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itsmeurLady:
I have been through some toxic relationships and it has been terrible I'd say, I can't even start to tell it all here, but it got too tiring that I decided to let Jesus Take the Wheel, I am tired of Trying to work it out by Myself so I decided to do it God's Way this time.

For the Meantime, I'm working on myself while waiting for HIM... Focusing on My career, Spiritual life and Physical life for the main time and it has been nothing but Joy! Being A Good Person is not enough, sometimes we wish for that Godfearing person when we ourselves have not been Godfearing with our decisions. No Godfearing Person will ask for Sex before Marriage except her/his faith is shaking and dats not the person God wants to link us with.

God won't leave you guessing. He will send you signs that it's time to slow down, quiet your mind, and work on yourself while he labors on your behalf but the choice is up to you.

Below are some of the Signs God wants You to WAIT!
1) A breakup
2) Physical or mental or emotional exhaustion
3) Negative or hurtful people leaving your life
4) The feeling of being lost or purposeless
5) An opportunity to go on a long trip or retreat
6) The awareness that you have been repeating the same relationship mistakes for years
7) Persistent frustration and lack of peace

Not All God Signs are enjoyable,some of them are unpleasant and painful but it's definitely worth it.

Very true. I am not a Christian, but yes with faith in God, He will try us through different life events. Some things are not loss, just a redirection for us. Being celibate is actually the best, but I must ask if u are refering to being a virgin completely... Well some of us really hold on strongly to the idea that relationships can work without sex, and u'll meet some who support u on this and others who think its their right to have your body.

itsmeurLady:
U turned 36 and finally u noticed celibacy wasnt going to make you a mum and wife We have had ladies practice it in their 40s and still got married and even got pregnant afterwards. In other words, na u know wetin u practice (maybe u fasted from sex) because from your results, it is definitely not the product of celibacy. After preaching it to young girls, u finally ended up not finishing it? So how do u expect them to finish it? U shldnt have talked about it at all. It's very hypocritical.

You got me der with the "every lady shld practice celibacy till they find someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with you" speech... Oh come on, almost every guy comes with that BS of being a committed partner, so are you saying that the girls should continue sleeping with every "potential committed partner"? Then when he is no longer interested in the relationship, what happens? The cycle continues ryt? Until she sleeps with 20 "committed partners". Well done Ma!

Celibacy means complete abstinence from sex in a relationship (committed or non-committed) until after MARRIAGE! I'm not trying to judge but don't try to mislead people either. If you couldn't do it, go and ask for forgiveness and move on but don't try to glorify your mistake. They indeed said, When You have Money All Your Sins Are Covered/Justified (in the eyes of men)

P.S: Celibacy is not for the Weak, it goes beyond declaring it, it is a spiritual sacrifice and if you ever try to do it by your power, you will flop big time bcs Konji is a Bastard but when u acknowledge your weakness before God and ask him to help you, then the job becomes easier! Kudos to all the Celibates in the house, More strength and Grace to finish what you started!

Because of you I signed back into NL I just had to give this a standing ovation. People like you give us hope that not all in the world have lost their reasoning to be celibate is not anyhow or by mouth...

Life is full of ups and down they say, sometimes things will go as planned, other times things that were never envisaged crop their ugly heads and we have to deal with them. As life comes with its happy moments so does it hit us with some really miserable times, triggered by factors like, loss of job, loss of finances, loss of loved ones OR loss of health. Why your partner may leave you during illness. Should this even happen? Why would the one person we expect to be there for us leave us…?

Illness may simply develop in the life of just about anyone, no doubt, such an event can put a strain on us and those around us, friends and family, because our roles change, what we could do we no longer can, the roles of close ones in our lives changes, they may have to become our care givers and shoulder other responsibilities we would have normally been in charge of.

What happens to those who share close ties with us, those who are supposed to be our companions through thick and thin, who have made many promises that they are loyal and would stand by us, the loyalty of some partners really becomes questionable when real trials hit the stability of the relationship. Questions arise, behaviors change and sometimes one partner walks away never to return leaving the other to bear alone the burden of their illness, which they may or may not survive.

