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Sagamite:
Yes, but the argument put into law and normally quoted for awarding a spouse (usually a woman) ridiculous amount of money is that she is used to a certain level of lifestyle that the divorce should not reduce.

Then she goes and calculate, how much holidays, nannies, pedicure etc she needs and how much they cost before the courts orders the man to pay for these.

The bolded is now the ridiculous assumption by most women and they can't even understand why it should not be the case.

They are like that is the way it is and it should be because that is how it is now.

This is the most ridiculous thing ever.

If you want to maintain your lifestyle, stay married by all means like my Nigerian sisters.

You CANNOT eat your cake and have it.

Expect a wife is an housewife or the couple built an empire together, I cannot wrap my head around the need for divorce settlements.

Does the husband still get to enjoy the wife's food and care?

Or What exactly is the purpose of the settlement?

This looks like an interesting thread.

Let me stop here

Fhemmmy:
The wife over-worked herself and who is to be blamed for that? I have told ladies that "Dont entertain what you wont in a marriage while you are dating, put all coins in the table and both have a serious talk before you say "I DO"" but most ladies wanna just marry by fire by fire and hope to change the man once you become his Mrs.

You cannot compare the responibilities in dating to marriage na especially when kids start coming although I agree that a lot of people do not necessarily go deep during courtship.

I think the cultural belief that a woman is solely responsible for building the home while the husband is a sleeping financial partner (never mind that women contribute a lot financially to the home) is a very serious problem.

Rather than look for the next lady to cheat with, why doesn't the husband in the OP really drill down and look for a permanent solution to the problem?

OK, wifey doesn't have time for him because she is overworked/ cannot prioritize/ lays too much emphasis on mundane tasks/ cannot multitask etc.

What is the solution? Take the kids to school myself/get a maid/clean up immediately/ help her prioritize/ pick up some/more chores/ teach her how to delegate etc.

To what end? Spending more time together and having more quality time/sex/discussions together etc.

Yes, some women are Jezebels however how many women will you tell.... Babe, I noticed we don't spend much time together in bed/watching a movie/to talk etc. due to chores and the kids. I am thinking we should stop/I pick up etc. that they will not appreciate?

If he spends half the time he used in courting and nurturing the relationship with his side babe to nourish his marriage, don't you think it would blossom more?

IMHO, anyone who under the guise of 'my spouse is not meeting my needs' cheat is indirectly saying I am no longer interested in this marriage because cheating never solves any problem

I just watched Dumebi and Bitter leaf Cynthia which buttresses my point.

Dumebi wanted above all her husbandman's love and admiration and went about it in funny ways.

Instead of her husband to channel her need into good, he was ready to throw the towel and cheat

Not very Frank will be fortunate enough to meet a reformed Cynthia to do his work; often times, he has to do his work himself.

cococandy:
Must you add 'fat' ?

That was the first thing I saw

montezz:
Hmmmmmm. Naija men? Let them come and answer the kwension o

Abi na

Exponental:
You meant to say every year was, is and will always be like that.

Lolz

Extremely correct

SAMBARRY:
......

This quote is very very powerful.

bennyrazz:
is it really bukatyne that typed all this? so people do change afterall

So funny I forgot to laugh

Don't worry, I will change back when I point out the faults of men in a situation.

Na today?

I know the perfect Nigerian wife or is it the sweetest is one who never see your wrongs.

And no, I did not type it.... They are several husbands' responses to a survey carried out by the referenced website.

Timbuktou:
Nah, we couldn't care any less what's going on in her head and mind. She's got the option of transformer loving or lagoon diving if she's unsatisfied.

Well this is the result gotten from a survey carried out agmonst several American husbands.

Towncrier247:
Sent in by a blog reader...

