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Kingzeez10:
Na all the people wey dey like your comments i blame

Haahahahha! Abi! Nonsense or Sense for this life you must get followers. Ritualist or scammers, them still get followers.

Na just life, internet keeps showing us how people think. Now she go dey feel like say she don make am for life with all the fish brains wey follow her like the mumu comment.

Peace081:
U've said it all, to me I will never settle down with a broke ass guy all in the name of Love

Is hand or brain paining you to use and make your own money? Do you want want to be used for rituals?

ongback:
I love it when girls speak the truth. Listen to what this harlot is saying.

This is why I feel no remorse whenever I dump any lady. Struggling guys will not be able to understand, over 90% of our girls are prostitutes and gold diggers...just that they operate from home instead of brothels.

I feel your pain and that one didn't make sense agreed. But if this is your mindset, how will you even know when you are with the right person, how will you know when the person you are with is part of the 10%?

vickydankal:
You talk as though it was you that Ned should have gotten married to. Why are you so pained. I found out it is ladies who can only offer sex and have no intellectual capacity to make life matter for themselves will run after money. Many ladies out there with self worth can make their own money not waiting for any ancestor to marry them as a way to escape poverty their parents couldn’t deliver them from.

Nne build, train and help yourself to make it on your own so you can have options.

I found the comment I'm looking for. God bless you. How can you be an intelligent woman with self respect and this is the life that's desirable to you. There's a different kind of high, self esteem, self care and love that comes with having a mindset to earn your own money.

These Regina's life is so unappealing and some mumu people will still come and tell us ladies we secretly wish to marry a man like that, because they think everybody has fish brain and the same set of nonsense priorities in life.

Hmmm! Beasts are roaming everywhere. Some people actually think it's their right to have access to another person's body.

Some think what's the big deal in rape. Untill we start thinking straight, to start with. It won't get better.

Rape is rape, no ask how e happen. Because we can't ask babies how or why they got raped.

Men should call out other men who raped, report them, shame them, call them out. You don't hide evil, because karma can return your silence on your wife, your daughter or sister, then you'll know how painful it is.

This act is really tiring o. Can it stop already. Or is it till women start killing rapists. Afterall, many will not believe them and shame them.

It's not normal for you to blame the victim of a sad event like rape. It's not okay for you to make any excuses. It's not okay for you to feel like rape is not a big deal.

Lolz! See all of you are irresponsible. They dnt marry outside their church, yet she's sleeping around. The hypocrisy Sha! The one sleeping with an engaged woman too, welldone. If your daughter is ousted in future for doing something like this, you'll know where it came from. Your own life and doings tend to be repeated in your offsprigs. So continue o!

CsRockefeller:
If you were a guy, I would have said no problems.

But for a lady to be single for 5 years!! I will say there is a very big problem.

Haahahahha! No problem at all. I have no problem with it. It's better to be single than deal with the unreal. It's peaceful too.

When do they plan to kill him too. That's the only thing I'm interested in. Slaughter him, butcher him, whatever. Just kill him too.

Lolz! Eleyi oo ni problem! I'm still trying to use magnifying glass to spot the exact problem. If you want to be single, stay single. If you wish to date, then date. We can't determine if you are wasting your youth for you na.

We that have been single for almost 5years thank God it doesn't feel like a waste of years. Till Mr. Right crosses we path, we hustle on.

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Let me just start this by saying that in truth, the best predictor of current or future behavior is past behavior. There are behaviors people consistently show us that we don't need to make excuses for.

So there was this guy that acted like he liked this lady, he seemed serious and all, those good looking Abuja boys that are not sure what they want in life, because that's how the story turned out in the end. Dude won't make out quality time for her, but she was still hanging on that okay he's just busy bla bla bla, another nonsense we all tolerate sometimes because the truth is if you are priority to someone they'll make time for you, except they don't eat or use the loo then yes they are that busy. Anyways, dude continued in that path till she got fed up and shut him out for good. Months later he shows up again chatting her up, see eh there are some chats on this earth you should block without thinking twice. Well he was all like how was she, they got talking again and barely two weeks into talking dude needed a car loan from her. Past behavior showing up in future behavior, he still wasn't legit.

