₦airaland Forum

samir101ng: If what am hearing is true, then customs are not to blame. If every charge, fee or levy has a receipt and payment can be verified i have no problem paying my dues. It's when you are being quoted multiple prices by agents without clarification on the applicable fees that wahala starts.

Fhemmmy: yes, and even on a 1977 Mack truck, i pay 70K extra . . so pathetic, please get your fact str8 oh, cos the agents gave me cheaper prices before i ship the rides only to get there and story changed

Fhemmmy: For a newer model ride, like a 2007 Benz that i did, the difference was 150K Naira . . . I halla, cos na Apapa they take their machines to

iamsaved: I will work on myself
Maybe we both will have a long long talk. Possibly this weekend, will need to explore all options available on how we can avoid the re-ocurrence of events of the past and I will specifically tell him to highlight out all I am doing and have done so I will work on myself.

Thank you all so much.

Fhemmmy: Ha ha ha ha . . . Na you talk oh, i know they are fast once they are in Lagos but sometimes the clearing for Hoegh is expensive too, however, delay is one thing that gives me sleepless nights - I have one in my hands now by MSC from Canada and i cant wait for the vessel to land and move on to next deals cos i hate when i keep my clients waiting. . . makes my heart bleed

Fhemmmy: Lol . . Na wa for you oh, why you wanna burst the man's bubble now?
In Car business, people needs to come to realization that no 2 deals are same and alike, cos he is lucky with this does not mean that Grimaldi are now the greatest, they are good once the ride moves, but till then, fast and pray.
I would love to use them often, but my past experience scares me

samir101ng: Bros !!! The kind vex wey i dey vex now eh !!!!

I can confirm that the vehicle has been loaded, just expecting the documents. Hopefully it should arrive latest before Sat 13th July.

phyktor: ...no, u r mixin up tins here....seems u dnt knw T.R....

iamsaved: Now to the questions raised:

**honestly I am still hurting from the past
Though I have forgiven him but most times i just feel like I am not supposed to be here with this man because of all what he did on the past. The only reason I came back is because of my child. I felt like I owed it to him to give the marriage another try so he will be a proper family environment.

Madam, the statement above is a clog in the wheel in to having a complete redemption of your home. You can't forgive someone and still be hurting. Not forgetting is entirely different from hurting. If you still harbor the pains and anguish of the past, it means you are yet to forgive him. I do not know your religious inclination, so i cannot recommend anything. But I know if you sincerely pray to God to help heal the wound of the past and help you in forgiving him, God will answer you and you will be healed from that hurt.

We never can tell if it is your unforgiven attitude that is bringing up issues compounding the already complicated problem. Please work on this and you can start restoration of your home from there.

Deep down in me, I do not love my husband and he knows it and he does not care if I do or not. I do not rub it on his face sha. I tell him that I want to love him again since he is my husband, that he should make me fall in love with him. But he is just an expert at his game.

You see, both of you have contributed and still contributing to the decay in this relationship although from your description, he is taking the lion share. You are convinced that he knows that you don't love him nor care about him anymore. A sane human will not live with someone who doesn't love him. He is also acting it out to you that he doesn't give a damn about you. There are lot of work that need to be done on two of you in terms of thorough counselling, prayer and restitution. You have both broken the fabric of this marital relationship and if the foundation of the problems is not addressed, no cosmetic surgery can save it

He loves bachelorhood with passion.

If there is anything called deliverance by maximum beating, your husband needs it now more than anything to bring him back to reality. Why did he get married if he so love bachelorhood. He needs value and moral re-orientation. You need to talk to his family (if you have good rapport with them) to take him for serious counselling. He must get his priorities and values of life right

I sincerely want to work on the marriage and see how things can b better but be is fond of drawing us back and causing problems for us. Some of the girls he dated while we were seperated are still on his regular call list. I have talked, his brother has talked that he should do away with them so that he will concentrate on our marriage but he says he won't just forget them like that. There is a particular girl that calls regularly, we have had issues because of this same girl but he just won't respect our marriage and cut off communication with her and others.

[b]I appreciate and commend your intention as well as resolution to fight for your marriage. Its a good thing to start with but you first need to purge your heart of all the hatred you have for him. You have to forgive him wholeheartedly first, not for his sake alone but for your sake and health too. I know the more you see him daily, the more sorrowful and hurt you are thinking about deeds of the past. Why not start working on yourself first and when done to a degree, you can work on him too. Yes, you can do it. The best way to affect another is first to work on oneself. Do your part, be prayerful and let people with godly and matured mind help him deal with his lust and social vices.

Can your husband be redeemed? YES, he can be redeemed completely. Nothing that can't be. Since he has not resorted to physical abuse, while working on yourself and changing some unhealthy attitudes, seeing this will at least give him a ray of hope to stay. You both need help outside of nairaland.

It is well with your home.[/b]

samir101ng: Yes, i am expecting a consignment but the documents have not arrived yet . What are the cost implications for incurring demurrage, what port will it be berthing at and where did it came from ? Expecting a consignment from Baltimore Port. Thanks

samir101ng: Hello Guys,

can anybody help out with the name of the Grimaldi Vessel (RORO) arriving Lagos on 14th July ? Don't know the port it will be berthing at. How long does it take to unload such a vessel ?

Thanks !!!

phyktor: nt TR ajayi, bt d oda ajayi, J.O ajayi i fink

Afam4eva: I heard OAU has the most beautiful campus in AFRICA.

Ola Johnson: That must be Prof. Ako of Geology when he was the Dean of Science. As is the tradition during convocations, deans call all the students and the programmes. But when Ako was doing this, knowing full well that nobody was graduating from the department, he made the statement.

iamsaved: I am extremely confused at this point as I need to plan my future and my kid(s) future.

We have been married for 4years now, blessed with a child and expecting the second. For weired and unexplained reasons, my hubby is fond of abandoning our home whenever we have mild to heavy misunderstanding. He first abandoned me 2weeks after wedding over a minor arguement, came back, 4months later after wedding, same thing for one month and finally when I was pregnant with our first child over a little misunderstanding but this time for a long time. Yes I know it sounds funny. We reconciled late last year after he came with his family to beg, my major reason of going back being cos of my child. Now am some months pregnant and he attempted to leave again last two weeks. It was his friend who stopped him from leaving. During the meeting held last, Hia friend asked him exactly the reason he keeps doing that, he said he just doesn't want wahala or stress.
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FKBZ: hello guys would love to get a car from salvage auction saw some for below 1000 dollars and wont mind getting it but i want to know what it takes to ship to nigeria.

if there is anyone out dere dat can purchase one of me and i do the payment.

pls holla.

based in nigeria though.

sanniemoe: Abeg,broses I was quite young then. What happened? From my own knowledge of cultism,I know cult group fight rival groups only,so what could have led to the shooting spree? Why were these guys killed? For someone to be shot and axed,that means the person was a rival.. Can someone please shed more light here

k2039: Actually, The POPE is the BISHOP OF ROME.

k2039: Oh, I see, Thanks.

If I was a guy with infertility issues, I will just go to seminary, marriage is not necessary then, it's pointless . I have always admired the office of the bishop of Rome, I'll just make it an ambition.