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Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

I can relate.
Since I entered theatre, my respect for women increased.
That's some scary shit going on and men will even demand a particular gender from them

TMKsouth:
With colleagues like this, who needs enemies? Check as she fishes for info and responds with one liners while Cheating Mike is pouring his heart out 😂

The colleague is very honourable. Thank God for his action, over 200 people are alive who had a 50% chance of crashing.

IconicR:
Who told you that? I have combination of beautiful races and I'm academically intelligent than most of you here

British are in my school, though their families are resident here sha

Seun should just create an adult version Nairaland

HanisahZuwy:
I don't know if I'll ever get a man to marry me. I look so older than my age. I'm in my twenties, but I look like a 53 years old woman. Even men
and women old enough to be my father and mother will be referring to me as ma. Some of them are even people who are older than me with 30-35 years. Most people doubt me when they ask for my age and I tell them. They feel I'm lying about my age. I feel I'm more than the age I tell them. I know some people look older than their age, but I don't think any could be worse than mine. Mine is that bad!


I don't know why this is so. I don't know why I look so older than my age.Why is it like that? Is there any one here in this kind of situation? How does that make you feel? Please, what can I do to remedy this? Is there anyone here like that? Or am I alone? What do you normally do to help yourself in this situation? I would like to hear from you if you're in this.

I am in the same boat and at first, in my late twenties I felt bad about it but as time went by, I realised I could seal certain deals that a younger looking person wouldn't be able to. They always brush off my age as 'football age' so I always sit at table of no mean men.
I know the situation is different for a woman but just as someone advised above, do not act like the age range they have put you in and try to present the actual age within you, though not forcefully.
However, know that marriage is not the ultimate and try look for a hobby or a passion to distract yourself.

Thanks

Taylor92:
How is he ode?


Are you saying Tinubu can’t do that?


You know how many times I don escape from security officials because of my comments on Nairaland

I dey PH make una come Trans Amadi come catch me if we no go run gun play

Na when una go know say Vikings no be child’s play

When (if) you grow up, you will understand the gravity of this your childish post and the potential consequences.
Of course you will start insulting me but sit down and think.

Zxcvbnmghtr:
So you believe these girls with their full breast and very curvy hips are virgins?

Perhaps so, if and only if they have not come across the red Pillers.

The truth is, this is only an effort to preserve and project a dying tradition. Obviously these are not virgins. I'm a woman and I can tell first hand.

They have people that check them. The picture where they saw in a row is the checking ceremony.
Used to ne pure but now some families pay to avert shame.

ExAngel007:
Did you know??
There is a Festival In Okirika in Rivers State Nigeria called #IRIA_ceremony where Virgins are kept in one special room for 1-3 months, where they will undergo some training on womanhood. Once you see they see their first menses, they will walk Unclad to the village square and It's a big occasion for
the family which they are brought out to dance in public like this to be sprayed money; then Men can now go and book them in the room for marriage.

It start back then since 16th century It still happens till date

So now you know.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

The way you put it na wa oh.
If you don't know about a thing, do a proper research first.

Omoawoke:
One murderer obviously exploited that chance that Naira Marley will take the blame

Just may be the case. Who knows?

DonBenny77:
He killed him
He wouldn't let the poor boy breathe
He must have heard the young man was booked for an overseas gig the jealousy and envy him made him strike that moment.
He turns every artists signed under his label to junkies, you must do drugs to implicate yourself as well so his secrets don't get out Imole didn't want that life he forced it on the poor boy.
Naira is a self acclaimed Gangstar, he runs his label like a gang. Blood in blood out....

But all these are mere speculations

First of all RIP to Mohbad.

I have been going through the whole madness of the story of Mohbad and how he was hurriedly buried and all that, and I must say it's been very disturbing.
I have been accused of so many things I didn't do in my life and very careful to accuse someone without an evidence.
Am I missing something about the death of Mohbad and the direct accusation against naira Marley? Don't get me wrong, I dislike his style and lyrics.

Please educate me if there's something concrete linking him. Thanks

Godoverevery:
You looking at something likely filled with dirty blood at that point.


I don't bother looking at it anymore cos in hindsight I hear that voice what if she is menstruating and I go........yuck.

Imagine rocking a girl in the club with big ass but she is menstruating...........yuck

That ass isn't worth stressing over.


