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Stop deceiving people. This is not true and you know it.

Anybody who is still supporting this evil government does not deserve to live and see 2023. This is my prayer to anyone who is supporting this evil government. People are suffering and dying daily in Nigeria. I live and work abroad. We are also feeling the heat because
we have family members in Nigeria. Let's not allow these evil old men to come back to power. Nigeria will be great again, if we can use our pvc to vote these people out.

Bonesbreaker:
don't do this u may regret it

please can you explain to us why he shouldn't do it

What is the need of showing the whole world your breast? Something is definitely wrong with this generation. May God have mercy on us

Totilopussylick:
Mohammed, the son of Jigawa State governor, Abubakar Badaru, has graduated from Brunel University, London.



And ASUU are still on strike in Nigeria


E shall never be well with our governors

My brother forget about this your prayer. Go get your pvc and mobilize people around you to get theirs. Vote for Peter obi and lets take our country back from these wicked and selfish leaders. God has given us the power to do that lets not waste it.

Peter obi is a great man. We are very lucky to have him. He is such a blessing to our generation. This man had spent billions helping the less privilege and the church. Is just that he does these things without making noise. I do not know why someone will open his mouth and call peter a stingy man. He is a great mentor. �

What is the cost of renting three bedroom apartment?

JovialJune:
Lol

You owned up because gistlover was about to expose you

You owned up after you were forced by Judith to marry her last week Sunday

You were the same person that threatened her to abort the pregnancy, when she didn't, you had to accept it, she threatened to expose you if you didn't marry her

Your second wife was married to different men with two kids, so you are responsible for taking care of them, she is a left over while your wife was a virtuous woman

Men that marry second wife usually marry a fresh young untouched young girl, you married a left over while your wife was pure from the very beginning.

You are not a real man, you are a real idiot.

TRUTH!!!!

successmatters:
Peter Obi, by the sheer quality of his capabilities to make Nigeria great again is not the kind of person that should stress himself to convince the masses and delegates that he can save this country.

Peter Obi is the type of person that everybody from every region should approach, persuade and convince to stay in this race and win.

That is the nearest hope for the salvation of Nigeria and its economy.

God bless you for saying the truth

AntiMen:
Did I force the feeling on myself....
It grew naturally.

Madam what is happening to you is not normal. It does not matter wheather you accept it or not. Something is definitely wrong with you. The only solution to your problem is amputation. You have to urgently cut him off from your life. Block and delete all his contact if you have any. You must as a matter of urgency convince your husband for you guys to move to another church. What you are about to start will definitely ruin your life and your home. This is the honest truth. You are free to take it or you leave it. It is up to you.

FOOL

Lindner:
I've engaged with some developers on nairaland about this topic and out of frustration, I just surrendered.

Since the pandemic and the popularization of remote work, it's no longer news that western tech companies now look to source talents from Africa and Some parts of Asia. The rationale is to cut cost.

A recruiter that recruits for some of these tech companies recently told me that they no longer disclose potential salary budget to candidates from Africa, especially Nigeria.

She mentioned that they are always shocked at the salary expectations of candidates. She went further to state that 9 out of 10 candidates from Africa request for between 20% to 80% below the budget of the companies( Even though the company is already saving a lot by recruiting from Africa). And the fact that she mentioned Nigeria specifically got me a little angry.

Why tf will you guys be asking for $500/month for a software development role no matter whether its entry level or not? What values do you place on yourself? Just because you live in Nigeria? A cleaner does not even get paid $500/month in those companies. Do you feel good knowing the colleague you'll be working with is earning ×5 of what you're being paid and you're probably even adding more value. Don't you get angry?

The painful part is that some of these companies didnt even offer to pay you these miserable salaries, you requested it yourself.

Sometime ago, on another thread here on NL, on the same topic of remote job compensation, some folks came to the thread with alot of justification why $500/month is a good offer. They cited exchange rate, poverty rate in Nigeria, how there's no job and every other pathetic reasons why they should slave away to a western company. I can't even begin to reason the ones that are hawking their "skills" here on NL offering to build a full fledged e-commerce site with integrated payment solutions for 10k naira.

I don't care what you say, if you know your shit and have good self esteem, you can earn as much as $4k/month. Before you come here and start reciting all the impossibilites in your books, know that I'm writing from a position of knowledge. I have statistics and real life examples to substantiate this figure. I myself have been working remotely even before the pandemic.


I wouldn't have bothered to even write, but this development is now coming back to bite some of us just because we answer the name Nigerian.

