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faithuak: U luv a guy so much,and he know u rili luv him,he dos everytin 2 mak u apy,dos nt want 2 hurt u,u guys are stil madly inluv,cos it is stil fresh(abt 4months nw)he is wanting 2 see ur mumsi and odas,always distubin u abt seein her,bt you av neva seen his parents,he clams they live somwher very far(village)bt all he dos is introduce u 2 just his frds,neva his parents,bt he anxious 2 see mine,wat do I do?

Ask him if he has any known relatives nearby. The village is in the country, you can tell him that you don't mind going that far to meet his parents. Meanwhile, don't go there with him alone, be in company of friends including male.

Tell him you want to meet his parents before meeting yours since meeting your own parent is easier.

FIrst timer, your husband is the first timer. There is nothing you can do to make your BIL uncomfortable in the house without the support of your husband. The guy needs to wake up from slumber.

I wouldn't know what to advice you on since its your husband that needs the advice. If you can get to talk to your husband, it will be better. I mean a serious discussion. He needs a married man's brain reset.

It is well with your home.

temi4fash: thanks for ur help..

Ma bro is gonna be 30 next year and the girl is 24

The age may be one of her problems. She believes she's still young. She doesn't want to be tied down- to use their language. She doesn't know what she wants and not yet ready for marriage.


If your brother has the time, he can wait for her to outgrow her childishness or follow the earlier advice

temi4fash: not m jawe.. it ma Elder brother joor..

i have told him over and over again but he wont burge..

Seems over luv dai worry m....

Find a way of letting him control his emotions, that is what is beclouding his judgement. The girl in question has seen this and she is using the card to her advantage. As soon as she sees her desirable, your brother is a foregone conclusion.


Let your brother play the card first and see her reaction, it will be an eye opener.


Meanwhile, how old is the girl? Young age may also be her problem

temi4fash: A very nice thread and lot of matured responses...

But i gat a question..

What if the situation was reversed, as in u tell d gal from the onset that u want to marry her that u have no time for games, and six months down the line she has not made up her mind yet.

and she still chew gum the guy as in dai are very very close.. when he tells her to define their relationship she begins to emotionally black mail him ( crying and all those girlish things) and he really really likes the gal

So, adults in the house what do u think he should do in a situation like dis

I have observed that most girls in that situation do not deeply like the person they are with, they are only passing time peradventure their desire will come around.

Tell her its over between you and do not give in to the emotional blackmail. If she really wants to be with you, you will know afterwards.

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oggy005: good topic, thank u chaircover and I hope will help those of us who's had their fair share of hurt

Why not share the hurt story, help can come your way, you never can tell

calculusx: Thanks bro. Its part of the learning process.

Welcome sire.... I know the address of your office.. Grew up in that area.

calculusx: Yes they do and the Tax can be double in some states. I will advise you try iaai cos they provide more details about their vehicles. As for Copart,hhmm i have my reservations for them

You will only be charged a sales tax if you didn't submit tax forms. They have some tax exemption forms on their website which are expected to be submitted before an out of state buyer can be exempted. IAAI too has those forms. Fill the forms and send to customer service, follow it up with a call and your registration will be updated. You will be exempted from the tax.

Maybe you were charged because you didn't submit the forms. IAAI and Copart to me are the same. salvage autos, I am registered on both.

classywhite: some one promise to clear for 120k, he his an agent there in lagos

Let nobody defraud you of your hard earned money. 2001 camry is cleared between 200-220k depending on terminal and agent you meet. Just prepare 220k for it.

By now, you should have start looking for a trusted agent to do the stuff so he can start the process to prevent your car entering demurrage. If you need an agent, you can check auto section to see self advertised agents and check those with positive feedbacks. I can also recommend one for you if you care.

omocheche: Am happy we re having dis talk, pls what in a situation were d guy really care abt u he love u & u no it, he is in good talking term with ur relations, call u like 5 to 6times a day, takes care of ur needs, he is concern abt u & ur future to an extent worry when u re sick ready to stand for u & with u in any condition, his people no u and ur people no him[b] most of all he doesn't want u to date anyone else except him yet he tell u that u guys can't end up together cos u re not compatible[/b]. Pls I need someone to advice cos it confusing he cares he really do but......

Is the bolded a fictitious story? He is a time waster, run very far away from him. For someone to openly declare that to you, and you still stick your neck around with him? I hope your eyes will clear when he wastes your time pass your prime.

You can keep dating him if you plan to end being a NUN.....
Now pick up your phone, give him a call and tell him its over between you two except the friendship and open your heart to a more serious people.

If the guy really cares like you described him, he will be after your lifetime happiness and fulfillment, why would he stop you from dating someone who will be interested in marrying you when he doesn't have such plans. Have you guys taken a secret oath? Please never ever let ANYBODY be a clog in your wheel. HE IS A TIME_WASTER

Has anyone observed that the cake with full blown logo and soccer booths has this inscription on it "Happy 50th Birthday Darling" meaning a gift from the wife who is willing to satisfy her husband's passion for sport.

