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Steverolly:
I'm always open to learning so as not make avoidable mistakes in my small life...
Thing is I'm very cautious of girls I find myself with, and not the lover boy type that is always quick to impress. So it'll take a very unusual case for me not to "lose guard".
Secondly I believe love exists but I've been made to know a man is loved "Conditionally" so there's still love there nah.
Not that it doesn't exist pls.

A conditional love is not love in the purest form... it's a hypergamous inspired love born out of money/wealth, you're still very young, you have a lot to learn, but as a man always know you're the PRIZE, any woman not submissive to your authority should be flinged away!, she's rebellious to your masculine energy, therefore will give you troubles, I might sound harsh but women are born with this pre knowledge of always trying to outdo and subdue men and there authority, even in marriage, they'll try to manipulate, gas light and even emotionally blackmail you, don't fall for it, stand firm on your decisions if you deem it right!, remember man is the PRIZE, if you're on Facebook follow a page called "AllaKaduna Nzeogwu", you'll learn alot about women.

Steverolly:
Seriously man, this last one pain me.
This particular girl is very cool to be with but the more we talk, I just feel bad cos all her talks indicate she has lots of male friends.

I will advice collect your own share and bounce or still keep her as friend, never wife a hoe and a girl everyone in the area has have sex with, you'll be a laughing stock and that indicates you're a SIMPLETON... as a man always know you're the PRIZE!

yrhuhfy113:
Why not focus on your struggling family and forget about ladies till you have enough understanding of how to handle a woman in marriage.

Why not grow
psychologically
spiritually
financially
socially

without DISTRACTION of ladies.

Emotional blackmailing again... do you know him personally!?, why can't girls be modest and live clean Godly life, always seeking for a simp to know how to handle a public toilet, rubbish!

iksman2002:
Bro I think your being insecure or you have low self-esteem.

You're mad!... which kind yeye emotional blackmailing be that!?... make him go marry olosho as wife abi?, all the girls around her she can't pick friends from, na men?, abeg carry this your stupid blackmailing get tha fvck!

OChimex:
Quote me anywhere dude, most times, if you treat women so well, they give you so much and contribute I. Your life so much, it might not be financially, it those things can save you a lot more money. Although a few bad eggs here and there.

Nigerian women!?? 😆 🤣 😂 😹, epitome of stinginess, selfishness and narcissists, Bros no go there 😆 🤣 😂

OChimex:
Guy, I lived in the eastern part of Nigeria then, I was into spare parts business and my office in one of the biggest spare parts market in the east. Guy, I can categorically tell you most marriages are miserable and dead.
Again, working hard and paying bills doesn’t make one die young. Nigerians don’t work as hard as Americans. Ask person wey dey America, yet people live longer here. 80 year old men and women still working so hard because bills plenty.
Anyways, when it comes to living longer, no be women dey kill Nigerian men na lifestyle. Quote me anywhere.
People don’t eat well, don’t take fruits, vegetable, don’t exercise, don’t go for checkup. Don’t take vitamins and supplements, don’t take antioxidants to prevent free radicals, don’t even take vacations to enjoy. And drink stupid beers and spirits like fools. Sex like dogs, and always angry and barks like wolves all the time.

Dude the list plenty.

Hahahaha, you're right on this one, my point is nothing can be done bro, we are too messed up to be fixed, don't make it a woman respecting thing, respect is not productivity, Nigeria wahala too much abeg!

OChimex:
Dude. the reason I come argue here no be say I wan show I know better, but I have lived in both worlds and I can tell you categorically the difference.
Nigerian men are stingy, egoistical, bossy. Believe it or not.
Most households in America, wives drives the most and better expensive vehicles in the family, na their husband buy am most times.
I am yet to see that in Nigeria.
Their wardrobes too, na wives own pass.
Most of my clients here, the guys work, make the money for the family,, the wives are stay at home; when it comes to decisions and payments, they will tell you “let me speak with my wife”
Dude I have never seen it happen in Nigeria.
I tell you my experiences because my job requires me visiting at least 5 homes everyday.
Guy, here your boss walks into you and will be the first to say “good morning to you his employee”
You call an old man sir, he uses the term right away with you because he doesn’t see himself as a boss.