This is ridiculous. How could someone with three years experience on his job accept salary of 500 dollars/month ? You can only see such people in Nigeria. Very useless country. Even here in Asia people that are doing menial jobs can make 500 dollars in
three to fours days.

Mr Sharrif, i advice you do not go into buying and storing for people. Anybody who is serious in doing this business ,should buy the produce from you and move them to his location. Create a market and sell his produce when it is time to sell. You can take my advice or leave it.Thank you

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@op, i have been following your post on nairaland. You have a very sound mind. I am based in South Korea. Can i send you a Pm? I have things to discuss with you. God bless

If she truely visited her ex boyfriend i will cancel the wedding.No amount of preaching will make me to change my mind.

They are seeing them as sex object. If you truely love a lady you will never loose interest in her. Love is different from lust. The more i sleep with my wife the more i love her. We have been together for 12 years.

nwadikeokey11:
You wont regret migrating to Kigali with your family. It's a wonderful place to raise kids and build a decent home, but my only advise to you is to please, go with a good money, or better still go alone first, then after you had established well and had gotten a strong footing then you can come back and take your family. Mind you, things are far too expensive in Kigali than in Lagos or any other part of Nigeria, but it worth it. For the city of Kigali is far better and more developed than any city in Nigeria. Good luck to you.

My brother thank you for letting people know the truth. I do not know why some people always say what they don't know especially on nairaland. All you said is truth. My very close friend here is from Rwanda. People should be very careful when taking decision to move to another country.

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

Oh my God! Wonders shall never end. My brother you are a man. I commend you for the serious decisions you took. But, if it is ME i will NOT continue with that marriage. Majority of ladies in this our time does not understand what martiage is all about. Most of them are very greedy and selfish. Men be wise do not allow any woman to kill you before your time because you want to show that you are a man. There must be division of labour. Both husband and wife must work hard to contribute to the family. Do not allow your wife to leave the whole burden on you ,no matter how rich you think you are. You will grow old very fast and die before your time.

If you know what is good for you leave that married woman alone. What kind of matured advice do you want? Tomorrow now you will start blaming the devil. We all know what she wanted from you.Young man, be wise and flee from that woman she will destory you.

festacman:
What business do you want to do in Zamfara? Illegal gold mining or selling white powder to bandits?

My friend, don't be a fat head. Relocate asap for your life. Look, most Zamfara politicians are taking cover in Abuja and you want to serve in Zamfara. Serve who? Bandits!

Op, take this guy's advice .I was born and brought up in the north.So many hausa and fulanis are my friend. Listen to me and take this honest advice. Do everything humanely possible to redeploy. Do not say i did not warn you. God bless you.

I do not have any other thing to say. I hope you have learnt a lesson from this? God bless you

Okay. Thanks for answering my question. After seeing his work online and believing him. Please, befor you took decision to do business with him,did you try to visit him at his farm to atleast see what he has on ground?

Mr Lanre fasasi, please i have one question to ask you. Who is this person to you before now?

Heathrow44:
Good op!! I'm glad u took my advice, all this girls need to be dealt seriously with, everybody now thinks a girl scamming u for love is no longer a crime, if a man scams a woman is a heinous crime and taken seriously but if a woman scams a man everybody laughs it off and call the man mumu and tell him to leave the money for her, that's the society we live in now, Good riddance to bad rubbish!! Op u did it, I'm happy 4 u!! Don't sell the phone yet give her enough time to pay back every kobo she took, report her to the police but don't go there with her oo b4 she promises one police officer pussy In exchange for switching the charges against u! Report to the bank and get a police statement and a court injunction to re wire ur balance to ur account or u can arrest her and tell her to get any guardian or parents to come and bail her and pay ur balance to u shikena! Do the last one I said

Oga, don't forget to take this advice. It is very important. You may not be this lucky next time. Be careful and wise!

Thank you.

shariff84:
weevils and insects are the major risk associate with storage business.therefore,you have to be applying insecticide every three month or you buy PICs bags for storage will do.

Thanks. But have you used this PICS BAG? Is it very effective?

Thank God i did not join Nigerian army. That would have been my greatest mistake in life. Nigeria is not worth dying for. RIP MAJOR

Thank you. Please, can you tell the risk associated with storage business? And also how to avoid or minimize such risk.

Wonder1844:
Good morning house... Pls which grains is best to store at this time?

Good job Sherriff. Please kindly answer this question and also enlighten us on storage business. Thank you

Never mind. Have a nice day

Angelacruz:
Yea

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