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cenaman:
Bro I am totally confused.
She got impregnated by her first lover and abandon her with the pregnancy to her fate, up till now the guy show's no interest in the baby......

Let's address what this confusion is about first.

What do YOU want to do about it and why do you want to do it?

cenaman:
Same thing that is giving me sleepless nights.

My current girlfriend was my childhood friend in primary school before we lost contact after our FSLS.
Though she's a single mom and independent woman, I don't know how to tell my parents that she is a single mom.

Does it mean that you have already concluded plans to MARRY her? Why not marry a woman that her entire children will be the ones she got from being IMPREGNATED by you? Between your girlfriend and your parents, whose opinions/feelings should you value the most?

One of the signs of unhappiness and lack of fulfillment in life is an inordinate concern about the opinion of others.

If you are so preoccupied with validation to the extent that any remark from others (contrary to yours) offends you, then it is time for some mental self-reassessment.

Have you found your life's purpose on earth?
Concentrate on that, with time, other irrelevant issues (including hers) will fall off. For now, your job is to STOP yourself from contacting her by every means necessary!

Aluu 4 immediately comes to mind here. Nigeria and Cameroon have been noted for this type of mob lynching popularly called jungle justice or necklacing.

This is most prevalent in places where people have lost trust in the constituted justice system.

She is LISTENING to someone else.
Move on!

Those who don't want you to succeed in life will say/do everything they can to discourage you.

If you've truly REALIZED the futility of such ventures, then, let that be your everlasting reminder to NOT fall again.

As a matter of urgency, go and see a doctor BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE.

Upon referral, a consultant dermatologist can authoritatively speak to you about this.

Many a kindhearted person in the diaspora has been drawn into Nigeria/Nigerian affairs only to have their legacies ruined and their entire records of success tainted irrecoverably forever!

That trust is more expensive than money.

It may interest you to learn that some 'party faithfuls' are rejoicing upon receiving the CBN Governor into the party.

Some sectors in the system are so critical such that once there is foul play in that sector, the results with time will reveal the reality of the obvious foul play through DEFEAT by competent opponents.

emmykk:
Someone can wish you well oral but plan evil against you.so congratulations or not forget and do as others have advice .

Give him free or charge him

This doesn't make sense. The signs of envy, disregard, disrespect, and hatred are there already. Why are you encouraging him to ignore the glaring attitude? There is no gain in doing business with ungrateful souls!

What if you give him the bus to pack his belongings and leave the compound and then he NEVER returns?

NONSENSE

I have tried everything possible to avoid commenting on this thread. However, I am sincerely concerned and I feel obligated to advice you in case you are ready to truly listen. The total money you are owing for now is less than 300,000NGN, and you need to clear that debt as soon as possible before it increases beyond your refunding capacity eternally due to accumulated interest.

1. Write down a concrete plan on how you will be paying them installmentally over a period of time not exceeding a duration of Six (6) months and stick to the payment plan religiously. OR

2. Look for extra money either by selling off one of your assets (land or any other investment of value) and use the proceeds to settle the debts once and for all.

ON SCAM, SCAMMING, AND SCAMMERS.
(Part 1)

By Emmanuel Aniedu

The level of seriousness in which scammers are operating with in recent times is a great cause for concern. If these deceptive individuals would put in the same amount of effort and work wasted in SCAM into developing value-added skills, most of them would have become billionaires more quickly than they could possibly imagine, with an added bonus of enjoying the peace of mind that comes with duly earned wealth too.

However, a determined scammer would never listen to nor believe in this proposition. Such is the nature of deceptive individuals who have perfected the art of fleecing away the hard-earned monies of their unsuspecting victims - including ripping them off of their lifetime pensions and, in some extreme cases, extending further into stealing the entire family inheritance of their victims by tricks.

Scammers come in all manner of shapes and sizes. They have mastered the art of appearing like innocent help seekers, extremely skilled in seeking for public sympathy yet very focused and pinpointedly fixated on achieving their primary goal which is to dispossess their unfortunate victim(s) of targeted sums of money - one at a time, serially or even simultaneously. Bear in mind however, that the failure of a typical scammer to reach a certain target plunges them deeply into frustration hence the need for precision in identifying gullible victims.

