₦airaland Forum

Good read. The time to leave a company is when your subconscious starts to bother you.

Efemena_xy: Looks like the women in this report are fast learners AND beating the men at their own game. Lol!

Now I do wonder why the men scream foul?

It has always been this way. Women are just able to keep it secret better. Every cheating man is doing it with some woman who almost always knows he is cheating. Which woman believes that a 45 year old managing director is really single

tpia@:
There must be clues to a person's character which will show what they are capable of.

Unfortunately, no. It is too easy to pretend these days. You cant get around the old-fashioned way of inquiring from people who know him/her.

Gbawe: "Browbeat you like Beaf" Geezer, you more or less just confessed you only wish to 'square up' by mentioning Beaf. What has Beaf got to do with this? As far as I can discern, you are the only one taking Nairaland too seriously. You should Maintain your own identity and not mention others unnecessarily. Some of you need to chill.

Oh now I should chill. smh. back to topic....

Dudu_Negro: It is legal under customary laws to do so. It is illegal under the constitution. So we must ask why is the provision of the constitution not invoked.

The answer is it cannot because there are many provisions in the constitution that actually recognize the rights of customary laws as consistent and in harmony with the native cultures and rights of indigenity of the people. This recognition is a legacy which the colonialists also left intact and did not mess with. Through the various systems of governance - precolonial, colonial, democracy, military...and whatever else, this customary law is accepted as the way and value system of the people.

The constitution is generous in giving rights of movement anywhere and in spirit one would expect and support such an ideal as contributive to diversity and growth of the human population. However, in substance there is nothing in a customary law that is in violation of the constitution when it comes to protecting the customs and values of the people and their ways of
life.

Non-conformance with the law of a customary land carries consequences.....and deportation is one of the mild penalties.

I was just thinking about this. Cant the deportees just sue for redress? But then pretty much every govt. allocation a citizen gets is based on state of origin, even the mundane stuff like choosing govt. secondary school or university. Mere geographical expression indeed.

Gbawe: You are just talking for the sake of it ... and nothing shows this more than the section in bold above. Where do you, from the conversation so far, get the notion that "Farah worried about petty council estate issues while his homeland burns"? Besides, do you you know what Mo Farah does for East Africa , that rich and localised Africans doth bother with, or do you just like revelling in ignorance :

http://www.mofarahfoundation.org.uk/

Mo Farah is exemplary and this is how ignorance and pessimism just leads some of you to judge others unfairly. What do you want from Mo? He should contest to be President of Somalia?

Even if Mo was the sort who has not 'looked back' can folks like you not accept that loyalties change and that we should not sit in judgement of anybody? If Mo feels more committed to his life in the UK, having lived there for 21 of his 29 years on Earth, why should you or anyone else hold him up as a compulsory champion of a place he left as an 8 year old?

Can you not appreciate how intolerant you sound? Is it no longer about where you have spent the most time in, have the most friends in plus enjoyed the most positive and uplifting memories in? Should it not be about the Country/State one has the greatest loyalty to? Barack Obama should have contested to be President of Kenya then !!! There is a social yet unspoken contract that means people generally love and are loyal to places that developed/raised them.

Is every black man, linked to the African continent, now somehow obligated to going back to play saviour? Mo Farah is not a politician yet he does his best - which is more than can be said for some so-called internet pan-Africanists. Mo should not be ashamed of what Britain has done to develop him optimally. He is a "first class" Briton in my opinion and only folks like you would not appreciate this because you simply don't acknowledge evolution to note that "the only thing constant in life is change".

Lol. Are you just pretending to be slow? Is the specific Mo Farah you just mentioned the every day Somali? And why would being far richer change anything. And fall back with that annoying holier than thou attitude - you cant browbeat me like Beaf. My suggesting that you pay attention to your home before decorating others is in no way intolerant. It is common sense, and you are silly for even suggesting otherwise. I think you realize you have no ground to stand on and have decided to resort to ad hominem attacks. Maybe I should frame the argument by juxtaposing Buhari and GEJ, as this seems to be one of the few times you are able to marshal any rational argument.

