a:
I don't believes it until it finally kills, absolves the pain or resolves it; it is a problem you can't solve, absolve let alone resolves... Gives me puff puff, smirnoff and jollof, etc; and I would teaches you how to solves, absolves and resolves it... That is when you can say/would say or be able say enough is enough... Did you falls in love or use to falls in love, did you do makes love and how many times have you makes love... You are making love and falling in love, and you don't gives me jollof, let alone smirnoff and 7up-including puff puff... You can't say enough is enough..., you would cough and it would be so tough and rough...

Excuse me Sir, Is everything alright over there?

Ajheboy:
A friend bought a discussion to me, nairalanders advice him.

He said he went through his babe gallery and saw a chat she screenshot where a guy told her "I'll give you the best French kiss ever when are you resuming?"

She didn't sound uninterested though...

He asked her about it, she said it's nothing...that's it's never gonna happen

He said he felt like slapping her.

He opened her chat with the guy and saw where she called him, "my love", "my baby".

He said he doesn't know what to do.


Kai obinrin 🤦‍♂️

What would you advise pls?


She told him it's nothing serious, even after this lady used to tell him,she can never date on her campus.

That's her bestie. If you wanna live long and free from hypertension, just erase from your mind. With what I'm seeing, your relationship is already coming to an end. I can see that she is a student. Guy, you dey try. Most of these female students dey knack anything and are really adventurous when it comes to knacks. Their heads are filled with different types of styles they wanna try out before they finish school. If she ain't trying those things with you then very likely she's trying them out elsewhere. Stop checking her phone. Treat the relationship casually and rest. Try and build your career. Sadly, She is not yours yet. The same way you see ladies with big front and back that you wanna bang. She is also having that feeling when she sees fine boys. School is usually not the right place to pick a life partner except that person you pick is really mature

Enemyofpeace:
person no fit play with you again? Abeg no vex o

expensive play

ahnie:
Sir...I would always come down to check...I do it alot.

If you're akin to trucks...you'll know that most motor boys always do naps under the trucks especially northerners.


So I m know what m saying.

You're correct. I see that everytime. I'm surprised the way some people are even flaring up at the dead boy

Enemyofpeace:
na who say make you no get money? It served you right. Next time you go hustle well well and be rich like us



Prettygirl200 go like big boys with big plantains

You think some people hustle that much before they make it big? There are people who hustle so much throughout their lifetime but can't even build a bungalow. Most times, connection to the right people helps

This is so rampant in the south Eastern part of Nigeria. Everyone feels like oppressing and then parents aren't helping matters. Even when you as a man earns a decent salary, they'll be pointing to emeka that is raking in millions monthly. Poverty has eaten deep into that part of Nigeria so much. Some families there are good sha

I grew up in Lagos and I can say for a fact that most lagosians are very impatient. They rush to do everything and the results are usually fatal. Waiting for few minutes would not kill you. Once they see you doing things in a careful manner, they'll tag you as mumu. Same thing that killed many people during that Ikeja bomblast years ago

NapoleonHill:
That girl who wanted to break up with her boyfriend for being a violent Arsenal fan go chop beating today if she never break up.

Exactly what I was thinking maximum vawulence

Nonsense!

Nothing would happen

See plenty mommy's boys chai! Many NL guys are actually senseless. See them. They'll never openly appreciate their fathers. They'll be talking about how emeka Ike is a simp. One day these girlfriends would become mothers. That's how every mother started! When you get married, take care of your home and your mom separately. You don't have to put yourself in a position to choose. Women are very competitive. You can't put your mom and wife in the same house!

soccerlite:
Is it that your mum didn't see traits you are accusing the girl of having before insisting you marry her?

Ugly, smelly, unmanner, uneducated


No mother would want her son to marry such woman

Your story is hard to believe

You don't know how African mothers behave at all especially Igbo mothers.

egobetter4me:
I know a lot of you will blame me after reading this and even want to curse me, but this is my sad story and I just want to put it out there for people to learn. Don't ever let your parents decide your partner for you. Even if you have to run away, do it.

I recently got married to an ugly, short, black, smelly, village girl. At first my uncle took me to see her, then we spoke and she came visiting. All these happened in the village.

When I went back to the city, I told my mom I wasn't interested in her any more, but she insisted I must marry her. My mom would always take my joy by telling me about the girl anytime she sees me happy. There was no breathing space. We live together and I pay the rent. I loved her so much that I could do anything for her. She once sold her wrappers/materials and jewelleries, to send me money for school fees.

Anytime she tries to talk to me about the girl, I will beg her and let her understand that young people like to marry who they truly love. I don't want her, I don't love her and I don't think I will ever will.
After all said and done, she still insisted, so I called my elder bro to come talk to her. He came in from another state and spoke with my mom for hours. She did as if she would allow me marry my choice, just for my brother to go. Immediately my brother left, she started again.

My mom has BP. She stopped using her medication and was ailing. she threatened that if she dies, that I killed her. I thought to myself, that if she truly dies, I might live with the regrets for the rest of my life. I really tried but I was defeated. I succumbed. But before marrying the girl, I spoke to her(the girl) that I don't love her and that I'm marrying her against my wish, but I guess she was desperate. She said I shouldn't worry, that the love would grow in the marriage.