Yesterday evening, I visited my aunt who is nursing a baby at Akute, Lagos. I felt like having a cup of milk, i went to the fridge and found out that her tin of milk was empty. I asked her if she had any more available, then she pointed to a cup on her dining table and told me she had some in it. She told me I could add some Bournvita if I wish. So I added the bournvita to the milk on her table. I gulped it down then noticed the taste was different. I told her about the different taste, and then my aunt burst into a big laughter. She told me it was her breast milk she pressed into the cup shortly before I arrived at her place. She said that it was breast milk i just mixed with the bournvita. I know my aunt is always up to all sorts of jokes and mischief, but this wasn't funny to me at all.

I feel something wasn't just right about her action. I feel like reporting her to my mum but I also don't know what her reaction might be and at the same time I hope I'm not over reacting. Is my aunt's action wrong or just a joke I should ignore? Pls advise me, but I cringe each time I remember. I am 18 years old.

www.newseveryhour.com/2015/12/right-or-wrong-see-what-my-aunt-did.html

Your aunt's actions was extremely wrong and certainly NOT a joke.

Tell your parents immediately and go for serious prayers.

MrsPhyno:
The person who wrote this is talented ........

Men that cheat need to be castrated

Very

Fhemmmy:
I think if you look through the write-up, there is already solutions there . . . read through very well and the side babe thing will be reduced (Can't be eradicated)

I don't think the wife over-working herself is an excuse to cheating though.

As per solutions, the end is too flat joor.

If that would solve it, why didn't he suggest it earlier?

RiloKiley:
Well, is it possible the man gave up easily cos he was tired of the whole thing and secretly hoping to get caught?

Lolz at secretly hoping to get caught

vilight:
Great buildup but d end fell flat
I was expecting something huge...maybe more drama...he cave in too quickly except prob he had oda plans...

@ Post especially bold abi....

I was expecting more drama

RiloKiley:
Ballet classes? Violins? Seychelles?



Very interesting writeup though, I was hooked from the start. However I think this lady's envious imagination ran off with her on some points. A man doesn't have that much time for a side chick to be that romantically involved.

Great read though.

The wife is the one doing the school runs

She does have a great imagination.

somez:
Awwwww.... So stealing and using this lines tonight. *modified* is lalasticalala sleeping?

Thanks and welcome.

Okay, there we have it....

So Nigerian husbands, can you relate with them?

Source: http://www.thedatingdivas.com/marriage-101/10-things-husbands-wish-wives-knew/

[size=13pt]#10– That Sometimes I Just Like to be Left Alone[/size]
Sometimes I just want to relax.

That we sometimes need FIVE MINUTES to decompress when we get home. Then we are all yours.

I wish my wife truly understood that sometimes I actually have nothing going on in my head.

Men just want to be left alone sometimes. There are times that I want to be left alone to be quiet, angry, or upset. You don’t need to know what I’m thinking all the time.

I wish she would understand that sometimes I like to just relax and be left alone after a long day at work. I’m not trying to be lazy.

I wish she knew that I need a break and need to just rest sometimes. I don’t feel like I can without getting nagged.

That as much as we love being with you, sometimes we need our own time to unwind and relax, whether it’s playing video games, working in the garage, or going shooting.

Sometimes we just need to be left alone. We (at least myself) know certain projects on the to do list NEED to get finished or started…. but what is URGENT to her may not be urgent to us.

If you can feel your man’s love in most other capacities, do you really need to make him sit down and verbally communicate every 5 minutes?
When we talk about a man cave it is not to get away from you for negative reasons but just a spot where we can pass gas, be immature, and watch sports with no judgement.

Ha ha ha! That last answer cracked us up!

If you’re dying to know which question came in at #11 and almost made the top ten cut…



[size=13pt]#11– That Sometimes I’d Like for Her to Try My Interests and Hobbies[/size]
We husbands like to engage in your activities but y’all should make an effort to like our activities too.

I’d love for my wife to be my weekend caddy.

I wish my wife knew that surfing is fun.

Activities together are important. I wish she’d try something new with me.

My wife does the things the kids want to do with them, but not what I want to do with me.

And just for kicks… here’s our favorite, funny response…
It’s cool that we’re comfortable enough to use the bathroom with the door open, but you should really keep that door closed.