Poster, why not look inwards and see the many grassroots support he has given to sport development in the state. No other state in the country can compete with it.

In between, I am no fan of Fashola.

The only airport I ever faced problem is Murtala International Airport. We are the problem of ourselves.

I am yet to see that country that will ridicule me because of my green P. No need of hiding it

Why are people always sentimental and too serious to socialise. The fact that somebody is a governor means he should discard everything he had interest and passion for?

Before I make my comment, I have read this same piece on facebook and other noise-making social sites, OP, why not reference where you copied it from? Its good sometimes not to take away completely the effort of others.

Next time, table your arguments intelligently and loosen up. These are the things you should be concerned about viz-a-viz.. "DId he use the resources of the state to throw the party?..", Did he use the resources of the state to bake the cake? Is Lagos fund invested secretly in Manchester United without due process?... These are many more intelligent questions are what you need to ask and not this petty story of someone being a foreign fan.

In between, the love of football transcends age, religion, race, ethnicity and what have you. No one can question anyone about the club anybody supports. He will not be the first foreigner in position of authority supporting a foreign club neither will he be the last.

Get your facts right, Manchester United knows who a Fashola, governor of lagos state is. at least Ferdinand had paid a courtesy visit to him before on behalf of the club. If you and your likes are not happy with it, why not drink an 80% conc HCl

What you lack is ability to strike a balance in meeting needs irrespective of who is involved. You need to know that responsibilities and request for help will not seize either from family or friends or from anywhere. Know how to priotize needs in order of importance.

For exampl, your girlfriend needs a new shoe while your sibling need to pay school fees, are you going to ignore a school fee for a shoe? Sometimes, it doesn't matter who is involved, its the need you must check. However, if the needs are ephemeral, your immediate family takes precedence. The girl is an outsider now, when you marry her, she becomes an immediate family member.

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sstartony: I purposely don't go to church with him this morning and right now i'm in the toilet. Besides he is not always at home.

Which church and branch does he attend? He will be the subject of discussion in next sunday's sermon.
Whether your story is true or not, I see no reason under the earth why a man called husband will raise his hands and beat his wife. Very barbaric and uncultured.

You can't report to the police. Nigeria Police will tell you its a family affairs until they are called to investigate a murder case if it degenerates to it. While you still have your life and complete body parts, its high time you put the senses to use. Let no man under any circumstances turn you into a punching bag. Do the needful and necessary to fulfill your days before someone show you the gate to heaven before time.

While wasting the little precious time on nairaland, why not use it to call your dad and explain. Trust his judgement, your problem will be solved.

chaircover: Another question for the guys this time. How will you feel if a lady proposed to you? Would you accept it or feel threatened and run a mile?

If my wife had proposed to me, it would have made the job easy for me. I am not in the school of thought that denigrate a lady for expressing her undying love and feelings.

chaircover: A question for all . . . do you really really know deep down in you that this is the one?

When you meet the right person, if a thorough searching and probe of the heart is done, there is always that connection and assurance deep down devoid of emotional sentiments.

Individual entering a relationship knows what he/she wants or the desired end. Though some guys/ladies entered with the notion of not being left behind, hence its bound to hit the rock.

For a serious relationship leading to marriage, I believe within 3-6 months, a guy should be able to know if he wants the lady for marriage and propose. 3-6months period is enough to critically study certain core attributes and characters that can't be compromised for a lasting union. If a person really wants to know someone, its easy to do though its a long road to the end. Nothing really is hidden when there is a serious interest to unravel.

I proposed after 4months of the relationship, though not a candle light hollywood proposal but decent enough to sweep any lady off her feet. I asked a straight question in the process, "..Do you like me enough to live the rest of your life with me.."

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picaro: That's what I tot too. Why always use the rod, when u can use the mouth? Its just wrong.

By the way, we mean different things here

Explain your own part ooo. I do not understand

Its high time teaching is professionalised in the country. According to curriculum of education, no teacher has the right to beat a student under any guise except the principal or headmaster and that is after the student must have been sent home three times for offences.

If what is reported here is true, the girl's action is uncalled for, who knows if the teacher is one of those men who chase anything in skirt. Probably must have lost respect before the young girl.

Next time, the teacher should learn how to deal with students without using the rod. He can earn respect without the rod. Infact his students will love him dearly and absorb more in class out of love for the teacher and not fear.


This should serve as deterrent to teachers who have no other method of correcting students than using the rod.

bis7: if anyone have interest in what i suggest can still contact me till tommorow 1pm nigeria time or else will be too late after that .

Congratulations on your quest tomorrow after 1pm. I hope you get what you deserve

Advice him to stop taking coffee, its making him high....