We got married. She lives with me and my mom. Even my neighbours were disappointed in me, when they saw her. Church members and friends were all disappointed. I can't start narrating to them how I got here.

We are over a year gone now and she still irritates me. I so much hate to look at her. We've had sex only about 5 times or so and I have to get high to do this. I only kissed her once(at the alter and I cringed)

I cry everyday.....both at home and while hustling. I never envisaged my life to be like this. I had hoped to meet a beautiful, clean and well mannered graduate from the city. Someone I would truly love and she would love me too. I'd hoped that I would meet her, approach her and we start as friends, then lovers, then I would propose and all. I never planned for it to be like this.

I am so sad with my life. Right now, I'm thinking of applying for masters abroad and probably use the means to Japa and never come back again.

My life is so miserable!

Learn from me. Don't ever let your parents blackmail you into marrying someone you don't love. Pls don't. Just run away for months or few years and they will leave you alone.

You are not a man as far as I'm concerned. No matter the mind games your mom tries to play, you should be able to maintain your no. You said your mom sold her jewelries to take care of you. It's what mothers do for their children. Fathers also sacrifice a lot for their children. It doesn't mean when you're an independent adult, you can't choose what you want. You put yourself in the mess cos you want to please your mom. Finish what you started. You don't deserve to marry another woman because you would allow your mom to maltreat her and not do anything about it. When you are ready to stand on your word as a man do let us know.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

Firstly, for you to achieve peace, you have to be at peace with yourself. Things I discovered according to your write-up

1) you are a control freak. Be a friend to your spouse.
2) you were desperate otherwise you wouldn't bring in a liability and accept to become her father. Don't be desperate. How can you be forcing a woman to call her parents or family members to speak about marriage plans? A woman who is ready for marriage would never wait for you to start telling her family about you.
3) she doesn't need any training from you. She's an adult. Don't date someone hoping to train her. It's wrong!
4) when she called her ex to come pack her things and then the neighbor came to settle, why did you accept her back?
5) you saw your ex and ran to meet her. You are not a serious person and it is very much obvious. You did that and you expect that lady to keep calm. You're not ready for marriage. You still have some growing up to do. Both of you are not ready.

The way forward is : sit her down and speak to her. Tell her to be honest with you and say her mind even if it would hurt. Be ready to listen. If she is not interested in you, you'll see the signs. Once you see those signs, let her go. If both of you can't let go of your exes then you better part ways

FeliciaOja:
I meet him July this year, everything about him is cool. My only worry is his fanatical support for arsenal which I consider the worst club on earth.

He keeps disturbing me of how his club will win the league, but whenever they lose he becomes super depressed and aggressive.

We have talked about this many times and he has sworn to change.
But this night he came back very late and was making so much noise, shouting and yelling
Then I googled scores and saw that his club lost today

I can't take it anymore
He is not the first guy I have dated that loved football. His own is that when his club loss it affects him very bad.

I have even suggested he should stop supporting arsenal but he won't listen.
After this night rubbish he just displayed I'm thinking of calling it quits.

Am I overreacting??

Please break up with him ASAP. The guy is just an overgrown baby. This time around don't listen to his plea. Just let him go

What's happening with the free train ride now? I heard there's a lot of irregularities. Our politicians are not the problem of this country. Na the ordinary Nigerian be the problem. Everything must involve corruption

Update: I tried to book a ride early this morning and even with the free seats, I can see "maximum 0 seats". Those guys at the backend are working with the other staff to sneak passengers in. They have set it in a way that one can't register. Nigerians are too corrupt. Even when the government does something good, the people would still use it to extort themselves. Chai!

Wow mother in-law issues. If this is the case then his wife went through a lot. Why are Nigerian men fond of allowing mothers destroy their homes? Once you get married, stop allowing family members meddle in your affairs everytime. Take charge of your home and stop being mommy's boys! Emeka Ike why naaa?

This is like the worst song I've heard from Rema. It's crap

slaawomirr:
Damnnn niggar

Premier league go definitely reject am

Who nor know say epl teams are overrated

If they should combine all leagues in Europe

No clubs from England will make top 8

Keep deceiving yourself. Man City and Liverpool would win the league every year. There's no club those two can't thrash in this world

There's nothing stunning here. Don't make money because of women. If you use money to win a woman over, you're on your own because if she doesn't love you and the money is gone, you're a goner. Take a look at wealthy men who suffered marital issues. If a woman loves you, she loves you. Using money to win a woman over is a sign of low self esteem and she knows that. It's not always about money. If a lady can't love you when you're hustling then you don't need her in your life. All that money you make don't need to go to gold diggers. What about friends and family that supported you along the way? I've always said it that it is very tough for a wealthy man to find a woman who truly loves him. Never ever use money to win ladies over. You'll only succeed in attracting criminals

I want to get a Xiaomi phone in January and I was talking to my friend about it. He claims the Poco is a better option but I haven't really seen people using them here. I discovered that the Poco m5 with helio g99 scored higher than Redmi note 12 with snapdragon 4 gen 1. Pls gurus in the house, tell me your experience with Xiaomi poco. What do you think about the performance, camera, e.t.c. should I stick with the Redmi note? Pls help push to frontpage dragnet
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