[size=13pt]#8– That Her Words Matter[/size]
I wish my wife knew how tremendously powerful her voiced opinion is to me. When she compliments me or is impressed by something I’ve done, I soar for days. When she critiques my faults and nags about my shortcomings, I go in a hole for days. Anyone else could say the exact same words and they wouldn’t carry nearly the same weight. But what she thinks about me matters so much to me.

A wife has the power to motivate or demoralize her husband. Please choose words and actions wisely.

I guess what I wish for my wife is that she would build me more often through the things she said. Telling me specifically things she loved about me. It means so much when I do hear those things.

Please pay close attention to how you treat your husband in front of other guys. If you build your husband up in front of other guys, it counts for double. If you tear down your husband in front of other guys, it hurts twice as much.

I wish she knew how often she speaks down to me and how small and undesirable that makes me feel.

When you say things you don’t mean but you still say it, it still hurts.

I wish she knew that I actually have feelings.

I wish she knew that sometimes I need to be told that I look hot, or handsome, or sexy too.

I wish wives knew that when they complain about their husbands (to friends, family, etc.) it makes the husband look bad but they never seem to approach him on these issues.

Don’t compare me to your friends’ husbands.




[size=13pt]#9– That Sex Matters[/size]
Sex is NOT just sex. It makes me feel loved.

Yes, I do think a lot about sex. When we have sex, I feel more connected to her.

I wish my wife knew that it’s not a bad thing that I think about sex a lot. It means I think about HER a lot. Why is that wrong?

Intimacy is a big key to my happiness and well being. She is the only person I can turn to for intimacy and it hurts when it is not on her list of importance.

Just understand that when we know you aren’t in the mood for sex specifically and you sometimes have the attitude of “Fine, let’s just do it and get it over with”, it makes us feel like you aren’t desiring US! We would rather have you tell us you are just too tired and let’s try again in the morning.

That physical intimacy coupled with words of affirmation is an important way to help me to feel loved and needed in a relationship.

The best way to love me is to be responsive to sex.

Sex will almost always beat sleeping! It’s that important to me.

I wish she understood how strong of a sex drive that I have. I do not know why I am wired the way I am, but I truly do continuously and always desire her. I don’t know why that isn’t flattering to her?

I wish she knew that sex should be fun not dreaded. She treats it like a chore on her to-do list instead of having fun with it. I don’t want to be a chore to her.

I wish my wife knew how important sex is for me. Men by nature are not the best communicators when it comes to talking so it is hard for us to verbally communicate our feelings. For a lot of men we let our feelings and love show through actions and touch. In my wife’s mind we need to talk about things, in my mind instead of having a long drawn out conversation… let me show you how much I love you. Let me touch you, let me make you feel my love through my touch. (When I say touch I don’t always mean sex) but sex is a very important part of marriage.
For me, making love to my wife is the closest we can possibly be, two bodies join together physically to become one, at that time the only thing that matters is the two of us. At that time we are connected on a level that I can’t show anyone else. When you take away our ability to touch our wives, you take away our ability to communicate clearly. Now I do know that there are many ways to communicate besides touch and sex, but I also know I am much better at communication through actions and touch than words.

[size=13pt]#6– That I Want to be Appreciated[/size]
I wish wives knew just how much the role of father and provider is being trampled on these days and just how important it actually is.

I go to work every day not for me, but for my wife. So she can be provided for and doesn’t have to go to work herself. It would mean a lot to me if she showed appreciation for that. I feel it is something taken for granted rather than appreciated. I also wish she could understand that her appreciation, love, and intimacy is a big key to my happiness.

That husbands need to feel appreciated by their wives for what they do.

Sometimes, life is hard. Work can be hard. Responsibilities can be hard. But when you know that your wife is on your team, it makes a world of difference. Thanks for being so supportive!

I want my wife to be proud of me.

I ultimately want to be loved for who I am now instead of what I could be. Often I don’t feel loved because she expects more than I can deliver. If I feel loved now unconditionally and it shows from her, than it makes me want to be better and ultimately become who she wants me to be in long run.

