Please I sincerely need your help in terms of advice and counselling.
I am a young man in my mid thirty, has a beautiful wife and 2 kids. I have about 32 staff working for me. Just recently, December to be precise I started developing an emotional attachment to one of my staff. I told her I want her to join me to see a movie and she said she was travelling and she won't be around but January was fine. I knew she was avoiding the outing so I bought a ticket to the movies and sent it to her she never showed up and I didn't call her until work resumed on January 4th and I asked why she didn't come for the movies and she apologise that she was busy.
I told her we can go see the movies now since she initially wanted January, she said she can't that she doesn't want to be seen with a married man, and besides my wife is nice to her and also she doesn't want any girl with her husband when she eventually gets married so she won't want to be with anyone's husband that I belong to someone else.
I told her I don't want sex from her, all I want is from her is a squish relationship. she practically turned it down that she can't because she will be hurt in the end because belong to someone else.
Honestly, I felt hurt because I truly love her. I am more emotionally drawn to her even more than before. We spend considerable time chatting every day and on phones in the evening till night after the day's job. She is not so comfortable spending time in my office as she told me the day I was not in the office everyone kept asking after the boss from her and she felt embarrassed and asked them why can't call to know why I am not in the office.
she said we should please remind her the way it is, just chatting and phone calls and she can't afford to be seen around with a married man.
I really love her and I feel hurt as she is turning me down. I wish I can stop loving her, I really don't know how to stop loving her as I really wish not to hurt her.
Please I need the mature minds here to help give workable suggestions.
please Move to front page
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Your wife is in the best position to help you get this girl.
pocohantas: Typical Nigerian man. Every good thing they have to offer is for the sidechick. Trip to Dubai is for sidechick, perfume is for sidechick, bohemian wig is for sidechick.
That is how one left his wife and went to smoke loud in a hotel with a 300L girl.
I am sure this one took his wife out last in 2004 when he was chyking her, but he is here trying to surprise a small girl with a movie date, while his wife and mother of two kids is at home in a hair net and bongo shorts, running after two hyperactive children.
By 6pm she would start preparing dinner for the head of the house. Unknown to her, she is refuelling the energy he would use to continue pursuing 200L girls all around the federation.
You don’t want sex from her indeed. Your wife that you want sex, submission and homemaking skills from, why you no take her for movie date?
Recently, I found myself getting more interested in understanding the human emotion. Superficial knowledge on some subjects in Affective Science has been helpful, but hasn't satisfied my quizzes.
Envy is a dangerous emotion. When it comes, impale it, lest it transcends to jealousy. You weren't born to take a life, you didn't even resolve to it, but these emotions will overpower you and hand you a saber. They're things of the mind, and the mind is in control of you.
Again, downplay your achievements if you must. You don't want to arouse envy; you don't want to end up watching your back forever.
"Envy is the price which all distinction must pay." ——— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Dagah2: Who ever fetches ant infested woods shouldn't cry when the lizards start their own job. He started the zoom whatever and was actively calling people and promoting it... He can't win the banks as he has no right to any of the names, whether Peter, Psquare or Okoye.
Hisbah21: i dont agree,we have so many tribes to even start that. alot of confusion will happen. There are states with morethan 59 ethnic groups..English Language moderates alot of things in Nigeria.. National assemblies for instance,which tribe will be spoken there? no one will agree to speak others tribe, even if he agrees,he cant understand. the same thing will happen if we are taught in our tribes. There are some groups will less popularity and can hardly understand the majority tribes
This!
I tried reading BBC Igbo the other day I had to slow down my reading to a crawl in other to comprehend.
Beyond the different local languages, we also have a million dialects.
RodgersAkpafu: How many oil companies are owned by people without certificate?
Let's start from the beginning...
I'm sure you know Chevron, Exxon and BP.
John D. Rockefeller didn't have a certificate. But he founded Standard Oil which was later broken up into 34 companies by the US Supreme court for monopoly reasons.
Chevron, Exxon and Sohio (now part of BP) are part of those 34 companies.
Adjusted for inflation, he is the richest American in history.
Closer to home, Mrs. Alakija's training is as a Secretary...you know shorthand and typewriting, but she owns Famfa Oil.
A certificate is a worthless piece of paper when it comes to business.
Many founders also have certificates, but there's no relationship between their success and their certificate.
hibeebeeking: That's the truth. Someone said who certificate help? Go to federal , state and local government and see how certificate[b] help them . Do you think you can work in oil company without a cert?[/b] Go to school and master your field to be one of the best.
But you can own an oil company without a certificate.
tsinzu: The Arab noisemakers and their foolish supporters keep making online noise while Israel bombs them anyhow with no repercussion. Let one foolish Arab country just get mind drop a bomb on Israel, I wan check something.
They should keep an eye out for the future. Dominance doesn't last forever.
Remember the Japan of the 40s?
Today, China can wipe them out in an afternoon.
With the advent of cheap, mass-produced, low-flying suicide drones, Isreal cannot keep up with being at war with their neighbours.
The best time to make peace is now they have the upper hand.
MNDY: The cases we witness and hear of everyday have shown that woman likes and enjoys trouble very well. As emotional beings, women don't know how to control their emotions and that is where trouble comes out very well. Men love PEACE OF MIND.
Women don can't control their emotions is a fallacy!
Go to bank and insult one of those cashiers or customer service reps. Guess how they'll respond...politely, or with silence.
They only behave badly where there's no consequence.
ThiagoKid: "My girlfriend called me from office to come and fetch bathing water for her. I had to do it for peace to reign."
"I don't want any rancor between my wife, and i, so i had to beg her for sex. I did it to allow peace to reign."
"I had to watch all the dishes in the kitchen to allow peace to reign. I dont want my wife to wake up, and be shouting."
The abovementioned phrases are nonsensical and insha allah! Wtf? See bro, if your wife doesn't want peace herself, why don't you take the vawulence back to her? Abi iro palapala wo niyen?
Why can't she allow peace to reign by compromising on her stand? Why must it be you? Osheeey, peacesetter.
See, i already preinformed my wife that: If she nag, i'm sending her back to her father's house. If she cheat, to her father's house If she discomfort my mom/siblings, to her father's house.
I'm doing you a favour getting married to you. So?
Peace ko, wee-wee ni!
"I am not a preacher of love...I'm a war, I'm a fight, I am Indabosky!"