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Hungry youths almajiris!

Who cares?
Please, when are the s-elections ova, make we see road jor!

This woman and her "My fellow widows" figures of speech again?
Does she ever shurrrup?

ZIM DRILL:
thats one i dont agree

you sound as if he nolonger loves the wife it means the kids too, thats not it you will always love your kids and staying and having a girlfriend is wrong your kids wont learn what is really love they will learn your cheating becoz to them mum and daddy are still together

Oh please.
When an African man runs off with another woman, he forgets ALL his children period.
Most African women HATE the children they have when they end up hating the men they had the children with.
Children are not 'stoopid' you know. They really would appreciate their parents being together EVEN IF THEY PARENTS ARE NOT HAPPY TOGETHER.
No child wants to be in the same house with a STEP MOTHER OR STEP FATHER.
I would prefer my parents to cheat and remain together than to have a step mother and step father. HEAVEN FORBID. . . THAT NEVER HAPPENED. THANKS TO MY GOOD GOD!!!

We were all children once (some of us on NL still are, unfortunately. ) The presence of our parents physically in our lives became paramount even if they were cheating, and passed out drunk every night in the gutters around the neighbourhood. We get to know them and can point to who they are no matter how shameless. They are ours and we learn to love them JUST LIKE THAT.  The only parents we can EVER have that our GODS gave to us. We do not want any other parents.
As for seeing the parents cheat, children will have a choice too when they get into the same shoes and chances are THEY WILL ALL CHEAT TOO.
Just human nature and a choice. Cheating is a choice, (POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE) AS A COPING MECHANISM not A LEARNED BEHAVIOR!


True story.
I had a male cousin who went crying to my paternal grandma that his father was cheating on his mother, got another woman pregnant, married the lady traditionally and his mother was miserable. My grandmother in her 80s laughed in his face and her exact words were these:

"Why you dey cry?
You grand papa do am.
Your papa do am.
You sef go do am
Your pikin sef go do am
Your pikin pikin sef to do am kpa kpa
My grandson, abeg nor kill yaself.
Sorry oh!".

Words on marble. This was a woman who had NINE children of her her own as the THIRD WIFE and CO-WIFE to some 6 other women or more.

We still tell this story to each other years after the wise woman has passed on. The good old woman never had so much as a toothache. No hypertension, no diabetes. Died peacefully in her sleep long after her husband(my dear grand pa) had died on top of one of his younger wives some 50 years younger than himself, with heart failure/stroke of course. The poor young woman was who was accused of killing him was banished from the village and her children ostracized to this day. Ignorant, bush peeps! Mu he he he he

True to this day, my male cousin is married with children and is on his second wife already. He is only 42.
Did he learn this from his grandfather or his father? Why did he not excercise his sense of autonomy as an adult male to practice monogamy?
Was a gun put to his head to cheat on his own wife? We can NEVER blame our parents for our own actions as adults.
WE ALL HAVE CHOICES.
Go figure.

Man was not created to be monogamous. The African culture is DISGUSTINGLY POLYGAMOUS even in the advent of the so-called Christianity.
Why people make it such a big deal has always baffled me.
The children need the attention as dependants not the adults.
So, who cares how they feel?
You can cheat all you want as an adult male of female. . . but your arzzzze stays in that marriage to take care of your responsibilities.
The children will be just fine. They understand and appreciate your presence even if you are not happy.
If the men and women do not make public spectacles of themselves with all that emotional neediness and in-fighting, perhaps the children will be spared all that drama.
They only want their parents, and do not care if they are happy or not. I support them totally, they come first. Not the selfish needs of some parents who think they get to return the goods that they have used for a new set of female and male anatomical parts.

No! Not an option!
Cheat and sit in that marriage.
Your happiness is irrelevant to your children's happiness.
After you have children, the world really does not care about your happiness.
Single parenting is not an option when BOTH parents are alive.
A parent's happiness can NEVER come before that of a MINOR child.
When they grow up and are out of the house, you are free to find your true love, if he or she has any tooth left, and the sight of him or her still conjures up such feelings of love you had when you felt like abandoning your children for a new flame!

Arrrrrrrrrrrrantus Nonsensicus!!!

Happiness ko, Blissfullness ni!