Without bias or sentiments, it has been statistically revealed that men constitute the larger number of those who are likely to abandon their sick partners and walk away, to be fair however there are just as many strong willed men of character who never walk.

Are there any justified reasons this forsaking happens? Can such cruel actions be explained away by some logic? What are the moral implications of this? What does it say about a person who walks away from their significant other in trying times?

A personal experience triggered this post, hence I aim to put this phenomenon in some perspective and be very open minded but of course with some of my own viewpoint, because trying times has helped me see the true nature of those who say they care but by actions prove otherwise:


INBUILT NATURE’S RESPONSE: So maybe its normal, we all seek out healthy mates, even animals want to ensure the extension of their species and future generations, so they choose stronger healthier mates. Some herds also leave behind any member that puts their safety in jeopardy such as those already exposed to an animal that is dangerous to the herd, however some others also stay with their ill members till death and mourn them like elephants, and even penguins are said to have just a single mate for life. But we are not animals, so all the crudeness in lower animals should be better refined in us, our sense of feeling and emotions should be heightened. However I sight this reason first as to why some partners may abandon their sick, since this is given as a reason psychologically.

A NEED TO DETACH FROM FAILURE: Some persons may see their ill partners as a drawback in their seemingly successful lives, they are excelling in every other thing in life and simply cannot be attached to anything that seems to be failing such as their partners health. It looks like failure to them so they would rather walk than stay, and let all previous vows and promises go to blazes.

SELFISHNESS & SELF LOVE: The true nature of a person may suffice when they have to deal with a sick partner, its easier to seem friendly, loving and faultless when all the things are going just well, but when we face real constraints who we really are on the inside may suffice, some people will only be in any partnership only for as long as it favors them, because they are concerned with only their own opinions, feelings and well being, they cannot have themselves burdened by another person’s problem. They are selfish and will show their true selves at such times, they will walk away to find the next greener pasture.

LACK OF STRONG FAITH: Having faith may mean different things to different people, but basically it is believing very strongly in something, either through simple hope or through believe in God, understanding that a situation may seem ugly today but can indeed turn around for the better tomorrow. Such faith makes the heart so light that it is able to better endure trials. The partner that deserts another often has little or no faith, because if they did they will understand that their partner, no matter how hopeless their situation or illness seems they could miraculously become rid of their condition, or receive some help where they least expect and their yesterday will become a past story. Things do turn around for good, even when all hope is lost.

FEELING ASHAMED: Some partners are ashamed of the illness of their spouse so they would rather leave, sadly even some parents are just as ashamed of children they have who are suffering some disabilities or major illnesses.

INABILITY TO HANDLE THE SITUATION: And there are those who sincerely just do not know how to respond to the situation, they are perplexed and cannot just handle seeing their loved ones that way, they do not have the emotional power to handle it all, neither do have a guide to better train them on how to face this, so in response they take flight.


THE ILL PARTNER IS CONSISTENTLY UNPLEASANT: I think a sick partner can also contribute to driving away their loved ones, if a sick person is not dealing with a mental disorder for which their actions cannot be blamed, but still act obnoxiously and annoy everyone all because they are ill, they are then the architects of whatever actions their partners take in the end especially when this negative behavior becomes a norm in their daily lives. Nobody likes to be around an unpleasant person as it will also sap the life right out of their partners, making the whole burden terribly difficult to handle.

In the end people will leave our lives for different reasons, there are however many men and women who have defied all odds, defied all external influence and advice, to leave their sick partners and choose staying with them till the end which may be an end where they heal and get back to life, or an end were they pass away. Either ways, these are men and women, and parents as well who are unsung heroes, who are honest in their words and actions, who are kind in their doings who have true empathy, who have strong character, who know the true meaning of vows and promises and who understand the true workings of LIFE.

For those who walk away, they also leave us with relevant lessons in life. Although they might leave us doubting everything we ever held true for a while, the lessons will be most valuable in time.

Hoping you enjoyed reading this piece on why your partner may leave you during illness.

