₦airaland Forum

cococandy:
You can codedly collect your husband's sample and take the child for testing yourself.
If the child is his, then no need to worry. Repent of the adultery (as you seem to have) and move on.

If it's not his, then you just have to tell him. There's really no other choice.
You can't really expect anyone to sincerely say that you should hide such info from him if it happens not to be his child.

The earlier the better too.

Eketem:
You are so hurt and bitter because you are doing eye service. Pretending to do "our wife" then hating her guts. Why can't you honestly draw boundaries? Why would you go to the market four days post partum?

Wives need to be real and stop pretending. You will be doing "Yes sister, Yes Anty" to them why won't they make stupid demands?

lilmax:
don't judge a book by its cover

lilmax:
This is me ......i cannot spot any difference

GMan650:
Is Buhari God? Why will he satisfy everyone? They've not even let him reach half of his tenure before all this stupid talks. Are those arrested falsely accused? Nigeria is more corrupt to the point where you cannot clean it at once.

Even if he wants to arrest his 'alleged corrupt party-mates', that'll be like going against all politicians because Naija politics is composed of 60%APC and 39%PDP and 1%other parties. So how does he wanna win that kinda war against virtually all politicians cos all politicians are corrupt.

byvan03:
Op I feel sorry for you, you wrecked him because he gave you his ATM and you are upset he didn't beat you senseless like some would. You have a man that loves you this much yet you have chosen to be a ******. I feel like bashing you senseless but I won't, must he act like every other man? Who wrote the manual on how a man should act and how well did it work out for them ? Go ahead and end your marriage, update me on your experience with your new found Alfa A-hole.

Eketem:
This is why love and submission go together, a submissive woman won't take the love of her husband for granted.
You are so used to bad men and hearing stupid stories that a man who decided to save himself and be a good loving husband is now annoying to you.

Don't worry I am sure by the time he starts cheating on you and being disrespectful then you will happily come and lament like your mates.

If you had sense you would respect his love.
If you are tired explain gently to him that you are tired why would you refuse him sex for weeks?
If you had sense you would respect him giving you his atm and not spend like a silly woman
If you had sense you will respect his trust not look for him to slap you for coming home late

You are the one with issues, please divorce him so he won't be turn into a monster to satisfy you.

It is frustrated salon women whose husbands are busy drinking and womanising who are your role models silly woman , very annoying

MaziOmenuko:
We guys were all born and programmed like your husband: alas when we started meeting women who burnt us out like a candle, we lost our virtues and turned to what we are now.

Every guy that had not dated a girl before will act like your husband.

glossy6:
It all depend on the angle we look at things. I don't see myself preparing my younger kids for school or church if my 12y and 14 yrs daughters are around but I don't trust my helper to do that because she has a different orientation though a month older than my 12yrs old daughter.

I expect my 12yrs old daughter to clean the dishes and sweep. Kini big deal but send the little girl with you and people will scream blue murder.

I used to wake up my 12yrs old daughter to prepare her younger ones for school & she was resisting. I was surprised to see her set alarm when my 14yrs went to school before her. But sending my helper will bring issues here.

My former helper used to wash clothes but I can't send my little helper to do that but limited her to sweeping and cleaning the dishes and she finds them challenging.

I Went to visit my younger brother and family the other day, I met him cooking as well as feeding his son. The wife was away and the maid was washing. My aburo will wash beans for moi moi within 30mins & it's not a big deal for him. If you see him carrying a baby on his back, you will marvel.

Those are things we learnt growing up with our elder brother and neighbours told us we were being maltreated

Train up a child the way he should go and when he grows up.. ....

Valeree:
this reminds me of a similar incident that happened with our neighbor in our street long ago, but in this case the maid went ahead to marry the madam first daughters fiancé.
it was discovered that anytime the fiance comes to look for the woman's daughter the maid answers the door and starts to chat/flirt with him until the young man fell in love with her and lost interest in the other lady.
it was like a joke until the young man asked her to move in with him and the rest was history. the family was so heartbroken... some people get mind shaa.

babygirlfl:
Thank goodness it's not igando magistrate court this time. even when the story looks igandoish.

Anikishaya:
I tink marriage, don't turn yourself into a career woman o, there is time for everything, u can goan finish ur Msc at your husband's house. Don't forget to seek for God's directive.

dhummystecah:
rara ma. he is a complete gentleman

dhummystecah:
So true, just forward it to my boo.
I don't want any funny attitude after wedlock o

lilmax:
Is there a different behaviour before and after marriage? Or maybe i‘m the gentle and responsible type tho,but there are some acts i dont engage myself into

CuriousGuy1:
Pls guys, im jez curious and i need the comments of matured men to shape my thought.
*I am 24yrs of age and unfortuneately for me, im in love with a 23yrs old.
I say unfortunate because alot of people will say at my age i should be hussling hard and leave women,
But guys, im not flirting i love just this one girl.

*I am a ND graduate of accountancy and presently i am on a 45k pay role working for a construction company as an account clerk.
*my total life savings as i speak to you is fairly above a 100k since febuary where i started working fully, i had my downs at first and i couldnt save more than that.

I still wanna go back to school as i have already enrolled for PT. It wunt take more than 2half yrs. But i am aprehensive
Not that my babe is putting pressure on me but from our communications i could tell she would love to get married before 27.

If i even decide to ignore her expectations, looking at my own life, dear already established men of nairaland.
Can i finish school, as i willbe sponsoring myself, get an apartment, even if its a mini flat, pay bride price and then marry a girl i love in 3yrs or better still before im 30yrs of age? Tho, am more concerned with the 3yrs projection cos the only issue here is money, nothing more.
Please feel free to let me here your view. Thanks

cococandy:
Yam and plantain peppersoup with dry fish and goat meat.
Ukodo as my husband people dey call am.

alterswerve:
I don't believe every man will cheat... What she posted is educative, but she should take back the statement.


People should stop extrapolating from their situation to judge or predict that of others.


I, for one, know more than three men who have been married for more than 20 years and have never cheated. Never cheated!

She should take back that statement. Not every man is like her husband.

*she said she spent decades of her life.. Is it not a 3 decade marriage? That is a gross exaggeration which was typed to hype things..

byvan03:
You married one man only and you think you are qualified to tell us what a man will or will not do?this woman has nothing to offer

Eketem:
These kind of women have convinced themselves that every marriage is miserable.
It was her choice to spend 3 decades with a disrespectful man, her husband is not every man, her story is not everybody's story. I understand she is trying to console herself but she doesn't need to malign men to do that

fleeky:
thank u

bellong:


The immortals don't descend low to rough the mortals...

The hat and sandal is for atonement. Bukatyne, stay away from it else.....

cococandy:
You know maybe the gods have wives.

francis18:
SHUT UP U HYPOCRITE,NOW U WANNA TSALK?
CONTINU TROLLING,WE ALL WILL.

cococandy:
Lol. he's lucky he's on the other side of the Internet.
Na to lie am down for table and spank his bum bum with bathroom slippers.

@hat and sandals.
Pls consult bellong first o.
I no fit wrestle with the gods.

bellong:
I didn't make such deduction... Never believed you are. However, when someone is angry, the right thing to do is to pacify which I did.

And she never said you are Francis18. You all are only making insinuations giving those two cowards opportunity to let you throw jabs at yourselves.

Yes, you have the right to be angry when accused of something you are innocent of. However, you should let sleeping dogs lie.

This can be settled amicably. "Pursue peace with all men...."

Please sheathe your sword