In my diploma days a lady was raped and murdered during one of our holidays, while we were home, news was being shared of her death. People from my school will remember that sad story only too well. She traveled to Abuja to visit her sister, someone visited her, someone she knew and invited in, he raped her and stabbed her in the neck (if I recall well) with scissors. If she was found earlier she might have survived. Guess what, the guy responsible was a fellow student in our school. I hope he's still in prison.

A guy somewhere, before he became an orphan had a friend his parents treated so well, now after their death as mid adults, friend was living in another country and invited our guy over for hustle, our guy gets there and two days later maltreatment starts. Our guy leaves and God blesses him with another helper in same country, our guy becomes well to do and returns to Nigeria. Old friend sees his progress on Facebook and hails him, saying he'll like to visit him as he's coming to Naija. Our guy was asking on a public forum what he should do? Hehe? You still dey ask?There are people you tell straight up, please I don't wish to have anything to do with you! Your home is a special place, don't be bringing in any kind of energy in there. And if your heart is just so soft, please love that Frienemy (friend like an enemy) from afar.

Who are you letting back in and why? How many years has separated you from the person that has suddenly showed up trying to talk to you? Years and the time apart is enough reason not to just allow anyone back in. You don't know where they have been or what they have been doing.
Why did they also become strangers to you? Would their coming back benefit your life or cause you stress? Was there something from before they did you considered questionable? What is your gut telling you about them?
Gut feeling is your internal alarm system against danger.

I'll just end by saying. While we can try to follow our instincts and guts. We must say a prayer often to God, to protect us from those devils who have learned perfectly to disguise as angels. Because sometimes the enemy is not even the one we afraid of letting back in, sometimes they are the ones already with us as the ones we love and trust, the pain from that kind of betrayal lives with you forever.

Thanks for reading.

Source - www.themoralcodeng.com

These people lack even emotional maturity. Not everyone should dig head into marriage at just anytime.

Chapii:
I don't believe this story. Rape is a Crime but there is something the family of that lady is not telling us. They only said she went to read. Read fire

Kilode ti o stupeed bayi?

We’ve heard them ask Uwa why she was reading in a church, after all there’s been Lockdown, why was she alone? Even though this time rape was accompanied with murder. We still encouraged it by asking stupid questions.

When the rape accusation is against your pastor or your imam, because you have turned men to god, you blame the victim, because these “men of God” can do no wrong in your eyes, but when it’s about other people, you carry placard. When you select who gets justice, or should face the law for your own personal reasons, you encourage rape and you are a wicked person. A just person is fair to all irrespective of who’s ox is gorged.

When you as a man know your fellow man has committed rape and you keep quiet in the name of bro code, no snitching, you encourage rape.

When a woman knows her husband is abusing someone under her roof like the case of Ochanya who also died, she gives rape many great opportunities. Some women still stay in marriages where their husbands are abusing their own child.

When a Hauwa Ujeifo comes out to speak at UN conferences, on public platforms about her rape story as a woman in hijab. The “so called” Muslim men come to tell her, her hijab wasn’t hijab enough, she should not have mixed with men. She should accept it as her fate and destiny. This is how the Muslims encourage rape. For I want you Muslims especially to open your ears and eyes as you read this, in trying to appear modest and sound all religious, we sound stupid, stupid when we blame the victims, rape is happening in the Muslim homes too, and incest rape. Don’t quote verses out of context. Rape is an extreme crime against the victim. All rules of modesty apply to both the male and females, and is this how you carry out your God given mandate to protect women?

When you say “I’m not saying rape is good o, but…” but what? You are a rape apologist and you are encouraging rape.

When you say, some indulge in rape for fun and you say many have done it in the past, what are you telling us? It would have been better such nonsense never made it out of your mouth. Fun to you has destroyed someone else forever. Stop letting every stupid opinion in your mind come out of your mouth.

When you joke about rape, laugh about rape, when the police do not take these cases seriously nor the law, when you ask why the victim didn’t come out to speak since and only came out later, when Men who know what is right chose to be silent about rape issues. Then that is encouraging rape to continue.

When the parents keep eyes on their daughters and teach them how to be proper, but never their sons, the sons act as they like, then they could have a potential rapist under their roof.

Decent women consider their bodies very precious to them, they don’t give themselves away to just anyone. So rape destroys a woman, and takes a part of her that can never return.

Everything mentioned here was said at one time or the other and observed on social media. We are not ready yet. What needs to happen drastically before we listen and change? When will change even come, when the whole nation itself is a whole mass of corruption. Tiring and sad.