Please share your thoughts on this topic in the comment section and share this post with others.

Have a positive health attitude.

www.yourhealthattitude.com

Makes sense

Efewestern:
The guy is a bigot, ignore him.

Religion is a big scam, Just some days back I was reading a post about the "Igbe religion" in my ethnic group facebook forum , you need to see how some Christians flooded the post with their usual insults and attack, I couldn't hold it anymore I had to attack back, why insult others ?, If it is okay to preach your Christ to me, then it's okay for me to tell the world about the religion of my forefathers.

They only preach tolerance when it doesn't favor them, I sha know that God is neither a Jew or from any Arab country. God is God, no religion should claim they know it all.

Preach Brother!

Disabilities do not have to be a limitation in one’s life for there are those who see such limitations as stepping stones to greatness. A chance to strive for more and accomplish what many only dream of. These brave men and women faced what most would consider an unbearable sentence and triumphed over mediocrity. Here is a list of five athletes who made it to greatness despite health challenges.

Wilma Rudolph

Wilma Rudolph as she was fondly called, was at a time the fastest woman in the world and 3 times olympic gold medalist. These achievements didn’t come so easily as Rudolph was at the age of 4 paralyzed, due to the polio virus. She also suffered from other child hood illnesses including pneumonia and scarlet fever. She however recovered from polio, but lost strength in her right leg and foot.

Physically disabled for much of her early life, Rudolph wore a leg brace until she was eight years old. With the help of her family and doctors, Rudolph scaled through the trying times and in 1960 at the age of 20, that once paralyzed leg was named the fastest in the world.

She however, died on November 12, 1994, at the age of 54 after suffering from brain cancer.


Marla Lee Runyan

Only 11 athletes in history have competed in both the olympic and paralympic games. Marla Runyan is the only one of those athletes to come from the United States.

Originally from Santa Maria, California, Runyan had stargardt disease, a degeneration of the retina that left her with a hole in the center of her vision, which means her eyesight is no better than 20/400 and she is legally blind.

Out of all the numerous sports and careers to choose from, Runyan chose to be a sprinter. As a sprinter, Runyan began her international sports career by focusing on events specifically for visually impaired athletes and was highly successful . She won 4 gold medals at the Barcelona 1992 paralympic games.

This great icon was not satisfied being a champion in an event for only the physically challenged, she wanted more. She however qualified for the Sydney 2000 olympic games and finished eight in the 1500 meters event. Runyan became the first blind athlete in history, to ever compete in the olympics.

The hardest for her about taking part in the olympic games wasn’t necessarily her competition, she said, but rather not being able to see the clock or the lap counter.

She closed her career on the international stage by representing the United States in the 5000 meter at the Athens 2004 olympic games, a year before having her first child at age 36.



Cristiano Ronaldo

Arguably one of the greatest players of all time, Cristiano Ronaldo has carved a niche for himself in the football world. Ronaldo is known to be a very hardworking player who has improved more on himself over the years, but not many know that Christiano Ronaldo once fought heart disease as a young boy.

Ronaldo was only fifteen years of age when the doctors diagnosed him of some heart problem. His heart beat was more than normal even when he was resting. In broader medical terms he had tachycardia that is having a heart beat greater than normal. He played in the Sporting CP Soccer Club at that time. This is a common problem but a serious one for those who play. The condition can get worse if not treated as there can be unexpected seizures, loss of consciousness and even a heart attack. Many players in the past died of heart attacks on the fields.

This condition would have been a hindrance for him to play. He got himself treated for this issue. It was confirmed by Christiano Ronaldo’s mother that he had undergone a treatment for the cure of his abnormal heart condition. Christiano Ronaldo was treated with catheter ablation. In this treatment, through the leg of the patient a wire is inserted and the area of the heart that causes the problem is determined. Then a catheter is inserted and the problematic area is heated to fix it.

But soon after his treatments, Ronald was back with a bang. He resumed playing a few days later. This is the sign of a true player. No matter what he had gone through in the past, he is one of the most successful soccer players of his time. He has set an example for the young boys who might have a similar condition and are football lovers. If he had not shown strength at that young age it might have been the end of his football career. It has been said rightly that where there is a will, there is a way.