Cased closed!

^^^
What an extremely, mentally-lazy creature.
You fit 'climb' woman or MAN so? Even horse kpa kpa?
Omo Adenuga!
No go find work you hear?
Siddon for NL dey dream of 'oyel'!

efisher:
Blazay why na! You don't want to stay near the oil or are you from the north?

Heck no!
See the people that claim to have the oil?
Nothing to show for it.

This must be al hareemu?

Mu he he he he

Is Nigeria the only country with oil?
Divide Nigeria into 1 million countries and you will get the same result.
The curse is not oil but the people.

A curse in a people who can never understand how to love themselves or others.
So, how are other countries with this same oil surviving without killing themselves huh?

Anyway, ammo head North. If Nigeria ever breaks up, I ain't living in Southern Nigeria.
Heavens forbid!

Who wants to live amongst Yoruba rascals and Igbo ruffians?
Not to mention the drunken illiterates of the South-South with Dame Patience and co?

You don't need evidence. Just learn to mind your business.(O Jes o! That part of your spouse's life in NEVER your business, unless you are askig for trouble).
If he or she did not want the marriage anymore, we are ALL sure there are ways to get divorced too.
Ignore him/her as long as he/she takes care of his/her responsibilities.
Understand that monogamy is super boring and he/she needs a vacation once in a while.

Every dog or doggess needs to go take a 'piss' in some other bush once in a while.
If you catch 'ticks'(who is afraid of that?) . . . just die quietly somewhere. The world will not miss ya, God or Satan will be happy to receive his/her long awaited convert.
Besides, it is quite unrealistic to forsake ALL others in word, thought and deed.
Most people will cheat in their marriages and it should NEVER be the end of the world.


***It does not mean you do not love your spouse. You can still forsake all others while 'tasting' a little.Just remember to come back home. . . and NEVER let those 'side-shows' interfere with your marriage.***

Hey, God never had a spouse but his son was conceived ever so immaculately.
So, how would they know about these earthly matters huh?
Don't we all wish we had the same 'capabilities' to procreate immaculately?

Life is not fair TO THOSE WHO PRACTICE RELIGION ESPECIALLY. Be human!  Do NOT stress yourself on account of YOUR spouse's 'misadaventures, paraventures or BONAVENTURES'!!! 


Every dog or doggess knows his way home after wandering in the bushes, unless it really never had one.
Who says love never needs a holiday?

A man should stay in a marriage if he does not love his wife anymore because:

1. When he says "I do", he does not get to say "I don't"! Marriage is for better for worse. Marriage is NOT a revolving door.
IT IS A CLOSED DOOR!

2. Love is the least requirement in a marriage. You can only TRULY fall in love with your wife after she is dead, when you finally understand what she means to you.
MARRIAGE IS ABOUT COMMITTMENT AND RESPECT NOT LOVE.

3. If children are involved, he really has no choice. He should love the children even if he does not love his wife. He can find love somewhere else, but he must STAY in that marriage to raise his children. He can only set himself free after the children are grown and on their own.
THE CHILDREN NEED THE LOVE MORE, NOT THE WIFE OR THE GIRLFRIENDS.

Bottom line?
Too bad he fell out of love with his wife. No one cares. He should sit there and honor his obligations. Especially if children are involved. If children are not involved, he does not get a second chance at love either. Marriage is 'for better for worse'! If a man cannot honor such a difficult decree, he should NEVER get married because falling out of love with the wife is a sure banker in MOST marriages!

But the grass is NEVER greener on the outside. NEVER.

I agree.
The US needs to keep out of this one.
Let Africa liberate herself.

Like there was ever a 'contest' against ANY incumbent when it come  Nigerian politics of sychophancy? Why do Nigerians love to live under spells of delusions of grandeur?

More interesting matters please. Like:

Ribado and Shinkarau

Humph!

Uselebua!

Now, are you asking what about the votes of the Southern part of Nigeria? Let me ask you this, do you think the entire South would cast all their votes for him?

Do Nigerians actually vote?

What an interpretation.

