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Fahvvy:
Why his marriage went south is IRRELEVANT in this discuss, marriages go south all the time,it's nothing new... The main issue here is what happens after the marriages go south ...

It's no news that 97% + of the time, it's a man who ends up losing his entire life's sweat to a woman ...

He loses half his wealth or more...
He loses his house...
He loses his properties and assets...
His kids etc...

So seeing a man plan ahead and protecting himself from such loss is a cause for celebration ...

And if you think that protecting yourself from such loss is "wrecking your relationship", then you're the one who is being sentimental ...

With the mentality displayed here, a lot of you are wrecking your relationships before they even begin. Focus on the aftermath is pointless. If this is protracting himself, there should be no complaints about what men get in relationships in return. The sentiment at one man living his life is reminiscent of sheep following the shepherd.


It will be cause for celebration when the topics starts flooding in. The wrecked and sentimental posts will be fun, if the man will try to be objective.

Rayban25:
see painment

Guess who is leaking agonizing pain all over the thread, by his own admission? Is that not your pain trashing you up and down peoples posts, tirelessly, all over the place without being mentioned?


Trash.

Next!

Persephone1:
My oh my ... If it isn't Rayban the singing rat.

Swerve please, that post is for people with thinking ability.

Jeshal aka Starz aka hammer aka....

Rayban25:
And please know when to use the mysogyny word...

You call a man a misogynist when he outsmarts you...do you want to pretend like she didnt have tricks up her own sleeves?

Please shift

Trash.

Next!

Rayban25:
Trash. Next

Where is the money that you have that anyone will even want 50 of it from you, except in your fantasies? A lot of you here live through successful people and dream what isn't.

So much energy on nonsense.

Olowosaudi:
Hmmm. Men should learn from his story. Never allow your emotion to make you trust a woman you call your wife with your assets in this generation where most of the women you find are seeking fortune through relationships. I know some will say I love her and she can be trusted. This is what happened to Emmanuel Eboue of Ivory Coast whose fortune was shared with his oyibo wife after divorce.

One guy has determined how you should wreck all your relationships. That's too sentimental. How can you call yourselves men and not sheep?

Did you ever find out why his marriage failed? Or are you all so emotionally obsessed with nonexistent money more than a gold digger is?

Magnoliaa:
Misogyny is wild.

So, so wild.

And coldly scary.


A news from an Ugandan website News 24/7 is the original source for this news and EVERYBODY has been trending it, taking it at face value, with men going ahead to write despicable things about women whom they are yet to meet?


Are y'all for real??

I have not seen any reputable source carrying this news. Where did it come from?

A case that is still in court?

Omoooo, I commit the daughters of woman into your hands, O Lord.

Save them from enemies in the form of men who are out to get them and to make their lives a living hell.

@bolded

Tell us that isn't true.

Literally waking up to see a lot of misogyny. These are the same people looking for peace of mind and marriage, more like a rag to walk all over.

19 pages and counting of unfounded joy. Wonder if he's going to share his jackpot with them.

bukatyne:
1. I laugh in Japanese! What is my business with gerontocracy? Or using BAT as an example makes me his supporter Only women play gender politics. So far, you have not given a proof where a man did so.

2. Perhaps that is your projection of women. I never stated women are lazy.

3. Only women play gender politics. The OP is a good example. Gender politics is not doesn't equal laziness. More like entitlement from a sense of victimhood.

4.

5. Politically, women are less likely and less willing to pay the price of power. It is not a 'Nigerian' issue. Like I said earlier, I am not a victim; if I decide to venture into politics today, I should be ready to pay the price (good or bad). God forbid I open my mouth in public that men should step down for me to go uncontested.
I also alluded multiple times to strong men & women which means that a few women do pay the price; I also know a few back then in school.

6. Hillary Clinton would agree with you.

I am surprised this convo took this long before the subtle jabs started.

Have a great day.

If you're a woman then you are lazy and need work hard to pay the price. More than any man needs to prove himself.

After all, you want favors that you can get with power (the type of power you mentioned earlier which nobody but you can say), not the rewards of steadfastness, old age and some form of invisible investment (buying the polity probably) you implied women needed to make to be considered. Meaning that you paying the price and working doesn't matter as a woman, as was clear from the start when you mentioned paying. It is all about power, isn't it?

Once again, what do you understand representation to be? It will help you understand what you're saying better.

Agugbadin:
Another Patricia Ette in the making Nigerian law makers should prevent a reoccurrence of the election of a speaker like Patricia Ette who was absolutely corrupt to the bones. Stop her now.