If he werent so anti-democratic, his message would ring truer. Still the guy has some cojones. I dont think any other african head of state can try this kind of speech. Maybe its because he's close to the grave anyways.

omosexy1: I think you have failed to realise that Lagos is a city. Can anyone claim New York? Can anyone claim Abuja now? How about Port-Harcourt? Even London. I think this nonsense should stop. Our yoruba brothers must come to the term of realisation that nobody owns Lagos anymore, it is now owned by hard working people who intend to develop the city. While we have not seen a huge influx of white foreigners and other nationalities is because the Nigerian economy is not developed. But be prepared for this, because we cannot escape it. You cannot go to the North because the North has nothing to offer, economic activities is even on the negative side. Please go and confirm from Fashola - An Igbo man who contributes to the growth of Lagos (by paying his taxes and providing jobs) is a better citizen than a Yoruba Lagosian who contributes zero naira to the lagos economy.

New York is a melting pot of immigrants. Yet, the founding families still control most of the wealth, real estate and politics. You are naive to think Abuja or Port Harcourt (or Enugu or Kano) will ever be different. There is a big difference between working and living in a city, and actually owning enough of it economically and politically to make a difference, eg New York. I personally would like to see the day when all africans can inter-trade and live together, but Im a realist. Im not waiting for the day when Abuja or PH is owned by "nobody". I have no problem doing business there safely, and returning to my home.

Gbawe: Look, stop this blase talk. Discrimination is never good. Issues are not about taking anything "too seriously". This forum is a cauldron of hatred because openly nauseating opinions are accepted and even encouraged. What are you suggesting exactly? I should not contribute to show what I believe in because I should assume I am talking to a 12 year old? Look, I just could not stand the nauseating talk any more as a genuine Lagosian who grew up with others I fully accept to be my fellow Lagosians even if not from my ethnic group.

So it was nauseating? I see. That obviously didnt stop you from "nauseatingly" generalizing crap on an internet board to all Yorubas. Very hypocritical, wouldn't you say? If you want to stop the "cauldron of hate", pm Seun to do something about it like I did, or skip the crappy threads. Of course you are free to give yourself hypertension over it.

Sorry, but you display an enslaved mentality talking as you do above. Is it because the racist loser in his council Estate fails to acknowledge Mo that makes you conclude he is not "first class"? When a Nation has awarded it highest honours to its citizens, regardless of their colour, why do people like you continue to see race? What more do you want to see to note that Nationhood, whether racists like it or not, and as the world continues to evolve, will eventually be about 'good citizens' and not colour or where you originally came from?

This notion of "someone else's Country" is actually a mental prison that prevent's man from progressing. Mo Farah is from "someone else's Country" that you assume to be Somalia. What if Somalians reject him because he is from "somewhere else" because, for example, his mum is Nigerian or his Granddad is Togolese? Where does the discrimination, centred entirely and myopically around ethnic and local origin, end? Should issues not be about those who use a Land and are contributing positively to that land? The racists may have done well to convince you Mo is not "first class" because he is from "someone else's Country" but you are no better accepting their cowardly premises and defining your views by it.

If you feel the need to be recognized and honored in someone else's home while yours rots, you really are mentally enslaved. All humans are equal, but why is Farah worried about petty council estate issues while his homeland burns. Is that not mental slavery?

And spare me the nationhood claptrap. I dont see race, neither do I think what Fashola is doing makes sense. But unlike you, I live in the real world. I dont bury my head in the sand like an ostritch and sing kumbayaah, hoping world peace will magically occur. My point stands - take care of your family first, then your home and town and state, before you start running around. Soyinka, who you are rightly calling a detribalized Nigerian did not just wake up one day fighting for Nigeria. He started from his locality, UI, and grew until he became a world known.

Gbawe: You Yoruba guys should know better !!! Are some of you even genuine Lagosians or just talking vacuously for the sake of taunting others ? Do you even want a more humane future where everyone coexist in peace and harmony? Has NL now ruined some of you to the extent you don't do reality any more? I went to school (Primary and secondary) with many Igbos, Hausas, Fulanis, Edos et al. Many were born and bred in Lagos. They are my friends and fellow Lagosians. You guys cannot just wake up and disenfranchise them like that. Nations are progressing mentally and physically yet Nigeria is regressing. So-called educated men are talking like savages.