Baxter Humby

Baxter Humby wasn’t born without one of his hands, but he had to have his right one amputated at birth below the elbow after it got entangled with the umbilical cord. Even so, the Winnipeg native’s accomplishments have been many.

Humby began competing in martial arts at 17 and, already an accomplished runner, competed for the Canadian Paralympic National Track Team in 1992 and in 1994. Two years later, he won the Canadian Super Welterweight Kickboxing Championship.

To this day, Humby remains the only kick boxer who has ever won a world title with one hand and still remains the IMTC World Super Welterweight Champion. He was also the WBC Super Welterweight National Champion in 2010.

Humby hasn’t limited himself to work in the ring: He served as Tobey McGwire’s stunt double in Spider-Man 3.


Tatyana Mcfadden

The list of medals garnered by Tatyana McFadden throughout the course of her Paralympic career is daunting; it’s that long.

The Russian born wheelchair basketball and track competitor participated for the U.S. in four Paralympic Games and in the 2013 World Championships, reeling in 16 medals, including nine golds.

McFadden was born with spina bifida, which left her paralyzed from the waist down at birth. Her mother abandoned her, and the orphanage in which she lived for the first six years of her life didn’t have the money to afford a wheelchair, so she walked on her hands.

She was adopted by Deborah McFadden, a commissioner of disabilities for the U.S. Health Department, and she began a new life in Baltimore in which she participated in a variety of sports, including gymnastics, wheelchair basketball and track and field.

In her first competition at age eight; the 2004 Paralympics in Athens, she meddled twice and hasn’t slowed down since. She also won both the Boston and the London marathons in 2013, both of which occurred in the period of one week.

These are people who did not let their physical or health challenges hinder their goals and dreams, so while you are physically fit and sometimes feel entitled, think of these guys.

Have a positive health attitude.

www.yourhealthattitude.com

hmm... The twitter troll was right afterall! Beht their life their problems.

Ibime:
I just dey hear the guy name today. Never heard of him before now.

Pls go and listen to Hey brother! Or Search for coke advert with Hey brother song! U must love that song. That's his only song I knw but.... wow he is dead.

Donmeca:
Hi Brightgem, do you need a writing partner, someone you can trust to effectively shed workload and deadline pressure? If you have been thinking about having time to bid and take more jobs, trusting that those at hand are in efficient hands, then send me a mail.

Regards.

Hi Donmeca! Kindly forgive my late response, I have no doubt you write well. I have however found someone who is doing quite well at the moment. I will keep your name in mind, thanks for reaching out.

XaviDayo:
The f^kin article is too long jaare. Haba......


Summary: domestic violence is not good. Shun it. End of story.

Brah. You know we don't often read terms and conditions on product and services, I mean who wants to read that plenty thing?

But I read there was some dude who took his time to read one of such and in there it was written that whoever read... or read upto a certain point was to recieve a certain sum from the company and it was good money too. See bros better be reading, they say u want to hide something good from a Nigerian, put it in a book.

Later Buhari will have mouth to say we youths are lazy! Stop that!

Babacele:
lolz...
volunteering is a lifetime thing and it mustn't be an 8am-5 pm stuff. You can volunteer 3 hours daily twice in a week for a cause you are interested in. And who says you must visit only a brick and mortal location before you volunteer? e-volunteering makes it flexible for you to help conveniently. try www .unv.org for example .

Thank you very much, this is good info.

Babacele:
why not volunteer in an NGO for six months , and move to volunteer in a bigger one thereafter
. While being there , I can bet you your network and the relationship you would have built , would open the door to you. Volunteeerism gives you that edge. I have studied you from afar ,and I can bet you there are a lot of good your media skills can do the development world in terms of awareness, advocacy etc Just imagine what effects the right photographs, words and videos can have on the world's attention.....think about it.