There have been several decades of men being devalued and marginalized. Being valued for our masculine gifts is rare and appreciated. The simple ‘thank you’ and a kiss on the cheek can keep up our spirits for quite some time.

Not to keep score and rub it in. Yes, moms do a great service – one of the greatest and hardest services in society. But husbands put in a lot of energy in their jobs to make it possible for wives to stay home and do their jobs, but my wife sometimes forgets that.

The intentional displays of respect to your husband will do more to buoy him as a husband and father. We want to do all we can for our family, even more when we know it is appreciated.

Fathers and husbands have an incredible obligation of not only being a provider like fathers and husbands were a generation ago, but there are more demands to be more involved in housework, raising children, and day-to-day tasks than ever before.



[size=13pt]#7– That Positivity is Attractive[/size]
Be positive! Be grateful, our life is already wonderful. You are already beautiful, act like it. Our kids are already angels, enjoy them. Our lives are blessed. Stress less, be grateful.

If you want your husband to like you and like being around you, be pleasant and positive. Don’t nag and complain.

Kindness is the key. In actions, words, and looks. We want to hear good things. I’ve heard there should be three positive statements for every one negative.

Instead of focusing on a single flaw in the picture, take a step back and look at the entire picture as a whole. If women analyzed the whole picture instead of a single flaw sometimes that flaw wouldn’t be as big of a deal. Look for the good in us and in life. Not the bad.

Negativity is ugly. I married you because you were pretty.

One of the main reasons I married my wife is she doesn’t get offended, she doesn’t hold a grudge, and forgives my shortcomings. She also communicates openly and honestly and positively. I see too many women that don’t forgive, don’t give the benefit of the doubt, and hide their true feelings until they come raging out.

When my wife is happy, I am happy.

My wife’s mood has a huge effect on my mood. It’s hard to be positive when you’re around someone who is negative. But it’s also easy to be happy when you’re around someone who is smiling and laughing.

My wife is never more beautiful than when she is smiling at me. (And I love when I am the reason for that smile)

When I’m at work at all day, I’m surrounded by unhappy, negative people. I look forward to coming home to a happy home.

[size=13pt]#4– That Hints Don’t Work[/size]
Hints don’t work well with us. Be direct!

No, I can’t read your mind. Just tell me what you want.

Husbands are simple creatures. We can’t read minds.

I know you like being surprised with romantic gestures, but it’s really hard when I’m not creative and have no idea what your expectations really are. Just tell me what you want and I’ll move heaven and earth to make it happen. Why isn’t that romantic?

I wish my wife knew that something doesn’t have to be a surprise to be romantic. It’s romantic because I made a choice to love you the way you want to be loved.

Men aren’t complicated. Just tell us what you want. Don’t hint at it. Tell us. And please don’t complain about our shortcomings to others without even telling us what you expected to be done in the first place.

I wish wives knew how to communicate directly. If you’re unhappy with something I’m doing- tell me! Don’t tell your sister, mom, or friend.
If you want something just tell me. Doesn’t matter if it’s something you want to buy, a gift you want to receive, a place you want to go, or a date you want me to plan- just tell me. I’m probably not going to figure it out on my own.

Tell your husband how you want him to react when you are venting. Don’t make him guess or figure it out. Otherwise you both get frustrated with each other.

Tell us when you only want us to listen. We men are always in fix it mode so any problem brought to our attention starts drawing out a solution from our heads. If our wives could say that their problem is that they only need a listening ear for this problem we can fix the problem by being that listening ear. That makes us happy because we are a part of the solution and didn’t get in trouble for offering a improper solution. Our wives would be happy too because they got the listening ear. If we ask, they want the listening ear or a solution it can come across as condescending.

[size=13pt]#5– That I Want to be Her #1[/size]
You married me first before the kids.

I want to be the most important thing to her. There is a lot on her plate but I often feel like I’m a long way down the list.

Our children require a lot of her attention. I would LOVE for her to set some time apart for just me.

Wives are too over-scheduled and distracted with many different activities in life. I wish I was on her to-do list.

Men love to be very important to and wooed by their wives. Men don’t want to be the pursuer and initiators all of the time.

