₦airaland Forum

firestar: Add Oonoki to the list too as well as Kakashi.
Oonoki for reaction time- he captured Sasuke once before tObito bailed him; and Kakashi for agreeing to race with Gai from Konoha gates to Hokage mountain.
Tobito, how many natures does he possess?

jydogirl12: You call them new age, I say these characteristics are not new ones but that of women over the ages



Lol.... Over the ages? Elaborate pls?

byvan: No,most don't.that's why you see women giving dumb excuses for their hubby's infidelity.

MRbrownJAY: i have already said on another thread on the same subject that: "if a child think they are old/wise/strong enough to do an adult act, then they should do so IN THEIR OWN HOMES (like most people do). my house my rules and sex is not permitted under any circumstances .......simply because I MAKE THE RULES!"

if a person raises their kids the right way, then chances are that he wouldnt come up with such dilemma as the one the OP brought.

funny enough i talked to a 16yr old girl working with me who has been having her BF sleep over (in her parents home) since she was 14 yrs old. i guess to each their own!

jydogirl12: @MMtimo.... I commend you genuinely from the bottom of my heart, but from what I gathered from your post, bottom line=TRUST &RESPONSIBILITY.

No offence to anybody but I'll still be 100% as usual; with all these new age women emerging , very delinquent, disregardful ( No respect whatsoever for elders/ in laws) and most of all untrustworthy( not prudent). <--- with all those bad qualities these guys have no other choice but still marry them abi? So they will have themselves ( men) to blame if they entrust all their hard earned effort with those women .....

Your view is exactly what @lemon tried to explain few days ago here
: ( she wants to help multiply somebody else's $1=10 but spend hers solely on herself just cause it's a man's duty to care for his family, like really??)

but I tell you I don't see that happening these days..... Their brain works like a Mac, very calculated and conniving & schemed you have no idea with their pancaked faces

You also talked about knowing one another during courtship before going into marriage, I was engaged for 5years , I know what that guy is thinking before he talks, I'm sure it's a taboo now

Let those plastic bones go and work and bring earnings too-- my take.

MMotimo: Don't know how many times this issue comes up in this section but I will say what I have always said. Culturally, Nigerian women, especially Southerners have been raised to believe that you have to bring in an income in order for your spouse and his family to respect you. Never mind that you have abused women with full time jobs.

A lot of people think staying at home makes it more likely your husband will abuse you. Please, spend time on courtship, know whom you are marrying. If hes going to be an abuser, chances are, you will see signs if you spend enough time in courtship. A very small minority of men can change overnight into monsters but that is not the norm. By the way, be careful that you, the wife, do not change into something the guy did not bargain for. If you were the saving type before he married you but afterwards, suddenly develop a taste for keeping up with the Joneses, that would not be fair to him.

Staying home (usually the woman in African settings) is a lifestyle choice and is determined by affordability and trust. I bolden this because for most people, it's not affordable but that does not mean you disparage others who can afford the choice. Above all, it should always be a joint decision and like most things in life, subject to change if it is not sustainble. No point doing it if one partner resents the other partner staying home or if it is not an affordable choice for your family

If the working partner's income is not sufficient to finance household expenses, you probably should not opt for it. When I say expense, that includes aso ebi, your Brazillian weaves, owambe parties, vacations, clothing, etc and any financial assistance to relatives/friends on both sides. I may be able to run my household on N50000.00 a month but maybe yours runs on $8000.00 per month. The same question still applies - can the working partner sustain the expenses? If so, for how long and at what cost?

At this point, I must say that if you don't have direct access to the income earner's accounts/earnings, if your assets and liabilities are not in joint names, then you should probably not stay home. Already, there's a comma in the situation if only one party makes and controls the financial decisions. In order for it to be successful, there has to be trust on both sides and each side should be comfortable with the other's spending habits.

Life insurance policies are available in Nigeria, same as in the West. It is called insurance in case the unexpected happens, fear of death should not mean you can't stay home and raise your kids if that is your family's desire. Sadly, the vast majority of Nigerian women that work, still have no net worth to show for it. It is still the constant hand to mouth, keeping up with the Joneses, dodging randy bosses at work who derive joy from chopping another man's wife.

Why are you staying home? For the vast majority, it's to raise their kids. For a few, it's simply a preference. If your spouse is fine with it and you can both make it work, do not let the mischievous sow discord in your home by calling you names.

If part of your self worth is tied to your career or how much money you make, it's probably not a good idea. For some people, working is not about money but about self worth/esteem
If you are going to miss the workplace environment, you should probably just keep working. If you are going to feel embarrassed and useless because you are not working, then keep working.

