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Binspector:
She's married last I checked. This is an insult on the husband or baby daddy.
These hoes should learn to keep some issues private. No one asked her.

Bet my last dime she married a SIMP!, A Simp is a danger to himself, family and the society!

Flows001:
Moderators please push this to front page.

My first post on nairaland, so please pardon any error.

Good morning everyone, so let me just go straight to the point.

My elder sister has been dating this guy for more than a year now, she became pregnant months into the relationship and he begged her to keep the child, that he was going to marry her.
So she did and about two months ago, she gave birth to a boy.
Just like he said, he started making moves to marry her, she took him to see my uncle (because our dad is late), alongside with one of his brothers, they also went to see some of my aunties; as well as my Mum. So basically everyone knows them together in our extended family, as well as the street where my sister stays (she resides in Enugu State), because he usually goes to spend time with her and I must admit that he has been really nice to her and made sure she has been comfortable and never lacked anything.
Along the line, my sister started suspecting that this her husband to be has been avoiding picking up strange numbers calling him, she asked him but he told her not to worry.
Fast forward to earlier this week, she stumbled upon a text he received from one unsaved number, the text was begging him to allow the sender to atleast come visit him, apparently; this same guy was already married before and already had two grown children before he left the marriage for reasons which she didn't tell me, so his children have been making efforts to reach their father as their mother went to dump them with his brothers and went her way..

When my sister confronted him, he had to open up to her and apologised, stating that he wanted to start another life and couldn't tell her from the beginning because he didn't want to lose her..

Now my sister is in a dilemma, their traditional marriage was scheduled to hold by the end of this year and he has already started making efforts to officially pay her bride price.
Her two options are:
1. Leave him and become a single mother at this young age (she's a student of NOUN and does business which he supported her to expand).
2. Stay with him and accommodate the children from his former wife.

Please advice 🙏🙏🙏

Good for her!... most Nigerian women are foolish whenever they sees money!, they can't reason properly again, No due findings and back ground knowledge of a man, you don open leg carry belle for am, she's an adult let her sort her self out like a responsible adult would do

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar

Putin talk too much

Putin talks too much!?... First time you've sounded unrealistic to me!

Hamachi:

🤡

Hamachi:

When the baby that they used to call me was automatically changed to Ms Hamachi. ..Na then I realize say dem don relegate me



When I met him he didn't have his own apartment. He was just fresh out of school. So he was searching for a job.

I used to visit him them at his friends place. He later got a job in a hotel at Chevron drive but along the line we had a misunderstanding and gave it a break for months.

He called and to me he had gotten an apartment at lekki. that I should come see if I like the place. I got there and was just playing around and checking his wardrobe when I saw ladies shower caps. I was like, who owns this? And he said they normally give them at the hotel. Chai!!! This guy can lie for Africa. Like seriously, who gives guys shower caps? So, I told him, you've been camping a lady in this house and he said, "don't start". I just kept quiet because we only just got back together after months.

I later checked his wardrobe again when he stepped out and found more shower caps.

Now, don't call me dumb. I know what I'm saying. That guy was a serial cheat. In fact, that was why I later dumped him and faced my life and God.

You met him with nothing does that mean your presence gave him something!?, I no too dey understand una with dis kind mentality

Ezemarcel:
my point is that they are ingrates ...many are looking for who to just send them out......

But there are out and still complaining.,.they should come back and continue with thier security job

If it's so difficult to survive in Nigeria where you have your family, relations and friends support, think about where you know no one, it's very difficult to survive abroad without having anyone at your aid.

Nickelodeon93:
too late we are just finding out now…




Do you have personal experience too?

Not me personally, a friend of mine though

Nickelodeon93:
I don’t believe you guy… I have been following him, in fact I know someone that paid the 800k in March though he is still waiting for his visa … he said he paid money and they gave him cap , can you upload your own chats with him? And email too.. make I show my guy

HE'S A BIG TIME SCAMMER IN OWERRI!

ahnie:
And when they starts having problems tomorrow them go dey blame innocent village people.

May all scammers never ends well.
May they experience anguish all the days of their miserable lives.

It doesn't work!, if it works many politicians worldwide would all be suffering in anguish or dead, fact is to be smart and trust no one!

Michelle55:
I've never encountered such boys before( people who do that can't be called men), I deal with real men and not boys who would ask for things they bought for you when the going was good.

Ladies, date real men and leave boys alone!

And You're a real woman!?, if you don't like someone don't like there money and properties!, go and marry!

An interesting adventure movie coming up soon from this incident

IOXOI:
In this current age and time when Phone camera are something else nobody has been able to produce HD quality pix of UFO/ Alien



WHY

Because it's all a lie!

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
That na normal thing

If you are not ready nor put body...even managing our baby sisters at home is headache not to talk of a girlfriend from another family

You must be ready to tolerate annoying characters like them being Dramatic, manipulative, money conscious, attention seeking, clingy, jealous spirit, emotional, possesive and stubborn.