Oh you think I haven't right?... Well I'm not even in Nigeria right now, I have been to 3 main European countries and based in North America now, bros life na give and take and that's the best way to enjoy life, anything other than this is one side losing and the other gaining, I can't indulge in such nonsense!

OChimex:
Western men and women can bear more. There are so many stay at home moms here in America, bro, as well as stay at home dads too. And some split bills, it’s just what works and the situation. They apply common sense
Guy whites are more reasonable and common sense individuals and that’s why their countries work.
There are bad eggs although in women, but there are much more good ones that have been destroyed.
Africa can only grow if they change their stupid mindset and always apply common sense.

The only growth Africa needs is to change from consumers to producers not this respecting woman shit, respect is earned!

OChimex:
Like I said, common sense is not common in Nigeria. There are more dead marriages in Nigeria than in the Western world. People stay in misery of a marriage.
So common sense now, which one is the best, stay in miserable marriage and die miserably or divorce or separate and be happy?
Answer this as a woman.
And I say again, over and over again, no matter how bad it is the western world, there are more worst thing happening in Nigeria.
Dude, let me tell you this, there are more guns in America than humans,
My colleagues have not less than 3 guns each, some kids of 20s. Houses are made of wood. Cars are parked outside.
Then try give more Nigerians guns, make the house there of woods and park expensive cars outside.
Let’s check something.
You will understand who is more mad and damaged.
No society is perfect, but Nigeria is worst

Then raise a foundation to save all the women in miserable marriages, I bet na you go still give up, 😆 🤣 😂, Jesus Christ the saviour,... you're bringing up problems without solutions, it's plain waste of time, BTW how many women are complaining in such marriage!?, if it doesn't favour them, they should leave. Nigeria is bad economy country, men bear the brunt more, reason why men die earlier here, women live to 90s and 100s, baba make men enjoy the authority fully they deserve it 💯

OChimex:
Dude I just listed a caveman-like mentality and behaviors of Nigerians even when they have acquired degrees upon degrees.
I don’t need to do a research, nobody is talking about feminism, I am talking about respect and regard for women.
Feminism is no issue here, because people try to treat women with respects and regards.
Besides, feminism is as a result of mistreatment of women over time.

Women has always been respected in Nigeria, I don't know were you got your own notions women are not respected and treated well in Nigeria, women in Nigeria get freebies, you take a woman out, you pay the whole bills, compared to there western counterparts they're zero, most women in Nigerian have little to no contributions in the financial need of the family, yet Nigerian men bear all these burdens and cater for the family as a man, once a man wants to be heard as the man of the house or takes a second wife everywhere catches fire, Nigerian women have set principles and standards for men, if met they should take whatever comes out of it... it's a give and take world bro!

OChimex:
Dude nobody is talking about a perfect society.
But I can bet you anyways, that whatever bad is in the West is much much worst in Nigeria, just that they sweep it under the carpet. Most married women are in misery called marriage, and die in deep pain. Most men in Nigeria sleeps around like dogs, because their marriage is dead, but they just dey pretend to be in marriage.
I tell you one thing, ask around, no matter how bad a society and human behaviors are in the West, it is far more worst in Nigeria

The west have the highest divorce cases and separations... which do you choose?, women being calm and sticking to there role as women or women showing masculine energy resulting to divorces and separations, the later is a more dysfunctional society filled with psychos, there's nothing to gain in vain wokeness than pains, depression and loneliness, old age will make lots of them miserable!

OChimex:
Dude my statements have nothing to do with corruption. It has everything to do with how much primitive people think and behave despite having education.
You think education enlightens people, not in Nigeria

Nope your statement implies "corruption" not cave like lifestyle!... probably you're contradicting yourself, all I know is that it's a man's world 💯, if women wants equality and to be treated special, they should be able to indulge in the hectic burdens men bear, you're saying Nigeria, I just dey laugh you... do your research even the white men are getting fed up of the feminist shit!, because they've realised its a scam, checkout everywhere on social media, its very glaring... women clocking 30s without suitors, it's a spin back, it's a give and take world, having even the notions that a man and a woman are equal is madness 🤣 😂

UyaiIncomparabl:
Will these women get married to themselves?