Hi, you are right, although even volunteering with some of them seems difficult, besides I wnt lie at this stage in life volunteering is harder because I have quite a bit on my hands most days which will give me some change, I wish I'd thought about that earlier after graduating... @studying me from afar part! lolz! that's creepy

Its been my dream to work for an international NGO. With over 5 years of experience in the media and communication sector haven't yet gotten my chance with them.

Once you have no experience in the NGO sector your chances seem lesser. But na one organization go give person chance one day.

Here are some insightful health news, that you will find informative just in case you didin’t know.

THE WEARABLE BRAIN SCANNER YOU CAN MOVE AROUND IN

If you have ever gotten your brain scanned before, you would know that you have to sit absolutely still in a particular position for hours before any results can be achieved.

Also, before now, it was difficult to measure accurately the brain activities of babies, children and people with movement disorder. An improvement in science has now made it possible. Scientists in Nottingham have invented a new type of brain scanner that can be worn on the head, allowing patients to move while being scanned.

The device records the tiny magnetic fields generated by the brain. Magnetoencephalography [MEG] has been around for decades, but conventional scanners are large, weighing half a ton.

The sensors used to measure the brain’s magnetic fields have to be super cooled to minus 269c. The MEG scanners are largely limited to research, because its subjects have to keep completely still. But with this newly developed wearable MEG, which uses light weight quantum sensors mounted in a 3D printed helmet, the subjects can behave totally natural which is a plus while scanning for total brain activities.

This wearable MEG scanner will also be useful in imaging patients with Parkinson’s disease.

THIS MODIFIED SMARTPHONE MEASURES BLOOD PRESSURE DIRECTLY FROM YOUR FINGER

High blood pressure can lead to heart disease and stroke, but it often goes undetected and untreated. A new technology could change that by putting a simple blood pressure monitor in everyone’s pockets.

Normally, blood pressure is measured using an inflatable cuff that presses down on an artery in the arm while a device records the effect on blood flow. Now, scientists have created a smartphone attachment that measures blood pressure directly from the finger, removing the need for any specialized equipment.

The user places their finger on a pressure sensor and is guided by a chart displayed on the phone to gradually increase the applied force. Meanwhile, another sensor measures blood volume by illuminating the finger and detecting changes in how light is absorbed. Software on the phone then uses this information to determine blood pressure. The researchers tested their prototype on 30 people, and found that most, quickly learned how to use it.

Although the device was not quite as precise as an arm monitor, the scientists say its accuracy could be improved by taking multiple measurements over time. Modern smartphones already contain most of the hardware needed to transform them into portable blood pressure monitors, which would be particularly useful in developing countries where access to cuff-based devices is limited, but where smartphones are becoming commonplace.

http://www.sciencemag.org/news/2018/03/modified-smartphone-measures-blood-pressure-directly-your-finger

Talk of Science and Tech enhancing health care.

INTERSTITIUM: NEWLY FOUND ORGAN IN THE HUMAN BODY

Scientists have identified a new human organ hiding in plain sight, in a discovery they hope could help them understand the spread of cancer within the body. Layers long thought to be dense, connective tissue are actually a series of fluid-filled compartments researchers have termed the “interstitium”.

These compartments are found beneath the skin, as well as lining the gut, lungs, blood vessels and muscles, and join together to form a network supported by a mesh of strong, flexible proteins Remarkably, the interstitium had previously gone unnoticed despite being one of the largest organs in the human body.

The study said the interstitium can compress or expand in size, suggesting it could serve as “shock absorbers” for other parts of the body. This is the second time in as many years humans have learned details about a new organ. Last year, an Irish surgeon discovered the mesentery, which connects the intestine to the abdomen. Its identifiable function is still not known.

Officially, the interstitium has been defined as a contiguous fluid-filled space existing between the skin and the body organs, including muscles and the circulatory system. The fluid in this space is called interstitial fluid (or lymph), which is composed of extracellular fluid and its solutes.

TOXIC FOODS YOU EAT EVERYDAY

The number one cause of injury-related death is poisoning. That is why the third week of March is National Poison Prevention Week. Poisonous items in your home don’t always have a warning label, so what you could be eating every day may be toxic to your health.

