mugnmuffin: Dear Nairalanders, I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, iacknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.
Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.
At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...
Don’t allow people confuse you. Your concerns are in order. He’s behavior towards God may improve or deteriorate with time, we don’t know. However, God is the one that changes men, he can transform the most rebellious person. Paul is any example. It’s not to late to go back to God in prayer. Remember the star guiding the wise men stayed in place waiting for them even when they strayed from it. Our God is a merciful Go!
My advice is, if he’s a honest man and has the fear of God even though he hasn’t given his life to Christ, then stick with him. He will change with time.
Igbudu1: not necessarily effizy ,but for resale value ..
moreso writing numbers on the vehicle would not prevent snatching ...
Which resale value? Is it not when you have a car that you will resale? Yes, it won’t stop car snatching but it will make recovering of the car a lot easier.
Wickedness of a man’s heart. You keep people stagnated just because you don’t want them ahead of you. Look at the stars up in the skies at nigh and learn. The shining of one star doesn’t prevent the shining of the other. And as my Mum will say, if you are the only rich man in a family or
Your life is worth more than 700k and the embarrassment that comes with a “damaging sms” If you kill yrself, they will still send the message to yr contact. Your memory will be a shameful one and the stigma on your family will almost be indelible. My advice Prepare and bear the shame and dig yourself out of the mess. We all have battles, this is yourself. SOLUTIONS TO OUR INDIVIDUAL PROBLEMS LIES WITHIN THE CYCLE OF PEOPLE HE/SHE KNOWS. Think very well. Pray, las las, you will be fine.
Kondomatic: I had a few opportunities when I was the co-admin of PH Sex Life but I turned them down.
I have not done it.
And I will never do it.
It was during my time there that I got to know how easily some married women sleep around, especially the ones their husbands are living in a different or abroad.
As appealing as it seems to me, I would never indulge in it. It’s a trap with way too many long term negative consequences. The devil will fight for your soul if you try to leave.
Hanibbal: Why are all these G.O grooming their children to be pastors so that they can take their place after they are gone? Christ ministry is now a monarchical and personal business run as corporation. This is what happens when you have made so much money with the name of christ and the thought of ceding the ministry/corporation to a person who has no link to the family scares our G.O like a nightmare.
A simple search about you succeed Bishop Oyedepo with answer your question. The information dates back almost 35 year. He recently reiterated same and was even posted on Nairaland.
The pen has to die too nah. Na good work e do? E don finish work be that. Having signed or indicated the end of a life, the nib is broken so that the pen cannot be reuse.
Indeed common sense is very hard to find and shouldn’t be expected from shallow minded people. Maybe he should be asked 1)if Nigerian living abroad don't have families that are victims of insecurity back home in Nigeria, 2) or is there a law that prohibit them from having investments that are under threat back home. 3) Is he excluding Nigerian living abroad from having a say about their country? Even non Nigerian have spoken out so loudly about the happenings in Nigeria. 4) What qualified him to represent his people, does he reside in the village? I bet he goes there on very few occasions out the campaign season. We have weighty issues on our hands and a so called leader is trivializing it on the basis of location.
Las las, nothing meaningful should be expected from these bunch.
nedekid: Problem writing your number on every part of the car is that it reduces the value. Unless you never plan to sell the car. Who will buy a car and then fix his new number plate while the privious owners number is tattooed all over the car?
Seems some people are bent on collecting the small money Yayaha Bello has stolen through deception. He should go and a certain Peter from River’s state the outcome of such mistakes.