Yes, I always want to fix your problems. Sorry if it’s annoying, but I just want to be your hero.

I’m your husband but I also want to be your best friend.

I don’t need anything fancy – I just want your company. Everyone else gets your time. Can I?

When we first started dating and got married I felt like I was her world. Now I wonder if there’s room in her world for me.
She is the most important person to me in the world. I want to feel like I’m the same for her.

[size=13pt]#3– That I am Trying[/size]
I am a long ways from being the perfect husband and father but I am trying, so keep being patient!

I wish she knew that I really want to please her, in all ways. I always try and I don’t mess up on purpose.

I wish wives knew that their husbands would move the earth for them but sometimes we do not know how to convey it.

I absolutely adore her I just seem to find it difficult to bring the message across, particularly in the area of birthdays and special occasions.

I wish my wife knew how much it hurts when she gets upset with me. I don’t try to upset her but sometimes it happens and I feel badly about it. When she gets upset I fee badly about upsetting her and also with myself for doing whatever stupid thing I did.

I wish my wife knew more patience. I’m trying.

I think that when women imagine the perfect husband and father and what they hope we will become it is often an unrealistic expectation that is influenced by media (romantic comedies, etc.) We try to be romantic but we just aren’t flowing with it all the time!

I am not a very good conversationalist. It always seems that I say the wrong things or that every word is being analyzed. I then feel pressured to choose my words wisely so they can’t be interpreted in any other way. I’m trying. But I feel like I can’t win.

I wish she knew how much I worry about our future and my ability to provide for her the life I know she deserves.

Men like to hear about your feelings but can you not misconstrue what we say or complain when we have something to say. We’re trying to communicate but we need you to listen too.

When I said forever in my vows I meant it and I intend to do my best to make it a great forever

[size=13pt]#2– That She is Beautiful & Amazing[/size]
I wish she knew how beautiful and wonderful she really is… even though she doesn’t believe me.

I wish she understood how I see her. She is a wonderful beautiful person but often has a hard time seeing that.

I guess I wish she knew how beautiful she is. As much as I tell her she just doesn’t get it. I think she is incredibly sexy.

I wish she knew how truly beautiful she is to me. I wish she could see my feelings because I don’t express them well. I love her more than I know how to explain or show.

Every time I tell my wife she’s beautiful and sexy, it’s usually met with a skeptical scoff. I wish she knew I tell the truth and think she’s the most beautiful woman in the world.

I wish my wife knew that she doesn’t need to do everything perfectly. She does so many things amazingly that she believes that everything she tries needs to be perfect. I don’t like that she gets down when she messes up on one thing.

How I feel and think in my mind about her. How grateful I am about the little things even if I don’t always show it.

You are better than you think you are. Thank you for being so gracious. Thank you for your help with the small things and for your input.
I wish she knew how important she is to me. Her self esteem holds her back, she’s capable of so much more. Women are amazing. I have grown so much because of my wife and am very grateful for all that she does for our family.

She doesn’t have to be the “perfect mom.” Every other mom has difficult challenges, too. No, they don’t “have it all together”. They are figuring it out just like you. Stop comparing yourself. You’re enough just the way you are.

That I can achieve much, much more than I can ever imagined with her help, support, and love. Every time I feel alone, insecure, incomplete, and insignificant she reminds me through her being there physically and spiritually that I am none of those things.

[size=15pt]“I Wish My Wife Knew…”[/size]

#1– That I Love Her
1. How much I love her…how much I crave a look, a touch…even a hand on my shoulder.

2. I love my wife dearly! I can’t imagine what life would be like without her nor do I want to. I just wish she could tap into my brain and understand how I feel about her.

3. That I loved her more than anything.

4. I wish she knew how much I really love her.

5. If there is only one thing I could make my wife understand it would be how much I love her. I don’t know if words can every really do my feelings justice.