I can never look at a lady and have a boner anymore cos the thought of she might be menstruating always play in my head.

You need to see a psychologist, a psychiatrist, any other psy and then a dentist

Acidosis:
Are you saying that parents in Western countries are able to afford these things? Why do students abroad owe school fees? Are you also aware that, while the UK was increasing fees for international students, UK/EU students had their fees reduced? Every Nigerian student you see in the UK pay more than the average UK citizen. Yet these people still find themselves in debt.

Nothing is easy anywhere. I agree that the world has become a global environment but that's actually an advantage to people who want to stay back. I'm sure you're aware that some Nigerians now earn $$$ from Gbagada and Mowe. More so, the idea of education is fast changing.

We are in an era where Elon Musk will pay you $8000 for creating a s**upid content on Twitter.

Some children will grow up wondering why we box them into the 6-3-3-4 thing. As much as we desire the best for them and want to use them to achieve the dreams we couldn't achieve, we should be mindful, so we don't make the same mistakes our fathers made.

Well spoken and I want to add that it really doesn't make common sense that everyone must travel abroad. Persons that have discovered a niche in Nigeria either legally or legally should just stay back and hold fort. Certain professions cannot feed let alone allow investment for the professional. And just so you know, if you are a lizard in Nigeria, abroad cannot automatically make you a crocodile.
That said, I also like to present migration as an investment in itself with dividends not necessarily in physical cash.

olril17:
God bless you sir
The comments are shocking and horrendous.
A 48 year old man should abandon certainty to Jump to an uncertain life. It’s like committing sucide.
An Accountant at 48 should go and learn forklifting or settle for care jobs.
The absolute state of these comments. Do they really think life anywhere is really that easy?
We are too gullible in this country.
The man will regret making such move for the rest of his life.

I doubt if anyone here said life is easy elsewhere, we are only here because someone asked and comments here affirming the move are obviously coming from the situation of our country.
Doing these jobs don't mean you are doing them forever and depending on your occupation, you might just get into your professional job within days or even sponsored.

bejick:
I was a Piping Engineer in the Oil and Gas industry earning better 7 digit, Omo as a cleaner here I earn more than the Oyel and gas money oo . If God come help me now get same Oyel and gas work for this side oboy my balling no go be here. Abeg stay back for Nigeria to do what If you stay complete one year for better abroad come go back Nigeria you will see how chaotic Nigeria is. Omo no go fit stay again.

I tell you bros. The sanity is too deafening and when we say we miss Nigeria, apart from family and friends, truth be told na chaos we miss.
Honestly, the reasoning is valid, I encourage myself that imagine with blue collar jobs, one can do well small, how much more a professional job with some level of security.
However, after buying houses and all that, if you decide to remain na retirement homes go chop all the years of your hustle abroad

Ishilove:
From chartered accountant to forklift driver...

For someone like me, that would be soul destroying because I value my inner peace and wellbeing. If I'm not enjoying my job I will be very, very miserable.

I was a project director and did bricklayer labouring in the abroad. People will come for my head but with the dignity of labour abroad, it amounts to nothing. Nigeria is a dream killer for many but Nigeria is our country.

rotadeco27:
Oga hear me very well, Iam a doctor and willing to do that.
Just go and do not have any hesitation.
Once u can drive well , go learn how to drive trucks , believe you me, you will make more money than your wife. Australia is a low taxed county, and people that do such aforementioned works make good cash. I have many friends over there encouraging me to come around, I was asked to do same so I can be working while preparing for AMC, then go back into the health sector. For the sake of your children and your sanity go make money and return to invest. Your children will have topnotch education and exposure, it will be easier to migrate to other climes of your choice and usually withing 4 yrs or so you people will be citizen. Now that our currency is messed up, working abroad and investing back home is the best company any one can establish,just have a trust worth person back home.

Great advice but Australia is not a low taxed country. The exposure will look like a negative one once the kids reach Australia.

Usefulsense:
To be honest with you, the plan is for the entire family to migrate.

In fact, i did my ielts last year and made 7,7, 7.5, 7

As soon as our visa grant came out, I started developing cold feet on account of age.

She has advised that I go and learn forklift driving.
I will commence that this month.

How long will you be doing this.

Usefulsense:
This is my story. Please advice.

I sent my wife to Australia in 2021 on student visa.