Fruits are good for a healthy diet, but what’s inside some fruits may send you to the hospital.

Some seeds and pits contain cyanide, a poisonous chemical that can be deadly in high doses. So beware of the seeds and pits from apples, cherries, apricots and peaches. A few won’t do any harm if eaten accidentally, but ingesting just a couple of milligrams of these seeds can do some serious damage.

You should also be on the lookout for a popular item in wines and teas. Elderberry leaves and stems can produce cyanide and uncooked elderberries contain a toxic alkaloid. Another warning: nutmeg, if consumed in large amounts, can have hallucinogenic effects. Eating five or more grams can cause gastrointestinal reactions and heart palpitations.

Finally, potatoes are great to make fries and chips with, but green potatoes have toxic levels of a harmful pesticide that can cause nausea, headaches and neurological problems.

MALE BIRTH CONTROL PILLS COULD BE AVAILABLE SOON

In March 2018, researchers at the University of Washington, Seattle announced they may have finally created an effective male birth control pill.

Known as Dimethandrolone Undecanoate [DMAU], the male pill contains a combination of hormones that suppress sperm production and is taken once a day.

In addition to blood work indicating the pill was working effectively, research subjects who took the pill reported minimal side effects. While further studies are necessary before the pill becomes widely available, the news is promising.

For years, researchers have attempted to create a male birth control pill, but have run into a number of common problems. Testosterone used in past male birth control pills could cause liver problems. In addition to this, pills previously tested had to be taken twice daily to work effectively.

While the new pill causes mild cholesterol issues, it so far seems to have avoided many of the major problems associated with male birth control in the past.

The real question now is , how willing will men be to take birth control pills? A burden that seems to have been on females for years past. Time will tell how the male population receive this new development.

Have a positive health attitude. Visit www.yourhealthattitude.com to get health news, tips and posts.

Nobody else noticing he already wearing a ring? Pre wedding pics with a ring already. Anyway not a fan of Toyin Aimakhu! She lacks decorum! Further went on to embarrass her self with someone like Egbegbe! So if they ready to make this work. It will work.

freakcin:
His use of English actually made me feel dizzy for 3 seconds! I am not joking!

What was he tryna say again?

acshually he was praying to the marriage! Just incase u missed that part.

einsteine:
Very good for Nigerians. Always looking for shortcuts to success. A lot of them were looking to blow using their babies and spamming on whatsapp and facebook with pictures of their innocent babies.

Still wondering why people will think its okay to vote whose baby is cutest. All babies are cute.

Sanchez01:
As a fresh graduate, you need to ask yourself the kind of experience and dynamism you'd be bringing with you.

Get the experience as a green horn before thinking about how much you'd be paid. I have seen a lot of job seekers take on intern roles for free just because they desire the experience.

You are very correct. I don't dispute this fact. However, I am not a fresh graduate and have had bad experiences in the private sector especially, so u see where I am coming from and why I said that.

FrenchWay:
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School wey go produce more IPOB miscreants?
Mtseew...
Beta build a church. It pays more than anytin in the east.

If he is corrupt as I can see, he beta open a hotel in Owerri...

becus all Igbo women are oloshos in the east.
After dem take kai-kai, the next tin is to visit the oloshos in the hotels.

Night life is so awesome in Owerri.

Hi hi! Just because u want to talk, must u? What do u mean all igbo women are Oloshos, I am not even a Christian but most of my decent and respectable friends are igbos. These are respectable people so pls, because u can hide behind a screen dnt mean u can say anything.

Beware of openings that only want interns and volunteers. Why interns, so you can pay them 15k?

kapelvej:
Thank yo for your time, you made some very good suggestions, I have made several attempts we to see a councellor she will have non of it, I have been begging her to tell me if there is something I was doing wrongly, but she will not even bother to reply me. Sadly I over heard one of her friends telling her sometimes that she should try and change her ways. Her eldest sister also talked to both of us and made it clear to her that she has to change her ways.
Concerning doing something shocking, well I think that not calling her bask like I used to do should be shocking enough for her, it is two months now, and she is very okay with it.