6. That I love her and that I am so happy being married to her.

7. You know how you can tell someone you love them? Well if only my wife knew how much I TRULY love her.

8. How much I really love and care about her. At times I don’t give her my complete attention, distracted by the TV or my phone. Guys usually don’t multi-task well so I think sometimes she might feel ignored which is not cool. I want her to know that I’m sorry if I ever hurt her feelings or have ever made her feel ignored. I love my wife so much! She deserves the very best.

9. How much I love her and how sorry I am for the times that I have ever hurt her. I wish I could take back the times that I ever hurt her feelings.

10. That I love her more than words can describe. I thought I loved her when I married her but the love grows bigger every day. I never imagined I could be so happy.

This article captures perfectly my take on 'side chicism'...

The ending/solution; another tory!

I found this VERY INTERESTING.

Side Chick, Mistress, The other woman; She is that girl who shares your man or worse enjoys your man more than you do. . She is the one your man pings early in the morning just to tell her “Good Morning Beautiful”. When he is with her, he is this cool guy who knows all the cool joints in town, they both sing along to Dorobucci on the radio. She is the one he takes along when he goes on business trips. It is just more convenient, she doesn’t have to think of who to leave her children with, besides she is more fun, she is the one he does acrobatic sex with, the girl who has enough time and energy to match his libido. You on the other hand are the wife, the one he has “married sex” with – the ” flam-bam-bam-yawn-are we done yet” type.

Yes he comes home to you every night but how is that going? Does he still hold you close to him every night, do you guys still play and fight under covers or does he turn his back to you and acts like he is too deep asleep to notice you have been tapping him. Yes he still buys you stuff, bags, perfumes, dresses and stuff, that’s if you are lucky though but then he buys them to ease his conscience after he and the side chick has spent a whole day shopping or worse. If the side chick is the “nice” type, she makes him buy them for you. She goes “Baby, This perfume is nice, your wife will like it”, “She doesn’t need it.” he responds frowning because he is a bit uncomfortable his mistress is picking a gift for his wife but she prevails on him.

But then I have news for you, this side chick, she usually doesn’t want to take your place, She has a boyfriend or even a fiance and so has no desire to chase you away. No, it’s only learners that operate that way. The wise side chicks are comfortable being just that, they even add you as a friend on Facebook, and they follow you on Twitter (Trust me, you most of the time don’t know they are your rival). They like the pictures of your cherub faced children, when you post your hubby’s photo captioning it as world’s best husband and gushing about how you love him to bits. They comment on it, they go “Awww, I covet”. (Yes they really covet and errr, they are already getting the better deal).

Some will even buy presents for your kids on their birthdays. You may or may not know the gifts are from them, it all depends on how far gone your husband is in this game. He could act like he got the gift himself or tell you its from this friend or colleague of his; Mrs Lagbaja she really likes the child as he is her son’s birthday mate. You even tell him to call so you can say thanks. Of course the Mrs Lagbaja or Mummy Tamedun is to make you not suspect. Saying Lara or Jennifer my friend wouldn’t have sounded so good.

It’s not like you are totally clueless, some days you ask yourself how come he no longer comments on your hairdo, other days you wonder why he seemed to be impatient or downright mean. It’s Saturday you need to cook three different soups so you could stock the freezer for the week, the floors need to be mopped, the bathrooms cleaned and yes you need to get to the market, not forgetting that you have to take Sisi to her ballet class and Bobo to his Violin lessons. Come evening, you are dog tired and depressed that you have just one more day in the weekend. You smell of Onion, Garlic, Breast milk and baby reflux. You need a hug, you go to dear husband in the Bedroom.

“I am so tired” you say. That’s an opening. You expect to hear “pele baby, why don’t you come lie down here for a while” Instead you hear “What’s that smell?” It’s so horrible, can’t you use a glove or something if you need to cut Garlic or Onions? jeez you can be so annoying.” You have an angry retort on your lips and if you are the no nonsense type, you let off, you give him a piece of your mind, “yada, yada yada”.