She has invited us, myself and our children aged 12 and 9 and our visa is out. I have also paid like 6 months fees for my children school which was a requirement for the visa.

Owing to her performance at her work place, the company she works for has promised to sponsor for PR. Infact, the process just began and we are sure of having the PR.

I am currently 48 and won't be able to support my family working in Nigeria. Wify has encouraged me that we will be fine that abroad is meant for 2 people.

My only constraint is my age, hence my question. If you are in my shoe, will you travel?

By the way, I work for a private firm here in Nigeria and you know what it is working for a family company.

Please make the travel. There's job security here and as a PR, you will qualify for free TAFE, look for a course that is not physically demanding and that would no be too much strain as you get older. Mind you, life expectancy here is above 80, so you are just a little above half your life.
If she's paid well, you can survive on a single income.

HanisahZuwy:
In my twenties. Why do you ask please?

Your responses give you away as naive and immature. You should learn to recognise sarcasm and nairaland is the heaven of it

HanisahZuwy:
Please, recommend a solution for me. I wouldn't want to say why it got torn now. Maybe when I get the solution.

How old are you sef?

Desusi:
I wasn't told that the moment l married, another person wahala becomes my own.In other words, my wife's trouble in relationship to her family becomes my own,not only this everything l have become everybody things, my wife, myself and children. Keeping secret from my wife make me becomes unfaithful to my vow,similarly, relating with opposite sex other than my wife becomes unpardonable offence.

Story of my life!!!

HanisahZuwy:
This is a laptop bag with USB port. I would like to import it, but I don't know if it'll sell here in Nigeria. What do you think? Do you think I should import it or not? What would you rather I import instead? What would you advise me to import instead? I mean a fast moving product/products. I need your opinions/suggestions please. Thanks.





I also plan adding backpack. So that it won't be only laptop bag. What do you all think?

Hope you are aware that it doesnt have a battery to serve as a power bank? Its just the port

ECASH120:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uf7s6VfUb2M



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It's obvious that they are guilty of the same crime.

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Thanks

You just have to learn and learn.
Bridge construction involves a lot of tiny bits and pieces.

Assuming a Concrete Bridge

You need knowledge in the following whether you are the main engineer or in training:
Calibrate piles for driving
Reinforcement details interpretation and fabrication - bridge reinforcement can be tricky. Pay attention to burst bars and pile/pile cap connections. Also read up making helical stirrups
Joints and Compaction within abutments
Expansion and isolation joints best practice
You need retaining wall knowledge for the abutment walls
If very swampy consider a geotextile material.

Try not to cut corners and be on site alway and ensure you see what's done yourself.

I am available for support. Cheers

Octopusssy:
Did you consult God when you chose your life partner?

It's not scriptural jare.
You must check for qualities yourself and commit the person to God while also looking inward to make changes so anyone can easily live with you forever.

nairalee:
What if na your friend no get the description well?

Nobody here can say he or she has never missed a description

You won't talk like this if you know igbo etche.
Yes I was robbed and some of my friends too with similar schemes.
I came out alive because of God's grace and my PH upbringing.

Putting the APC candidates at the end is a smart choice because if there were slated at the beginning, they may not show up and other candidates might follow suit.

Owoino:
I will donate 500k to IPOB if their candidate PETER IPOB OBI wins any state in the 2023 presidential election.
Sometimes I wonder how a group of people can be so delusional.
Elections are not won through miracles or through social media.

Are you willing to escrow this cash?

oikirodah:
Wait, Is Obi Cursed Or What? Nigerians Task LP Presidential Candidate After Fire Outbreak At Mount Kilimanjaro


Source iReporteronline
https://ireporteronline.com.ng/blog/wait-is-obi-cursed-or-what-nigerians-task-lp-presidential-candidate-after-fire-outbreak-at-mount-kilimanjaro/

But on the contrary, in the Bible fire engulfing a sacrifice signifies acceptance by the Most High God.

dre11:
Ex-Bauchi Commissioner ‘Kills Friend’ Who Challenged Him For Wooing Daughter



VANGUARD


Hundreds of youths and residents of the Yelwa Labura area of the Bauchi metropolis Monday morning blocked the Bauchi -Tafawa Balewa highway in protest...





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The dead man is clearly at fault here.

The blood of Jesus is already a covering to those that believe in the holy Son of God.
Demon possessed people are easy to spot and NO they dont go to clubs.