A much as possible, let your value system be based on experiences, not on acquisitions. I tell you, life becomes so much simpler once it's no longer just about acquisitions. Focus on building NW while at the same time, building your children (those that make the choice for kids).

Finally, yes, I stayed home for a couple of years, in Naija and in the West. I work now, because our kids are much older/independent and household expenses have grown. My extended family do not pry in my business so I didn't have to explain to anybody but I know it took a lot for my Mum not to say anything. She started working at 18 and only retired when she had a solid gold pension and left with a sizable package. If she were dead, she might have turned in her grave, she drummed career mum into me at an early age.

I stayed home but I have always had access to everything my husband has/earns and vice versa. I am that wife that knows where everything is and whose husband will "sign here" without a second glance because of mutual trust. It doesn't matter which gender plays the lead financial role, trust is non-negotiable when it comes to money, epecially for a Naija couple.

dammytosh: That is an unnecessary embarrassment all in the name of What is yours is mine.

dammytosh: And to some of you screaming "Nigerian Man mentality". Unfortunately you don't even have a passport. You better wake up to the reality that you will get married to a Nigerian Man for now.

Vicotex: nigga i dont think you read/watch naruto .. Sagemode naruto is faster than sasuke, same goes for gated lee/guy.. Rikoudu mode naruto can simply speed blitzed sasuke and his team hawk

kulyie: hahaha you don dey fear now now you don turn politician

kulyie: lmao you keep 5k on the dash board in the house that money will be used to go and do my hair or paint my nails and return the remaining change there if there is :p

kulyie: Even when i have my own money,i prefer going to my dads room to pick small small change like 1,ooo naira,5,ooo naira to buy thing in the house.e.g when foodstuffs has finished in the house like yam,palmoil,groundnut oil,maggi,onions,plantain etc,i take his own and buy it,then prepare his favourite for him.when my papa don beleful and he enters the room to take something,he notices someone has come to take some of his money because the position he kept his money is not the same way he met it.(my old man dey very meticulous) he go say kulyie,come.so you don ener my room take money abi?and i am like when you dey chop amala,eforiro,bokoto and panla,you no complain,i con take small change you con dey disturb me.the man will just shake his head and go.but if he be 2ok upwards omo he go para o.he go vex.however when he too needs money,he will tell my kidbrother to go and bring my hand bag inside my room,open my wallet and take my money.if i come back and i dont meet money in my wallet i know its my dad ,so i go straight to my dad and ask for my money,he will say mo'je onje omo ni,kodeni korolenu mi lai lai.abi the money wey i dey spend on antenatal,pampers,school fees,pocket money etc fit compare to the 4k wey i take,my friend get out of my room.but mumsi levels no be money o.she no dey take my money her own be say,if she get party,she go just go take my jwelry whether i dey house or i no dey,she go use my make up,scatter am for bed and carry my gele wey blend with the colour of her ankara.mumsi no dey even wahala me at all those my 2 folks ehen when i dey work,i dey always miss them die

adabeke12: not wat u expected right byeeeeee

funnyx: Lwkmd e ma ma fi erin se mi lese ke!

kulyie: hahahah biola you no tell me say you like yellow sisi i bin think say na baba suwe wife yansh you like na

babysnogls: Yes.

Feraz: I really wonder what Oonoki's gonna say when he sees the yellow flash....
Then again, Ai is the third fastest shinobi....he should be glad his coconut held the title for sometime...

brokoto: In this day and age we need to teach our daughters that marriage is not a solution to any problem. Being single is not a problem and our ladies need to know that sometimes you can be happy being alone. Our society has placed so much importance in marriage that any mature single lady is looked at askance. Its quite sad that most of our ladies feel and think that their aim of going to university is to get better husbands.smh.
As for our religious leaders, pastors and imams. . . No comment.

Pataki: Oh my pineapple juice....

You look ripe to be plucked. Attractive on the outside, and juicy right in the inside. *swallows saliva*

Every sip of you, waters down my hunny thirst. My friends come around asking what I should entertain them with. They without restraint, walk to my fridge corner, open it and there you stand - tall, glaring and daring! Amongst the beer, wine, rum, and various other juices! I immediately rush over to protect you from all the hands and eyes of the thirsty peeps. Only my mouth deserves this pineapple juice.

And oh yes, we have a date tonight. I cannot stop sipping you, just as you look forward to another night of me getting intoxicated by you.