Arent you taking nairaland a little too seriously? Maybe you need to step away for a few days. Most of these keyboard warriors dont have a stake in anything - how do you know the "yoruba" and "igbo" posters are who they say they are, not some 12 year old cameroonian tapping away at the keyboard. But that is beside the point. Before you start generalizing and calling out "you Yoruba guys", which part of Nigeria would be as tolerant of outsiders, if they had the infrastructure Lagos has? I really want to hear your answer to this. Why do you expect the natives of Lagos to be different.

Of course I don't agree that Lagos should be swamped with refugees but it has been disgusting to read, throughout the forum, nauseating talk about "first class, second class, third class Lagosians" et al. It is sad to note the vainglorious sense of entitlement and "first class" superiority some of you feel. Many of you, in the diaspora, would be the same posters to vehemently blast white supremacists as "evil racist" , fit only for the gas chamber, because those caucasians consider themselves first class citizens and refuse to accept that they have no greater entitlement than others born and bred , or have lived for a long time, in the same area as them. Just because you are white does not make you more of a "Londoner" than Mo Farah who came there , from Somalia, at the age of 8.

Wake up. Mo Farah will never be a first class citizen, even if they confer lordship on him. Only a foolish man goes to someone else's country and actually believes he is equal. An Ekiti man who leaves his hometown fallow and builds all his riches in Lagos is no different from an Anambra man who does the same. May we not see the day when Nigerians are kicking each other out wholesale, but I dont understand the fixation with Lagos.

Make sure he has a decent job and is already supporting himself. Otherwise, better safe than sorry

Weird thing is, african women tend to have more leeway on power than western societies. In the US, a woman hosting a presidential debate is a big deal. We've been there, done that.

ekt_bear: I don't know much about the pagan religions of Europe.

But I know that in the religion my family practiced before they converted to Christianity, human sacrifice was a key component.

So, it is very important to know whether those barbaric Christian Europeans were even more crude, violent and intolerant before conversion, if you are trying to measure the effect of Christianity on them.

What religion was that? Im curious because older folk, in a well-meaning attempt to keep their children on the straight and narrow (christianity in their minds) often exaggerate traditional practices. Im not a proponent of such religions, but I think some measure of balance is always a good idea.

oh please. this was probably made by black woman.

I noticed none of the female nairalanders are posting here? What could this mean . I think we need a TB Joshua on this forum to start exposing ppl

Kobojunkie: WOW . . this is fantastic news.

There is no need to get overly paranoid . . this is good news unless you are a criminal or have something to hide. Then my first question would be what in the world have you been doing on the internet in the first place?

How about dissing GEJ over and over again. I'm sure he would find this technology useful, no?

gabbytabby: My motor never start a fight you can never win she is going to stop the habit of a life time? All of his family have allowed it or been forced to allow it due to financial dependence and small you want to start a war that you know can cause problems in your family. Just make sure you and your hubby are not living in his house and your problems are solved with FIL its easy when you go over greet him and retire to where the MIL is he really is not your problem.

I am just giving her a choice. Obviously its bothering her enough to post about it. If so, make the wimp of a husband do something about it, or else bell the cat yourself. Life is too short to allow some cranky FIL take a dump on your peace anytime he chooses.

Post a link or close thread dammit

Rossikk: Can someone drum it into the heads of these officials that they do themselves and the people a very great disservice by their gross negligence in maintaining working street lights in the Lagos Metropolis?

In a city already lacking streetlights in all but the major highways, it is shameful that even those limited facilities are found so tragically wanting in delivering the required service. The entire Third Mainland Bridge is unlit at night. This is the longest bridge in Africa we're talking about. Away from the island, a great many of the streetlights on the mainland are non-functional, even on major highways and flyovers. This is something that needs to be addressed with urgency as it makes a mockery of pledges to turn Lagos into a modern megacity, or even into any kind of decent city.

We've been in the news recently regarding possibly usurping South Africa's position as Africa's leading economy in the near future. Go to Johannesburg. You see, we cannot be talking of non-working streetlights in our major commercial cities, and be talking about taking over from South Africa. In Jo'burg, streetlights work. Intriguingly enough, I was in Enugu recently, and throughout the city, the streetlights functioned without any problems. Put simply, Fashola and his FG partners in Abuja need to step up their act as per the Lagos streetlights and STOP FUC.KING UP.

