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Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

Please double your hustle. Your salary and his will not be able to take care of child (ren).

When children come now, you are the same person that will disturb him to pay for Pampers, baby food and all.

House rent is not getting cheaper at all.
When you double your hustle more than him, no one will tell him to do what you want.

If you cannot give him peace of mind, please leave him alone, don't frustrate him.

Reading Gazzuzz's mind and laughing. Why the guy wan buy wahala? Cheap car, plenty wahala.

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2006 Corolla sport pictures please

I need to get a Toyota Carina 2 for someone. It must be fairly clean

No banters please.

Location: Abuja

In Abuja or Lagos.

MARKone:
Let her stay in your present location, since she has a business doing, and let her manage your business center too, while you go to Jos, be sending her money and endeavour to visit once or twice in a month.

With the level of insecurity?

You CANNOT go against your wife's decision and consent. You may lose your marriage if you go on. Men always look at paycheck while ladies look at challenges with more intuition. Consider the level of insecurity up north.

Don't relocate and come and fall in love with another woman over there. Men fall in love easily. Be guided!

Where is your location? Do you have a mechanic there now? Check back and reply here

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Safe journey. Beware of potholes.

register505:

Please pardon me for commenting again. I am afraid you may not be able to change your wife. She believes she is entitled to how she spends her money. I am so sorry, you cannot change that. If you wish to, you need to gently and wisely rock your boat. Women palava no be here sha but please take it easy.

She will change with time. At least after 10 - 15 years of marriage but please take it easy. The things men go through, NO BE HERE!!!

register505:
This is so sad. Some ladies somehow erroneously believe it is the husband's responsibility to take care of every need in the family. It is one of the challenges of a young couple.

Your wife sincerely needs to create a balance. Please do not neglect your own parents and siblings as well.

Do you guys have kids? If you do, as your kids grow up, she will definitely start spending on them.

Conclusion: Women (Most) do NOT reason the way men do when it comes to responsibilities.

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1) Accept Jesus into your heart

2) Read Isaiah 43: verse1 - 8

The Bible says when you go through a trial, he will not allow you to be overwhelmed or broken down.

Turn your concerns to the Lord and it will become a testimony.

Remain blessed.

Please, why is your monicker lostchild? Hope you know it's not a good name.

MALIGNANTGuest:
No woman ever gives for nothing.
No woman ever gives wholeheartedly.

The MAN should start preparing to buy her & her relatives submarines. That's it.

The society hardly believes that women cannot give genuinely without strings attached. I strongly disagree!

Piyke:
Interestingly, I ran into Energizer at Next Cash & Carry on my way going to pick up the Bosch. Just in case anyone in Abj is interested... 60 & 68AH, made in Spain.

How much is the Energizer?

Piyke:
I finally got a Bosch from a dealer in Lagos. S4 E07 EFB to be precise.
This is my first experiment with a high-end battery. Will see how it goes and whether it's worth the extra money. First thing I would do is to test the battery once received....

Thanks again Aieromon for the leads.

Congratulations. How much did you get this ?

Please where is your location? I need this in Abuja

Chocolateme,

Jesus is the only one that can give true peace.

Am I married? Yes

Do I sometimes go through rough paths in marriage? Yes

Is marriage always pleasant? No

How do I cope? I do my bid and depend on God.

You need to find rest and peace in God's word. No earthly love can equate to that.

Sammj490

Please drop your CV around. You need a less stressful job. The graphic design you started can't pay your bills now because you are a beginner.

You need another job to keep your body and soul together.

Commit your ways to the Lord and trust Him.

Let her stay in Nigeria and work. Nigerian ladies and their husbands in US consistently face divorce threats.

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OP, I think I am against asking your bosses for a transfer immediately. You can do so after 3 months - 6 months.

Since you said, the branches are dead. Please do NOT count on your wife's salary if you have to leave that job (after a transfer) cos women can get very emotional some times when their husbands have no job.

Please ensure you do NOT get involved in any argument with your wife all through this period or else she may think you are envious of her progress. Let her understand there is no basis for competition between you too.

Bottomline: Your transfer cannot be sudden. Give it time. Hope you understand what I mean.

Bro, take a short leave and see your wife and family off to Abuja. Help them get a house, a school and let them settle down. Lesson: Women can blame you later for limiting their career path if something goes wrong.

Then go back to Lagos to your job. Trust God for a way out with all your heart. As time goes on, you and your wife can make adjustments but please do NOT resign from your job for now. With time, this issue will be sorted out.

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Young man, please calm down. I had a similar experience and my wife did not conceive even after 2 to 3 months into the marriage. She told me about it but because of my faith in God, I told her that she should remove her mind from that matter that God will do it. I was not perturbed about it one bit.

And it happened that she became pregnant almost immediately. We never discussed her worries again.

Bottom line:
1) Don't stress your wife
2) Don't cause wahala in your marriage.
3) Support her and do not give room to fear!!!

It will come to pass if you believe without doubting in Jesus' name. It all depends on your faith and relationship with God.