All your male politicians who have defrauded you and stolen all your sovereign funds and pardoned themselves, they shouldn't be stopped. Never you dare stop them. They aren't women, so free looting and no standards for them.

bukatyne:
1. Please do not compare someone who invested the last 30 years for his ambition to a woman whose claim for men to step down is 'her sex'. We are not in the US where she might have shelled some thousands of USD for a sex change. She wants the men to step down just because she was born female. And yet, women want to learn 'equality' with men? And again, men do not play gender politics. He would be a disgrace of a man. They don't even play tribal/religious politics. A man works for whatever he wants; good or bad. Peter Obi who was a 'marginalised tribe' worked super hard (campaigning, travelling about, kowtowing to Spiritual daddies etc) to come 3rd (if we believe INEC's pot of beans). Even Tinubu that claims it is his turn put in loads of effort (rigging, vote buying in USD, kowtowing to the North, campaigning, travelling about while ill etc) to come first. What has this woman done?

2. I believe everyone should put in an effort for what they want. If I read she kidnapped two of the men or dashed them houses or hosted all the house members or build schools or sponsored something or did house to house campaign or gathered dirt on all the men to backmail them and is leveraging on that, then we have a discussion. Get your hands dirty or clean before you talk. It is only in lala land we have equality of outcomes.

3. It is only gender politics specifically women that they want/ think they deserve a position because they are women.

Gerontocracy never looked more attractive, neither did the denial of gender politics.


We know it:

women are lazy and want positions and they think they deserve them because they are women. Perhaps in your foray into classroom politics that's how it happened behind the scenes. Women can't pay the price and do the work, after all. Your case, all their cases.

No wonder 1st world countries think otherwise.

bukatyne:
I played a little politics in the university and I would tell you for a fact that politics is not men vs women.

It is powerful/strong men&women versus others. People desperate for power vs normal human beings.

Secondly, the ratio is skewed towards men because:
a. they vote more and are generally more interested in politics.

b. they are more willing to do what it takes to get power. How many women have you heard are into rituals/ ballot snatching/ political violence? Do you know what some men are willing to do for power? I know students (less than 25yrs) who slept in graves for power; who forfeited final exams, who joined their fathers' cults; who pretended to be in student fellowship (very stifling) for years, who slept in churches and visited all sort of prophets for SUG/faculty positions. Then a woman would tell such a man that he should step down because she is a woman. HOW NA?

c. Women prefer influence (authority without responsibility) to actual power (authority with responsibility). Ask how many women want to be presidents versus how many want to the first ladies
Or how many would rather date a yahoo boy than do the yahoo themselves.

4. Fela Durotoye, Peter Obi and others who have lost would disagree with you. Politics is not only about competence

Do you think it would be fair for women to have equal representation when they are not willing to do the work or pay the price?

What do you understand by the word representation?

Parizz:
my body is for private consumption. Are you on facebook? maybe i can

Good luck.

bukatyne:
Tinubu told his minions it was his turn because he has truly invested in the political careers of a lot of people.

He has sown for decades, he wanted to reap (let's forget for a minute that Nigeria is not people's property to be gifting).

Can this woman tell us why she wants the men to step down for her?

Has she done great favours for them in the past that she is calling on now? Does she have a fantastic proposal for the men in the future that is worth their ambition?

I have not heard a man request for a political position because he is a man. That is a woman's forte.

He isn't entitled, but a woman who asks for the same whatever her reasons are is entitled?

I don't know much about Nigerian politics, but I can see a lot of abnormalities that are accepted. Because he invested he feels entitled to be your president and his wish should be granted, however a woman shouldn't?

Tribal politics from certain regions and the hate that goes with it is surprising. The forum is just one tribe reporting news and painting it as they want it. With a lot of hate while they're at it.

Same with your gender politics.

bukatyne:
1. As at today, not interested

2. If the comments of people are enough to put a dent in my armour, then I am not ready for an elective position. Besides, people have ALWAYS have negative things to say about politicians. If Tinubu was not wearing pampers, Atiku would sell Nigeria, Peter Obi is IPOB/ a wailer, Sowore is a joker etc.

3. If men automatically have the votes, then Sowore, Moghalu or Fela would not be recording less than 5,000 votes in a country of about 50m plus voters. Politics is not women vs men; it is strong men/women vs others.