No, but at least they should play there own part by living a modest life that will attract eligible suitors, also have something doing like a trade or skill acquisition, not necessarily schooling.

Nyascobar1414:
all these money money syndrome na for naija cos plenty peeps poor, wey youu go ft use money oppress dem.. If na UK wey most people dey comfortable, who for even send your money, nobody for even gv you face sef cos, house dem get, food them get, car dem get..work dey for them.. Unless say you be elon musk... Even woman sef get money..

So no too tok say na money

when you're in Rome behave like Romans lol

OChimex:
Just imagine the last election, professors rigging elections like touts. Go to the hospitals, doctors and nurse behaving like motorpark touts. Look at the courts, the judges sounding lame.
Look at SANs sounding dumb.
Business men and women being dubious. Politicians behaving like common thieves and acting like a god.
The common man roaming the streets behaving like wild animals.
Honestly most Nigerian men are cavemen, very primitive.

Hahahaha 😆 😂 🤣, still rife in the west, we've seen corruption everywhere in the world

UyaiIncomparabl:
And the man? Oh, only the woman has faults? The man being single at 40 most likely has a problem – just like what he’s presently displaying.

I don't know of his character actually, but you and I know that most men gets to that age chasing money to get fulfilled, might as well be he has a bad character that kept him single to that age, finally only an unintelligent woman compares her age with that of a man, our biological makeups are different, lots of complications on the woman's side, the truth is the earlier a woman marries the better for her

OChimex:
Western men and women can bear more. There are so many stay at home moms here in America, bro, as well as stay at home dads too. And some split bills, it’s just what works and the situation. They apply common sense
Guy whites are more reasonable and common sense individuals and that’s why their countries work.
There are bad eggs although in women, but there are much more good ones that have been destroyed.
Africa can only grow if they change their stupid mindset and always apply common sense.

By the way the name calling of men "CAVEMEN" is an emotional manipulation, doesn't mean shit in reality, there lots of Nigerian/African men who sticks to there traditions, culture and good home ethics doing fine all over the world, if women were that really interested in equality they would be fighting in Ukraine right now not blabbing about equality online!

OChimex:
Nigeria is patriarchal, yet they call themselves educated, civilized and modern. They better refer to themselves as cavemen.
Again the economy is messed, because they wallow in ignorant and stupidity which drags their country behind.
Again, by their genetic makeup, women are designed to yearn for the love of their husband, that’s why the desire of every woman is to find love and marry and have a home, but it’s the men who turn them to beast and make them want otherwise.

You sound so much like a feminist... the so called feminised west how has it been for them!?, lots of Divorced home, separations, lots of damaged women with mental illness deemed as "weird", children from broken home behaving very badly and filled with criminal tendencies, I reiterate there's no perfect system, most men even in that your so called west will still prefer Nigerian/African way of being with women, women can't handle so much power, they always tend to abuse it. exception of few, so you mean those divorcing and separating everyday in tye west is a good thing for the society!?, finally it's a man's world 💯, all inventions, wars and great feats were all achieved by men! That's the reality and it's not changing even in 10,000 years to come, it's a man's world

OChimex:
Western men and women can bear more. There are so many stay at home moms here in America, bro, as well as stay at home dads too. And some split bills, it’s just what works and the situation. They apply common sense
Guy whites are more reasonable and common sense individuals and that’s why their countries work.
There are bad eggs although in women, but there are much more good ones that have been destroyed.
Africa can only grow if they change their stupid mindset and always apply common sense.

You know very well that's not gonna happen even in the nearest future, the westerners have there own problems as well, with so much freedom and empowerment look how psychotic most of them are, with psychological problems here and there, there's no perfect system!

