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Why are you looking for his ex-wife?

What if the poor lady is trying hard to leave his memory behind her? It wouldn't be nice and appropriate of you to reawake a forgotten nightmare of hers.

There's nothing you need to hear from her. It makes no logical sense quizzing her. Leave her out totally of your quest.

Knowing some deep things do not always require the celestial or supernatural. Paying attention to details is enough to unravel secret things and prevent future dilemma.

If he is working in Nigeria, I don't think our tax system is sophisticated enough to be claiming incentives for wife and children. So, he has no basis to falsify that info.

If the record was an error, what stopped him from discussing it with you when you raised it? If he is doing this, how will he be handling conflicts if/when you eventually marry?

The decision is yours. You know what you want but in your quest, please leave the lady out of it. Whatever anyone will or already advised you, you have no business with the lady nor she with you.

kakazee:
Someone please answer.

Except something is required from you, you will not know.

bjayzeez:
sounds good. Im sure we would be able to find common grounds in our respective research areas. I am into oil n gas, interested in geothermal....you are into geothermal, thinking of exploring oil and gas.....

sounds interesting to me

God willing, we will meet in Oz and break forth these areas. We will exploit in Nigeria too with knowledge and resources gotten from there.

bjayzeez:
so, you planning to go back to school in Aussie? Perhaps Adelaide? Ive been making noise about shale gas too in the past, gave talks at NAPE, and people just simply ignored me lol.....

On this geothermal ish tho....I have been looking it up as a prospective area id like to get involved in. We would definitely talk about this someday..... but before we turn OZ migration page to General Geology discussion.... we better park well lol

Its part of the migration talk. At least one can talk about plans after grant.

Yes, I plan going for PhD in geothermal. Will probably look into geothermal wells cohabiting with oil.

Shale gas is the current bomb unfortunately, my interest has not been in the oil and gas. Thinking of exploring it now.

bjayzeez:
Oh, nice.... How did you get yourself into that lol....Id guess thats not within the shores of niger area.

Mine is on burial history modelling, resident in the pet engineering department..... Part of the research in their shale gas consortium.

Getting into it was fortuitous..

We do have the resources though not really enough for power generation but can aid in agriculture and other needs if tapped.

I have been useless to geothermal since I returned though.

You are digging deep into oil and gas history... Very nice.

bjayzeez:
remember I mentioned that vetassess assessment stated that i have over 2 years experience.... as they assessed only 35 months, lol. So the plan is to get an updated letter from work, and submit with payslips...just to be on the safe side.

I do have an offer with Curtin...but I guess id have to let it go

Im sure they would revert in a bit....the window before you get a response is 12 weeks isnt it.... bestaluck

Alright... Get it updated.

What program is your offer in? I used to work on geothermal systems, I can see that Adelaide has geothermal program.

Thanks

Bjayzeez,

You can use the reference letter you used for the assessment.

Yes, admission will not cut it.

Do you have offer from university in Perth?

I was told my application is undergoing various checks but he doesn't know or can't determine what the checks are.

gogochocolate:
I decided not to submit my medicals and PCC until I am told to by the case officer and I am suprised he or she has not requested for it. Thanks for the input

Means it is yet to be assigned. 189 takes longer to process though as 190 is given priority.

The Indians do receive special status/privilege going by how fast they process theirs.

^^^ Get a Nokia or any other phone without internet capability, insert your Sim and do away with your smartphone, laptop or tablet for two weeks.

Let your wife help in checking urgent and important emails at home after office hours not to be tempted into using it.

If you stay away from these gadgets for two weeks, you will achieve good progress in breaking this addiction.

During these two weeks, if you will watch TV, watch programs that will interest both of you so u can analyse, discuss and laugh over it together.

On weekends, don't stay indoors for too long, go out with her and use your phone only when there are calls or text messages.

Keep to this for one, two, three...... weeks and you will put this addiction where it belongs.

It is well.

gogochocolate:
Please for those you who have passed through 189 visa application process, i applied on the 15th of August and yet i have not heard from a case officer. Other people who applied after me for the same category of visa (Indians ) have been granted visa. Is it what to expect from DIBP because i am a Nigerian. Is there an email address i can contact them with. Thanks

I guess Indians are not subjected to the rigorous internal and or external checks.

Be patient, there are others you applied together and are in the same situation.

Meanwhile, you could have been given a CO without you knowing. You only know of a CO if there is an outstanding document needed.

Tell to digest this thread before her final decision. If she doesn't take your advice, there's little you can do.

If you are sure of the guy's violent behavior, inform the girl's parents.


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Amelian:
hahahahahahahahahaha oh my Lord,
and in real life, my dad died @ age 90yrs , while mum @ 70yrs..... he lived long... over dose of meat no kill am, he loves 2 eat well.. my dad like food ehn!.....no be small...he worked hard for it anyways... so make he enjoy am
may both their souls rest in peace, amen

Amen...