3. It's a thing of ratio. The votes still end up with men. Constantly. Not because they are competent. Look around your world. Which leads back to point 2. Read the comments. They don't have to dent you, but that is the sentiment. And again, to point 1, if that is the sentiment you or any other woman will have no votes.

You don't need to be strong if you are competent but nobody will vote you because women ruling will be a "disaster". It is men versus women: gender politics, like religious and ethno-racial politics, is a thing. Men like to pretend it doesn't exist so that they can maintain their status quo. Until you're in need of votes you will think otherwise. But as at today, you will not know.

Parizz:
should i send a DM

Post it here.

bukatyne:
If the ladies in your family are at a disadvantage, I and my female family members are not.

I am not a victim.

Run for an elective post and read the comments to prove there's no disadvantage. Then count your votes afterwards.

Dbegining:
See entitlement mentality!!

Others should step down, your candidature "must be pushed"

See this is the same mentality with many ladies. No doubt she will be a disaster!

If e sure for you why you dey tell others to step down?🙄🙄😒😒

But your politicians, men, have been asking others to step down for them, and say it's their right and turn to rule you, but it's never been seen as "entitlement mentality". In fact, they've said and done worse, but they are men so it's no big deal. They've destroyed and are destroying the world while at it. But it's no big deal, it is women that will be a disaster.

Many of you need to drop your gender bigotry.

Caramia2020:
The last female speaker was a disaster, Patricia Etteh I think.

And the world run by men has been utter Utopia—just pure unadulterated honesty, no corruption or fraud cases, worldwide peace, no wars, prosperity without any economic hardship whatsoever, global economic upturn everywhere. It's the fantastic world men have been and still are building.

Parizz:
i'd like to handle your hips to maximum satisfaction

After we've seen your triceps. If they aren't shaped the way a mans arms should be, you will have yourself to cuddle.

Parizz:
are you fat or curvy?

Are you tall and ripped?

Shocking. Celine Dion comes to mind.

If this is her healthiest state, as she claims, who are we to judge? She should say the truth and not deceive girls who look up to her as their idol. Only the truth sets free.

Ransomware:
How did he get your bedroom tape

While in bed with him.

Don't eat or sit under things when opening this thread. It is more graphic than poisonous.

Bariatric surgery loading.

Ishilove:
He brought this whole mess on himself. Some are saying Judy used jazz to catch him, but if he had kept his wandering preek one place, would she have even been able to capture him in the first instance?

Wo, I wish him well. He should bear the consequences of his choices.

How is the death of his son related to his new wife? Explain that part to us.

Are you implying she is a witch? Or that she poisoned the son remotely, so that hers would be the only existing first son? How did his wandering cause the death?

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am pregnant and by special grace of God, I am expected to have my baby in 3 months time. The issue is that I don't want my mother to come for my omugwo. I am her only daughter but she hate me so much. At first I thought it is old age but she's just 60+ and I have seen older women treating their daughter right.

The last omugwo she came I saw hell, I gave birth on Monday and she came on Thursday. I had 3rd degree tear(that type that they will stitch from anus to vagina) I explained to her that I can't stand for long because of the pain. Meanwhile before she came, a woman from my husband place was taking care of me and she won't let me come down from bed except to eat, bath, breastfeed my baby and sleep. But when she saw my mum, she stopped coming. The woman already prepared soup and kept inside freezer on Wednesday before my mum arrived. It was that soup we ate till Sunday. On Sunday morning I asked my mum what we will eat and she told me to wait for people that are coming to visit us so I can send any of them to market and cook. Like how can I send my visitor message? So I waited for my husband and son to come back from church. I just took tea and also served her. My husband went to market and bought the things I needed to make stew. My baby was sleeping and I went inside kitchen to make stew. My mum sat down comfortably in the sitting room watching film and gisting with visitors that came to see me and my baby. I was in serious pain but I have to cook what me and everybody will eat. I served her the food after cooking and she gladly ate it. She's is neither sick or having pain anywhere.

My mother never cook anything in my house for 4 months till she left. The day I mentioned it to her. She started crying that she knows I hate her like my father. Like how? I even expected her to apologise and lie that she wasn't feeling fine that day. Among all her children, I give her more money but she always show me I am not important.

The problem is, even though this is my third child, I can barely take care of child under 1 month. Apart from cooking, my mum always makes me cry by telling me some very harsh word. She will force me to drink very hot water that I can't even pour on my skin. If I refuse to drink she will get angry and start her wahala again. I don't just want her to come to my house again for my mental health. O ti su mi 😭😭

Sorry, but this sounds funny. Why does she make you drink hot water? Any reason? And why do you drink it?

