₦airaland Forum

aisha2: His daughter won't stay on pause, she will grow up and he will grow old probably retired then, longing for attention then but there will be none because the bonding stage has passed. If fathers from that age will teach their daughter through acts of love like this that money is not everything and money can't buy her love. He could have bought her an expensive toy instead but he gave something more valuable his heart and time, this made me cry

macof: It relates. The major reason why Africans today speak against polygamy is because of christianity, this is wat they are taught in church

But going by the examples laid by Bible characters Polygamy seems ok
So telling me Bible frowns at it is ridiculous

macof: In other words Abraham shouldn't be a role model in christianity

It's either that or Christianity is hypocritical

macof: And wat was Abraham thr so called father of your faith?

bossladyMo: Better than nothing oo, lol....only a few glitches along the way. The money we will spend to apply for a 190 after we arrive, we could have spent here in Naija, so all join.

ayinba1: You have no idea.......

Your experience being born into a polygamous home may not be another person's, not close, not similar. You are right to oppose it and so is whomever supports it.

ayinba1: Let us strive to continue this discourse in a mature manner. My people say if 2 siblings walk into a room, spend some time and come out laughing and giggling, they have been lying to each other behind closed doors. Saying I support or oppose polygamy is a minor here, I am only trying to make us all reason from another angle.

I was a first wife but my husband was married to his mother, so I basically started off in a polygamy (minus the intercourse part). It was miserable but I am still not one of those who wish to marry a man whose mother is already dead, I have sons too and I hope to live long enough to see my legitimate grandkids and daughters in law.
Sometimes as we grow older and see (hopefully learn) from life, our views begin to change.

It is not my wish to change your mind, but to open your eyes to see the other possible angles.

ayinba1: Neither. Make and enforce sensible laws that are compatible with Human (or Man) nature.

Would you want the father of your kids to spend 21 years behind bars? For marrying another woman?

bukatyne: She seems to support polygamy

ayinba1: I am sure you have such laws in Nigeria. The moment the law begins to get properly enforced, the following will happen
1. Less men will desire to get married in courts
2. More married women will disappear or go missing
3. More kids will grow up with a single mother because daddy is in jail

Overall, it only massages the ego of the woman and most Nigerian women would still not go this route.

ayinba1: Are you married? am just trying to see what angle each contributor is writing from.
@all others
Let us remember to be civil and respectful of the OP. This is her reality and many women in Africa. The strict laws concerning monogamy in the West makes it a non issue because the man either divorces or kills his wife, then marries the new one.

@OP, Do not leave your husband if you both still love each other and can make it work. I agree that the woman in the home should be notified first. Wanting to be a polygamist does not equate cheating and sneaking up on your spouse. Respect for feelings are crucial in any relationship.

Kenyan85: If i send an email on my 6th week waiting, would it be appropriate? Because i have no idea what "normal waiting time" is.
Regards

Kenyan85: I was hoping for some insight please please.

ephee: sure.tanks

kreamidiva: Good evening sir.

9janinja: "pick them one after the other " hmmm for a complicated and weird human-being like me wit a low self esteem ?

4llerbuntu: who sabi where I fit watch/download highlights of matches please. ...
help ya guy.

ironbender101: Wow thanks for the advice. My major reason for coming to Aussie is just for PR because im a comfortable business man, now I'm having a rethink....