You see the above annoying characters I listed it doubles more if the girl is between the age of 18-25
So go for ladies above 27 years of age if you don't wanna die

GO for old cargoes!?, only simpletons do that!

kaludestiny10:
Happy birthday Tonto.
She don melo down with her dramas on social media after her encounter with that pkopko of a man.

Men go show you shege till you mellow by force!

crafteck:
Wetin i de do for this discussion now...

Sorry, I mistakenly quoted you

ahnie:
Most of them are deadbeat dads,drug addicts who cannot function and reason well if they're not under the influence of illicit drugs.

The rest percentage are punters,pelvic poachers, sociopaths,bet addicts who grew up in dysfunctional homes.

Only some reasonable percent are sane and you could tell from their beautiful comments n show of empathy.

crafteck:
Lol

For a woman to marry a deadbeat man shows she as well lack good decision making!... an adult should take responsibility and stop shifting there setbacks to others!

People love negative and bad news... they're clowning 🤡 on people!

ViceGovernor:
Look I have seen a lot of guys like that idot....once they see you're getting attention from girls and u are handsome than they are the next natural thing is to call the person gay.
It's all bourne out of JEALOUSY.
E dey pain am say even if he toast woman them fit no gree for am but Op without even trying is getting what they want the most

Exactly 💯, he's a jealous fool!

MechanicMike:
U upset we expose Yor gay kind sir?am upset we expose u two.
My nigggggga..is Yor human rights to be gay & marrrry has much men has u want..but juss don't bring Yor gay faggggggot $hit to Nigeria or else u will be shoot!!!(no offenscce)

Madman!!!

MechanicMike:
Bull$hit..op is gay.why can he tell us he will survive witout women BECUZ he dislike them? (Read his last post)
nigggggga, that man is 100000% full BLOOOODED gay & if he don't change his homo gay behaviour, he will develop to wot white people call faggggggot sir. I can't even imagine myself not talkin to female for 2 days. The boy is gay & therrrris no place for gay people sir!!(no offenscce)

You're mentally unstable... you need psychological evaluation ASAP!

Steverolly:
I'm always open to learning so as not make avoidable mistakes in my small life...
Thing is I'm very cautious of girls I find myself with, and not the lover boy type that is always quick to impress. So it'll take a very unusual case for me not to "lose guard".
Secondly I believe love exists but I've been made to know a man is loved "Conditionally" so there's still love there nah.
Not that it doesn't exist pls.

A conditional love is not love in the purest form... it's a hypergamous inspired love born out of money/wealth, you're still very young, you have a lot to learn, but as a man always know you're the PRIZE, any woman not submissive to your authority should be flinged away!, she's rebellious to your masculine energy, therefore will give you troubles, I might sound harsh but women are born with this pre knowledge of always trying to outdo and subdue men and there authority, even in marriage, they'll try to manipulate, gas light and even emotionally blackmail you, don't fall for it, stand firm on your decisions if you deem it right!, remember man is the PRIZE, if you're on Facebook follow a page called "AllaKaduna Nzeogwu", you'll learn alot about women.

Steverolly:
Seriously man, this last one pain me.
This particular girl is very cool to be with but the more we talk, I just feel bad cos all her talks indicate she has lots of male friends.

I will advice collect your own share and bounce or still keep her as friend, never wife a hoe and a girl everyone in the area has have sex with, you'll be a laughing stock and that indicates you're a SIMPLETON... as a man always know you're the PRIZE!

yrhuhfy113:
Why not focus on your struggling family and forget about ladies till you have enough understanding of how to handle a woman in marriage.

Why not grow
psychologically
spiritually
financially
socially

without DISTRACTION of ladies.

Emotional blackmailing again... do you know him personally!?, why can't girls be modest and live clean Godly life, always seeking for a simp to know how to handle a public toilet, rubbish!

iksman2002:
Bro I think your being insecure or you have low self-esteem.

You're mad!... which kind yeye emotional blackmailing be that!?... make him go marry olosho as wife abi?, all the girls around her she can't pick friends from, na men?, abeg carry this your stupid blackmailing get tha fvck!

OChimex:
Quote me anywhere dude, most times, if you treat women so well, they give you so much and contribute I. Your life so much, it might not be financially, it those things can save you a lot more money. Although a few bad eggs here and there.

Nigerian women!?? 😆 🤣 😂 😹, epitome of stinginess, selfishness and narcissists, Bros no go there 😆 🤣 😂

OChimex:
Guy, I lived in the eastern part of Nigeria then, I was into spare parts business and my office in one of the biggest spare parts market in the east. Guy, I can categorically tell you most marriages are miserable and dead.
Again, working hard and paying bills doesn’t make one die young. Nigerians don’t work as hard as Americans. Ask person wey dey America, yet people live longer here. 80 year old men and women still working so hard because bills plenty.
Anyways, when it comes to living longer, no be women dey kill Nigerian men na lifestyle. Quote me anywhere.
People don’t eat well, don’t take fruits, vegetable, don’t exercise, don’t go for checkup. Don’t take vitamins and supplements, don’t take antioxidants to prevent free radicals, don’t even take vacations to enjoy. And drink stupid beers and spirits like fools. Sex like dogs, and always angry and barks like wolves all the time.