The fool and his money are soon parted, so says the scriptures, but regardless of this warning, no one is totally above the risk of falling victim to the ploys and wicked schemes of scammers for they are available in both genders of the human race and roaming about in every strata of our society. Scammers will more readily bow and scrape and even lick the feet of whomever unfortunate fellow they can lay their gaze upon to be possessing the right amount of careless money coupled with an ego large enough for stroking such money away.

If peradventure one is lucky enough to escape the fangs of a venomous scammer, such a victim will naturally be left to contend with the overwhelming feelings of depression, self-disgust, and sometimes suicide that usually accompanies targeted deception, most especially if the victim is not assisted to overcome the guilt that is associated with past feelings of vulnerability. In any case, scammers never leave their victims alone except they are absolutely sure that such a victim has been rendered totally bankrupt or DEAD!

By the time a scammer is 'DONE' with his/her victim, what will be left of the victim's shattered reputation (if any) shall eventually be finished off completely by false accusations set in motion by the comity of scammers against such victims who at such times shall have a very difficult time explaining to their loved ones how they fell so blindly to the whims and caprices of a deceitful stranger. But that is the nature of the scamming business especially in a land such as ours where those responsible for the rot in the system have become accustomed to the art and science of slandering the reputation of the REMNANTS who seek to better the society.

What are the signs that draws the attention of scammers to easy potential victims and how do these scammers spot their most preferred 'mugus' and 'magas'? This perspective and a lot more shall be x-rayed in our next pen series. Happy new month Great People of Africa.�

#QualityEducationForAfrica
#WeAreEnough

To have a dick on one's arm may be the Greatest medical invention in human history

He has already made up his mind. Just giving you the heads up so you will still have his back when the chips are down. Chances are he came from the sidechick's house to consult you on what he has already done

Some people will politicize this comment and colourise same with sentiments.

Deputy President NYCN signed this ineffective release?

Why didn't sun news report the one signed by NYCN PRESIDENT?

DEAD ON ARRIVAL!!

You are accompanying a girl who is having the time of her life and getting dicked down from almost every angle yet you still call her innocent. You still fantasize about marrying her too

Get out ya fackin head and start knowing how to ask and take what you want.

FAKE NEWS ALERT

@Seun

Lalasticlala

Fake news alert!!!

This sounds so Fayosesque

pocohantas:
If she leaves him, that is up to her. There were better ways to handle issues. Maybe he overreacted, but I very much understand his concerns (and hers too).

In my view, the girl is overreaching; obviously desperate or overwhelmed with lovey-dovey fantasies. Or she is definitely trying to prove a point to her girlfriends (or competitors if you like).

The guy is more worried about his reputation than the mood the girl is in right now.

There is only one way this ends, one has to apologize or the relationship deteriorates into utter chaos.

All that awkwardness could have been avoided if he just locked his phone. ALWAYS.

They will have to grow up. The both of them!

This is utter nonsense!!

A Statement from NANS on the Official position of the Association should come from the President and not what we have here.

How further lower can one get by issuing press Statements from NYCN with their position credited to the Vice President?

By the way, none of the names mentioned here are from Stakeholders in Niger Delta so this kind of news is usually discarded into the dustbins of history.

She should better remove that hand and be thoroughly flogged. Trust me, she'll appreciate those lashes in 10 years time.

pocohantas:
Editing viewers to her and her clan after the update is a waste of time. Only subsequent updates would use that setting, not the one that is already out. Some of us even see deleted updates.

Lol. Some of "us" you say? Ladies have really gotten sophisticated with this PDA thing.
The OP has no idea what he is into. He has already lost the game and the way he reacted to it even up till this minute is a sign. One way or the other, she is definitely leaving him!

Run!

After realising that she did that, the best thing you could have done was to go and turn on privacy and restrict people who can see it to only her. And then make no reaction about the whole thing but keep your phone on password.

Maxymilliano:
Even a criminal, caught in the act will say the same.

But what about the wonderful slap he got in return ?

You think it is funny. Or that it is sound logic to allege without proof. Have you bothered to ask yourself why the said Lady has not bothered to press charges for her supposed harassment?
Have you bothered to ask why she had to wait until the day of her investigative hearing against embezzlement before she could come public with the so-called harassment claims?

You deserve to be wrongly accused just for a test of the medicine.

TheMainone:
I personally think the service chiefs should be sacked first. Then the entire Nigeria army overhauled if we want to win this war

It is realistically impossible to overhaul an entire army.