Then in the light of all other pieces of advice given here, I suggest u be the one who starts thinking of moving on. IF your conscience is clear. Your wife is flirting u say u havnt seen adultery! what?! She insults you! There should be rules btw a couple to draw a line on what each cannot say to the other! Now its still verbal abuse, dnt become another Bilyaminu. God forbid! I think u are a man being abused. Open ur eyes, sadly. The signs were there!

victorian:
My Sister, it was war.
It wasn't easy.. He made my life hell on earth. I was almost suicidal, thinking of ending my life, then melancholy sinked in, when I think of how dissapointed my mum will feel if I do so. Cause am her only female child. Life became meaningless to me.

But the preaching of one popular pastor on TV about destructive relationships and marriage gave me the inner strength to take the decisive step and leave. After the sermon and prayer, a new strength came into me and I made the move I will divorce this man, no matter what may happen. And I don't care starting from scratch.

Honestly I thank God. I did.. No regrets.

Thanks dear

Women should build their inner strength. It goes a long way.

The world is full of stories. You have an old post something about not supposed to be married. Was all that before you got married then?

victorian:
I won't wait to do any mathematics.

I was once married to a violent psychotic man, but if u see him, u will feel he's an angel won't hurt a fly. He can pretend infront of people and strangers as the best husband any woman can ever wish for. But at home, he's a demon incarnate. He detest peace.
Family and everyone were saying I should stay. What will people say? I will be called second hand, we did it in a flamboyant way, please don't leave him. It's for better for worse.
I went back home to him, not to stay but to carry all my belongings and escape on a day he would have traveled for business. So I simply kept clear from him
I became a robot , quiet and all. I will only talk if he ask me any questions. Until the day he travelled for biz. Within an hour, have already called a taxi. I left his cars, I called taxi, packed my stuffs and off I went. I dropped his house keys with maiguard, . I also left a note on the dinning. It's over between us and never ever u try contact me or try looking for me., Or else I will pour hot water on you! Devilish man!
And don't worry the dowry will be returned back to your family soon. Goodbye!

Maiguard was like madam, where u dey go? I replied am travelling. Give Oga the keys. Oya driver let's go
I went back to my parents house. Thank God my mum understood me and where I was coming from. My dad was angry at first. I then told my dad, daddy if u drive me back. I swear u will receive both of our corpses on this house. Cause I won't stay idle while he kills me. So choose! As I looked at him Defiantly .
He looked at me, shook his head and said OK. You know what u are doing, I said yes! I know what am doing it's over! He shrugged and walked away.
We returned his dowry to his family. He couldn't come to my family house cos he knows I would have told them every bad thing, he always do to me.
I changed my sim, I enrolled back in school cos he didn't even want me to complete my education and he married me while I was in second year o. In the University.
But he made me drop out.
I went back to school. Thank God my mum supported me. I completed my degree, went into business, No more treating STDS again, cos of his Randy attitude. The dowry was returned, then I met now my second husband.
He's a very nice and peaceful man. I can't ask for more. Honestly I thank God I divorced the first one.. I just thank God.

Honestly some men are demons incarnate.

I don't joke with my well-being and state of mind.

wow! wow! wow! Standing Ovation for you! You have sure learnt much.

KOPT33:
I am an absolutist: as far as I am concerned, there was no marriage. I have satisfied my conscience though.

Yes. You have satisfied ur conscience, mending things with them in the first place was a big forgiving step. Sometimes we even find more family in those that are not blood. If the husband did not deal with those he already knows, is it you he will answer? Might probably disrespect you sef. Well do what u deem right.

[quote author=ilyasom post=66361558][/quote]Hello, pls take ur number off the forum and protect urself. Listverse will pay 100dollars for a list of ten on a unique topic u can't find on the net, you'll write in ur words but also link to valid sites... well just google them, and download their rules of writting.

KOPT33:
I write in three niches. I own three accounts because I need to present myself as an expert in the three highly niche areas that I write. Thus far, it has worked for me without any issues.