When guests enter the pots and kitchens of Nigerian women they pick offense. They mark off their territory. My husband, my home, my kitchen, it's my rules, my this and that. At least that's the impression one gets from general posts here, so it's surprising you would want her to cook for you. Would you feel she were meddling in your marriage under other circumstances? Why don't you employ a certified person who can care for you since she's not ideal?

A lot of parents hate the child that takes the best care of them. It's a thing where they can turn round and accuse that child of all but murdering them. Nobody knows why.

Talk to your mother. You alone know why she's hated you. Maybe it's a misunderstanding. But it probably has something to do with your childhood and your father. Perhaps she hasn't gotten over not being loved by you as a child as much as you openly showed you loved your father. Find out from her.

Kellie069:
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This is where the whole drama gets weird . The first report said that “The man she was with, however, checked out early on Thursday morning which was followed by a phone call to Khadi’s room and she confirmed her safety to the receptionist.

Unfortunately, Khadi was found dead hours later when the receptionist reached out to inform her she was already overstaying” he’s a regular customer and as such, calling to know the safety of the girl wasn’t necessary even if tho it’s probably among their routine job ethics, the man isn’t a stranger, hence the initial call was almost not necessary.. why was the call to confirm her SAFETY in the first place?

He now tells us she was feeling weak and yet he did not call emergency services or offer to take her to a hospital. If she was already feeling weak from the previous night or whenever he left her, how did she take the receptionists call and tell her she was feeling great? The hotel and their regular client should have a lot more to explain about their respective odd behaviors and the nature of their working relationship with him.

You have a point with your last line. How did they know she was unsafe? Unless they could know exactly what happened, but he's a regular...why should they doubt him?

Let's see how it unfolds.

Kellie069:
Now you guys are talking about the Power bank one of the staff gave her . But the former report was that the receptionist called to inform her that she has already overstayed past the normal check out time! Fingers crossed

And he's a regular who they know quite well, too.

ConfidentialDoc:
You didn't marry your soul mate.
It's better not to marry than marry a non soulmate.
Since divorce isn't on the table then you're ready for a really long tin..

There's nothing called a soul mate. That is star-crossed high fantasy.

jesmond3945:
i think you have huge disrespect for Op's wife. Op this man here is clearly insulting your wife and I blame you for it. I pity the woman that would marry you.

It's what he wanted. He wanted his wife to be insulted by people she doesn't even know. Pity her, he's not as good as he portrays in his story.

Ortintin:
Mr Bratislava... I know u don't understand my point so I will break it down. You see am not talking about spiritual aspect but it's psychology.

Have you ever taught someone something eg a game, trick or trade and they become better than you? At that moment, some begin to ridicule you, see you as nothing and feel on top of the world. The truth is that they have used you as their ladder (Dem don use your brain/head).

Though people who behave like that are fools for a wise person won't do such. So you have to dissociate from such people.

In the man's case the wife has seen him finish, and until he stops living under the same roof (or divorce) her before she realizes his value.

But the majority of men are guilty of this.

This particular story is much deeper than he's letting on.

If you ask the OP to be truthful, he has made some comments in the past that made her that way, or has done things that made her decide to compete with him. His story has a huge red flag which is that he is constantly criticizing/nagging her and never says how it got that way. Maybe he cheated on her and she realized she needed to up her game. Saintly spouses are tiresome.

Plus, a ladder is something one stands on to get to a place they couldn't otherwise. Many men can only achieve because their wives have to sit back and support them without achieving their own dreams. If they don't, look no farther than the OP. Some men hate to see their women better than they are. They begin to see disrespect at every corner once their wife is high flying.

Ortintin:
If you like visit hundreds of marriage councillors, not talk to her for months, do whatever trick your marriage won't work. The best thing is to divorce and go your separate ways.

You see your wife doesn't value you anymore, you have taught her a lot and now the student has become the master. She earns more than you and even more successful than you. You will be shocked to see your wife's bank account.

You sound like a good man and the truth is that she is using your glory to shin e. It is when you finally divorce her that things will skyrocket for you and years to come she will come back to beg but by then you are no more in her level.

If you want to proof me wrong, tell her you have accepted the divorce. You will notice she will become happy.

If you still don't get my points you can message me.

That means countless men have used the glory of their wives to shine, yet are angry and feel alimony and child support are theft. Yet you expect her to be the subservient one knowing this.

The kind of selfish one-sided things one reads on the forum sicken.