Finally your suspicions get the better of you. “I need to know”, you say, so you wait till he is fast asleep and pick his phone to check through (Meanwhile women who want to keep their sanity will not do this no matter the temptation). Your heart rate is 360 beats per minute, yet you can’t stop yourself. You go ahead and boom you get more than you bargained for. Not only is there a side chick, but they are so damn close, he discusses everything with her, he even tells her how much he hates seeing fishnet on your head, he tells her when your six month old had her first teeth, you wince when you read how he tells her he is preparing for work and she goes “Baby be careful o, don’t injure Big Joe with your zipper again, ayam not ready to starve for a week again o”.

You almost had a heart attack. Big Joe? That has to be his ….. “OMG, starve for a week, how often do they do it?” you thought fighting a sudden desire to go stab him to death. But wait oooo, when did he injure Big Joe that you his wife did not know? You check the date of the chat, it was about a week ago and that was when it dawned on you, “won ti gba oko mi” you murmur. “Yeh. I am a housekeeper and mother of his children. This lady is the wife.” Suddenly, it’s clear, you run your fingers through your hair trying to remember the last time you made love or the last time you even had a glimpse of his equipment – “Big Joe”. “O ti pe mehn!” You mumble. You had not made love in over 8 weeks and neither of you had missed it. As for Big Joe, it must be close to a year you saw it last. Lovemaking sorry “meeting your husband” became a middle of the night thing after your second child, no pre-intimacy (ki lonjebe), he just runs his hand over your breasts and you get the message, you spread your legs , he climbs on you and it starts, you feel nothing abi small sha, you are just too fagged out.

It hurts but what can be done? You think of giving him a giving him a big slap on the back to rouse him and demand explanations, but you realize you don’t want that confrontation. Tell Mama? Oh no, you don’t want to do that. No third parties remember. Then you remember someone who wouldn’t tell anybody else; Google! You open the Google search and type “He is cheating, what to do”. There is so much information. Wow!” You say feeling some relief that it’s not just you. Millions of women are in your shoes, there is so much advice to choose from but in the end, it is you who decide on what to do.

First you reply the last message she sent to your husband. It came in after he slept so unread. She tells him to dream of her as she will of him. She says she would be expecting him by 11.am the next day. You reply her “He sure would dream of you darling. However please don’t expect him by 11 tomorrow, he might be late. He has an errand to run for his wife at that same time. Have a nice night dearie.” Your teeth is clenched as you type, yet you derive some satisfaction. This way he will know you know.

So what next? Its morning and you wait for him to say something, you wait to see if he will confront you, but he says nothing. You watch out of the corner of your eyes as he watches you when he thinks you are too preoccupied to notice. Its 10 a.m and he is yet to yake his bath. 10.30 am and still he is on the bed. You don’t offer him food even though you made his own portion. You wait till 11 am and tells him you need to talk to him. He doesn’t respond so you start anyway. You talk about how things had to change, that you need to shed and or share some responsibilities. Henceforth, ballet practice and Violin practice will be his call. Yes, he thought house helps were unnecessary but you need one and intend to get right away, this person will resume at 7am everyday and close at 7pm. Friday nights would be date nights, you two alone anywhere but the house. You intend to go on summer vacation, Seychelles to be precise and he would be coming along. He listens to everything you say and at the end he says. “I am ready to do all you want”. I am sorry Babe”. But you say nothing.


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There is always a mad rush to complete goals we set for ourselves as we approach the deadline... This time, year end.

Last year was like this too.

tivta:
That is the price you pay for eating the forbidden fruit first...

Lols!

The first wife seems happy with it....

That's what matters most.

Afterthought....

What possessed a 19yr old to marry a 60yr old fat man currently married?

NashvilleTN:
Bros,

Take it from me, marry a woman with great character. Such women are increasingly harder to find, so if you have found one. Please marry her. You already love her but you don't feel all excited about her. Even if you go for the one you think you love, that love will not keep you excited about her forever after. Her character will.

A woman with bad character is a no-no for me. Keep the one you have!

I will say he should let her go

The first girl might make him a good wife however, he will not make a good husband.

At the end, the good girl will become a bitter wife and it is back to square one.

How are you?

Longest time

cococandy:
Hey buky
What's up?

Splendid and you?