Jonathan used the term 'rascal' as in generally-speaking especially when it is general knowledge that the South West truly practice the politics of "AMALA AND EWEDU"(the ONLY food for the god fathers of ALL rascals like Pa Adedibu and OBJ).

http://education.yahoo.com/reference/dictionary/entry/rascal

NOUN:

1. One that is playfully mischievous.
2. An unscrupulous, dishonest person; a scoundrel.

So, why are Fashola and co over-reacting with such a harmless expression?


Please, see the definition of the term rascal and tell us if the term does not relate to the activities of the SW politicians ESPECIALLY in Nigeria.

Cheers!

Nice story. I have read it here on NL once and loved reading it again.

Do have a real happy marriage?

Yes! God has blessed me with one that I can NEVER duplicate or replicate.

Because it is stress-free and I do what ever I damn well please without problems.
Yup! I am that loveably, loved. . . . and jara!!!

jason123:
After calling them rascals?? Yeah, some of them have a right not to support gej!

Who are 'them'?

I am happy Jonathan is getting a dose of his own medicine.
That was how Atiku was misquoted when the made his famous JFK speech.
Did he actually call them rascals? All of them? No. He referred to certain undesirable elements within the Nigerian polity. Yes, and rightfully so.
The only problem is that he excluded himself from the rascally pack, since one of the real 'rascals' put him in office as a puppet on strings.
The simple task of reading is the easiest part and often ends there.
Comprehension is more challenging.
See case in point below:

[quote author=eku_bear link=topic=621758.msg7895989#msg7895989 date=1299927008]*shrug*

No common interest with any of the main candidates. Why support any of them blindly? Only a fool would do such.[/quote][size=20pt]Kpo-wai!!!![/size] ([/b]gun-shot salute signifying irrelevance and total lack of comprehension).
From what you have written up there, it is my utmost wish that NL should be made a drug-free, cyber zone SOME DAY. That includes the use of cigarettes of any kind with the slightest nicotine content or the consumption of any alcoholic beverage with the least ethanol content for the [b]severely inebriated like yourself.

Actually both.
Especially after sex, and too much sweating.

Is Women Playing God When They Become Pregnant

Yes, they Is!
Women should learn to protect themselves even if the warm juices from the men are highly intoxicating between the thighs.
We all know that using condoms ARE not as sweeeet as not using them.

But women should only allow themselves to get pregnant if and only if they IS ready for such adventures even if the men say they IS ready.

Yes! Women should play GOD always when it comes to getting pregnant. It ARE their bodies!

May abortions continue to be legal.
People need to learn how to perform abortions without missing some parts.
Too many partial-births walking around.
You can most-def tell the brains were aborted successfully, while the other parts of the body escaped the vacuum extractor or the illicit concoction used.
You know some people like to use 'kain-kain' for abortion too.

iregret:
I'm here to confess i accept any form of insult you think u can give to me or advise or whatever. hv been cheating on my wife i spend a lot doing this and i don't know what to do. please pray for me o. i spend average N30,000 per month on this pls help me o i hv kids and i loved the pls help me pray to God to deliver me from this addiction.

Are you addicted to sex or addicted to cheating?
You can cheat without having sex and you can have sex without cheating.
Which addiction do you have?

Do you mean you spend 30,000N a month on hookers?
Or you spend 30,000N a month on looking at P.O.N.O?

Either way, you can quit if you want to. You do not need prayers.

However, if it is something that gives you the utmost pleasure. . . there is NO cure till you die.

Enjoy yasef jare!

Sointin musto killy man!

I found it easier to study abroad of course.

1. You only need your brains not your arzzzzzzzzzz!!!
2. You can get school loans and attend any school of your wish if you can afford it.
3. The facilities and resources are always available.
4. You don't need the distractions of uncertainty from useless instructors and unscrupulous academic personnel.

Instead of these women to go to school and re-educate themselves in adult hood, they sit at home doing 'mrs'. The worst first lady in the Nigerian history. Even Turai had more class. No wonder we have a drunken fisherman as the Nigerian dictator. What a match made in heaven. Bush man jam bush woman.

The future of Nigerian graduates after 1990.
Small wonder Nigerian universities are losing accreditation within and outside Nigeria.

Even the headline states it clearly: Ex-wife.