Meanwhile, maybe he could have lived for 120yrs if not for the meat.

Amelian,

Your mum was actually killing your dad slowly with the plenty of meat....

Her real reason for being angry at the man is because he has refused to make advances at her..

She expected him to join in house chores with her so there will be "devil's time" to ask the unthinkable.

She should be sent out of that house immediately. What an ungrateful soul. She has exaggerated what she does at home.

How can someone going to school, learning skill and working part time have time to do all the house chores alone and not be wanting in all other tasks. There's something she is not telling you.

pickabeau1:
Classic!

ileobatojo:

Cheeky Mr Bellong!
Very good one!

Merci...

babygirlfl:
Would you die for your wife?

I have been dying for her since I married her about three years ago....

I hope they will release them with their children?

FlyboyZee... You don vex


Op,

There's something called proactive maintenance. It is what the German machines need unlike our reactive tendencies.

If you are proactive, maintaining any of the German weapon is a walk in the park.

bukatyne:
It is more of a Nigerian thing. We rarely challenge our leaders to do what is right.

The Church members do not even read their Bibles so anything pastor say is right.

Daddy say... Mummy say...

It is well

Yes you are right. That is why our home is the first church. I wouldn't allow anybody brainwash my wife or children. We search the scriptures to prevent such.

Today's church needs more of Berean Christians.

bukatyne:
Very correct

Fine, they are guarding against fornication however I see no reason why the lady cannot even be encouraged to help the brother clean up and do his laundry with another Christian brother in attendance

The thing tire me

Do you know that in RCCG, they teach that calling your husband by name is a sin, asking him to do chores is a sin, not kneeling for him is a sin. We are waiting for sex time table

I will not blame them, the blame is on members who refused to challenge their excesses.. After all, Paul challenged Peter who was the leader of the church at the time.. I love how Yoruba bible puts it... "....Mo si ko Peteru loju...."

Every church I attend, they see me as a rebel who will always challenge the authority. We are all Royal priesthoods through His grace...

bukatyne:
Agree with you

I am even worried they are doing introduction before getting to know themselves.

All these 'I am not washing your clothes'; 'Everyone has hands' lines she has been dropping here and there is what they both have to sit down and discuss.

If the OP is absolutely true, I will wager that she was the problem in her last relationship

All these Church Elders sef no dey try

I guess the OP is too religious to be street smart. The girl could be the problem in her former relationship.

The excuse that the guy was hard on her is too ambiguous to be taken seriously. If she couldn't tell her in clear terms why she left the guy, there's more to the blanket statement.


Don't mind some churches, they can go to any length to dictate how members, who refused to study the Word themselves, should live their lives. If given the opportunity, they wouldn't mind drawing an intimate time table for couples. The most worrisome thing is like what Jesus said, "they leave the weightier matters of the law and be running after frivolities"...

@Sholay2011,

Happy birthday youngman... May this new year bring you multiple blessings and promotions....

@Jeito,

Wishing you all the good things you wish yourself to come to fulfillment this new year. Happy birthday bro...

@Chibaby,

Your light will not quench in darkness... Happy birthday lady...

In as much as she is not exposing sisters Deborah, there's no problem....

If it is the washing of clothes that is troubling you, I guess you are underestimating some more important issues.

Are you sure this girl is really interested in you? Going by reason that you have to force her to tell her parents about your coming for introduction. Is it the real introduction that you will bring your parents or just the normal visiting her house?

Why is your church giving you rules on what you can handle yourself?

My brother, there is more to what you will deal with than washing of clothes.


Did you do a thorough investigation on why she broke up with her ex?

BossladyMo,

Where is the party at?

My stomach aches for that rice and poundo...

bondinlon:
Hello House! Please I need your help. I submitted EOI for Australia skilled independent subclass visa (189). Fortunately, I have been given invitation to apply for this subclass visa. But the problem now is when I used the pricing tool, the amount for just the visa application alone is about 550k. That's really much for just ordinary visa. Please is anybody in the house that knows more about it or who has the experience. I want reply. Thanks!

Have you done skills assessment?

Have you written IELTS?

What do you need help with?

The price given is not an error.

Jetspeed:
ND & HND = Business Administration
Prof. Qualification= Advanced Diploma (procurement & Supply)

Find an occupation relevant to your degree and work experience, apply for that alongside with your MBA and professional qualifications.

Check ANZSCO's website to understand the job duties so it align with what you want to claim.

Good luck.

Which format do you need again after giving you guidelines?

Same way to write a formal letter.

Get the NYSC address and address it to the State coordinator, NYSC.

State what you want in the body. Simple.

What do you need help with... The ED or how to bring him back home?

Jetspeed:
I hold an ND & HND (In Nigeria) + a UK professional qualification.

The ND and HND are in what field?

The professional qualification is what?