May it never be okay with those who rape and those who justify it for them. May it not be okay with them on earth or in the heavens as long as they remain adamantly in that evil path. If you cannot say AMEN with all your chest. That’s your life’s problem.

Finally, fixing this is our collective effort needed. It’s not about women barking at men and blaming them, this is a collective failure of all of us, so we must tackle it completely.

Source - www.themoralcodeng.com

Vyzz:
I decided to be neutral in this case. Not supporting any of the side but some Nairalanders called me names.
Well as days unfold we shall here more tales here.


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ALL these keyboard warriors and initial gragra is trash.
You guys should step outside and stop hiding behind ur keyboard. As for the rape case am still speechless. Everybody mustnt be on the same boat, as for me I am not even in the sea.
Understand me here I didn't say anything about supporting or not supporting anything, I have as much right I believe.

Say what you want to say with your chest, stop saying THIS and THAT

benzene00:
do we look like onion sellers to you

You know silence is also an option in life.

CABALS. They are everywhere. We scream for good leadership, but even as the level of masses we are not any better.

Please, just get you and your mother out of the Onion selling business, you can come back and deal with them later if you feel you want to get justice for others.

Lolz! Does he even know what it means to carry your own bucket of water so that you know the value of every drop? Just out here bragging nonsense and still not cute in my eye.

You are so empty if you brag about things like this.

efficiencie:
@Brightgem

On your moral codes depicted in your pictures;

1. Your marriage could easily be a ticket to heaven. The scriptures talk about iron sharpening iron and not being unequally yoked with unbelievers...these verses imply that a fault marriage could lead one to disaster and damnation or the bliss in heaven.

2. I hear love yourself, love yourself. Self-LOVE is just another term of self-ISHNESS. Self love is just the pursuit of your desires. Love is never with regards to oneself because by default we all do what we believe is best for ourselves. Love is always with respect to someone else or something else. This is why we can easily say God is love because He exists in a community of 3 persons. Hence the scriptures "the Father loves the son and hath given all things into his hands". Everytime the word love is used in scripture it is always in reference to someone else or something else. This self-love teaching is just another new age import into Christianity.

3. You claimed curfew is not only for ladies. Which sensible parent leaves any of his kids out in the dark after 6pm? I hear ladies claiming that home training focus mostly on females and by home training we mostly mean house chores, cooking etc...yet these ladies lack decorum, courtesy, discretion, tact and the capacity for critical thinking. The other day a very stup.id girl visited a boys hotel sorrounded by a high fence around 6am alone and with no security in sight. She was stupid.id but she could run, because when the randy boys chased after her her legs could carry her faster than the wind enough to help her escape the maniacs who would have raped her to death!

What you are saying is different from what this post is about. You already approached the post with a wrong mindset, avoid saying what was not said here.

Self love and understanding of self and contentment in self is not selfishness...

Anyways without need for further explanation, neither does this need become a discuss that's an argument. We all judge what we read or how we view life from our own realities or the knowledge and experiences we are exposed to, these are yours, your own realities.

It's a key message for ladies to understand they need to stop running helter skelter in the name of societal standards. And for men to raise their daughters with the right mindset.

richeeyo:
Didn't bother reading
Tell ladies to remove that ego in them
And no one would ever tell them they expire.
Goodluck

Why didn't you just end at "Didn't bother to read?" As long as you didn't, your opinion is invalid.

I hope this speaks to the heart and stimulates good judgment in someone today. Welcome to my small corner of musings.

We expire as women and many other sick notions society uses to define us which sadly has led many to the famous express the masquerade was warned not to enter, so that it doesn’t get hit. Hopefully ladies, after reading this you don’t become that masquerade. Hopefully, men after reading this, you can change how you raise your daughters, or your future daughters.

So society says your biological clock is ticking. If you’ve been saying this to yourself, stop now! If you’ve been saying this to others! STOP NOW! let me tell you how a woman who believes this behaves.