Dude the list plenty.

Hahahaha, you're right on this one, my point is nothing can be done bro, we are too messed up to be fixed, don't make it a woman respecting thing, respect is not productivity, Nigeria wahala too much abeg!

OChimex:
Dude. the reason I come argue here no be say I wan show I know better, but I have lived in both worlds and I can tell you categorically the difference.
Nigerian men are stingy, egoistical, bossy. Believe it or not.
Most households in America, wives drives the most and better expensive vehicles in the family, na their husband buy am most times.
I am yet to see that in Nigeria.
Their wardrobes too, na wives own pass.
Most of my clients here, the guys work, make the money for the family,, the wives are stay at home; when it comes to decisions and payments, they will tell you “let me speak with my wife”
Dude I have never seen it happen in Nigeria.
I tell you my experiences because my job requires me visiting at least 5 homes everyday.
Guy, here your boss walks into you and will be the first to say “good morning to you his employee”
You call an old man sir, he uses the term right away with you because he doesn’t see himself as a boss.

Oh you think I haven't right?... Well I'm not even in Nigeria right now, I have been to 3 main European countries and based in North America now, bros life na give and take and that's the best way to enjoy life, anything other than this is one side losing and the other gaining, I can't indulge in such nonsense!

OChimex:
Western men and women can bear more. There are so many stay at home moms here in America, bro, as well as stay at home dads too. And some split bills, it’s just what works and the situation. They apply common sense
Guy whites are more reasonable and common sense individuals and that’s why their countries work.
There are bad eggs although in women, but there are much more good ones that have been destroyed.
Africa can only grow if they change their stupid mindset and always apply common sense.

The only growth Africa needs is to change from consumers to producers not this respecting woman shit, respect is earned!

OChimex:
Like I said, common sense is not common in Nigeria. There are more dead marriages in Nigeria than in the Western world. People stay in misery of a marriage.
So common sense now, which one is the best, stay in miserable marriage and die miserably or divorce or separate and be happy?
Answer this as a woman.
And I say again, over and over again, no matter how bad it is the western world, there are more worst thing happening in Nigeria.
Dude, let me tell you this, there are more guns in America than humans,
My colleagues have not less than 3 guns each, some kids of 20s. Houses are made of wood. Cars are parked outside.
Then try give more Nigerians guns, make the house there of woods and park expensive cars outside.
Let’s check something.
You will understand who is more mad and damaged.
No society is perfect, but Nigeria is worst

Then raise a foundation to save all the women in miserable marriages, I bet na you go still give up, 😆 🤣 😂, Jesus Christ the saviour,... you're bringing up problems without solutions, it's plain waste of time, BTW how many women are complaining in such marriage!?, if it doesn't favour them, they should leave. Nigeria is bad economy country, men bear the brunt more, reason why men die earlier here, women live to 90s and 100s, baba make men enjoy the authority fully they deserve it 💯

OChimex:
Dude I just listed a caveman-like mentality and behaviors of Nigerians even when they have acquired degrees upon degrees.
I don’t need to do a research, nobody is talking about feminism, I am talking about respect and regard for women.
Feminism is no issue here, because people try to treat women with respects and regards.
Besides, feminism is as a result of mistreatment of women over time.

Women has always been respected in Nigeria, I don't know were you got your own notions women are not respected and treated well in Nigeria, women in Nigeria get freebies, you take a woman out, you pay the whole bills, compared to there western counterparts they're zero, most women in Nigerian have little to no contributions in the financial need of the family, yet Nigerian men bear all these burdens and cater for the family as a man, once a man wants to be heard as the man of the house or takes a second wife everywhere catches fire, Nigerian women have set principles and standards for men, if met they should take whatever comes out of it... it's a give and take world bro!

OChimex:
Dude nobody is talking about a perfect society.
But I can bet you anyways, that whatever bad is in the West is much much worst in Nigeria, just that they sweep it under the carpet. Most married women are in misery called marriage, and die in deep pain. Most men in Nigeria sleeps around like dogs, because their marriage is dead, but they just dey pretend to be in marriage.
I tell you one thing, ask around, no matter how bad a society and human behaviors are in the West, it is far more worst in Nigeria

The west have the highest divorce cases and separations... which do you choose?, women being calm and sticking to there role as women or women showing masculine energy resulting to divorces and separations, the later is a more dysfunctional society filled with psychos, there's nothing to gain in vain wokeness than pains, depression and loneliness, old age will make lots of them miserable!

OChimex:
Dude my statements have nothing to do with corruption. It has everything to do with how much primitive people think and behave despite having education.
You think education enlightens people, not in Nigeria

Nope your statement implies "corruption" not cave like lifestyle!... probably you're contradicting yourself, all I know is that it's a man's world 💯, if women wants equality and to be treated special, they should be able to indulge in the hectic burdens men bear, you're saying Nigeria, I just dey laugh you... do your research even the white men are getting fed up of the feminist shit!, because they've realised its a scam, checkout everywhere on social media, its very glaring... women clocking 30s without suitors, it's a spin back, it's a give and take world, having even the notions that a man and a woman are equal is madness 🤣 😂