OChimex:
Until you live out of Nigeria you will understand how badly women have been treated in Nigeria. I am not telling you to believe but I tell you from experience. I have seen countless men control their wives and refused them to get a job all because they are afraid of losing that control.
Beside what people call love in Nigeria is actually a bribe to get something in return.
The one an only act of real love in marriage as a man is to be a servant, serving your wives and kids happily. And this is hard in Nigeria
Peace out.

OChimex:
Until you live out of Nigeria you will understand how badly women have been treated in Nigeria. I am not telling you to believe but I tell you from experience. I have seen countless men control their wives and refused them to get a job all because they are afraid of losing that control.
Beside what people call love in Nigeria is actually a bribe to get something in return.
The one an only act of real love in marriage as a man is to be a servant, serving your wives and kids happily. And this is hard in Nigeria
Peace out.

Nigeria is a patriarchal country first of all, secondly the economy is messed up, western men won't bear half the burden men bear in Nigeria, most times women are still treated right just that they want to absorb authority and lead the home, which is prevalent whenever they're taking outside Nigeria, next thing is divorce, they don't even consider men that married and sponsored them abroad, it's a give and take world

Any woman not married at that age most likely has a problem, you can't tell me otherwise!, coupled you have no contribution towards your marriage, what were you doing all your twenties without adding any value to your life?

RapistOnBail:

These Fvckers no sabi write their own yeye English wey we carry with utmost respect for naija.

FYI English is not an official language in the US, infact there's no official language in the US. Though English is used at administrative level

johntolu:
Seccession from a sovereign nation is not a 'child's play', Bros.

You might want to advise your leaders to try out the South Sudan's approach if you guys are serious about your Biafran agitation.

FEAR!!!... it can't deter an idea bro!, if it does African Americans won't be free today and lots of other examples, look an idea can never be defeated though it might tarry but it'll surely come to pass, if Nnamdi Kanu gives up another person will take over!!!, it's all about persistence, a proverb says if you want peace prepare for war. Finally the majority of Nigerians hate Igbos, the rationale question is why can't they let us be free and be our own nation!?... when you check this question critically you'll see they're all scared (FEAR) of Igbos, cus we're strong willed and autonomous in nature!

exstreve:
We all know this already, I'm a northern Christian and I hate igbos. I rather vote a dog than vote an Igbo man.

Igbos are useless

We hate you too with passion!... now when are you people letting us go!?, stupid idiot!

chatinent:
People who commit suicide tho.

Don't think of committing suicide. If you don't do it, you'll regret why you even attempted in years to come.

Chop fess.

You don taste Nkwobi before? With overnight tumbo. How you go wan commit suicide na

I don dey depressed before. I was so weak...so downhearted. I think that happened after heartbreak that year. I say make I go chop fess. Omo, after eating one plate of nkwobi, I order Isi Ewu.

I no know say na hungry carry that nonsense thoughts come.


Nkwobi and Isi Ewu is just so...

You haven't been through real depression, in real depression you can be wealthy and have everything at your call yet you just find no meaning to everything, you just experienced heart break and it's sadness not depression, depression is horrible!

Useless country... in sane climes they'll rot in jail, in China they'll be executed!

EmmyDJourno:
Get money oO
This women don’t care what happens as long you have money to give them an easy life

Exactly bro... the only quality a man should and must possess is having money!!!, I keep telling my Niggas!

Man U losing gives me elongated life span... failures!!!

Stillwhites:
Track me for what exactly? What ofense will you accuse me of?

No offence bro, I just meant good for you... just becareful

Only happens in Nigeria!

FiremanX:
RUN ALONG BOY!!!

Okay

Disclaimer12:
In all fairness, Igbo deserves the next presidency, this tribe has been representing Nigeria very well for so long 90% of super Eagles players are from this tribe, most Nollywood actors are from there, most track and field events record holder are from from the east! In all fairness, The Igbo has been representing us and giving us joy as a nation! Let's give them the chance to rule also abeg

Hatred will not allow them... though we still forge ahead borne of strong will!!!