₦airaland Forum

Tell your heart to shut the Bleep up. The heart usually takes a lot longer to heal after a break up.
I think you should do what you think is logically appropriate to you.

Sorry o. you lose me

I am disappointed inside this bogus accusory. Must I dump ar?

Shut up. where is your source ?

That is what I read in her diary.


Should I be upset

Do the only thing you can do: Move on!
Quit holding on to empty hopes. Dude himself even told you to move on.

I think the issue here is that you have found someone you "want" . The selfish part of you wants to hold on to her, but your other half is alerting you to some ensuing compatibility issues that may break out. To be honest with you, yes sure you might coast through the honey moon period with mild arguments here and there. As soon as you settle into a routine or become more familiar with each other, you will most likely get bored of her. You know the challenge you need in a woman and this one you have found doesn't have it.
One terrible mistake you can make is jumping into a relationship with her expecting a change. If it doesn't happen don't be disappointed.

Do not lead her on.

Even if you are, you must resist the urge to tell him you miss him.  The last thing you want to do now is put him back in control.  He might get this arrogant feeling that he has you wrapped around his pinkie.  You have proven to yourself that things get better with time.  No longer are you under the impression that you can't be whole without this person that dominated your life for so many months.   I still think it's sad that this grown man refuses to look past his own selfish life to cleanly break up with you.  No matter how wasted you felt your love was, you have shown that you have more decency flowing through your blood than he does.  You should never feel bad for caring about him the way you did.  He just wasn't the right one.

Yah Monica Lewinsky is such a girl. He doesn't have that same killer instinct and toughness that bird does. I think that's what separates the two. Same thing that separates the Kobe and Jordan from the Lebrons and Wades.

I don't know if the old saying applies, dear, but you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Your ex is stuck in a routine of having drinks or nights out with the boys. It is convenient for him and he is not ready to change that about himself. Do not wait up for him. He might have thought he was ready to turn a new leaf in his life to settle down with you, but he thought wrong. It sucks when you feel like you went out on a limb to put yourself out there for someone who doesn't deserve it. You invested so much time and effort in your relationship for your partner who doesn't really appear to care as much. You are left wondering if it's all your fault, you keep questioning how it went wrong or what you did to chase this person away.

Did you say EX? Pssht. . . just call out of the goodness of your heart to say a happy birthday. If the break up was awful and neither of you have strived to bother maintaining contact, forget him or her.

And I think cutting off contact while pretending that the person doesn't exist is a coping mechanism to help you get past the hard time. He no easy o.

I think there's a blue period.  A period where you are deeply hurt, so you feel the need to ask so many questions because you want closure.  You forget that you are now broken up and this person owes you nothing.  He or she does not have to answer to you.  I know, I know, it hurts.  How could someone just completely permeate your life, come into it, only to suddenly walk out after 7 months or 18 months or how ever long the duration.   But that's the risk you take when you open your heart to love.

Why must one person suddenly have to take on the responsibility for the "two" of you. If she has lost interest in you, don't force her out of it. You would soon be more miserable in your marriage anyhow.

Maybe everything is fine with her. Though you seem to be the one having problems with her behavior, why don't you step up to her about it and ask the questions. The communication line is not dead is it?

I felt the same way about exes. How could these same two people who constantly professed their love for each other every night suddenly go cold ? It's human nature. The scorn of love.

The modify button has been tempo disabled

If you don't want this girl anymore, don't call her again or fill her head with false thought. Be frank! Your feelings are dead and gone.

Buy her a token. The thought is really all that matters.

The point shouldn't be derailed if people would just learn to respect and disagree peacefully with the opinions of others.

DeReloaded:
Um the OBVIOUS point is that if various locations are mixed up. those who are up now, can clean up spam, etc then vice versa or should people expect those living in Naija/UK to do such at 3am/4am when they are most likely sleeping? What does timezones have to do with being biased.

Seriously how hard is this concept for some of you to grasp?  

Why do people just jump the gun instead of trying to understand things?

How does that negate from the point?  What good is it having mods in different locations if they're all biased to a "T", giving you pretty much the same coked up advise about being blameless, instead of calling you out on your wrongs and urging you to find ways to save your marriage.  No mod should be appointed to wreck people's homes.

Who gives a goat about where your mods are located.  Good sense and rationality in your mods matter more.  If you have biased mods who only choose sides without looking carefully at posts, all you have is fucking tyranny.

Whoever is advising this woman I hope is not pampering her or spoiling her rotten with wrong conclusions.

likes this

agabaI23:
It is barbaric for a man to lay his hand on a woman under whatever disguise.
It is evil for a woman to abuse a man and push him over the prespice.
It is easy to take sides in case of a man and wife
But we hardly know the cause of the rife.

The weapon of a man is his strength
The weapon os a woman her mouth
When a man misuses his weapon on his wife he is blamed
To avoid the misuse her mouth should be tamed.

Murder! Murder! everyone cries
He is a monster everyone says
'Should be sent to jail the ladies shout
Let the man be crucified and his breath snuffed out.

What about barrage of hurtful words which kills the heart
what about the disrecpect that scorns his ego
He was imbued with huge ego at birth
No matter how he tries it comes back like echo.


Know this and be wise and your marriage will last
A man wil be nice if his ego is intact
When his ego is lost
He behaves more like a Arrow





Who bears the brunt? YOU.

It takes two to tango. The man did not suddenly decide to knock the wind out of her as an experiment.

sillyboy:
1. . . . . .my husband slapped me twice when i was lying on bed because i asked him why he is sleeping without taking his bath,

I find that difficult to believe. He couldnt have slapped you because of that. Twice for that matter.

2. . . . . . .[/b] i got so angry and insulted him,
You must have really struck a bad chord. What exactly did you say to him, what are the unpleasant stuffs you said?. . . .Am curious. . .lol. Women and their "tolotolo" mouth sha!

like this

onyinye2:
And how did you come up with these assumptions of her??

Then I guess it's safe to say that Ri-ri is spineless.

Nobody should be able to push you to do anything. Whatever happened to walking away? Ignoring them? or kicking the fridge or anyother object? When im angry I break plates, throw glass cups and punch holes in the wall. Vent anyway you can and get over yourself.

Yeah. And nobody should be subjected to verbal abuse.

@spoilt, That's a risk you don't wanna take.

By the way, why has this same strong, indepdenent, money-making, beautiful Rihanna remained with him, as rumors have it

DaPhoenix:
It is rumored that he was cheating on her, she found out and confronted him and then he hit her showing his cowardice like all women beaters do.

By "confront" you mean . . .?  She slapped his phone against his face numerous times? She shoved him?

I refuse to comment any further on this hearsay you have chosen to believe.  Wait until the truths are revealed in the court documents.

spoilt:
She already said herself she was rather insulting. So what? You still have to exercise self control. No matter how much your spouse pushes you , you dont have to resort to violence. After all men have been known to play mumu to their bosses in  the office and even kneel down when told to do so without slapping them.  

When someone feels violated he or she can be pushed to act irrationally.  He was provoked, the anger was manifested in his decision to deliver two blows to her face.

Exactly!  Was he or was he not pushed?  I heard the lady initiated the contact.  People don't just suddenly become violent without propulsion.  Am I advocating for both forms of violence? No! But they should both be held accountable.