This might be helpful to somebody out there, so let me just my strategy. Only thing is I wouldn't mention my niches.

1 - I identified three hot writing niches - two in the financial vertical and the third in ecommerce
2 - I created four websites: one personal website and three niche websites
3 - I created niche content on all three websites and linked back to my personal author profile
4 - I constantly update all four websites with fresh content but this doesn't take more than three hours per month
5 - When I apply to jobs, I send links from my niche websites to the clients as samples
6 - the effect is that I get one out of every 7 jobs I apply to. If you know Upwork, that is a very high rate.

I have two computers and a a tablet for the work so there is never any conflict.

Do this today and never be out of work.

I have suffered too much to still be looking for work my bro.

Hey! Welldone! standing ovation for u from legit hustlers! Indeed you have come a long way! Just been reading ur responses till I saw this one... I will like to check out upwork then, as I enjoy writing tho definitely not in the niche you do.

mrphysics:
Wow, this is nice. How flexible can it be when there is restriction on registration and people would have to bid for a job


Brightgem, I sincerely appreciate the fact you have tried fiverr, please don't give up. I currently earn on average $1000 on fiverr using a Nigerian account.

The thing about fiverr is that, they are filled with broke buyers who wants haven for a price of hell. I just need to expand, hence the reason I want to join upwork. There is nothing bad if I start making $3000/month. That's the joy of hustling.

Thank you jare! Now this is how u respond, not that person called veeluv.

Just that for me, I am certain my Fiverr try is over, but will certainly work for others and good luck to them. I want to put that Fiverr energy into other things, glad for those it works for.

veeluv2015:
EVERYONE on fiverr were once new sellers. Don't discourage others just because you didn't work hard enough.

Of course they yank $1 off your $5 but have you taken your time to think of how much they spend on marketing and maintaining a platform like theirs? Or you expect them to do all that for free? It's not a charity case. People are making millions there and you're complaining.

Please guys don't be discouraged. Learn a skill, be very good at it and go give it a shot.

Good luck!

and u are? Abeg if u want to speak go learn some manners,welldone Mister hard working. I bet u don't have half the skills I have, and still adding cuz I am a die hard lady hustler!

You better goan re-read what I wrote and construct a better answer or gerrout of my sight!

Fiverr don't work for me, simple and short. The poster asked a question I gave my opinion, but I understand, ur a Fiverr deciple which is OKAY!

Deactivated my Fiverr abeg. wetin, so hard for a new seller, these platforms ought to have a system that favours newbies.

They will tell u there are tricks around it, bla bla bla! All the time I will use in tricking and scheming can be used for better things like writing for sites that pay close to 30k or over for a unique list! like LISTVERSE. I don't know about upwork, anyone venturing into these online things, be it blogging, or freelance job sites, its not easy o!

To me, Fiverr sucks, works for those already ranking high, then whats the use of struglin for months mayb even spend money for fake gig and traffic and still not get 1gig, by the way, not only will Fiverr yank 1 dollar off ur money, they actually charge buyers 6 dollars for gig, they say the 1dollar is for one Fee like that abeg. Away with Fiverr, better to get a single task that u will give ur best and it will pay u well than struglin for peanuts on Fiverr.

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Haahahaaaha! Why that face! Well legit stuff. Lets sum it up as Multi-media Practitioner.

Yes. Very true. After leaving my recent job last quarter of last year, decided I needed better standards, have said NO to many offers, because I have decided its time to know my worth, 4 plus years experience and still adding skills, then some organisations will think they can do anyhow... Know ur skills, know its worth, ur years of experience. Too many organisations out to take advantage of people. Only fresh graduates would jump at offers, I did before, I accepted 25k job but now I will not even take 80k, for the experience, it could work for a fresh graduate, but not later in life.

Awaitingkopa:
Toyo baby. Is that why you repay jenifa kindness with evil?
Omo Radarada

Too harsh, pls don't judge a matter you really did not know how things went down, pride and Ego comes to play when people quarrel. The two women are wonderful people so you never just know what went wrong. she just lost her sister, be kind. Now imagine her reading this comment.