She runs after everything that looks like love or potential. She acts desperate to become Mrs somebody and doesn’t mind the hooligan she might end up with to keep up with this, because in her head she can change him and besides her biological clock is ticking. She fears the number 30 hitting her as her age because that’s the number of decline of her life as society says. If she’s married, because her biological clock is ticking, she fails to settle into life and be calm, to enjoy marital bliss, even the pressure that doesn’t exist, she creates one for herself. She’s still running here and there drinking all manner of concoction to have a child. I am not berating the pain of childlessness, but I wish people can learn that sometimes a child may not come through you but one can grow through you, and that’s just as beautiful. Because as long as it’s no fault of yours, you should not feel ashamed that for now you aren’t able to birth a child.

In one of my videos where I talked about the rising rape culture in Nigeria, I mentioned an experience at a meet up event addressing the same rape issues and one of the stories shared was that of a woman who encouraged her husband to rape her neighbors baby because some vodoo man told her that was the way she could have a child. They did it and I can’t recall if that baby survived or not, how evil and desperate can you be, to destroy a child in order to have your own? When you desperately want something, this is how your mind will tilt towards evil till you turn the thought into action.

Society tells you if you hit 30 you have started to expire, that you are damaged goods, you are less desirable. I tell you today that if 30 is nearing for you dear good woman, embrace it, long for it, usher it in with celebration and joy in your heart. 3 decades on earth is beautiful, you are not who you were in your 20s you know a lot more, you are as beautiful as you treat and make yourself feel. It’s about you, not the world. You are as beautiful as you feel inside.

You are made to feel that you you must dull your shine, downplay or hide your achievements. You can’t buy that land, that house, that car because you will intimidate some people. Please don’t wait for certain things to happen before you live your best life, don’t postpone your fulfillment and joy, the right people in your life will never be intimidated by your shine, the ones that are and want you to dim your light to make them more comfortable should be kicked out the door. As long as you have worked honestly to earn all you have, you are on the right track and should remain there.

You are made to feel you only have a place in either your father’s house or your husband’s. Please don’t be that person, you are made to feel that you only have a spot in one of those two places, but I tell you, you can create your own haven. It’s painful to see women kicked out of husbands’ houses and fathers’ houses too reject them. Sometimes the two homes meant to be your place of refuge, becomes your place of torture. This is why all your life, while women are known to live for others, to sacrifice for others which is a natural trait of the woman, while all this is true and noble, you must learn to have your own life, a little something that belongs to you and you alone, so that when the world wants to tear you apart and you have no support from those meant to protect you, you run back to your little thing. Decide what that thing will be, and never lack those human beings that come rain or shine you are certain will always have your back. Have a solid support system.

Dear men, please do not raise your daughters to believe once they leave your home, they have no safety net with you anymore, you are the original protectors of your daughters. It is not your business what people will say, when people go to bed at night they are thinking about their own lives. It is your duty to protect and preserve the dignity of your daughter.

Society sometimes speak to us like we are objects or properties. No, women are complete human beings.
Marriage is not a ticket to heaven. Your worth and value before God is not by your married title, every human being has a unique purpose, some listen to their inner voices and find it, some spend all their lives listening to others around them and never find it, they define themselves based on everything from outside, but never anything from inside.

This is why it’s important to be alone for a while to be okay with being alone, great people, even the prophets of God found themselves in solitude. They heard and understood their purpose in solitude. Have you found yourself? Do you know where you want to be and how you want to get there? Have you been asking yourself questions and answering them?

If you desire to get married are you clear about the kind of partner you want? Have you asked yourself the behaviors you could never tolerate? Have you agreed with yourself what you may be able to tolerate? If you are married and raising kids, are you parenting deliberately, or leaving everything on autopilot? Do you have a plan for if life takes you on routes completely new to you?

We’ve been emotionally blackmailed into believing a lot of things, things that have become ingrained in our subconscious. Sometimes we are even told it’s God that has instructed these twisted notions, a weapon used by those who want to control us, make us beneath them and more. Believe me when I say, if something doesn’t feel right and they tell you it’s from God, don’t just swallow it, check it well, because God doesn’t intend a hard life for us, yes there’ll be hardships but He has also promised that after pain will come ease.

I wish we all come to understand, men inclusive, that we are only defined by what we choose as definition for ourselves, not what others say.

I wish we can all learn, that pressure from outside can barely get us, when we maintain our calm on the inside.

If you believe you expire, you will behave like an expired person. Ugly, tired, desperate, fake, manipulative. But if you are calm and full of yourself on the inside, full of positive thoughts, you will easily see through those who just want to make you lesser. Who think that you too must conform to everything society says. Who are you not to conform.