Then tell the OP not to complain.
Ex-wives and ex-husbands always come with unresolved issues.
It is called 'inherited' baggage, which is part of the TOTAL PACKAGE.
She should be content with being 'second' ex-wife soon.
Some people(emotional derelicts/vagabonds) are only good at collecting 'emotional' sourvenirs as in 'ex-lovers'!
I am sure he will still have "some love" for her too, after he leaves her to be with his third wife.

Like I stated earlier. . .you do not get to pick the persons you fall in love with.
Too bad these involve the emotionally-nomadic too.

Case closed!

Do people still practice monogamy in this day and age?

@OP
Do y'all have a 'faithfullness' contract in effect even as boyfriend and girlfriend? Or are you reading too much 'Bible' into human relationships?
She is still single and free to jingle and mingle. So are you.
She does not have to disclose her "movements" to you either.

BTW, what does any one person really have to guarantee 'faithfullness' from one person?
Something is always missing and must be solicitited from someone/somewhere else.
If she lied about it, it is because human beings generally NEVER like to face reality or deal with the honest truth.
Just a natural defensive and coping strategy to protect others from being hurt in your case or other motives may be indicative of such habits.

Yes, honesty is the best policy. . .but ONLY if and when it can be handled without getting emotional.

It does not mean she does not love you. It is just that 'sometimes love just ain't enough'!
Ever heard of that song?

Welcome to the real world.

I would let her be while I keep 'collecting' my own share 'with protection' of course. . .that is if I remember ooooooh. 

Wait till you get married and feel the real 'beat'!

Please, learn to be realistic and stop living in 'Wonderland'.
You are not "Alice'!

At least we always know where the N/West stands at all times.
That S/West is a different kettle of fish entirely.
Genetic malformation which can NEVER be trusted.
Poor Jonathan.

Why should he 'panic' when he has OBJ?
And Nairaland if I may add?

When is this whole thngy ova?
Very boring.

Typical Nigerians.
All mouth, no courage.
Oh, why are we surprised?

“Let me say this, to you, I am a true Yoruba son, and in Yorubaland it doesn’t matter who is right or who is wrong. It is the younger that will beg the older person, so I have begged Baba and I will continue to beg him.”

Typical "Yoruba" life too!
Even if the 'older' is a m0r0n.
Nothing do you abeg. It is in your genes.
Extremely fickle-minded.
Especially, when we know that politics ALWAYS makes strange bed-fellows.
Twa!

Mr Daniel, who also admitted that Mr Olurin is the authentic governorship candidate of the ruling PDP in the state added, “Of course, Olurin is the governorship candidate of PDP. I don’t have any doubt in my mind that we can work things out.

Sure. Hire more assassins.

My own kitchen of course.
Where husband cooks better than wife.
I NEVER feel comfortable eating out.
Especially with Nigerian restaurants inside or outside Nigeria.

Omo dorty restaurants especially.

Male househelp always.
Males are more professional.
Females are too emotional and erratic.
Males need less maintainance. No weave-ons or 'faces' to make up.
No monthly woman business and all that nonsense around the house, plus 'carey' berre on top inside my house.

Male domestic aides move quicker and get things done faster.
By the time those female helps drag their huge bobbies and ikebes/nyanshes all over the house, the day is gone.
Not to mention draw faces here and there like you are sharing the same husband.
I have a serious problem with other women 'menstruating' all over my house and compound.

All round nuisances.

Give me a male aide any day.

When dem go tell una make una nor dey divorce, una nor go hear word.
If you nor marry 2 husbands or two wives, you nor go know which wan beta pass.
Lessons in life.

I saw in his phone that he had been texting his ex-wife, who he has a three year old son with.

How do you spiritually divorce someone you have created another human being with?
Never.

He lives in you and vice versa. Children are strong spiritual links, unless the individuals are under some curses, then they fail to realize this.

Should I worry or just give it time and see where it goes? Please help!!

Actually, you do not have a choice. You do not get to pick and choose who you fall in love with. You are stuck.

Kpele o!

Personal choice.
Love is not based on numbers.
What is the quality of life?
QUALITY not QUANTITY.

1. To love and be loved in return. Family and friends.
2. Having a good job that you enjoy/pays well.
3, Peace of mind(stress reduction with good hobbies/taking vacations).
4. Good financial management and economic planning.
5. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle(physical, emotional and spiritual).