Shout out to my pineapple juice.

stpat1: Ehn yes show picture to prove him wrong cos I still think he's right. So to show pic make we see

kulyie: hahaha lmao na we women get that kain bad habit.men no dey too do am,but these days ehen the desperation to stay married will make women reduce themselves to the level of threatening another female.the same thing sef happened to my warri friend and of which she never dated the guy,she didnt even know the guy was married (you know say men sabi pretend,na we women dey flaunt marriage,men no dey too flaunt am,anyway the guy used to drop her to work every morning because her office is very close to his and they live around the same area.by the way this my wafi friend dey work for bank and you know say all this bank girls sabi wear skimpy tight pencil skirt that will reveall all the curves and backyard with a tight fitting office shirt that always reveals the upper part of her breasts.anyway to cut the long story short this woman got her number from her husbands phone because she calls,pings or sends a text dat she has gotten to d office and thanks for the meat pie you bought when you branched at mr biggs yesterday morning,you know,just a courtesey and thak you message,the wife got the number and came to embarass the girl in her office yelling ' shey because you think say you fine abi,you be oyinbo peper,ashawo like you,you wan snatch my husband.make i see you for im car again',infact the security men had to drag the woman out of the banking premises si she told me what transpired,she said she didnt even know and her mind didnt go towards that direction of dating him,but since the woman came to shout in the office,she will now date him officially and she is ready for anything.this my babe started making advances at the man o,as the man see yellow big breasts,one thing led to the other and she dated the man just to spite or punish her for the drama she came to perform in the office,this woman almost went crazy.as usual the man will pick her very close to her house,not knowing the woman has gone to stand around her neighbourhood,so as the man opened the door for her,the woman just came from nowhere and sat on the bunnet of the car and told both of them that she will not stand up until that girl gets down from her husbands car.as the scene was already attracting attention,the man begged her to get down and take a bike to the next junction,he will pick her up from there and make up fr all the embarassment.when all this nonsense was going on,i told her to live the guy alone but she said she wants to see what the woman will do,so i kept quiet looking at the drama to see how it will end.this woman went to hire thugs to beat my friend to stupor.they beat her so bad that she was rushed to the hospital with bruises and body pains.when she told the sister what happened,that one went to report the case to the police,they locked the woman up for assault,when this my friend was discharged from the hospital,she told the guy it is over.i just dated your wife to spite her not that i was really into you and all that,unfortunatly the guy was already enjoying and getting used to her kitten.he came to meet me in my house to come and beg her i said ejo ema pemisinu oro idoti,because i have told her from the onset that i wasnt into what she was getting involved in.the guy said his wife is in the cell because of her,i said ehen,and so what?what should i do?i should join her there abi.na wetin you like don bele ful you.you better go and seek the release of your wife and beg the woman.luckily for him,he was granted the bail,the wife's family was already saying he is a terrible husband,she shouldnt go back to his house and all that but after they considered the kids involved,she had no choice than to accept his plea.two of them have learnt their lesson now especially the wife.she has cooled down now.if she sees her husband with a woman now,she doesnt go over board again however the man doesn't give her lift again sha o

otipoju: I do not need wait for my Pastor to prove that God exist,its a journey that I undertook by myself. The bible even says I should test the spirits and study to show myself approved thereby encouraging us to adopt a spirit of enquiry towards the origin and end of life.The person called God by mortals vibrates on a frequency that I do not. For him or his angels to become visible to the human eye, he needs to tune down his vibration to one I can see.it is His choice wether to or not.Right now there are radio signals being broadcast on various frequencies by various radio stations flying through the air all around us but we can't pick them up with our ears because we are not radios.But a radio set when powered on can be tuned to pick up the signals and transmit them to audible sounds that the frequency our human ears can inteprete to make meaning such as... "This is the four o'clocknews on Radio Billionaire 99.9 fm". I don't see heat but I know its there from its effect on me.I can't see the wind but it blows on my face. I can't see God but I know He is because he gives direct answers to every day and important personal questions,that I ask of him. He sends direct answers to me first and later reiterate through a prophet who was not there when I was rubbing minds with him in the privacy of my thoughts and room. I am a Celestian and serve a personal God known as Jehovah who is as real to me as the neighbour next door.

360command: Here is my advice for him . The guy is undergoing psychopathic sex syndrome. A man can have urge for sex at any given time but its normal for a man to have sex like twice or three times a week(twice a week). I am sorry to say, for such kind of guy, he is loosing the love he as got for your sister but the love remains as long as sex is given to him(note:infact, there is no love like that). He is going through a mental disorder which he cannot control. He needs go through psychotherapy,he needs medication. The fact that the wife knows that he likes sex every night and she has been able to speak out to you, its for her to tell the husband to speak out for help -i.e he needs to go see doctor or tell his friends around if they know good doctors who can help.