Does Enugu have the longest bridge in Africa? Please answer, mr. objective criticism

ferhyntorlah: Dear Poster,

Whenever he talks like that to you, just humbly apologise and don't say anything again. Such men always want to show they are in charge whether you invite them or not, they always want to have a say in everything they feel concerns them.

For me, the best thing to do is not to talk too much. Just smile and keep quiet and if possible humbly take your exit from his presence.

Learn to practice the silence therapy whenever you're in his presence. Your FIL has a dominating character from the account you've given and the way you can have a cordial relationship with him is to practise the SILENCE THERAPY.

Abeg dont kill the poor girl with hypertension. Stuff like this needs to be resolved, instead of holding it in and hoping it goes away (it wont). Either you or your husband has to grow some balls and do what is necessary. The well being of your nuclear family comes before the feels of a cantankerous old man (why does this remind me of Ajanlekoko )

Osiris.211:
who cares if you are from the gutter? just invest the time you ediots waste discussing south west on your crime ridden states and just then may be you have the chance of travelling for Christmas without getting your poor arsss kidnapped.

LOL

jantavanta: Your desire for knowledge led you read all the 3 pages. You have been well fed; admit it!

From the Map below, Europe is practically Northern Africa

https://realhistoryww.com/world_history/ancient/Misc/Crests/Indentured/Map.jpg

Umm, no, but thanks for trying. Your heart may be in the right place, but all this is circumstantial evidence. I too can gather a bunch of facts from the internet and convince you I am related to the prince of wales. Whenever you are ready, google Henrike Clark, J G Jackson and Chancellor Williams. That is what counts as real, verifiable, peer-reviewed research. We dont have to make stuff up to be proud of ourselves.

Did I just waste my time on 3 pages of garbage evidence and photoshop. Somebody ban this id1ot

Sanusi is one slick mofo. He didnt just know about this - why didnt he tell Nigerians about this before if he is so patriotic. I like how he slides this in to further his own agenda.

Wow, they look vicious!

Does anyone know the actual ritual done to make you bullet proof (supposedly). It has to be one hell of a ritual, because a good number of sane people seem to be convinced they can repel bullets.

Scary and funny at the same time. What kind of mindset leaves money for a spirit that contacted you over phone.

I didnt hear of Jakaya. I just googled him to be sure, and I dont see anything saying he is dead.

[quote author=Theblessed][/quote]Chill with the font. I can see I went over your head, you will understand in due time .

Keeping your last name after marriage CANNOT be a sign of a liberated woman. After all, the surname you currently bear is also that of a man, your father. All you are signifying is you really don't want to cut the apron strings completely. There is nothing wrong with that, but that is called a partnership, not a marriage.

30% isnt sustainable, you lucked in on AAPL. Take your gains and run

GenBuhari: I pray that oil prices would crash
that oil prices would crash and Nigeria's revenue from oil exports also crashes
I pray that cost of fuel is raised some more to its maximum.
I pray that electricity collapses completely.
I pray that the government would run out of money
I pray that the Nigerian masses would reach their lowest living standard.
I pray that all this happens immediately within a day or so.


Why? you may ask

Because I blieve it would take this type of condition to make Nigerians reach their lowest ebb and hopeful get them to get on to the streets and protest against corruption.

Based on the example of other countries, this is NOT what would happen in your scenario. Under pressure, most people revert to their true selves. For Nigeria, you can expect an increase in tribalism, extreme religiosity and a hollow materialism. There is no shortcut to educating the masses enough to know when to take to the streets. This is why Bakare is a dangerous man!

Coincidence. Jakaya isnt going anywhere, and none of the three are doing anything radical enough to warrant their deaths

If you are not going to change your last name, why even get married. Why not just live as partners, share the house and kids but keep everything else separate.

Kobojunkie: Patriarchy is defined as “a form of social organization in which a male is the head of the family and descent, kinship, and title are traced through the male line.” Further, this is “any society governed by such a system.” We are by definition a patriarchal society because women change their names at marriage.

This has nothing to do with patriarchy. You change your name to the man's signifying he is now responsible for you, as your primary protector, no longer biological father. Ghana for example, is deeply matriarchal, yet they take their husbands names. Anyways, good luck taking advice from people with a 70% divorce rate. We'll see how that works out

bar aint going nowhere