There’s more to this existence called life than they make us believe. Find You today! And start to rise like a true bright star.

I want to say so much more but since it’s getting difficult to craft it into words. I’ll stop here. Thanks for reading.

I’m Maryam Abdulrasheed the convener of The Moral Code. I love to think, read and write. I love observing and listening to people, I love creating content and I’m an active pursuer of my dreams.

Source - www.themoralcodeng.com

She caught fire on her own after Petrol touched her just like that. Imagine the last thing you do is slap your mother and then burn to death.

Sighs.

slyfox35:
I bet if someone opens your cupboards,your dirty linen will push the door out,everyone to you is a sinner and has not met Jesus
Why do you judge everyone?
I'm not a strong Christian,but I believe most of us here are better than you with your holier than thou attitude

Why beefing! I'm not a Christian, I'm not into all these musicians Yada Yada either, but this person isn't attacking anyone or you. They are stating their beliefs and you are being the attacker.

Does the person's comment make you feel one kind one way, because I equally don't like people that like shouting are you holy, don't judge, I'm sure you are worse bla bla bla! Some people are exactly what they Say and preach.

If you don't like what they are saying, maybe you should check yourself on the inside very well.

TallNigerian:
The bitter truth is that for except for some specialised agencies of government, the core civil service creates room for dearth of career, complacency and mediocrity. The problem with switching to MNCs or private organisations is that my current work experience is in conflict with my discipline. There is so much redundancy in the civil service and sometimes, no clear job description. I will consider your submission too ma'am. Thank you.

hmmmm... True all you've said. And other organizations really want to see experience aligned with field of study and training.

What are your values and inner aspirations, if they align with going abroad, that may be best, or you come up with a one or two years plan to gather resources, or maybe start doing on the side what aligns with your discipline so you have some experience, after all the civil service gives a lot of free time or just take the advice on taking a study leave or something to go sail the abroad waters if it doesn't work, ur job remains.

Sad o! Many want to leave. Some of us want to stay and fix things in our small way.

Na still we country. But once you even begin to debate staying or leaving. Just leave. The salary structure here is just ridiculous. You have another option though. Move to a more likely well paying job, it wnt be in government tho. Ur skills might be needed in multinationals etc. who pay way better. Or you move to a different career path entirely. The government jobs hold no awe for me, no growth everything dull and slow.

For some of us, we no dey even reason am. Every one can't leave afterall.

Nonsoboy4life:
To demarcate whether na male or female...it will be double tragedy if na woman de bully op

Haahahahha! I see! Male cousin too will do, that cousin brother thing always sounds like Nollywood Local!

So his parents allow him beat up everyone in sight. Once Lockdown is over, you only need to insist to ur parents that you are not going back. Simple.

Seems you are really young. And what do people mean when they say cousin brother or cousin sister. Cousin is Cousin na.

Valid worries. But you might want to rework number 6. That is a wrong way of thinking. Why are ladies so afraid of reaching their late 20s or 30. It will push you to take illogical decisions.

This is your decision to make, you know heywnt change. So if he won't it's either you leave or make the changes you want yourself, make your own money, to balance what he doesn't have, but you run the risk of a man's ego harassing you.

You do for them, they will say is it because you do this and that, you don't do for them na wahala.

Nobody can decide for you. Sit yourself down and ask yourself questions about the future. And stop tensioning yourself about when you marry or you go enter express.

KingsJohnson:
Lol! Funny World

No wonder Nigeria is still where we are today in the name of minding one's business


Op do not listen to people telling you to mind your business; your job is at stake here because of their actions and inaction which failure of you to report to the MD or appropriate authority might bring a lot of regret to you in the future.

So do not allow yourself to be part of their criminal act by the world's opinion of minding your business, speak out today and be free, beside, you owe yourself, MD and company a duty to report such actions.

Word!

Fabulouzjoseph:
For me minding your business is the best.
Na thief they know im fellow thief you might incriminate yourself while trying to report them

I have seen where people put their self in trouble for trying to help others.

in simi's voice: mind your business wether you no like am mind your business.

Which business is he minding. Na wicked person you be, you go employ people wey go run down ur business too. The job is his business, the day madam will park all of them to prison, he'll follow.

Number 8 kinda laughable. The usual promises. Common palliatives they couldn't provide Nigerians.